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Focusing on prob Doctor le By Ellen E. McCarthy and David Hill "Orgasm is like money. If you don't have it, well, you're in trouble,"'said Dr. Lonnie Barbach in her lecture Tuesday in Gambrell Hall. Barbach said trying to meet society's expectations about sex and the roles of men and women in relationshiDS leads manv npnnlp intr? cpviiqI problems. "If we find out the national average is 2.2 times per week and we're doing it less, (we think) there's something wrong with us," she said. SHE SPOKE on "Taking Sex off Auto Pilot" as part of Health Enrichment Week at I TCc* "You're supposed to look like a Playboy model, or a Vogue model, and if you don't, you're not sexy," she said. Barbach, author of several books on human sexuality, said sex is learned. Men and women have their senaratp spvnal anH ?ru ?r? im itate them, she said. One model is the "Fantasy Model" for men and the other is the "Non-Model" for women. W?ill [[ jjanMBBMMC????aflfc??a * 1 THF SIXTH ANNUAf I MR. USC p I bodybuilaing c I Saturday A 1 Booker T. Wash (across from USC F 1 Prfiiiirininri 1?-00 I - . ? j Entry fee 15.00 | Admission 4.00 general public 2.00 USC students (inci - I Qualifi Men's contest - open and clc | open - anyone closed - only USC perso must be NPC cardholde VVUIIItni 5> - VJfJUII Ulll must be AFWB cardholc | All contestant! 1 auditoriurr I For more info contact \ lems cturesonse: "THE FANTASY Model" transforms all coi humans into sexual machines,' with visions of "A men giving women multiple orgasms every 60 qu seconds, she said. On the other hand, "The see Non-Model" portrays women as not enjoying sex because they're too concerned about such * things as their fat thighs or flat chests. Bar- ? J ? i ? t;i._ 1 urt^n sttiu luuay, sex is iikc ine Olympics, everyone wants to be a gold medal winner." Barbach said these models can prevent com- M munication in a relationship. For example, mar- Q ried couples were asked if they had had a mi premarital sexual relationship with each other. tie Seventy-six percent of the men said yes; 33 per cent of the women said yes. "It's not just a meeting of bodies; it's also a ecj meeting of the hearts," she said. ?<j She said couples should communicate fr< especially when there are sexual problems in the rplatinnchin "Thprp'c thic hpKpf that if cpv Jcn't 1 ~ w.w .. .JW,. v W] going well, it must not be love." h A COMMON problem is one partner wanting . more sex than the other. "We always think the cu one who wants it less has the problem, since jr more is best when it comes to sex," she said. u b< Another problem is a lack of child-parent P; READ THE Gi =3T| ^ / &* 9 m w- __J| I The U.S.C. | r-*k Rs I BoayDuiiaing and - I. Weightlifting I Club presents I 1 THE FIRST ANNUAL 1 ,us MISS use i hampionships | pril 23, 1983 | InntAn Ai irll+Ani ?m 11 ivjiui i bui 11 >E Center, Wheat St.) noon Finals 8:00pm (payable day of contest) i ludes both prejudging and finals) cations: I >sed 1 i 1 I r . . . available at door y I I ler. . . available at door > mi i?Ar\/M4 r\ D I I IUOI IC/pUll IU || i by 10:30am | I 'incent Olech at 777-0380 | xual relat mmunication about sex. When she was in the ifth or sixth grade," she asked her mother estions about a film on reproduction she had :n at school. "That was the last discussion we had about x until "For Yourself" (Barbach's first hnnkl me out." Barbach, Assistant Clinical Professor of edical Psychology at the University of ilifornia Medical School, based her books ainly on interviews with volunteers and pants at counseling clinics. "I'M SURE you're interested in how I learnall this stuff ? my parents were," she said. Jasically, what I know about sex I learned :>m my clients. "There was not one woman we interviewed ho did not have a sexual problem sometime in :r life." Barbach contrasted extremes in sexual atudes represented by two isolated island iltures. Inhabitants of one, off the coast of eland, fear nudity so much that only babies ithe in the nude. But on an island in the acific, sex is an openly practiced form of VMECOCK i What else is t I besides drink J /TV f # ! U.t LI Patio, 11am i *A.L.E. Information r STUDENT TIC FOR AW, 1! GAMES DATE DUKE SEPT. 17 GEORGIA SEPT. 24 LOUISIANA ST. OCT. 22 FLORIDA ST. NOV. 5 A LIMITED NUMBER ( TICKETS WILL BE MAI SOUTH CAROLINA ST TICKETS WILL BE LIM STUDENT. ORDERS \A TUESDAY, APRIL 19, LISTED ABOVE, CASH TirveTC Ml IQT RC DA STUDENTS MUST COI TICKET OFFICE ON RC BETWEEN 8:30 AM A CHASE AWAY CAME B ? A \/ nr* ? o ?r? r% m. > IVIMY Bt L/LMIIVIttU IIV TO THE TICKET OFFIC CURRENT FALL 1983 TADH ionships recreation. Adolescents there are encouraged to experiment in sex, she said. sne said American attitudes about sex tend to swing between extremes. "THERE'S BEEN a sexual revolution; there have been a lot of changes. Some of them are, I think, positive." After her presentation, Barbach opened the floor for questions. The audience responded to her slowly at first, but then were able to ask her explicit questions easily. One man was concerned about the way he felt pressured into having sex, even if he simply hugged his partner. Barbach called this the "Ready Teddy Syndrome," in which she said all men feel they are supposed to be always ready for sex. Other questions ranged from women's fears of oral sex to whether orgasm was the key to sexual gratification. Barbach has authored three books, "For Vrt,.rcoif. C 1~ o 1: 1 VUIOVU, 1 IIV & U1 1 11II 1IV, 11 I U1 I tlliaic JCAUdllty," "Shared Intimacies" and "The Intimate Male." 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