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VOL. 1.] EASLEY, SOUTH CAROLINA, FRIDAY, JULY 18, 1884. ghee insley _*essenger. Enteted at the Posto/Jice at Easley H. C., as Second Ca8s Matter. J. R. HAGOOD, Editor and Prop'r TERMS OF SUBSCRIPTION. One yea4r, strictly in advance......$1,0 Six months "1 " 0.... 6f RATES OF ADVERI'ISINO. One square (1 inch) I insertion......75o E'aIch subsequ~ent inser'tin.........40i Liberal discount oil coitracts or bi (he column, half or quarter column. Marriage notices free and(I solicited Obituaries over 12 lines charged for Correspondents. to insure attention 1uust give their' ful address. We are not respolnsible for the opiti Ons of our correspondents. All communications for the pape1 must be addressel to the Editor busiieess l(Aterts to the Puiiblisier' of t-h4 MESSIINOER, Easley, S. C. A FAREWELL. Fo-ret me not, Thouglh distnuit, he tIy lot. Aini never m1-ore otur loving hinis 1m1: twinle sweet rie Yet all thy cal)e benetI(' h lllember still iy hiearut.'s ever t hinie To ch(eeri our souls Whlen t rouible's I hmo1(lr r.>ld Am(d SOrr-ow's raill-clotitk I Itoop, t rtt( love is g'ivenl; To save froim dnt h Our oft.en-way'ring fail h The onl1y per-fect gift Onl t his .,ide Iea en. The Pa-tst was sweet, The Futute leads our feet Tlhroigh uiktiown paths of my .distat se e O friend, firewell? No words of inine can tell Ilow treasured in Iy he.art Ih lon hIath heen! BILL ARP. le Ruminliates Over Love, Courtship and Marriage. Married anld gone. It is tho sae111V old story. Love and court - ship. Then co 8es the en.?!gyement riig an1 ait. blessed inteirval of1 1ond Iopes uld happy (reamlfls n11(d then thl4e dlay is fixed-the auspicious daiy that is never to) be& largotten-~ a dlny that br Iinugs happin'1)ess or tnisery andl beginls a new lif'e. 'Ten (comes the license, the per' muit of' the law which says you may mtarry, you mnay enter' inUto b)onds. Tlhe State approves it and the law allows it and it will only cost you :u dollar and a quarter. Cheap, ain't it, and yet it mayd be very dlear1. Then comels the miniister, and1( the happy pair stands(1 upJ he fore himn anld make some solemn vows and listen to a prayer anid b)enediction, and( they are onme. In a moment the trusting maid has lost her namre and her free will adis tied fast to a man. Well, lie is tied fatst, too, so it is all rig-ht all rmund r1Tonn but sonmc how I always feel more concern about the woman than the man, She is a helpless sort of a creature and takes the most risk, for she risks her all. We gave him a'cordial welcome into the family, and we kissed hei lovingly and bade them good-bye, and the children threw a showei of rice over them (and an old shoe after them, and they were soon on their way to the land of flowers, r She was not our child, but was al most, for Mrs. Arp was the only - mother she ever knew and we lov ' her. I sat in my piazza ruminating over the scene and I wondered that there were as many happy mar raiges as there seem to be. Part ners for life ought to be congenial and harmnoiniouis in so many things. When men malce a partnership in Ibusiness they cui't get along well if they are unlike in disposition o1 in moral ifwriciple, or in business hab its. But they can't (lissolvt an1d seperate a-tt plecasulre andi( tryN alother man. A man mnd his wife ought to he alike in miost everything. It is said that folks like their opposite, %their counterparts, ald So they de ii some respects. A iman with iblue eyes goes mighty nih1 de stracted over a- womialn with hazel es. I (id, aml I'm distractel Vet whenever I look into them. liut inl lmeital <iualities and emo tJiOa1l (ulalities a1nd tastesq ald hlbits an1d prilciles anld coivic tions al(I the lik. ther ought to (laSs to','et her. Inldeedi it is better fr theill to havye the samile )olities and the s11me 1e'l4igion. And so I hI I %ve observe(d that the hlap)iest 111ion1s as a genierial thing arie those where the ihih ontracting )arties have k(nw (1ech other for along timie niid have alssimlilate( fr0om1 their' youth ill t hought and feeling. Wn ai, man goes off' to some wa terIing place :1nd waltzes a1 few timnes withl a.hrmn1ir n b6 bills desperately il love and11l mar. ries her' off han,(l it is a long shoot aNd a narr.w chance fr hlalpiness. Whym, we may live in~ thme sameI( towin w'ithi people andl not kno1w l as muc'h abouit them as we oug.?ht to. .1 never made am n mis take abhouit my chloice of a late f'or the <bhmce of life, buht I have thlouight of' it a thousand t imies, thmat if Mrms. A rp h ad k nown 1 loy ('Id'O iodfs h a nd got~ uip by dayb lreaIk (vy\ nmrning' she never wouIld to ge(t her'i anyhow and that w~ouild haive been thme feather' to brIea1k thle c'amel's bacl(k. Well, l'mi mortal am free to say that if' I had known s he slept uintil Ithe seconod 1ringing of1 thme first bell for breakfast anid was fond( of raw Vyslt'rs, it would hav haed a (amunpening. ('frk'C O my ardor for a few minutes, only a few. But I have seen some mighty clever people eat oysters raw and sleep