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THE SUN, NEWBERRY, S. C. JULY 31, 1942 Kathleen Norris Says: Is Infidelity a Reason for Divorce? Bell Syndicate—WNU Features. By KATHLEEN NORRIS AS IT is not humanly possi- f-\ ble for any man and wom- ^ an to continue to regard each other through the eyes of young lovers, a question all women should ask themselves is: “what percentage of that old glamour, devotion, confidence, admiration am I taking with me into the hard middle years?” You can’t take it all. Nobody ever did. When any woman tells me that she and her Algernon feel toward each other today ex actly as they did on that June morning 17 years ago, when to the strains of Mendelssohn, in a bath of roses and sunshine, they came down the church steps to gether, I merely feel that she is weak-witted. Or I give Algernon’s calling list a pretty sharp glance. True married life is the happiest life of all, for man or woman. Its tenderness, its companionship, its mutual restfulness and support and comfort are among the few miracles of the world. Real marriage goes on through fire and flood, through grief and war and change and pov erty, through joy and success and health and illness. Those who know it know the very deeps of human emotion. Demands High Price. But this oneness of body and mind and spirit demands a high price. It often demands a time of bitter dis illusionment, loneliness, purgation, while the romantic, ecstatic bride changes her dream lover for an ev eryday, commonsense, affectionate and comfort loving man, who likes a quiet house and a hot dinner, and a pretty, sweet-tempered woman to preside over both. A man with faults, selfish sometimes, unreason able sometimes, extravagant or thoughtless or lazy or exacting sometimes. But more than a man, a husband, a partner going beside you through all your days, so that you will never be lonely; never lack a friend to whom to turn in trouble, never lack a companion as eager as you are to plan changes and good times. Not every bride and groom, un fortunately, can achieve a happy marriage. Boys are too little trained in consideration and simple good ness; girls are too often extrava gant, restless, and inclined to re gard wedlock as a springboard to other things. But when a man and woman do live through the hard times and come out into the sun shine of a permanent, affectionate, stable relationship, it is a very beau tiful thing. Life b :s no finer. Marital Road Roughens. Wanda, who writes me from Port land, has reached a very difficult bit of her marital road and wants advice. She has been married 14 years and has three daughters, 12, 10 and 4. “Carroll is the handsomest man I ever saw,” writes Wanda. “He is six feet tall, fair, and full of life and fun. My girls and I adore him, we have a lovely home with a large garden, his father and mother are devoted to me, money is more than sufficient, and I have a splendid cook in the kitchen. Juanita and Yvonne are darling normal girls, happy in school, and my little pet Consuelo—or Tootoo as we call her —is the delight of us all. At any time during my married life I would have said I was the happiest woman in the world. “But about six weeks ago when Carroll and I had the two older girls at the club for dinner, I saw a quiet young girl we have known for NOT IN HEAVEN Whatever the proverbs tell us, the fact remains that while mar riages may indeed be “made in Heaven” their success depends on such down-to-earth qualities as patience, kindness and confi dence.The “Wanda” whose prob lem Kathleen Norris discusses this time, is the wife of a man she and her daughters adore. Until now her life has been hap py and secure. Should she di vorce her husband for being un faithful to her? Or should she just “take it” for the sake of the children? You will be interested in reading why she should “take it,” and why she will win by doing so. some years; she works in the same office as my husband. Something in a glance this girl gave him from time to time disturbed me in a way I cannot describe. For the first time in my life sickening suspicion and jealousy began deep within me, and I felt faint. “I said that I was surprised to see Rose there as I would not sup pose that she could belong to the club. My husband said quietly that she must have a guest card. Going out, I stopped at her table, was in troduced to the young lieutenant she had with her, and asked whose guest she was. She answered ‘Carroll’s.’ ” “That she would call him by his first name was a shock to me; later I spoke to him about it. He said that all the girls at the office were entertaining our soldiers, but that he ‘would like to know who the deuce that man was.’ Three times later he repeated this, in a musing sort of way. Finally he said he thought he would telephone her and find out. He made a little fuss looking up her telephone number, and I think then that I knew. For Carroll has often had to telephone Rose from the of fice, and knows her number well. Only he didn’t know that I realized that. i “I stood it for two weeks, every word and glance of his confirming my fears. Then I asked him, and he admitted that he and Rose have been lovers for more than three years. He told me that if I would divorce him he would of course mar ry Rose; that he loved her. But he does not want me to divorce him, feeling that it would hurt the girls. Tell me what to do! Am I to take this sitting down, let it go on, suffer the ruin of my life and the breaking of my heart, and remain sweet and serene, the happy wife of that won derful man and the mother of his three beautiful girls?” Well, I think the answer to that last question is a qualified “yes.” But it won’t break your heart nor ruin your life, and the sooner you take Carroll down from his ped estal and begin to regard him as a mere man, capable of weakness, susceptible to flattery and willing to satisfy his vanity by an occasional extramarital conquest, the happier you will be. Divorce Brings Misery. To give him a divorce would make you all miserable; Carroll, Rose, yourself and the girls. This is one of the most expensive mistakes that a wife can make, and it inevitably ends in disaster. Instead, make yourself so charm ing, so complete, so entirely self- sufficient a woman that Carroll can’t help comparing you, in your compe tence and beauty and security and proud motherhood with the home breaker with whom he now fancies himself in love. You hold all the winnning cards, and Rose knows it. Lace Makes Lovely, Dignified Midssason Suits and Dresses By CHERIE NICHOLAS I/' EEPING women attractively and suitably apparelled with minimum yardage and maximum good taste and ingenuity is the re sponsibility which rests with design ers in these momentous times. Realizing that the “feminine touch” | is a part of every woman’s duty to £ her country, those to whom the task of timely costume design has been entrusted turn to lace as a wonder fully effective weapon when it comes to combatting the tenseness war brings on and maintaining a high morale front. Then, too, lace is non-priority, which counts greatly in favor of its use. That dress-up call which comes to women after they have spent hours and hours in war service, as so many thousands are doing these days, is being perfectly answered not only by gowns made of lovely lace but by the newest gesture, the suit-dress tailored of lace. See the “full-dress” jacket dress of black celanese lace shown to the left in the above illustration. You’ll be ready for every occasion with a stun ning twosome like this in your ward robe collection. One of the nice things about celanese lace is its fine sheen and choice silken look. It adds swank to this costume that the jacket is well cut on the longer lines so smartly in fashion this season. Self-lace covered buttons add to the fine finesse of this charm ing outfit. The sleeves are long and snug to make them perfect for the long or short colored gloves which add dash to black lace. There’s al ways a ladylikeness about long sleeves. The dress has a discreetly flared skirt which flatters the figure. This ensemble is completely smart and in good taste for the street, res taurant or for dancing. The hat with its cunning lace frill is a mas terpiece in coquetry as it dips saucily over the brow and swings high to the back. Two romantic fabrics are com bined in the charming dress pic tured to the right. For this attrac tive dress black lace is used with black crepe. This disarmingly love- 1 ly afternoon costume would deco rate any scene to good advantage. The slim skirt is knife pleated for added interest. The rather tailored jacket is nevertheless dressy be cause of the mere fact that it is lace. The long, narrow sleeves are edged with the black crepe, and the collar and closing are bound in the crepe, cardigan style. There are two large patch pockets. There’s an exquisiteness about sheerest of sheer black Chantilly lace which always carries an aristo cratic air bom of years of high style prestige. Chantilly iace will ever and always continue to give that wonderful feeling of assurance only the best can give. Pictured in the inset is a blouse of patrician black Chantilly lace such as never fails to perfectly complement feminine beauty. A blouse of this type will prove a most treasured possession. They carry these black lace charm ers in almost any important blouse department or specialty shop. If you know how to sew, the making of the blouse is simple, and rem nants of perfectly exquisite lace are often available at prices to fit low budgets. When this lace fantasy is completed, you’ll find it a