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/ the sun, Newberry, s. c., march 13,1942 Kathleen Norris Says: Forget Past Mistakes and Go Forward (Bell Syndicate—WNU Service.) A co-executor of my husband's estate, who loved my stepdaughter's mother, ap pears afraid that l am not going to discharge my duties regarding little Doris. He questions her before me as to her comfort and happiness. By KATHLEEN NORRIS T O SAY that a woman has “character” is always to pay her a compliment. All sorts of good things are wrapped up in that one word. One thing all women of char acter have in common, whether they are old or young, rich or poor, famous or obscure. They have learned to go ahead from the present moment. Here is part of a letter from a woman whose past is full of mis takes. “I am a college graduate,” writes Kathryn. ‘ I come of a good family and ought to be able to boast an average intelligence. But I am in real trouble now, and don’t know just how to get myself out of it. I’ve made a series of mistakes, but surely there is some way back to happiness for me, a quiet little home and the company of my little son and daughter? “I was married at 20, 13 years ago, to a man whose temperament was utterly unsuited to mine. We had a boy and a girl, tried again and again to get along because of the children, and finally were di vorced six years ago. I was living with my husband’s mother, a fine good woman, at the time, and stayed on with her when Tony mar ried his stenographer and went to Mexico to act as superintendent in a mine. Little Tony and Mary-Lou went to school across the street. Married Her Doctor. "Three years ago my doctor, a widower with a daughter, eight years old, asked me to marry him. Paul was in every way a fine man and after a talk with my mother-in- law it was arranged that for the present my children should stay with her, as Paul’s offices and home were in one apartment, and to move to larger quarters would have in jured his business. His little girl, Doris, lived with us from the first. She is a nice child, now 11, but not particularly responsive or affec tionate. “Paul and I had had less than two years of perfect happiness when he was killed last summer. He left me a modest income, between $1,400 and $1,500 a year, and he left me Doris. She has no one else in the world. Naturally she is too young to appreciate the constant responsi bility and sacrifice that the care of her, and the careful managing I have to do, mean to me. She takes it all for granted; comes and goes cheerfully in our two-room apartment; helps a little with dishes and dusting; already lives a life of her own. My co executor of Paul’s estate is a man who loved Doris’ mother and ap pears always to be afraid that I am not going to discharge my full duties regarding Doris. He ques tions her before me as to her com fort and happiness. Does she get enough to eat? She has blankets enough? He then tells me about my predecessor, her mother. "Meanwhile my first husband’s mother has moved to a sister’s house in a town about 50 miles away. Once again my children are safe and happy and in good schools. I am welcome to see them whenever I care to, but the truth is that I cannot often afford to pay the rail way fare, taxi fares, and for the little gifts I want to take them. So I'am placed in the preposterous po sition of spending all my time and energy to take care of the child of a woman I never saw, while my LIFE BEGINS NOW Why waste precious time and effort on regret and self-recrim ination? That won’t bring back lost opportunity. You can do nothing about changing the past, but your attitude toward it may have a lot to do with determin ing your future. Here is a letter from a woman in a particularly trying position, forced to devote her life to another woman’s child, while her own two chil dren grow up without a mother. To meet and solve a problem like that, says Kathleen Norris, takes “character,” that certain something that enables a woman to forget the past and go ahead from the present moment. own adored small son and daugh ter are growing up without their mother. Worries Over Mistakes. "Paul, of course, had no premo nition that he would die so young. Normally, he would have expected to be with me until Doris reached young womanhood. But this is the situation, and I don’t know what to do. I worry over my own mistakes and the dreadful ‘might-have-beens’ until I am a nervous wreck, and I simply cannot and will not see my self spending the next 10 or 12 years acting as nurse, cook, resident gov erness and guard to a little girl that really, in my heart, I don’t like. Please offer me any suggestions, no matter how unflattering, that occur to you.” Well, Kathryn, the first thing to do is determine to go ahead and not backward, from now on. Whatever mistakes you have made are made, and whatever conditions you have created actually exist, and there’s no use crying about them. Tomor row, and not yesterday, ought to be the object of your planning, for noth ing will change yesterday. But to morrow anything may happen! I don’t know all the circum stances, from this one letter, but it seems to me highly possible that you might handle the situation this way: Go to see the sympathetic, fine mother-in-law and tell her that Paul is dead and that you are going to find work to support yourself. Since you two were once close friends, and since she held her son responsible for most of the difficul ties that separated you, she may easily ask you to visit her for awhile. Consideration Is Welcome. If she does, make yourself quietly invaluable. Be everything to her and her old sister. Consideration is welcomed in any household, and honest flattery is very sweet to old er women. It is highly possible that you will be asked to stay, to lift some of the responsibility of two lively youngsters from her shoul ders; children of 8 and 10 need a lot of policing, and in a family with no servant they represent a lot of actu al hard work. You might stay on as a sort of working housekeeper, or you might get a job near by. Then go to the old friend who is so anxious about Doris’ welfare and suggest that he and his wife take her on for awhile, or find a good boarding school and take her for vacations. Turn over to him almost your entire income, and express a lively and affectionate concern for Paul’s daughter, but explain that your own children need you, and thus escape to reclaim all the joy of your lost motherhood. Toast for St. Patrick’s Day . . . Pineapple Frosties! (See Recipes Below) Shamrock Fare Take your cue from good luck day and let your menu wear green! Bring out your best Pat and Mike jokes and touch up your food for the day with a dash of imagination by ap plying a green brush stroke.- for these are the things which put a halo on your head. There’s a hint of spring in the green touches and in the lightness of this season’s menus, so whisk these two elements into your food to give it exciting personality. With simplicity your keynote and economy your guide, here are some menus for small entertaining on St. Patrick’s day. Menu I. Afternoon or Evening Snack Pineapple Frosties Finger Sandwiches Pop Corn Nougat Menu II. Bridge Refreshments Shamrock Salad Prune Bread With Cream Cheese Spread Coffee or Tea Cornflake Chews A drink with plenty of tang and vitamins is this one called a Pine apple Frosty. Its vitamins B1 and C will boost your energy quota and at the same time give your teeth and bones and gums a new lease for spring. 'Pineapple Frosties. For each serving use a six-ounce glass of unsweetened pineapple juice and a generous scoop of sherbet. Chill a large beating bowl, add well- chilled pineapple juice. When the sherbet begins to soften, beat the in gredients until they are well-blended and frothy. A jar or shaker or auto matic beater may be used to blend these together. Pop Corn Nougat. IV, cups corn syrup IVs cups sugar V, cup warm water A teaspoon salt 3 tablespoons honey 2 egg whites 1 cup chopped pop corn 2 tablespoons candied cherries, cut fine Cook syrup, sugar, water and salt until brittle when tried in cold wa ter. Put honey in a large bowl, place over pan containing hot water to keep honey warm. While candy is cooking, beat egg whites stiff and told through honey. When syrup is cooked to the proper stage, pour it slowly over the honey and egg, beat ing hard with wooden spoon. Beat until the surface has a satiny ap pearance. Fold in pop com and cherries, press into buttered pan. Ever so good, ever so simple, and very pretty describes this light green salad in today’s column. The grapefruit and lime flavored gelatin are a spirited combination that work the right kind of magic. Lynn Says: As fish gains prominence in menus, are you wondering how you can make it appetite-tempt ing? Here