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THE SUN, NEWBERRY. S. C, JANUARY 8, 1943 Kathleen Norris Says: When Marriage Goes Stale Bell Syndicate—WNU Features. IMPROVED UNIFORM INTERNATIONAL S UNDAY I chool Lesson By HAROLD L. LUNDflUIST. D. D. Of The Moody Bible Inetitute of Chlcafo. (Releaeed by Western Newspaper Union.) AN UNFORGETTABLE SUGGESTION WASHINGTON.—One night I had the pleasure of having Mr. Earl Robinson come down from New York city to play us a new composi tion. One of his favorite themes is Abraham Lincoln, and this has a haunting quality and is a stirring and stimulating composition. Later, we all went over to the Stage Door Canteen, which is scarcely a stone’s throw from the White House, being in the old Be- lasco theater. Miss Antionette Per ry, Miss Helen Menken, Mr. Milton Berle and various other artists were making a great success of the eve ning for the soldiers. I took part in a broadcast, listened to Earl Robinson sing some songs, in which the audience could join in the chor us, heard Mr. Alexander Woollcott add another laugh to the many which Mr. Berle had already elicit ed, and then came home to an hour’s chat with Mr. Woollcott in my sit ting room. He is a most delightful guest, even though a most distracting one, be cause one would like to steal more time out of one’s busy day to talk with him and to listen to him. He gave me a page from a magazine, in which he describes a wedding present given a young couple sep arated by the war. Of course, what he has done is to give thousands of such young couples, to parents and children, and to friends, an unforgettable sug gestion. In this particular case, the girl told him: “Right now we have to build our marriage on paper, so letters overflow my bureau drawer and have to be stored downstairs in my trunk.” v • • • POST-WAR REBUILDING After dinner one evening, Mr. Charles Palmer showed us the movies he took in Great Britain of various devastated areas. Of course there is practically no rebuilding go ing on in Great Britain at present. The thing which he brought out, however, and which interested us all, is the amount of planning which has been done for the development in all these cities. Improved housing can be under taken as soon as the war comes to an end and normal transportation is resumed. This will be a source of employment which is basically very valuable, because the building materials used require much labor, in addition to the labor required in the building of the houses. Of course, we have no devastated areas, but we shall need much addi tional housing. I hope we shall study the plans made in Great Brit ain and use any ideas which can be adapted to our own need. I hope we shall offer the occupied countries encouragement by making it clea'' that we intend to help them along the same lines. Hitler apparently has made a master plan in which he develops Germany industrially and drains from the occupied countries as much as he possibly can, leaving them primarily agricultural nations. If he is doing this, it is quite evident that we should offer something bet ter to all these people, who struggle in underground ways to keep up a vision for the future of better things than Hitler offers. • • • OLDER WOMEN AND WAR EFFORT We had a short but very pleasant meeting of the Chi Omega Achieve ment Award committee a few days ago. I can not remember ever ar riving at an agreement as quickly as we did on our choice for this year’s award. J. always enjoy meeting with this group. In the course of conversa tion, several questions came up, ■which I have beSn thinking a good deal about of late. What is the place in the war effort, I wonder, of older women who are trained in business or office work of some kind, who are college graduates, still quite able to do a full day’s work, and yet not apparently wanted any where? Of course, I realize that this would not be so if we actually needed ev ery bit of manpower we had in the country. I saw in Great Britain how everybody is needed, even the phys ically handicapped are used. * * * NURSES’ AIDES Mrs. Harry Hopkins and I recent ly gave a tea for the nurses and the lurses’ aides at Columbia hospital. They are using nurses’ aides in this hospital with great success. I can not help thinking that the atti tude of the superintendent of nurses •n a civilian hospital has a great deal to do with the successful use and development of nurses’ aides. I saw in some magazine the other day, the suggestion that we need to develop better qualified people to »elp in hospitals. I know of no way to do this except by taking in nurses’ aides and keeping them under su pervision until they develop skill »nough for responsibilities. Actual practice in doing things in the hospital is the very best training that one can have. The more we can encourage the aides to stick at their jobs over long periods, the more lualifled people we will have who tan accept ever-increasing respon sibility. She won’t face the simple truth that every woman knows in her heart, that this ecstatic flame that is devouring her has a very unstable base of physical passion and flattered vanity. By KATHLEEN NORRIS HE other day one of the papers had a little story about a young woman who lost a hundred pounds, much to the improvement of her beauty and health. When someone asked her how she did it she said “I dieted and I fell in love.” Nothing takes off weight like falling in love, or being under the pressure of a terrible grief, because both those emotions are all absorbing. The woman newly in love looks at her food curi ously; what is it? Oh, lunch? She tastes it, isn’t hungry; she is think ing of nothing but