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THE STTN. NEWBERRY. S. C- APRIL 10, 1942 Kathleen Norris Says: This Woman Should Not Wed Faultless Man (Bell Syndicate—WNU Service.) Jay, my former sweetheart, has a lovely daughter, who is a pupil in the school tohere I teach. So / have seen Jay again once or twice. He has all his old charm and high spirits. By KATHLEEN NORRIS NE of the most awkward questions that youth can ask age is the one a girl named Vera asks me this morn ing. Vera’s letter comes from a Georgia town; she evidently be longs to a somewhat prominent family, for she was given four years at an expensive Pennsyl vania college, and also tells me that she has had two visits in California “where Mother and Dad usually go every winter.” Vera’s problem is this: When she was 19 she had a love affair, en tirely unknown to the family, and extremely serious. For three months she and her sweetheart were pas sionate lovers, then Vera’s feeling waned, and she had an uncomforta ble time extricating herself from Jay’s still exacting devotion. “Don’t think I didn’t pay for my early foolishness,” writes Vera. “I did, when it came time to try to break engagements with Jay, to cut down on letters and meetings, to make him see that I was through. The day he came to me and said that he realized at last that it was all over, and would trouble me no more, was actually one of the hap piest of my life. “Two years later, when I was glorying in college days. Jay mar ried, and I felt nothing but utter relief. Novels for generations have talked of the shame and danger of love affairs, but my real difficulty and tragedy, instead of being that of trying to hold my lover, was that of getting rid of him. Fell in Love Again. *T am now 27. Last year I me' a man whose fineness, dignity, inte li- gence made me feel that he was set apart from the ordinary run of men. We are deeply in love and were to have been married this June. Rob ert is a church member, indeed once studied for orders, and has an al most fanatic sense of honor. “Meanwhile Jay’s wife has died, and he had a lovely daughter of five, who is one of the pupils in the school where I teach. So that 1 have seen him again once or twice. He is much developed from the im pulsive boy 1 knew eight years ago, with all his old charm and high spirits. “As Robert’s wife I would have wealth, position, and the compan ionship of a man who is bound some day to be conspicuously successful in his profession. Jay is just one business man among many. But Jay wants to marry me, and Robert feels that it might be right. “Perhaps the path 1 should take seems smooth and obvious to you, but I can assure you 1 am harassed and undecided to the point of almost going out of my mind. It has never seemed to me possible that any woman could be in any doubt about which man she wants, but the cir cumstances here are peculiar, thanks to my little-girl folly, and I really don’t know what to do. Robert says he will leave it entirely to my con science, and that he knows I will decide rightly, and yet—while that may make you smile with the idea that he wouldn’t mind getting out of it entirely himself, I know that, at 36, he has never cared for any wom an but me, and would be deeply stricken at losing me. Robert Worries. “His brother tells me he cannot sleep nights for worrying over this thing; the brother doesn’t know all the circumstances. Robert has had the old house completely modern ized; he has talked to me of our life together as though it were a dream too precious ever to be real- A NEW PROBLEM Here is a problem Kathleen Norris has not recently discussed. The “Vera” of this letter cannot choose between two men. The one, her former sweetheart, can give her charm, a spirited sense of humor and a love that has ma tured into deep devotion. The other, a solid, successful man of 36, can give her wealth and posi tion, but her life with him would probably be very dull. He has already told her that if she feels it is her “duty” to marry the oth er man she is, of course, free to do so. But Vera believes that los ing her would break his heart. What should she do? ized, and if I decide to marry Jay it may embitter him for life. “A hundred times he has said to me, ‘Oh, why, why, why, does it have to be this way? Why you, of all women?’ Of course that is what my own heart echoes. But twice lately, Robert has used the expression, ‘if you feel you must pay the debt.’ Will you tell me what you think and help one more distracted woman to peace?” Judging from your letter, Vera, I would say that life with Robert might be a rather rigid affair. It seems plain that this self-controlled conscientious man is having the sort of battle between the spirit and the flesh that comes only to religious persons. He is in love with you, and it is his first love, and so overwhelm ing and painful. Robert undoubtedly thinks that Jay has a claim upon you, that you pledged him wifehood when you yielded to him in that early affair. And that nagging conviction will grow stronger after marriage, when the first wild glamour dies and he discovers that you are human, and can make mistakes and be trouble some and disappointing like any oth er wife. So I wouldn’t marry Robert if I were you. If the more easy-going, cheerful Jay is sympathetic to you, and you can imagine yourself as making a good mother to his child and working out a happy normal life for yourself as his wife, then why not tell Robert once and -for all that you see the justice of his attitude and that you have determined to make the only reparation in your powt r for your youthful mistake. This will make him feel heroic and tnat you both are committed to the dutiful and self-sacrificing course. Success Rests With Vera. But if your decision meets with violent opposition from Robert, and he implores you to forget the past and go on with him into a more honorable future, then of course you might relent and accept the more distinguished destiny. A faultless husband is a fearful and wonderful thing, so be sure that you are re luctantly talked over, if you decide to be talked over. It might be that in the future you will be glad to re mind him that your decision was made to marry Jay, when Robert persuaded you otherwise. With either man, the success or failure of the marriage rests with you. With Jay you probably would have cheerful companionship, more laughter, more of the unexpectea than with Robert. But with Robert you would have wealth, position, the power a young wife with both can wield, and the knowledge — very much to your credit—that you did not conceal anything from him and that he contracted this marriage with his eyes open to your early history. IMPROVED UNIFORM INTERNATIONAL SUNDAY I School Lesson BY HAROLD L. LUNDQUIST, D. D. Of The Moody Bible Institute of Chicago. (Released by Western Newspaper Union.) Lesson for April 12 Lesson subjects and Scripture texts se lected and copyrighted by International Council of Religious Education; used by permission. THE MISSION OF THE SEVENTY LESSON TEXT—Luke 10:1-7, 17. Jl-24. GOLDEN TEXT—The harvest truly la great, but the laborers are few: pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he would send forth laborers Into his harvest. —Luke 10:2. Working with Christ for the sal vation of men has been the privilege of believers since the time He chose the twelve. We learn today that there were at least seventy more whom He considered dependable and worthy to be sent forth. Know ing how brief was the time before His death, the Saviour called, com missioned, and cared for them as they went two by two, personally to evangelize "in every city' and place.” I. Sent to Serve Christ (w. 1-3). Prayer is back of the calling of laborers for Christ. God waits for His people to lay before Him the need, and to enlist His grace in moving upon the ones who can best serve Him. There is mystery here which we cannot fully understand, but it is perfectly clear that prayer is the power which has been given to the church with which tp “move” the hand of God. The reason the laborers are so few, even in our days is evidently, then, because there has been so little prayer. Observe that the Lord sent His servants “two by two” so that they could encourage and assist each oth er. Christian work is best done in Christian fellowship. The “star per former” or the “lone wolf’ may be acceptable in business or social life, but he has no place in Christ’s program, unless by His special call and guidance for some particular task, such as pioneer work. He sent them to go “before His face”—what a glorious place to be! That means that He was watching over them, expecting them really to “labor” for Him. But notice also that in loving thoughtfulness thev were— II. Sustained by Christ (w. 4-7). It is well when workers go out that they have proper backing. *Ve speak of the “board” which is e- hind our missionaries. That is right and proper, but above all there must be the assurance of the pro vision and protection of Christ. They were not to be concerned about money. Christ had already moved upon the hearts of His peo ple to see that the laborer had “his hire”—which was food and shelter (v. 7). Time is what life is made of, and the servants of Christ were not to waste it in lengthy oriental saluta tions (v. 4), or going from house to house to be entertained, thus losing much time and strength. Nor was he to strive or become angry if some one did not receive him and his greeting of “peace” (v. 6). In any case his word would re turn in blessing upon himself (v. 6), and he could go on to another