is a guide: Nice to dip in egg and bread crumbs and fry in shallow fat: perch, pike, haddock, halibut, cod, sole, lake trout, salmon, in steak or fillet form. Good for baking with or without a stuffing: the large fish, like whitefish, haddock, halibut, wall eyed pike, salmon steaks, lake trout. First class for deep-fat frying: oysters, shrimp, scallops. Dip these in beaten egg and crumbs and fry in deep, hot fat. Baked in loaves or timbales: haddock, salmon, tuna, cod. Stuffings that go well with baked fish: bread stuffing (the same kind you make for your fowl!); celery stuffing, or rice stuffing (try this with pike!). For rice stuffing, combine 1 cup cooked rice with Vfe pound sauteed mushrooms, 2 tablespoons of chopped onion, 2 beaten eggs, Vi cup celery, all cooked with % cup butter. This makes enough for a 3 to 4-pound fish. This Week’s Menn: Baked Haddock 'Tartar Sauce Lyonnaise Potatoes •Orange Squash •Shamrock Salad ‘Prune Bread Butter and Honey Chilled Pears Cornflake Chews •Recipes Given. •Shamrock Salad. (Serves 6) 1 package lime flavored gelatin 1 cup hot water ft cup cold water >4 cup grapefruit juice 1ft cups grapefruit sections ft cup finely chopped celery Pimientos Pour hot water over gelatin. Add cold water and grapefruit juice. Chill until mixture thickens, add grapefruit and celery. Arrange pi mientos cut into shamrock shapes around sides of a mold or at the bottom. Pour mixture into mold, chill until firm, unmold and garnish with grapefruit sections and greens. A favorite breakfast cereal and prunes are a healthy merger for this home-made bread. The fruit and cereal are food affinities. The re sult, an excellent bread that stays moist for days, is good sliced when fresh or when toasted: •Prune Bread. (Makes 1 loaf) 2 cups bran cereal % cup juice from cooked prunes % cup chopped, cooked prunes % cup buttermilk f£ cup sugar 1 tablespoon shortening 1 egg Hi cups flour H teaspoon salt l 1 /, teaspoons soda cup chopped nutmeats, if desired Soak cereal in prune juice. Add buttermilk. Cream sugar and short ening thoroughly, add egg and beat well. Add bran cereal mixture. Sift dry ingredients, add to prunes and nutmeats. Add to first mixture and stir only until flour disappears. Bake in a greased loaf pan in a moderate (325-degree) oven, 1 hour and 20 minutes. The orange flavoring gives a de lightful touch to the squash which is colorful served in orange cups. •Orange Squash. (Serves 6) 3 cups cooked Hubbard squash cup orange juice 3 tablespoons butter 14 teaspoon salt Pepper 14 cup chopped almonds Bake or steam squash until ten der (114 to 2 hours). Mash or rice. Add orange juice, butter, salt and pepper. Fill 6 orange shells with squash mixture, piling it in lightly. Top with chopped almonds. Bake until lightly browned in a hot (450- degree) oven. For best results use oranges that have clean, smooth skins which separate from the or ange easily. •Tartar Sauce. Popular and fitting accompani ment to fish is this sauce: Combine 1 cup mayonnaise, 14 teaspoon on ion juice or 1 tablespoon chopped chives, 2 tablespoons chopped sweet pickle or green relish, lemon juice to thin to desired consistency. While you’re busy this season roll ing bandages for the Red Cross, knitting for the . — soldiers, or bak ing for the boys at camp, you’ll want to plan menus and dishes that take little time for prepara tion. With this in mind, I’m including a recipe for an excellent casserole that fills these requirements: Shrimp Vegetable Casserole. (Serves 6) 2 medium onions, sliced I green pepper, cut in rings 1 cup cooked peas 1 cup coarsely broken, wide noo dles, uncocked 3 cups canned tomator...; 2 No. 1 cans shrimp, cleaned 3 tablespoons butter Salt and pepper Place alternate layers of ingredi ents in greased casserole. Dot with butter and season with salt and pep per. Cover and bake in a moderate (350-degree) oven for 1 hour. (Released by Western Newspaper Union.) AXT’HEN you wear this charm- ’ • ing frock your best friends will query you, “my aren’t you getting slim?”—for your- waistline will just melt away under the slen derizing influence of this smartly shaped girdle. It is the feature of Pattern No. 1502-B which makes it one every size 12 to 40 should want! The frock has youth and fem ininity, too, expressed in an at- O- O- 0- O- O” O- O-- O" O-- O-- O- O- O-- f'- 0~ o-. 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