Douglas, whom she will see tomorrow. And if she keeps this up for more than a few days she begins to lose weight. A delightful way to lose weight, too. Which one of us wouldn’t like always to have the dazzled, agoniz ing, delicious, floating and flying sen sation that is being in love? Unfortunately it is as baseless an emotion as the sweet drowsiness that envelopes the drug-addict. Sense and reason are dulled; anything, everything sounds true to the lover. The stout middle-aged married man believes that the exquisitely pretty eighteen-year-old is madly in love with him; the frustrated wife of 40 listens enraptured to the compli ments of a boy of 22. There is no use arguing about it; lovers never hear anything except what they want to hear. Drifted Apart. “Please let me put to you for your advice a situation that has arisen in my life, and that I want to solve right away for all concerned,” writes Phyllis Taylor, a Vassar graduate who lives in Nashville. “I am 33, and have been married to Jack for 11 years. We have two sons, aged nine and six. I adore my boys, and I think that from their manners, health and intelligence you would think me a good mother. Jack is a lawyer, moderately successful; he and I like each other and respect each other, but we have few inter ests in common. Jack goes to his club every Thursday night, and quite often on some other night about once a week; he likes to go duck-hunting, deer-hunting, fishing, in a very in formal way, I mean with a friend or two, camping, or in some little boat they hire for a week-end. The boys chatter at the breakfast table, Jack reads the paper; they chatter at the dinner table, he reads the paper. He is amiable, was very good to my mother, who lived with us until her death six months ago, and will al ways answer a question interestedly. But we seem to have drifted far apart. “After Mother’s death I went to a neurologist, because I was upset in every way, not sleeping well, de pressed. He is a fine man, quiet, 12 years older than I, widowed, with two girls of 14 and 10. He helped me from the first, life became worth living again, and best of all I grew patient with Jack, little things didn’t seem to trouble me any more. David, to call him that, had sug gested exercise, a diet, really worth while reading. Discovers New Love. “Two months ago, in his office, we discovered our love for each other, and faced the facts. I was truly amazed, not having realized where I was drifting, or rather being car ried by a current too strong for me to resist. David, man-fashion, would have thrown all discretion to the winds in the terrific weeks that fol lowed, when I was in such a state of emotional excitement that I hard- GREENER FIELDS It is truer of marriage than of almost anything else, that an other’s lot inevitably seems bet ter than one’s own. The distant fields, you know, always look greener. At close range they rarely are better and frequently are far worse. Phyllis Taylor is regarding the prospect of divorce and re-marriage from the safe distance of domestic security. And Kathleen Norris, aware of the pitfalls of change, urges her to cling fast to that security and to make the most of it. ly knew what was going on. But I did refuse any capitulation until I could think it all out and decide what was fair. I felt then that oui feeling, because of its very violence, might be short-lived, but today it is stronger than ever. David wants me to get a divorce, bring my chil dren to his lonely house, and create for us all a real home again. His little girls are darlings, and although I do not see them much, I know they are ready to love me. David is devoted to my boys, so that the only sufferer in this whole case would be Jack, who has no idea of the situation. “If I should force myself to be strong enough to sacrifice my own feeling in this matter, I lapse back into the loneliness and stupidity of my old life. I also sacrifice the lova of the finest man I have ever known. I rob his daughters of a mother, a woman’s influence in the years when they most need it, and I deprive my sons of what is a step up in the social and economic scale. David talks of their college careers, prom ises them circuses and bicycles, and has already won their small hearts. “Is it wise, is it right, to give up the immediate and great happiness of all of us, merely because this will be a real blow to Jack? Of course it will! He has been taking home, wife, hot dinner, sons, love and con sideration for granted; isn’t it about time he waked up? His sister is married to his partner in the firm; the natural thing would be for him to live there; he could see the boys whenever he liked, there would be no unpleasdhtness, and—but I hard ly dare tell you how my heart sings at the thought of such a future foi me!” Won’t Face the Truth. Poor Phyllis, having failed to work out personal happiness from the rich store of gifts life has already given her, she is as confident as a child of three that unlimited candy and being allowed to stay up late will be all her heart desires! She doesn’t realize the tremendous fight that Jack would put up for his sons; the unpleasantness of it. She doesn’t stop to think of the opinion of her friends; we instant sympathy that would turn to Jack, the criticism of her. She won’t face the simple truth that every woman knows in her heart, that this ecstatic flame that is -devouring her has a very unstable base of physical passion and flattered vanity. Nature is man aging the hunger part, that is her business, none of us would be here if it wasn’t, and David is supplying the sugar coating. And oh, how sweet flattery is, when it comes in the low voice of an adoring male I Phyllis must be bewitched indeed if she thinks Jack is going to sur render his sons to the man who broke up his home; woman after woman fondly imagines this, but in the end the boys go to the partner who is in general public opinion the injured one. Lesson for January 10 Lesson subjects and Scripture texts se lected and copyrighted by International Council of Religious Education; used by permission. JESUS INSTRUCTS A GREAT TEACHER LESSON TEXT—John 3:1-16. GOLDEN TEXT—For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever belleveth on him should not perish, but have everlasting life.