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THE SUN, NEWBERRY, S. C. JULY 31, 1942
Kathleen Norris Says:
Is Infidelity a Reason for Divorce?
Bell Syndicate—WNU Features.
By KATHLEEN NORRIS
AS IT is not humanly possi-
f-\ ble for any man and wom-
^ an to continue to regard
each other through the eyes of
young lovers, a question all
women should ask themselves
is: “what percentage of that old
glamour, devotion, confidence,
admiration am I taking with me
into the hard middle years?”
You can’t take it all. Nobody
ever did. When any woman tells
me that she and her Algernon
feel toward each other today ex
actly as they did on that June
morning 17 years ago, when to
the strains of Mendelssohn, in a
bath of roses and sunshine, they
came down the church steps to
gether, I merely feel that she is
weak-witted. Or I give Algernon’s
calling list a pretty sharp glance.
True married life is the happiest
life of all, for man or woman. Its
tenderness, its companionship, its
mutual restfulness and support and
comfort are among the few miracles
of the world. Real marriage goes
on through fire and flood, through
grief and war and change and pov
erty, through joy and success and
health and illness. Those who know
it know the very deeps of human
emotion.
Demands High Price.
But this oneness of body and mind
and spirit demands a high price. It
often demands a time of bitter dis
illusionment, loneliness, purgation,
while the romantic, ecstatic bride
changes her dream lover for an ev
eryday, commonsense, affectionate
and comfort loving man, who likes
a quiet house and a hot dinner, and
a pretty, sweet-tempered woman to
preside over both. A man with
faults, selfish sometimes, unreason
able sometimes, extravagant or
thoughtless or lazy or exacting
sometimes. But more than a man,
a husband, a partner going beside
you through all your days, so that
you will never be lonely; never lack
a friend to whom to turn in trouble,
never lack a companion as eager
as you are to plan changes and good
times.
Not every bride and groom, un
fortunately, can achieve a happy
marriage. Boys are too little trained
in consideration and simple good
ness; girls are too often extrava
gant, restless, and inclined to re
gard wedlock as a springboard to
other things. But when a man and
woman do live through the hard
times and come out into the sun
shine of a permanent, affectionate,
stable relationship, it is a very beau
tiful thing. Life b :s no finer.
Marital Road Roughens.
Wanda, who writes me from Port
land, has reached a very difficult
bit of her marital road and wants
advice. She has been married 14
years and has three daughters, 12,
10 and 4.
“Carroll is the handsomest man I
ever saw,” writes Wanda. “He is
six feet tall, fair, and full of life
and fun. My girls and I adore him,
we have a lovely home with a large
garden, his father and mother are
devoted to me, money is more than
sufficient, and I have a splendid
cook in the kitchen. Juanita and
Yvonne are darling normal girls,
happy in school, and my little pet
Consuelo—or Tootoo as we call her
—is the delight of us all. At any
time during my married life I would
have said I was the happiest woman
in the world.
“But about six weeks ago when
Carroll and I had the two older girls
at the club for dinner, I saw a
quiet young girl we have known for
NOT IN HEAVEN
Whatever the proverbs tell us,
the fact remains that while mar
riages may indeed be “made in
Heaven” their success depends
on such down-to-earth qualities
as patience, kindness and confi
dence.The “Wanda” whose prob
lem Kathleen Norris discusses
this time, is the wife of a man
she and her daughters adore.
Until now her life has been hap
py and secure. Should she di
vorce her husband for being un
faithful to her? Or should she
just “take it” for the sake of the
children? You will be interested
in reading why she should “take
it,” and why she will win by
doing so.
some years; she works in the same
office as my husband. Something in
a glance this girl gave him from
time to time disturbed me in a way
I cannot describe. For the first time
in my life sickening suspicion and
jealousy began deep within me, and
I felt faint.
“I said that I was surprised to
see Rose there as I would not sup
pose that she could belong to the
club. My husband said quietly that
she must have a guest card. Going
out, I stopped at her table, was in
troduced to the young lieutenant she
had with her, and asked whose guest
she was. She answered ‘Carroll’s.’ ”
“That she would call him by his
first name was a shock to me; later
I spoke to him about it. He said
that all the girls at the office were
entertaining our soldiers, but that he
‘would like to know who the deuce
that man was.’ Three times later he
repeated this, in a musing sort of
way. Finally he said he thought he
would telephone her and find out.
He made a little fuss looking up her
telephone number, and I think then
that I knew. For Carroll has often
had to telephone Rose from the of
fice, and knows her number well.
