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-vweK CHROMES' rrr———-n .. .. I mmiW \ WCTflHLHHIL ^mmmm mfwwrwr k He pees... m* i mmmmi umw j mkh ottuor sbufhweh wgwite BKpTotW GUfflfcdtHlS HMMWeOWS HR WttMfc wm~ f (IE WHS OF (\ \m mm... (MOW | <i> "> & 3 Heads and Tails BY JONATHAN HUGHES/THE GAMECOCK i-1 i-—-1 nr,---1 9 ! f Everyday Joe by steven olexa WELL, Vtf SURE FJ SLAP ALL Of THAT! OVER A ro WITH. What’s Up? Welcome to What’s Up, the weekly advice column brought to you by the Counseling and Human Development Center interns and staff. Submit your anonymous questions to adviceatusc@hotmail.com. We offer no personal responses via e-mail. The center's professional staff supervises all interns. The following advice represents the opinions of the center and not necessarily the opinions of The Gamecock. QUESTION: I am getting really nervous about going home over the break. I chose to come to USC to be as far away from my parents as possible. I am independent now and don’t want to revert back to my high school self. ANSWER: Being physically away ™ from your family does not mean you are disconnected from them. Families live inside our brains and perhaps our blood. Many college students have experienced becoming a young child all over again as soon they walk through home’s door. Maybe it is the smells of the house, the furniture or a familiar dynamic in the family. The advantage of being a college student is that you are home temporarily. So if you become 5 years old again during Thanksgiving, you’ll be emancipated when you come back to school. However, small changes can affect the rest of the family. For instance, if your role has been to mediate family v disputes, you could now tell your folks that they need ^ resolve the problem on their own. This gives family members the opportunity to do things differently. Use the vacation to do at least one thing differently. This would give you the opportunity to share ways you have changed and developed during your time in college. Your family might be uncomfortable with you adapting a different role, but introducing the process of change may be the biggest gift you could give back I * to them. Pick your battles, and approach delicate conversations openly and respectfully. Don't expect miracles, but don’t go home expecting to be miserable. If you think it might be helpful, talk to your family about your concerns. They might be really excited about the “new you” and may want to help you become more independent. Other friends and relatives can tell you about how they handled the transition from adolescence to young adulthood and the challenges they faced. Remember that while you have been away, your friends and family have had their own experiences and there might be an awkward period of adjustment for everybody. QUESTION: I have so much stress, and I am not sure I can handle college, but I don’t want to let my family down. I don’t want to disappoint them, but I do not know how to tell them I might lose my scholarships. ANSWER: The transition to college can be very difficult and especially hard when you are trying to not only meet your own expectations, but the expectations of family and friends. Perhaps you were at the top of your high-school class, a big fish in a small pond. Now you are a small fish in the big ocean. The first step is recognizing where your stress is coming from. Are your expectations realistic? Are you over-committed to activities? Have you developed a balanced schedule? Once you have recognized where this stress is coming from, find ways to deal with it. Talk to someone you can trust or that you feel comfortable with, such as an RA, your friends, professors or spiritual leaders. Do not make excuses for your problems, but recognize that you might need help. This help could come in the form of extra study sessions or communicating to your parents that you are afraid of disappointing them. It is best to be open with your parents so that they will not be surprised if your grades are lower than they anticipated or if you lose your scholarship. Let them know all you have learned and what your goals are for the upcoming semester. What do you want to get out of your college experience? College is not just about academics, but also about recognizing your place in the world and applying what you are learning. There comes a time when we each need to recognize what our gifts are and where they will be best utilized. Share your goals and thoughts with those close to you. You will be sure not to let them down since you are being honest about what direction life is leading you. 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There’ll be changes to your schedule, your | plans, your assignment and even your job. TAURUS All the scrimping and saving you’ve done has left your nest egg intact. Now, you can finally relax. GEMINI A critical person can j be quite annoying. It looks like the results will be much better if you pay attention. CANCER The lessons assigned for today and tonight must be learned through experience. So when someone tells you to practice, don’t object. LEO Not all of your fortune has to come from the sweat of your brow. There’s a lot of value in the things you’ve accumulated already. Count your blessings. VIRGO You’re a person who can handle a lot of details. You’re pretty good with distractions, too, and you’re getting better with practice. LIBRA Take things slowly and don’t let yourself get rattled. Go for perfection instead of speed. SCORPIO Your friends will keep you motivated. You provide the staying power; let them provide the impetus. SAGITTARIUS Don’t argue with a person who’s trying to get you to be precise. This is one of the gurus who’s been sent to help you succeed. Check your words carefully. You'll improve your credibility. CAPRICORN There are a few assignments you’re finding difficult to complete. Let your subconscious work on them while you do something more fun. AQUARIUS It’s possible that you can get more money for what you’ve been doing. Discuss the situation with your boss and with somebody else’s boss, too. PISCES Love is the most powerful energy in the universe. You’re a living example of that, and don’t forget it for a moment. You’re providing sustenance. CALENDAR Wednesday, Nov. 19 “BRAGGING RITES": 8 p.m. Russell House Theater. “POLAROID STORIES”: Presented by Theatre South Carolina. 8 p.m. Longstreet Theatre. $14 general admission, $12 faculty and staff, $10 students. “NOSEY PARKER” : Featuring Columbia native Natalie Picoe. 3,7 and 9 p.m. Nickelodeon Theatre, 937 Main St. “THE MAN WHO CAME TO DINNER”: 8 p.m. Workshop Theatre, 1136 Bull St. $13 general admission, $11 students and military. THE JAM ROOM ACOUSTIC SHOWDOWN ROUND 2: 9 p.m. New Brookland Tavern, 122 State St. $2. JUSTIN MCROBERTS WITH MICAH HALL: 9 p.m. Jammin’ Java, 1530 Main St. $7. MAYWATER ACOUSTIC: Sundance Bar & Grill, 902-B Gervais St. Free. Thursday, Nov. 20 “BRAGGING RITES”: 8p.m. Russell House Theater. “POLAROID STORIES”: 8 p.m. Longstreet Theatre. $14 for general admission; $12 for faculty, staff and military; $10 for students. “NOSEY PARKER": 7 and 9 p.m. Nickelodeon Theatre. HANDEL’S “MESSIAH": Featuring soloists and chorus. 7:30 p.m. Roger Center. $18 general admission, $15 faculty and staff, $8 students. “POLAROID STORIES”: 8 p.m. Longstreet Theatre. $14 general admission, $12 faculty and staff, $10 students. “SWIMMING POOL”: 7 and 9 p.m. Nickelodeon Theatre. MATT WERTZ WITH JUSTIN R0S0LIN0:9 p.m. Jammin’ Java. $7. SQUEEZETOY: Sundance Bar & Grill. Free.