—John 3:16. Nicodemus came to our Lord when He was in Jerusalem for the Passover. Jesus had chosen six of His disciples, had performed His first miracle at Cana, and had made a brief visit to Capernaum, after which He came to Jerusalem for the feast. In high and holy indignation He had driven the money changers out of the temple. The Pharisees who looked for the coming of the Mes siah as a secular conqueror won dered at this new spiritual leader. It was probably as much on their behalf as his own that Nicodemus came to inquire of Jesus. In answering his questions Jesus reveals the necessity, the nature, and the method of regeneration. The only entrance into the Christian life is by the door of the new birth. Re generation is the act of God whereby the divine nature is imparted to the believing sinner and he becomes the child of God. He who has not en tered by this way has not entered at all. He is still dead in tres passes and sins, without God and without hope (Eph. 2:1, 12). Men seek to enter the household of God by almost any other means— culture, reform, character building —and neglect or reject God’s way. I. The Necessity of Regeneration (w. 1-7). Jesus was not unduly impressed by the dignity and high station of his visitor, nor by the visitor’s cour teous acknowledgment of His own position as a great teacher. With incisive boldness Jesus declared that this man, a cultured and dis tinguished ruler of the Jews, must be bom again if he is to see the kingdom of God. God is no respecter of persons. This “doctor of divinity” must be bom again, just as was the illiterate fisherman. The requirements are the same for all, and the necessity as great in one level of society as in another. The surprising thing is that this teacher of theology could be so ig norant of the one essential element of a real spiritual experience. He evidently thought he could bring his soul to eternal life by his own works, when in fact he was not able to give himself physical—let alone spiritual —life. Two reasons are given by our Lord for the “must” of verse 7: (1) The kingdom of God is a spiritual kingdom, and cannot be entered by way of our human nature; and (2) "that which is bora of the flesh is flesh” and is radically and essential ly bad. To leam why the flesh is bad read Jeremiah 13:23 and Gala tians 5:19-21. Scripture on this point is diametrically opposed to the teaching of unbelieving men. When such a difference arises be sure of this—God’s Word is right. Follow it! n. The Nature of Regeneration (w. 8-13). The new birth is a divine mystery, not fathomable by human reason. Those who insist that all spiritual truth be put through the little norm of their intelligence will never un derstand it or receive its blessing. The striking illustration of the life- giving and energizing wind used by our Lord is most illuminating. Wind is unseen, but the results of its movement are evident. Even so the spiritual rebirth of men is an enigma to the worldly man, but even he can see its results in godly living. Observe the clarity and simplicity of our Lord’s teaching on what is undoubtedly the most profound sub ject in all the world. Let us follow His example and always “make the message clear and plain, Christ re- ceiveth sinful men!” III. The Method of Regeneration (w. 14-16). Many there are who ask Nicode mus’ question, “How can these things be?” (v. 9). The answer is clear—“Only by faith in the Son of God, our Saviour.” Just as there was healing and life in a look at the uplifted serpent (Num. 21:8), so there is life for a look at the Crucified One. Faith re ceives God’s perfect provision for sin. John 3:16 may well be regarded as the greatest sentence in the greatest Book in the world. It pre sents the whole plan of salvation— its source, its ground, its recipients, its condition, and its result. It also reveals God’s love—its "object, character, manifestation, purpose, and the result” (John W. Bradbury). This glorious salvation is for all men—“whosoever”—but some re ject it. Notice that God does not condemn them. Their own evil works and desires condemn them (w. 17-20). God in His grace is ready and willing to save, but men love “darkness rather than light,” for their works are evil. Nicodemus came to Jesus by night — but he came. Have you come? Will you come now? Lounging Apparel Has One Aim— To Keep You as Warm as Ever! By CHERIE NICHOLAS T ET north winds blow and let 'it A - / snow and snow! Nor can drastic fuel rationing frighten us at all this season now that Dame Fashion has taken the matter in hand, popping right up impromptu with a very fine priorities “keep warm” plan all her own. Her magic prescription for keeping warm, happy and serene during chilly days and nights? It’s warm, cuddly lounging robes and nightwear as lovely as can be and every whit as practical and “com fy” as lovely. So “cheerio” is the word, for though the thermometer reads in terms of patriotic degrees, you may relax in comfort in en chanting well-padded and cold-defy ing housecoats, lounging pajamas, dressing