house. The point of all this is that the ex pectation of the Christian servant is from his Master, Christ, whose business requires diligence and haste (I Sam. 21:8b). The outcome of such service is re vealed in our third point. ID. Successful Through Christ (vv. 17, 21-24). The seventy returned rejoicing that even the demons were subject to them in Jesus’ name. He still has power over the demons of our day. Would that the church wielded that power more effectively! While it is a great thing thus to see the power of God at work, Jesus told them in verse 20 that an even greater thing is to have one’s name written in heaven. That means that we ought to be much concerned not only about having our own names written there, but the names of all those whose lives we touch—at home, at work, anywhere. The secret of the disciples* vic tory is found in the statements which Christ in all humility and hon esty made about Himself (vv. 22-24). He is the one to whom “all things are delivered”—unlimited in au thority and power. The mystery of His person and work is not some thing man can think out or fully comprehend (how foolish have been the attempts to do it!) for He is God. The fact that the Father had revealed these things to the seventy humble, ordinary men caused Christ to magnify His Father’s name in praise and prayer. Spiritual insight (w. 21, 24) is something only God can give, and often He can give it in full measure only to humble and lowly men. “Men like D. L. Moody, who became spiritual giants, were usually humble men from lowly walks who gave themselves wholly to God” (B. L. Olmstead). Need to Slow Up The world is going too fast! Even the Church needs to slow up for it is attempting too much in social pro grams and is losing spiritual poise in many places. Paul said to the Church, “Put on the whole armor of God.” The whole armor takes time to put on, yet it is dangerous to leave off any part of it.—Rev. A. E. Gregory. Honey Flavors This Fruit Bran Bread (See Recipes Below) Substitute Foods Most vital question every home maker is now facing is how to sub stitute certain available foods for shortages. Sugar shortages and re duced supplies of fats, oils and cer tain imports make it necessary for every one of you to revise your meals in some re spects and use substitutes. Although sugar rationing is to be in effect, you will still be able to get some of it. There are also good sub stitutes for it such as honey, mo lasses and com syrup all of which may be used very easily for cooking and sweetening purposes. Still an other excellent source of sugar is in the dried fruits which you cr , use for dessert to get your dail; quota of sugar. Select recipes which have less eggs, sugar and butter, for although there may not be an actual shortage of all these items, they may be ex pensive. Fats are extremely valuable in the current emergency, and you are advised to save as much of fats and oils as you can. Be sure that your butcher puts in all the scraps of fat and trimmings off the meat you buy. You can take these pieces home and clarify them for use in frying, flavoring or actual cooking. If you have blithely discarded the scraps of butter off the butter plates after dinner, lunch or breakfast, then remedy your habits immedi ately. Even if you do not use the butter scraps as table butter, these can be used for flavoring vegeta bles, or in larger amounts for cook ing and baking purposes. Be sure the butter is kept in the icebox or at least in a cool place so it will not become rancid. Butter and its substitutes will be available, but you should plan to use these foods spar ingly. You can substitute the com and vegetable or even mineral oil for salad dress ings if you are unable to obtain olive oil. Cheeses which have been formerly imported are available only in lim ited quantities, but American made cheeses are coming to the fore, the Bleu and Camembert cheeses being of excellent quality. Soybeans are becoming a popular, nutritious food during the current emergency. Here is an excellent rec ipe for: Soy Bean Yeast Bread. (Makes 1 loaf) 1 cup milk 1 cake compressed yeast 2 tablespoons sugar 1 tablespoon fat, melted 1 teaspoon salt 314 cups wheat flour 14 cup soy bean flour Lynn Says: With new equipment at a pre mium, you will be a wise home maker if you give the best care possible to the pieces you al ready have. Disconnect electric appliances by grasping the plug itself, not by pulling on the cord. When washing electrical equipment such as coffee pots or toasters or waffle irons, wipe with a cloth rather than immersing in water. Scouring pots and pans with steel wool pads impregnated with soap, after each meal during which you use pots and pans, will keep them bright and shiny longer. Keep sulphur away from sil verware to prevent