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the sun, Newberry, s. c., march 13,1942
Kathleen Norris Says:
Forget Past Mistakes and Go Forward
(Bell Syndicate—WNU Service.)
A co-executor of my husband's estate, who loved my stepdaughter's mother, ap
pears afraid that l am not going to discharge my duties regarding little Doris. He
questions her before me as to her comfort and happiness.
By KATHLEEN NORRIS
T O SAY that a woman has
“character” is always to
pay her a compliment. All
sorts of good things are wrapped
up in that one word.
One thing all women of char
acter have in common, whether
they are old or young, rich or
poor, famous or obscure. They
have learned to go ahead from
the present moment.
Here is part of a letter from a
woman whose past is full of mis
takes.
“I am a college graduate,” writes
Kathryn. ‘ I come of a good family
and ought to be able to boast an
average intelligence. But I am in
real trouble now, and don’t know
just how to get myself out of it.
I’ve made a series of mistakes, but
surely there is some way back to
happiness for me, a quiet little home
and the company of my little son
and daughter?
“I was married at 20, 13 years
ago, to a man whose temperament
was utterly unsuited to mine. We
had a boy and a girl, tried again
and again to get along because of
the children, and finally were di
vorced six years ago. I was living
with my husband’s mother, a fine
good woman, at the time, and
stayed on with her when Tony mar
ried his stenographer and went to
Mexico to act as superintendent in
a mine. Little Tony and Mary-Lou
went to school across the street.
Married Her Doctor.
"Three years ago my doctor, a
widower with a daughter, eight
years old, asked me to marry him.
Paul was in every way a fine man
and after a talk with my mother-in-
law it was arranged that for the
present my children should stay
with her, as Paul’s offices and home
were in one apartment, and to move
to larger quarters would have in
jured his business. His little girl,
Doris, lived with us from the first.
She is a nice child, now 11, but
not particularly responsive or affec
tionate.
“Paul and I had had less than
two years of perfect happiness when
he was killed last summer. He left
me a modest income, between $1,400
and $1,500 a year, and he left me
Doris. She has no one else in the
world. Naturally she is too young
to appreciate the constant responsi
bility and sacrifice that the care of
her, and the careful managing I
have to do, mean to me.
She takes it all for granted;
comes and goes cheerfully in our
two-room apartment; helps a little
with dishes and dusting; already
lives a life of her own. My co
executor of Paul’s estate is a man
who loved Doris’ mother and ap
pears always to be afraid that I
am not going to discharge my full
duties regarding Doris. He ques
tions her before me as to her com
fort and happiness. Does she get
enough to eat? She has blankets
enough? He then tells me about
my predecessor, her mother.
"Meanwhile my first husband’s
mother has moved to a sister’s house
in a town about 50 miles away.
Once again my children are safe
and happy and in good schools. I
am welcome to see them whenever
I care to, but the truth is that I
cannot often afford to pay the rail
way fare, taxi fares, and for the
little gifts I want to take them. So
I'am placed in the preposterous po
sition of spending all my time and
energy to take care of the child of
a woman I never saw, while my
LIFE BEGINS NOW
Why waste precious time and
effort on regret and self-recrim
ination? That won’t bring back
lost opportunity. You can do
nothing about changing the past,
but your attitude toward it may
have a lot to do with determin
ing your future. Here is a letter
from a woman in a particularly
trying position, forced to devote
her life to another woman’s
child, while her own two chil
dren grow up without a mother.
To meet and solve a problem
like that, says Kathleen Norris,
takes “character,” that certain
something that enables a woman
to forget the past and go ahead
from the present moment.
own adored small son and daugh
ter are growing up without their
mother.
Worries Over Mistakes.
"Paul, of course, had no premo
nition that he would die so young.
Normally, he would have expected
to be with me until Doris reached
young womanhood. But this is the
situation, and I don’t know what to
do. I worry over my own mistakes
and the dreadful ‘might-have-beens’
until I am a nervous wreck, and I
simply cannot and will not see my
self spending the next 10 or 12 years
acting as nurse, cook, resident gov
erness and guard to a little girl that
really, in my heart, I don’t like.
Please offer me any suggestions, no
matter how unflattering, that occur
to you.”