gowns and nighties that will laugh at draughts and banish the shivers. The use of glamorous fabrics for these new leisure styles has made them as elegant as they are luxuri ously comfortable. This “stay-at- home” program, enforced now that unnecessary travel is taboo, isn’t going to be so bad after all if we are going to be privileged to wear beguiling indoor apparel fashioned of such luscious rayon fabrics as jewel-toned, crush-resistant velvets, supple crepes, sleek satins and crisp taffetas sharing honors with deep- piled rayon fleeces and oh-so-comfy, kitten-soft spun rayon flannels for eye-fetching long-sleeved lounging styles of unusual grace and charm. For coolish evenings at home when the thermometer is low, fash ion gives us strikingly styled cover- up hostess pajamas and housecoats in warm crush-resistant velvet or soft draping crepes or satins de signed to grace the drawing room as well as the boudoir. Warm and lovely is the gracious housecoat cen tered in the above illustration. There’s a delectable color harmony 1 achieved in combining soft orchid rayon satin with emsh-resistant ray on velvet in a deep amethyst tone, as the designer did for this charm ing creation. The softly tied sash holds the fashionable surplice clos ing snugly in place. Warm as toast and pretty as a pic ture is the fitted and flared robe to the left in the group. It uses lav ishly quilted rayon satin in glamor ous “icing” pink. Wide collar points add flattery at the neck and a matching sash ties softly at the trim waistline. And while we are deal ing with the quilted theme, here’s a fascinating bit of fashion news— it’s the new-this-season use of myri ads of lace ruffles on quilted coats of gaily printed taffeta or crepe. Gives the prettily feminine touch! Perhaps the most exciting event that is taking place in the realm of boudoir fashions is the revival of the long-sleeved nightgown. At last we’ve had to admit that grandma had the right idea when she slum bered peacefully in long sleeved “nighties.” And now that we are proving for ourselves the comfort and satisfaction of long sleeves, the lingerie departments all report just one request after another for "a nightgown with long sleeves, please.” What’s more, the nightgowns with long sleeves are being so prettily styled you feel the urge to buy at first sight. Then, too, they are made of soft, warmish fabrics the very feel of which glows with warmth. Never on record has there been such a “rush” for flannelette long-sleeved gowns. And if you are quite dis criminating in your taste you’11 be charmed with the idea of dainty spun rayon challis for your night- robe. The quaint and lovely “cov ered-up” nightgown shown to the right in the above picture is both warm and flattering in fine rose- printed challis. Note how winsome- ly it is trimmed with wide lace ruf fles at neck and sleeve. Released by Western Newspaper Union. Huge Muffs If you want to make a stunning appearance wherever you go this winter, choose a suit of bright red wool like that pictured above. See to it that the collar less jacket fas tens at the waist with a large jet button, for a touch of jet on your costume is a stroke of genius when it comes to interpreting smart fash ion these days. To carry out your costume theme to perfection, com plement your bright red suit with a blouse of black sheer wool, wear a tall-crowned hat that glories in a wealth of fur matched to the huge silver fox muff you carry. Fashion especially emphasizes the impor tance of enormous muffs. Floral Buttons Enhance Flower-Toned Ensembles The mad rush for buttons will con tinue right on into spring according to latest reports from fashion head quarters. All the style previews give evidence of a renewed enthusiasm for decorative buttons. The new plastic buttons in the same color of the suit or dress fabric seen on so many of the spring costumes are refilly beautiful. Suits featured in flower colors take on buttons that work out such fas cinating schemes as purple suits and dresses with pansy buttons, or vio lets if you prefer, Lily-of-the-valley button motifs done in plastic en hance suits that accent green tones. The continuation of jeweled buttons on the spring fashions, especially rhinestones, is welcome news. Snow Togs Have Bright Linings and Gay Colors In skating suits wool of Shetland type is best liked with warm inter lining for the jacket and velveteen for the collar. Norwegian blue, black, red and dark green are favor ite colors. The princess style dress in red corduroy is a leader. It is also popu lar in velveteen. Skirts in bright Shetland wool or velveteen, made circular and lined with bizarre patch- work print cotton are also favorites. Good Tweeds There is a decided trend toward sane, careful buying this fall, seen in the tendency to seek the best quality materials and reliable work manship. This is reflected in the fact that there is an increased de mand for quality tweeds in both suits and coats. | ANOTHER I ; . | A General Quiz | (W (t. (t. (V. (V. (V. (V. {V. ' The Questions 1. What does “recherche” mean? 2. Why did King Arthur’s knights sit at a round table? 3. In architecture, what is an abacus? 4. If England is invaded what signals will spread the alarm? 5. Where does genuine mocha coffee come from? 6. How old was George Wash ington at the end of the Revolu tionary war? 7. Is the slogan "America First” original with us? 8. Who was the “March King” of America? The Answers 1. Rare or exquisite. 2. To avoid showing distinction.; 3. A flat stone placed above th« capital of a column. 4. Church bells. 5. Arabia. 6. Forty-nine. 7. 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