late in the morning. Lit still a man and his wife can harmonize and compromise a good many of these things, and it is a beautiful illustration of this to see Mrs. Arp cooking codfish for me and fixing it all up so nice with' eggs and cream, and it is a touchii ng evidence of my undying devotion to her to see ime wander ing aboutt the house lonely and for lorn every inoring for an hour or two,and forbiddi lng even the cat to walk heavy while she sleeps. That codfish business comes to me hon estly from my father's side, and my imother put up1) with it like a good coisiderate wife, and we children grew ill) with an idea that it was good. I've heard of a yoiung ( ple who got marrie(d and went ofl to A uguista. on a tour, and a feller stickIis fork into a codlish ball anl took a bite. He chocked it down like a hero. and! wheni his beloved asked what was the matter, replied: "Don't say anyivthinlug about it, Mandy, but as sure as you are born there is somie th i n dead in the bread." Well, we can make compromises albout all suc(h things as habits! and tastes, but there are somiie things that won't compo)Illiiise vorth a eeiit. If a girl has been bro hli it 1p to huaving a good deal 1 of freedom an d thinks it rio harm to g() wailtzingI a rounmld with every gaUy Lothlario w-Vhio loves to dance, an1(d after she gets a feller of her owi. wants to keep at it mnd have pollulted armslaounld hrwaiste., she had just as well sing farewell to coijuloigal love anid loIImIestic p)eaee for it is aga inst order Of na tire for a lovi ti hto stand it, annld heouh to be considered, and that is age. A few yea rs make no difference, but :in ohl mai had better be en-reful abomit mainrrying a Voung wife. He won't be happy but about two weeks, atnid theni his misery vill begini and it will nev er end, it may be better for a woman to he an old1 man's dairling thn young mann' s slave, but she( hadl better be neither. W hen a yo Iung girl mlarries an old iman for is mioniey she ha~s gone back 0on hierself, for mioney~ d1on't bring haptl with a. dead( weight is a cure-an aggra vation. I was taIlking one day to ani old manii a Frenchman, w ho had mnade a herimiit of hinmselft and1( was living all alone in thlie w~oodls, and( he said: "M ine f riemil, 1Ii hav miake one gr'and meestakeC. Mine first wife whom I marry yen I vas young vas an agel from hear en, God biless her, b.ut mine last wife vas a devil from ____" and~ lie p)ointedl d1ownwards. "1 VaIs old and1( shec vas yvoug. T had moneyv and she had none. I marry her in haste and repent at my leisure. I try to live wid her tree years, but we were not compatible. It was against de order of nature and I find myself a fool and a prisoner, and so I geeve her half my monies and run away from her and hide in this wilderness and here vill I die, and ven I go oo) to St. Peter and tell heem how dot voman dev il me on earth de good man vill open de garden gate and say come in my brother for you hav had trouble en-ough." Country marriages are general ly happier than those made in eit ies among the families of the rich. Children raised to work and to wait on theimiselves make better husibands and better wives than those raised ill luxury. It is mighty hard fot a man to please his wife al(d keep her ill good hui mor if she has been potte(l by her parents and never knew a want and hia( no useful work to do. She soon takes the ennui or the com niptions or the "do11't kiow what I Want, an~ld must go back to ina. A young lady who never did any thing after she quit school hut dress for (om)pany and make visits and go to the theatre or the dance will never make a g(ood wife. This Wife hlsiless is a Very serious hu1s in1ess. It is right h.ird work to play wife. Ih1e i mother of six, (ight or tell clhildreni has seeni sights. She knows what care and work is; fad on1e of these do-noth ingo. Wm)enfll c'aI't stand it. If she is not a u(sed up institution with one c(hild, two will finish her anid if it wasn't for condensed milk the c hildreni would peri sh to death in a month after they wtere born, an( sorter like the cows in Florida. I hea rd a FloridIa ann say the other (hay that a Florida COW( di(n't iv enough inilk to color the coffee for 1)reakfast and they hlad to raise the en lves oI Lit bottle. Getting 11mal rrie(d ouight to he a considerate business . Folks ouighten to get married in a hurneitherl 01ught thev, walit fou tor 01 ive yeairs ; six imonthis is long (enough1 for' ani en gagemennt, I1 donI't mean11 chlildlren. I miea~n grTown folks who have set tledl in life anmd know what they are in all naUtur ie thiani to se a g.ood look ing, healthy young mana wiho isimiakingl an honest li ving~ stand( upl at the altar with a pure, sweet, good temp lered, affectiounte, inadus trous gi and( thet pani'lts on1 b oth sides aprvn the match. Then t hie big pot ought to be put in1 the li ttlte pot anid everyb~ody re(joice'. Bia. .ARe. -TFhere is l(ess cime1 in the 1 'ni tedl States inl prIoportionl to tile pop ulation than in any other c'oun~try in the wor'ld.