Well, Kathryn, the first thing to do
is determine to go ahead and not
backward, from now on. Whatever
mistakes you have made are made,
and whatever conditions you have
created actually exist, and there’s
no use crying about them. Tomor
row, and not yesterday, ought to be
the object of your planning, for noth
ing will change yesterday. But to
morrow anything may happen!
I don’t know all the circum
stances, from this one letter, but
it seems to me highly possible that
you might handle the situation this
way: Go to see the sympathetic,
fine mother-in-law and tell her that
Paul is dead and that you are going
to find work to support yourself.
Since you two were once close
friends, and since she held her son
responsible for most of the difficul
ties that separated you, she may
easily ask you to visit her for
awhile.
Consideration Is Welcome.
If she does, make yourself quietly
invaluable. Be everything to her
and her old sister. Consideration is
welcomed in any household, and
honest flattery is very sweet to old
er women. It is highly possible
that you will be asked to stay, to
lift some of the responsibility of two
lively youngsters from her shoul
ders; children of 8 and 10 need a lot
of policing, and in a family with no
servant they represent a lot of actu
al hard work. You might stay on as
a sort of working housekeeper, or
you might get a job near by.
Then go to the old friend who is
so anxious about Doris’ welfare and
suggest that he and his wife take
her on for awhile, or find a good
boarding school and take her for
vacations. Turn over to him almost
your entire income, and express a
lively and affectionate concern for
Paul’s daughter, but explain that
your own children need you, and
thus escape to reclaim all the joy
of your lost motherhood.
Toast for St. Patrick’s Day . . . Pineapple Frosties!
(See Recipes Below)
Shamrock Fare
Take your cue from good luck day
and let your menu wear green!
Bring out your
best Pat and Mike
jokes and touch up
your food for the
day with a dash of
imagination by ap
plying a green
brush stroke.- for
these are the
things which put a halo on your
head.
There’s a hint of spring in the
green touches and in the lightness
of this season’s menus, so whisk
these two elements into your food to
give it exciting personality.
With simplicity your keynote and
economy your guide, here are some
menus for small entertaining on St.
Patrick’s day.
Menu I.
Afternoon or Evening Snack
Pineapple Frosties
Finger Sandwiches
Pop Corn Nougat
Menu II.
Bridge Refreshments
Shamrock Salad
Prune Bread With Cream Cheese
Spread
Coffee or Tea Cornflake Chews
A drink with plenty of tang and
vitamins is this one called a Pine
apple Frosty. Its vitamins B1 and
C will boost your energy quota and
at the same time give your teeth
and bones and gums a new lease
for spring.
'Pineapple Frosties.
For each serving use a six-ounce
glass of unsweetened pineapple juice
and a generous scoop of sherbet.
Chill a large beating bowl, add well-
chilled pineapple juice. When the
sherbet begins to soften, beat the in
gredients until they are well-blended
and frothy. A jar or shaker or auto
matic beater may be used to blend
these together.
Pop Corn Nougat.
IV, cups corn syrup
IVs cups sugar
V, cup warm water
A teaspoon salt
3 tablespoons honey
2 egg whites
1 cup chopped pop corn
2 tablespoons candied cherries,
cut fine
Cook syrup, sugar, water and salt
until brittle when tried in cold wa
ter. Put honey in a large bowl,
place over pan containing hot water
to keep honey warm. While candy
is cooking, beat egg whites stiff and
told through honey. When syrup is
cooked to the proper stage, pour it
slowly over the honey and egg, beat
ing hard with wooden spoon. Beat
until the surface has a satiny ap
pearance. Fold in pop com and
cherries, press into buttered pan.
Ever so good, ever so simple, and
very pretty describes this light
green salad in today’s column. The
grapefruit and lime flavored gelatin
are a spirited combination that work
the right kind of magic.
Lynn Says:
As fish gains prominence in
menus, are you wondering how
you can make it appetite-tempt
ing? Here is a guide:
Nice to dip in egg and bread
crumbs and fry in shallow fat:
perch, pike, haddock, halibut,
cod, sole, lake trout, salmon, in
steak or fillet form.
