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_ETCETERA_ __ 'Romantically challenged' get advice from the 'dating doctor' BY MACKENZIE CRAVEN Assistant etCetera Editor Looking for love in the wrong places? Meeting the same cycle of losers one after another? Tired of being single with a campus full of potential dates? All of these questions and more were answered at the “Romantically Challenged” workshop held by “Dating Doc tor” David Coleman and sponsored by Carolina Produc tions. David Coleman is responsible for helping many college students find relationships and stay with exisiting ones. Have you ever that person’s eyes for a quick glance. Then a few seconds later, look again, but for one solid second. Finally, for a third time look at the person again, but this time stare them down, and allow their eyes to leave first. With any luck, the person will keep getting closer and closer, and the stare down brawl will ignite a full blown conversation. Coleman believes that students should make the first move, instead of waiting for the right moment. “People seldom remember who broke the ice, they’re just happy to be standing inthe puddle,” Coleman said. Coleman also encourages students to be open minded when meeting that person for the first time. Most people can be found guilty of committing a projection error. They assume something about the person based on that first im pression. Just because Joey has a cute little Labrador re triever doesn’t mean he is a sweet, cuddly guy; for all you know, he could be a mass murderer. Word to the wise: Before assumptions are made about a person, keep an open mind and an open heart. Who has the most control in a relationship? Many are in disbelief if they think it is mutual partnership. Coleman believes one of the people involved has control. In fact, the person who cares the least has the most control. “We do things for each other because we love each oth er, and we like to make each other happy,” business ju nior Becky Ford said. mtuiy yeupie iiiigm imu urciii&eivea amaiieu iu me same type of “loser” time after time. Coleman has a sim ple solution to explain why people do that. “We repeat poor relationships because we seek out what is familar to us, and what we practice we become good at,” Coleman said. What do men and women want the most? Love, at tention, sex? Actually, most people want what they cannot have. For example, if Sarah dumps Sammy and then sees Sammy with Sally, she might get a little jealous. Why? Because she suddenly sees Sammy Bighead as an attractive hottie? No, Sally wants what she cannot have. But, Cole man reminds her that she got rid of Sammy for a rea >on, and she shouldn’t forget that reason. Coleman uijv viuvu uiv uuuivuvv uu uv/n iv luvmuj u uiu. t^viuv wi 11 mon characteristics of liars: They aviod eye contact, get nervous, overexplain the truth, change their style of com munication, probe information, develop selective hearing and may avoid the person. If someone is being cheated on, it is happening because that person doesn’t say any thing. Students were also interested in the clues to look for to determine whether they found “the one.” Coleman suggests they might have found that person if they aren’t interested in anyone else, the relationship is ef fortless, they have the same core thoughts on religon or other things that are important to them, and, most impor tantly, if they are both whole people within the relation ship. Coleman addressed the issue of long-distance relation ships. He said 90 percent of one-year long-distance rela tionship fail for one or all of the following reasons. ■ People force communication to occur every day. ■ Huge phone bills cause arguments over money and the mundane. ■ Humans crave physical affection. ■ Absence doesn’t make the heart gow fonder - prox im- ity does. ■ They surprise visit one another, then get upset. ■ They cheat themselves out of the college experience. ■ They grow apart. ■ Reunions are passionate; separations are emotional. Coleman said most relationships end because of RAMS - religon, alcohol, money or sex. v Coleman has advice for those who recently ended a re lationship. n He held a dollar bill up to the audience and asked them ti vho wanted it. He proceeded by saying bad things to it, then again asked ii ;he students who wanted it. 1: He then crumpled it up and abused it and asked them rho wanted it. He reminded students that just because someone does ’t want a relationship with them or because their emo ons were abused, that doesn’t change their net worth Coleman’s Web site, www.datingdoctor.com, offers dat ig advice and more for the relationship novice and the re itionship-savvy. passeu up uiai crusn you see everyday, but you are never still able to muster together the nerve to make that first move? For this, Cole man recommends the eye-contact method. 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Gayle, the youngest sister of coun try music legend Loretta Lynn, was ex posed to an eclectic selection of music during her childhood, including the music of Carmichael. Lynn grew up in the mountains of Kentucky. Gayle, who was bom Brenda Webb, was raised in Wabash, Ind. They’re 16 years apart. “When I first started, they’d say, ‘You can’t be Loretta Lynn’s sister. You don’t sound like her,”’ Gayle said. “If my voice is a little bit different and it doesn’t have the twang, it’s because when I grew up ... my dialect was a lit tle of everything.” Lynn gave Gayle her start in the mu sic business. Gayle joined the Lynn show as a backup singer at 16. Lynn, who relished the hamburgers served by the Krystal restaurant chain, suggested the stage name of Crystal. Gayle’s first hits were in the hard country style of Lynn, and sometimes written by her, too. But Gayle didn’t hit her stride until leaving Lynn’s record label Decca and signing with United Artists in 1972. 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