price less possession. As to lace accessories, you can get adorable little calots to wear back of your pompadour, also an assortment of lace mantillas, lace gloves, long or short. The climax is reached in tiny lace butterflies mounted to wear as earrings. Released by Western Newspaper Union. Pastel Plaid Choose for your fall casual coat a plaid wool in soft pastel coloring. This is a coat that college girls adore and young matrons find utter ly to their liking. The colors are so blended they “go with” every thing. The tuxedo collar is excel lent style, and the slashed pockets are a practical detail. The beret is especially a “conversation piece,” for fashion’s stamp of approval is affixed to berets in accents bold and clear. They are not only showing berets in conservative dimensions, but the huge beret either in felt or velvet registers as a “fashion-first” timed for immediate wear with sum mer and midseason frocks. Some of the new, large berets are dramatical ly feathered or strikingly and pic turesquely quill-trimmed. Less Formal Wedding Dresses Can Be Pretty The many marriages taking place at a “moment’s notice,” so to speak, because of limited furloughs for those in service and other circum stances of war, are bringing about a trend to practicality in the matter of simple ceremony. In consequence, many brides are giving up the idea of an elaborate wedding gown, pre ferring a simple frock or suit which will be wearable for various occa sions later. Summer brides who cling to the idea of white are looking lovely in dainty organdies or marquisettes which can double after the wedding for party wear. The suit of benga- line lavished with white, frilly neck wear and other snowy detail is the choice of many a bride who needs must do away with formality. Decorative Charming are the picturesque snoods which young girls are wear ing this summer. There simply is no limit to the decorative detail be ing lavished on these cunning head coverings. An unusually attractive snood is made of red ribbon latticed and tied with myriads of wee bows, with gay felt flowers clustered about the lower section at the nape of the neck. New Tweeds Comes into the autumn fabric realm a series of new tweeds among which the weaves in olive green tones look refreshingly new and out standing. Again color will be stressed in woolens, notably bright reds, greens and blues lighter than navy. Gold tones, molasses brown and grape colorings are also in promise. Garden—Fresh Vegetables Bring Health to Your Table (See Recipes Below.) Summer Salads Salads with summertime meals form a perfect alliance bringing your family pre cious pep-giving minerals and vi tamins. Vitamins A, B, and C are well represented in crisp celery, golden skinned carrots, rosy cheeked tomatoes, green glowing cucumbers and let tuce. Dress them up with a light liquid salad oil blended with season ings to bring out the hidden flavor ing of the vegetables, and you have a perfect warm weather meal. * Tossed Garden Salad Wash and drain dry your favorite salad greens—such as lettuce, ro- maine, watercress or endive; a com bination of two or more may be used. Cut or break into pieces and combine with portions of diced cel ery, cucumber, green pepper, rad ishes and minced onion. Chill thor oughly. Then place in a salad bowl; add Basic French Dressing and bits of tomato. Toss lightly until well blended. This type of salad may also be served with just an oil and vinegar combination as a dressing. Basic French Dressing. (Makes % cup) teaspoon salt Vi teaspoon sugar !4 teaspoon paprika Dash white pepper Vt teaspoon dry mustard 14 cup mild salad oil 14 cup cider vinegar or lemon juice Combine first five ingredients in a jar and blend well. Add vinegar, cover and shake; add oil and shake again thoroughly. Just before using, shake again. Or simply mix ingre dients together in a bowl and beat with mixer until well blended. Leftover meats and vegetables served daintily in lettuce cups make tempting main dishes for lunch or supper. Have a hot soup, potato chips, thin bread and butter sand wiches and fresh fruit to serve next three salac are perfect as a main course. Veal Salad, Summer Style. (Serves 6) 2 cups cold veal, diced 1. cup string beans or celery or both 6 hard-cooked eggs ' Salt and pepper 4 tablespoons salad oil 114 tablespoons vinegar 3 tomatoes Mayonnaise Lettuce and parsley Chop eggs coarsely, combine with veal, oil, vinegar, salt and pepper. Let stand 30 minutes. Add mayon naise to moisten. A rrange salad in a mound and garnish. Jellied Green Pea Salad. (Serves 6) 1 tablespoon gelatin 14 cup cold water 14 cup pea liquor Lynn Says: Save Washing Time: So many new demands are being made on your time these days, it is wise to make the best possible use of each minute. One way is in how you use your washing