Only he didn’t know that I realized
that. i
“I stood it for two weeks, every
word and glance of his confirming
my fears. Then I asked him, and he
admitted that he and Rose have
been lovers for more than three
years. He told me that if I would
divorce him he would of course mar
ry Rose; that he loved her. But he
does not want me to divorce him,
feeling that it would hurt the girls.
Tell me what to do! Am I to take
this sitting down, let it go on, suffer
the ruin of my life and the breaking
of my heart, and remain sweet and
serene, the happy wife of that won
derful man and the mother of his
three beautiful girls?”
Well, I think the answer to that
last question is a qualified “yes.”
But it won’t break your heart nor
ruin your life, and the sooner you
take Carroll down from his ped
estal and begin to regard him as a
mere man, capable of weakness,
susceptible to flattery and willing to
satisfy his vanity by an occasional
extramarital conquest, the happier
you will be.
Divorce Brings Misery.
To give him a divorce would make
you all miserable; Carroll, Rose,
yourself and the girls. This is one
of the most expensive mistakes that
a wife can make, and it inevitably
ends in disaster.
Instead, make yourself so charm
ing, so complete, so entirely self-
sufficient a woman that Carroll can’t
help comparing you, in your compe
tence and beauty and security and
proud motherhood with the home
breaker with whom he now fancies
himself in love. You hold all the
winnning cards, and Rose knows it.
Lace Makes Lovely, Dignified
Midssason Suits and Dresses
By CHERIE NICHOLAS
I/' EEPING women attractively
and suitably apparelled with
minimum yardage and maximum
good taste and ingenuity is the re
sponsibility which rests with design
ers in these momentous times.
Realizing that the “feminine touch” |
is a part of every woman’s duty to £
her country, those to whom the task
of timely costume design has been
entrusted turn to lace as a wonder
fully effective weapon when it comes
to combatting the tenseness war
brings on and maintaining a high
morale front. Then, too, lace is
non-priority, which counts greatly in
favor of its use.
That dress-up call which comes to
women after they have spent hours
and hours in war service, as so
many thousands are doing these
days, is being perfectly answered
not only by gowns made of lovely
lace but by the newest gesture, the
suit-dress tailored of lace. See the
“full-dress” jacket dress of black
celanese lace shown to the left in
the above illustration. You’ll be
ready for every occasion with a stun
ning twosome like this in your ward
robe collection. One of the nice
things about celanese lace is its fine
sheen and choice silken look.
It adds swank to this costume that
the jacket is well cut on the longer
lines so smartly in fashion this
season. Self-lace covered buttons
add to the fine finesse of this charm
ing outfit. The sleeves are long and
snug to make them perfect for the
long or short colored gloves which
add dash to black lace. There’s al
ways a ladylikeness about long
sleeves. The dress has a discreetly
flared skirt which flatters the figure.
This ensemble is completely smart
and in good taste for the street, res
taurant or for dancing. The hat
with its cunning lace frill is a mas
terpiece in coquetry as it dips
saucily over the brow and swings
high to the back.
Two romantic fabrics are com
bined in the charming dress pic
tured to the right. For this attrac
tive dress black lace is used with
black crepe. This disarmingly love- 1
ly afternoon costume would deco
rate any scene to good advantage.
The slim skirt is knife pleated for
added interest. The rather tailored
jacket is nevertheless dressy be
cause of the mere fact that it is
lace. The long, narrow sleeves are
edged with the black crepe, and the
collar and closing are bound in the
crepe, cardigan style. There are
two large patch pockets.
There’s an exquisiteness about
sheerest of sheer black Chantilly
lace which always carries an aristo
cratic air bom of years of high style
prestige. Chantilly iace will ever
and always continue to give that
wonderful feeling of assurance only
the best can give. Pictured in the
inset is a blouse of patrician black
Chantilly lace such as never fails
to perfectly complement feminine
beauty. A blouse of this type will
prove a most treasured possession.
They carry these black lace charm
ers in almost any important blouse
department or specialty shop. If
you know how to sew, the making
of the blouse is simple, and rem
nants of perfectly exquisite lace are
often available at prices to fit low
budgets. When this lace fantasy
is completed, you’ll find it a price
less possession.
As to lace accessories, you can
get adorable little calots to wear
back of your pompadour, also an
assortment of lace mantillas, lace
gloves, long or short. The climax
is reached in tiny lace butterflies
mounted to wear as earrings.
Released by Western Newspaper Union.
Pastel Plaid
Choose for your fall casual coat
a plaid wool in soft pastel coloring.
