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THE SUN, NEWBERRY, S. C„ MARCH 6, 1942 Kathleen Norris Says: Don’t Marry Army Beau in Haste (Bell Syndicate—WNU Service.) A man, who is almost a stran/ier to the girl, returns home. Perhaps he has been wounded in mind or body. In the years of adjustment that must follow this war he may not be fortunate in finding his place, for a while anyway. By KATHLEEN NORRIS HE problem of whether a girl shall marry her sol dier before he goes away, or promise to wait for him and marry him when he gets home is a very serious one. And, as is usual in marital questions, it is a matter about which one can’t generalize; everything depends upon the girl’s character, and the man’s, and how long they have known each other. In 1917 a young woman of my acquaintance was deeply in love with a certain gallant swain, and they were to be married before he went to France. Her father and mother persuaded her to make it a rock-bound engagement instead, and that was the understanding when Bill went away. Both being persons of honor they met when he came back in Decem ber more than a year later, with the engagement still valid between them. But after a few days they mutual ly confessed to changed feelings, and Betty, with infinite relief, found herself free to marry an older man whose friendship had come to mean everything in the world to her in the 18 months of separation. Bob shortly followed suit by marry ing a demure little French girl for whom he sent immediately. And both marriages have proved emi nently successful, with friendship maintained all ’round. This wouldn’t have been the case if Betty had insisted on the week of thrill and marriage and farewells that was all she could have had in the war year. Shifting Affections. There were many tragic cases of shifting young affections in those years; the girls who had only a few days or weeks of wifehood to remember discovered that theirs weren’t real marriages, no adjust ing and growing to know each other was included, and consequently it was hard to regard them as bind ing. So my answer to scores of girls who are asking me now whether to marry their army beaux is, “Wait.” Of course there are ex ceptions ; girls and men sure of their own feelings, anxious only to have their little hour of happiness before the war clouds thicken. For these, marriage under any circumstances is safe. But sometimes what actu ates the girl is the glamour of the new man and his new uniform, and the determination to seize this hour of life anyway, no matter what to morrow may bring. Tomorrow comes. A man, who is almost a stranger, returns home. Perhaps he has been wounded in soul or mind or body. In the years of adjustment that must follow this war he may not be fortunate in find ing his place, for a while anyway. Or perhaps he has seen somewhere the other woman, the woman he really loves. On the other hand, what does a girl lose by waiting? She gets to work, as all girls must nowadays; she writes her soldier letters full of cheerful nonsense; she sends him boxes of the things he needs. And if by chance some other man comes along, and her maturer affection goes to him, at least she is much better off, in writing an honest letter to her man in the army, than if she were his wife. “Dorinda” is an undeveloped, shallow, fickle little creature of only COUNT THE COST Are you sure that you will love him as much a few months, or a few years, from now? Are you sure that if he comes home weary and discouraged you will be able to help him find his place in a changed world? Are you sure that if he comes home sick or wounded you will be will ing to nurse him back to health or cheerfully face the fact that he will always be an invalid? If you are, then by all means marry him now and seize those few mo ments of happiness to which you feel you are entitled. If not— WAIT. 18; she married a navy man in Octo ber, had just three days of honey moon. She wrote me this letter in December, and it has made me somewhat thoughtful. Regrets Hasty Marriage. “Mother and Dad think I am very bad to want to have dates and go dancing,” her letter says. “But I am too young to sit knitting socks with all the old women! Nat told me to have a good time and not mope, when I was crying my eyes out saying good-by, and I am sure if he thought that way other people ought to let me alone! “But here is the thing: I met an Englishman last month who is my ideal of a here. He is in the R.A.F., was wounded and cannot fly again, but he is going back to England after a six months’ rest to go into the ground service. “Life with such a man would be one long thrill. There is not a girl here who is not crazy about him. From the beginning, however, he seemed to pick me out as his especial friend, and he is at the house quite often. He is 17 years older than I am, but my father and mother heartily like him, too. “My father was born in England, in the same place Sidney comes from. Sidney is divorced and has a little boy of 12; his former wife lives in Hollywood and he went there to see her; apparently they