tarnish. Eggs, matches, salt, fruit juice and even rubber tarnish silver quickly. When washing cutlery with wood en handles, be careful not to let the handles stand in water or they will become loosened. Grease new pans before putting them in the oven and they will never rust. For rusty pie tins, rub a raw potato with cleansing powder on it to get rid of the rust quickly. To sharpen scissors cut a fine grained piece of sandpaper into strips. This Week’s Menu: •Old Fashioned Boiled Dinner Pineapple-Nut Salad •Fruit Bran Bread •Baked Pears Cookies Coffee Tea Milk •Recipes Given Scald milk and cool to lukewarm. Pour over yeast and sugar in mix ing bowl and let stand for % hour. Add melted fat and salt and the flours, beating them in well. Knead the dough for about 10 minutes on a lightly floured board. Cover and let rise in a warm place for % hour, then knead again for 1 minute. Re peat the rising and kneading proc ess twice more. Shape into a loaf and let rise again in a greased pan until double in bulk or about an hour. Bake in a hot (400-degree) oven about 50 minutes. Homey or molasses along with fruits rich in carbohydrates contrib ute to the sugar content of this fruit bread: •Fruit Bran Bread. 1 egg % cup honey or molasses 1 cup buttermilk 2 cups flour 1 teaspoon salt 2 teaspoons baking powder 114 cups bran cereal Vi teaspoon soda Vi cup chopped figs Vi cup chopped dates Vi cup raisins Vi cup chopped nuts Beat egg well, add honey or mo lasses. Add bran and buttermilk. Sift the dry inf redients and add to first mixture with fruit and nuts. Stir only until flour disappears. Bake in a greased loaf pan with waxed paper placed at the bottom before the mixture is poured in. Set the oven at moderate (350 degrees) and bake bread for about 1 hour. Simplicity will be the keynote of meals so in keeping with that theme, I am including two desserts using fruit flavored with honey. Broiled Grapefruit. Wash and dry grapefruit and cut in half crosswise allowing Vz grape fruit per person. With a sharp knife cut around and under the entire pulp being careful to leave all the mem brane on the shell. Cut down each side of each section loosening each section completely. Lift out center section or core. This leaves only the separated sections in the shell. Spread the top of each half with honey and dot with butter. Place un der a broiler flame in moderate oven until honey begins to carmel- ize and all ingredients are blended together. Serve hot. •Baked Pears. (Serves 8) 8 pear halves Vi cup lemon juice % cup honey 1 teaspoon cinnamon 2 tablespoons butter Arrange pears in a shallow bak ing dish. Pour over lemon juice and honey. Sprinkle with cinnamon and dot with butter. Bake in a moderate (350-degree) oven until tender, 20 minutes if uncooked pears are used, •Old Fashioned Boiled Dinner. (Serves 8) 5 pounds corned beef brisket 1 white turnip 1 head of cabbage 8 onions 8 carrots 8 potatoes Cover meat with cold water and heat rapidly to the boiling point, then remove scum and reduce heat. Simmer until tender 3% to 4 hours. Prepare vegetables, cutting turnip into eighths. Peel potatoes, carrots and onions. About 45 minutes be fore meat is done add vegetables and cook them until tender. Serving Well Cooked Food. Warm plates for hot main dishes and well chilled plates for cool sal ads and desserts can put over the simplest meal and make it a suc cess. A few bits of canned leftover fruit with a dab of leftover jelly will make meat platters an attrac tive garnish, or sprigs of parsley, watercress, or celery tops for meat and vegetable platters do big things to tempt weary appetites. If you would like expert advice on your cooking and household problems, write to Lynn Chambers, IP estern Newspaper Union, 210 South Desplaines Si, Chicago, III. Please enclose a stamped, telfe dressed envelope for your reply. (Released by Western Newspaper Union.) Yoke-Front Dirndl Frock. A NEW and different yoke treat ment brightens the top of the “teen-age” frock which we present today. A clever detail, this yoke carries a front opening for the bodice and in addition gives that originality which younger girls seek in their fashions! Pattern No. 1520-B is bound to be regarded highly by the younger set any- | ASK ME ^ ? | ANOTHER [ \ l A General Quiz ? 0*.0-0-*0-0-0-0-0-0-0-C'-*0~0~0-0-0*0*< V *{'- The Questions 1. How much water can a thirsty camel drink at one time? 2. What is the origin of the ab breviation “lb.” for pound? 3. The Constitution requires con gress to assemble how often? 4. What bird uses its beak as a pantry? 5. Who was the first man on rec ord to have his ship entangled in the weeds of the Sargasso sea? 6. What is the ^ lief quality of an opaque substance? The Answers 1. From 15 to 20 gallons. 2. 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