machine. For instance, long washing is not necessarily good washing, and it wastes time. Soap under goes a chemical change after it has been used a little while, suds “break down” and the soil is actually deposited again on the fabric. Then it is practically im possible to get the articles clean. Only individual experimenta tion can show how short to keep the washing of each load, and yet be thorough. Tests have revealed one woman taking only half the time of another to wash a practi cally identical washing, yet do ing it better. Twenty-minute soaking hastens washing by loosening soil. Then remove water by wringing the ar ticles into the first washer full of sudsy water of the right tempera ture. THIS WEEK’S MENU Potato Salad Cold Sliced Coraed Beef *Tossed Garden Salad Bread and Bntter Sandwiches Chocolate Pie Beverage *Recipe Given 1 tablespoon green pepper, chopped Allspice, cloves, nntmeg Green pepper rings 1 enp tomato puree 114 cups peas 1 hard-cooked egg, sliced 1 teaspoon chopped onion Salt Lettnce, dressing Fix gelatin with pea liquor. Add puree, onion, salt, spices. Let cool and thicken. Add peas, chopped v green pepper. Mold and chill. Gar nish with pepper rings, egg, and let tuce. Royal Meat Salad. 2 cups diced, cooked meat 1 cup diced celery 1 cup Bing cherries 4 hard-cooked eggs Vi cup chopped pecans 1 teaspoon salt 1 cup mayonnaise Salad greens Combine meat with celery, pitted cherries, diced eggs, pecans and salt. Chill thoroughly. Just before serving, add mayonnaise and toss lightly. Pile on salad greens and garnish with additional slices of hard-cooked eggs and Bing cherries. Savory Corned Beef Loaf. (Serves 6) 2 tablespoons gelatin H cup cold water 1V4 cups tomato juice 14 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon grated onion juice 2 tablespoons lemon juice 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce 114 cups corned beef cut in small pieces 94 cup chopped celery 3 hard-cooked eggs, sliced 14 cup chopped pickle relish (if desired) Soften gelatin in cold water and dissolve in hot tomato juice. Add salt, onion juice, lemon juice and Worcestershire sauce. Stir welL Rinse loaf pan out with cold water. Garnish bottom with slices of hard cooked egg and cover with a little of the gelatin liquid. Chill in refrigera tor until set. Cool remaining liquid until mixture begins to thicken and fold in corned beef, celery and pickle relish. Line sides of loaf pan with sliced eggs and fill with meat mixture. Chill until firm. Unmold on platter and garnish with water cress, lettuce or desired greens. Serve with mayonnaise or any de sired dressing. To save sugar, omit dessert and serve a pretty chilled salad with coffee and wafers as a last course. You can prepare this in the cool morning hours and keep in the refrigerator until just ready to serve. Frozen Fruit Salad. (Serves 6) 2 three-ounce cakes cream cheese 2 tablespoons cream 14 cup mayonnaise 2 tablespoons lemon juice Vs teaspoon salt 1 cup orange sections Vt cup seeded and quartered Royal Anne cherries Vt cup chopped nutmeats Vt cup maraschino cherries, chopped 2 tablespoons ginger, in 1 cup cream, whipped Mix cream cheese and 2 tabli- spoons cream. Add mayonnau.e, lemon juice and salt. Combine or ange sections, cherries, and nut- meats, and add to cream cheese mixture. Fold in whipped cream and pour into freezing tray and al low to freeze in electrical refrigera tor without stirring. Garnish with orange sections and cherry halves. Have you a particular household or cooking problem on which you would like expert advice? Write to Miss Lynn Cham bers at ITestern Newspaper Union, 210 South Desplaines Street, Chicago, Illinois, explaining your problem fully to her. Please enclose a stamped, self addressed envelope for your reply. Released by Western Newspaper Union. ON THE HOME FROMV,^ ~RUTH WYETb^SPEARgg^/O) npHE upper sketch shows a com- bination living and bedroom that was brought up to date with every inch of waste space used. The cushions (lower left) were re placed with a box-like compart ment for bedding. This was made of plywood as shown at the lower right. It was padded across the front and ends with cotton batting, and covered with the couch ma terial tacked in place through a lath strip. Unpainted book cases i were bought to go at the ends and| the lid of the bedding compart-] ment was painted to match these. • • • NOTE: A new couch cover, lamp shade, curtains or slip cover that you can make yourself may give your living room a! fresh start. Book 1 in the series which Mrs. Spears has prepared for our read ers shows you all the tricks. It contains. 32 pages of fascinating new ideas for your home and working drawings to bring your old furnishings up to date. Send your order to: MRS. 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