This is a coat that college girls
adore and young matrons find utter
ly to their liking. The colors are
so blended they “go with” every
thing. The tuxedo collar is excel
lent style, and the slashed pockets
are a practical detail. The beret is
especially a “conversation piece,”
for fashion’s stamp of approval is
affixed to berets in accents bold and
clear. They are not only showing
berets in conservative dimensions,
but the huge beret either in felt or
velvet registers as a “fashion-first”
timed for immediate wear with sum
mer and midseason frocks. Some of
the new, large berets are dramatical
ly feathered or strikingly and pic
turesquely quill-trimmed.
Less Formal Wedding
Dresses Can Be Pretty
The many marriages taking place
at a “moment’s notice,” so to speak,
because of limited furloughs for
those in service and other circum
stances of war, are bringing about
a trend to practicality in the matter
of simple ceremony. In consequence,
many brides are giving up the idea
of an elaborate wedding gown, pre
ferring a simple frock or suit which
will be wearable for various occa
sions later.
Summer brides who cling to the
idea of white are looking lovely in
dainty organdies or marquisettes
which can double after the wedding
for party wear. The suit of benga-
line lavished with white, frilly neck
wear and other snowy detail is the
choice of many a bride who needs
must do away with formality.
Decorative
Charming are the picturesque
snoods which young girls are wear
ing this summer. There simply is
no limit to the decorative detail be
ing lavished on these cunning head
coverings. An unusually attractive
snood is made of red ribbon latticed
and tied with myriads of wee bows,
with gay felt flowers clustered about
the lower section at the nape of the
neck.
New Tweeds
Comes into the autumn fabric
realm a series of new tweeds among
which the weaves in olive green
tones look refreshingly new and out
standing. Again color will be
stressed in woolens, notably bright
reds, greens and blues lighter than
navy. Gold tones, molasses brown
and grape colorings are also in
promise.
Garden—Fresh Vegetables Bring Health to Your Table
(See Recipes Below.)
Summer Salads
Salads with summertime meals
form a perfect alliance bringing
your family pre
cious pep-giving
minerals and vi
tamins. Vitamins
A, B, and C are
well represented
in crisp celery,
golden skinned
carrots, rosy cheeked tomatoes,
green glowing cucumbers and let
tuce. Dress them up with a light
liquid salad oil blended with season
ings to bring out the hidden flavor
ing of the vegetables, and you have
a perfect warm weather meal.
* Tossed Garden Salad
Wash and drain dry your favorite
salad greens—such as lettuce, ro-
maine, watercress or endive; a com
bination of two or more may be
used. Cut or break into pieces and
combine with portions of diced cel
ery, cucumber, green pepper, rad
ishes and minced onion. Chill thor
oughly. Then place in a salad bowl;
add Basic French Dressing and bits
of tomato. Toss lightly until well
blended. This type of salad may
also be served with just an oil and
vinegar combination as a dressing.
Basic French Dressing.
(Makes % cup)
teaspoon salt
Vi teaspoon sugar
!4 teaspoon paprika
Dash white pepper
Vt teaspoon dry mustard
14 cup mild salad oil
14 cup cider vinegar
or lemon juice
Combine first five ingredients in a
jar and blend well. Add vinegar,
cover and shake; add oil and shake
again thoroughly. Just before using,
shake again. Or simply mix ingre
dients together in a bowl and beat
with mixer until well blended.
Leftover meats and vegetables
served daintily in lettuce cups make
tempting main
dishes for lunch
or supper. Have
a hot soup, potato
chips, thin bread
and butter sand
wiches and fresh
fruit to serve
next three salac
are perfect as a main course.
Veal Salad, Summer Style.
(Serves 6)
2 cups cold veal, diced
1. cup string beans or
celery or both
6 hard-cooked eggs '
Salt and pepper
4 tablespoons salad oil
114 tablespoons vinegar
3 tomatoes
Mayonnaise
Lettuce and parsley
Chop eggs coarsely, combine with
veal, oil, vinegar, salt and pepper.
Let stand 30 minutes. Add mayon
naise to moisten. A rrange salad in
a mound and garnish.
Jellied Green Pea Salad.
(Serves 6)
1 tablespoon gelatin
14 cup cold water
14 cup pea liquor
Lynn Says:
Save Washing Time: So many
new demands are being made on
your time these days, it is wise to
make the best possible use of
each minute. One way is in how
you use your washing machine.