Good for baking with or without
a stuffing: the large fish, like
whitefish, haddock, halibut, wall
eyed pike, salmon steaks, lake
trout.
First class for deep-fat frying:
oysters, shrimp, scallops. Dip
these in beaten egg and crumbs
and fry in deep, hot fat.
Baked in loaves or timbales:
haddock, salmon, tuna, cod.
Stuffings that go well with
baked fish: bread stuffing (the
same kind you make for your
fowl!); celery stuffing, or rice
stuffing (try this with pike!). For
rice stuffing, combine 1 cup
cooked rice with Vfe pound sauteed
mushrooms, 2 tablespoons of
chopped onion, 2 beaten eggs, Vi
cup celery, all cooked with % cup
butter. This makes enough for a
3 to 4-pound fish.
This Week’s Menn:
Baked Haddock 'Tartar Sauce
Lyonnaise Potatoes
•Orange Squash
•Shamrock Salad
‘Prune Bread Butter and Honey
Chilled Pears Cornflake Chews
•Recipes Given.
•Shamrock Salad.
(Serves 6)
1 package lime flavored gelatin
1 cup hot water
ft cup cold water
>4 cup grapefruit juice
1ft cups grapefruit sections
ft cup finely chopped celery
Pimientos
Pour hot water over gelatin. Add
cold water and grapefruit juice.
Chill until mixture thickens, add
grapefruit and celery. Arrange pi
mientos cut into shamrock shapes
around sides of a mold or at the
bottom. Pour mixture into mold,
chill until firm, unmold and garnish
with grapefruit sections and greens.
A favorite breakfast cereal and
prunes are a healthy merger for this
home-made bread. The fruit and
cereal are food affinities. The re
sult, an excellent bread that stays
moist for days, is good sliced when
fresh or when toasted:
•Prune Bread.
(Makes 1 loaf)
2 cups bran cereal
% cup juice from cooked prunes
% cup chopped, cooked prunes
% cup buttermilk
f£ cup sugar
1 tablespoon shortening
1 egg
Hi cups flour
H teaspoon salt
l 1 /, teaspoons soda
cup chopped nutmeats, if desired
Soak cereal in prune juice. Add
buttermilk. Cream sugar and short
ening thoroughly, add egg and beat
well. Add bran cereal mixture. Sift
dry ingredients, add to prunes and
nutmeats. Add to first mixture and
stir only until flour disappears. Bake
in a greased loaf pan in a moderate
(325-degree) oven, 1 hour and 20
minutes.
The orange flavoring gives a de
lightful touch to the squash which is
colorful served in orange cups.
•Orange Squash.
(Serves 6)
3 cups cooked Hubbard squash
cup orange juice
3 tablespoons butter
14 teaspoon salt
Pepper
14 cup chopped almonds
Bake or steam squash until ten
der (114 to 2 hours). Mash or rice.
Add orange juice, butter, salt and
pepper. Fill 6 orange shells with
squash mixture, piling it in lightly.
Top with chopped almonds. Bake
until lightly browned in a hot (450-
degree) oven. For best results use
oranges that have clean, smooth
skins which separate from the or
ange easily.
•Tartar Sauce.
Popular and fitting accompani
ment to fish is this sauce: Combine
1 cup mayonnaise, 14 teaspoon on
ion juice or 1 tablespoon chopped
chives, 2 tablespoons chopped sweet
pickle or green relish, lemon juice
to thin to desired consistency.
While you’re busy this season roll
ing bandages for the Red Cross,
knitting for the
. — soldiers, or bak
ing for the boys
at camp, you’ll
want to plan
menus and dishes
that take little
time for prepara
tion. With this in
mind, I’m including a recipe for an
excellent casserole that fills these
requirements:
Shrimp Vegetable Casserole.
(Serves 6)
2 medium onions, sliced
I green pepper, cut in rings
1 cup cooked peas
1 cup coarsely broken, wide noo
dles, uncocked
3 cups canned tomator...;
2 No. 1 cans shrimp, cleaned
3 tablespoons butter
Salt and pepper
Place alternate layers of ingredi
ents in greased casserole. Dot with
butter and season with salt and pep
per. Cover and bake in a moderate
(350-degree) oven for 1 hour.
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