For instance, long washing is
not necessarily good washing,
and it wastes time. Soap under
goes a chemical change after it
has been used a little while, suds
“break down” and the soil is
actually deposited again on the
fabric. Then it is practically im
possible to get the articles clean.
Only individual experimenta
tion can show how short to keep
the washing of each load, and yet
be thorough. Tests have revealed
one woman taking only half the
time of another to wash a practi
cally identical washing, yet do
ing it better.
Twenty-minute soaking hastens
washing by loosening soil. Then
remove water by wringing the ar
ticles into the first washer full of
sudsy water of the right tempera
ture.
THIS WEEK’S MENU
Potato Salad
Cold Sliced Coraed Beef
*Tossed Garden Salad
Bread and Bntter Sandwiches
Chocolate Pie
Beverage
*Recipe Given
1 tablespoon green pepper,
chopped
Allspice, cloves, nntmeg
Green pepper rings
1 enp tomato puree
114 cups peas
1 hard-cooked egg, sliced
1 teaspoon chopped onion
Salt
Lettnce, dressing
Fix gelatin with pea liquor. Add
puree, onion, salt, spices. Let cool
and thicken. Add peas, chopped v
green pepper. Mold and chill. Gar
nish with pepper rings, egg, and let
tuce.
Royal Meat Salad.
2 cups diced, cooked meat
1 cup diced celery
1 cup Bing cherries
4 hard-cooked eggs
Vi cup chopped pecans
1 teaspoon salt
1 cup mayonnaise
Salad greens
Combine meat with celery, pitted
cherries, diced eggs, pecans and
salt. Chill thoroughly. Just before
serving, add mayonnaise and toss
lightly. Pile on salad greens and
garnish with additional slices of
hard-cooked eggs and Bing cherries.
Savory Corned Beef Loaf.
(Serves 6)
2 tablespoons gelatin
H cup cold water
1V4 cups tomato juice
14 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon grated onion juice
2 tablespoons lemon juice
1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
114 cups corned beef cut in small
pieces
94 cup chopped celery
3 hard-cooked eggs, sliced
14 cup chopped pickle relish (if
desired)
Soften gelatin in cold water and
dissolve in hot tomato juice. Add
salt, onion juice, lemon juice and
Worcestershire sauce. Stir welL
Rinse loaf pan out with cold water.
Garnish bottom with slices of hard
cooked egg and cover with a little of
the gelatin liquid. Chill in refrigera
tor until set. Cool remaining liquid
until mixture begins to thicken and
fold in corned beef, celery and
pickle relish. Line sides of loaf pan
with sliced eggs and fill with meat
mixture. Chill until firm. Unmold
on platter and garnish with water
cress, lettuce or desired greens.
Serve with mayonnaise or any de
sired dressing.
To save sugar, omit dessert and
serve a pretty chilled salad with
coffee and wafers
as a last course.
You can prepare
this in the cool
morning hours
and keep in the
refrigerator until
just ready to
serve.
Frozen Fruit Salad.
(Serves 6)
2 three-ounce cakes cream
cheese
2 tablespoons cream
14 cup mayonnaise
2 tablespoons lemon juice
Vs teaspoon salt
1 cup orange sections
Vt cup seeded and quartered
Royal Anne cherries
Vt cup chopped nutmeats
Vt cup maraschino cherries,
chopped
2 tablespoons ginger, in
1 cup cream, whipped
Mix cream cheese and 2 tabli-
spoons cream. Add mayonnau.e,
lemon juice and salt. Combine or
ange sections, cherries, and nut-
meats, and add to cream cheese
mixture. Fold in whipped cream
and pour into freezing tray and al
low to freeze in electrical refrigera
tor without stirring. Garnish with
orange sections and cherry halves.
Have you a particular household or
cooking problem on which you would like
expert advice? Write to Miss Lynn Cham
bers at ITestern Newspaper Union, 210
South Desplaines Street, Chicago, Illinois,
explaining your problem fully to her.
Please enclose a stamped, self addressed
envelope for your reply.
Released by Western Newspaper Union.
ON THE
HOME FROMV,^
~RUTH WYETb^SPEARgg^/O)
npHE upper sketch shows a com-
bination living and bedroom
that was brought up to date with
every inch of waste space used.
The cushions (lower left) were re
placed with a box-like compart
ment for bedding. This was made
of plywood as shown at the lower
right. It was padded across the
front and ends with cotton batting,
and covered with the couch ma
terial tacked in place through a
lath strip. Unpainted book cases i
were bought to go at the ends and|
the lid of the bedding compart-]
ment was painted to match these.
• • •
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