are still friends. But I am sure that if I was free he would want me for his wife, and while I hope I am too sensible to ask poor Nat for a di vorce, I hardly know how to handle the situation, for Nat may be at sea for months, and I would like to say something definite to Sidney before he returns to England. An Extreme Case. “My feeling for Nat was that of a child, pity and affection and ex citement and the thought of being married on my eighteenth birthday, which I had always planned. But what I feel for Sidney is the deepest and truest emotion of my life.” Although I devoutly trust that there are few American girls capa ble of writing such a letter, it does present an extreme case of the dif ficulties that attend a sudden, war parting wedding, and girls who are wise enough to look forward more than a few weeks might learn some thing from it. In Europe engagements always have been longer than they are with us; one meets over there wives who cheerfully admit waiting three years, five years. One happy Eng lish wife, engaged in 1913, did not hear wedding bells until 1919, but when she did hear them they were real wedding bells, and her dignity and courage and patience have brought her a rich reward. This Golden, Fluffy Omelet Captures Interest (See Recipes Below) Lenten Meals Eggs, cheese, fish and vegetables —these are the foods that will be popular with the market basket during the next few weeks. If you are going to form the bases for your menu from these dishes cook them just as carefully as you do the meat that you use year ’round, for you can’t take chances and let mealtime be come dull or unattractive. Point up fish and vegetables with lemon or other attractive sauces and flavorings. Serve your egg and mac aroni dishes in attractive settings, with some carefully thought out gar nish. Play up fruit and dessert num bers to lend interest to meals. If you heed these simple rules, I’m sure they’ll make Lent especially attractive for you and your family. Now, for some concrete help, I’ve chosen foods to fit the season. They’re vitamin, mineral and inter est-laden. Macaroni Cheese Custard. (Serves 6 to 8) 1 package macaroni, cooked 2 eggs, slightly beaten 2 cups grated cheese 2 tablespoons onion, chopped 2 tablespoons parsley, chopped 1 pimiento, chopped Salt and pepper 2 cups evaporated milk Combine ingredients and pour into a buttered baking dish. Set in a pan of hot water and bake in a mod erate (375-degree) oven for 45 min utes. An appetite - satisfying omelet? You can’t believe it? Well, this one is, because it’s made with a cream cheese and chive mixture that makes the omelet heartier, and also keeps it from shrinking discouragingly the moment it comes from the oven. A slow oven is essential to a fluffy, orange-gold omelet: •Cream Cheese Omelet. (Serves 6) 54 pound cream cheese with chives 3 eggs 2 tablespoons milk Salt and pepper Soften the chive cream cheese, blend in egg yolks one at a time. Add milk and seasonings. Fold in stiffly beaten egg whites. Pour into a well-buttered, heavy frying pan and cook over low heat until bottom begins to brown. Then place in a moderate (325-degree) oven until the top is dry and the mixture firm. Fold and serve. The name is goldenrod because the dish bears a close resemblance to a flower of that name. Just combine the goldenrod eggs with a tempting green spinach ring and you have a real Lenten treat: Spinach Ring With Goldenrod Eggs. (Serves 8) 4 pounds spinach Yi cup salad oil Lynn Says: Sauces that accent the best fla vor in foods include these: Lemon Butter: 2 parts butter to 1 part lemon juice. This is good on the leafy vegetables, cab bage, broccoli, cauliflower, Brus sels sprouts and artichokes. Vinegar Butter: Melt % cup butter, add 2 tablespoons vinegar and heat thoroughly. This is good on green beans. Mustard Butter: Add just a bit of dry mustard to melted butter before pouring on vegetables. With this, onions, greens or broc coli are indicated. Parsley Butter: Chop 3 to 4 tablespoons parsley fine, add to Vz cup melted butter. Tart Sauce: (also good on fish) Put in double boiler 2 egg yolks. Vs cup cream, M> teaspoon salt, 3 tablespoons lemon juice, flick of nutmeg. Cook until thick and creamy, stirring constantly about 2 minutes. Be careful not to over cook. Stir in slowly, 2 tablespoons butter and serve at once. This Week’s Menu: Cream of Asparagus Soup •Cream Cheese Omelet Green Peas Baked Potatoes •Carrot, Pineapple and Raisin Salad Popovers Butter Fruit Cup Cookies Coffee Tea Milk •Recipes Given. 1 tablespoon salt Vs enp lemon juice Wash and pick over spinach care fully. Place in kettle without add ing water. Pour oil over spinach and mix thoroughly. Add salt and cook 8 to 10 minutes. Stir occasion ally- Drain and chop. Add lemon juice and pack into an oiled 9-inch ring mold. Unmold on serving plat ter and fill with: Goldenrod Eggs. >4 cup melted butter Vs cup flour Yi teaspoon salt Pepper to taste 2 cups milk 4 hard-cooked eggs Blend butter and flour, salt and pepper. Heat mixture and add milk gradually. Stir after each addition of milk to make a smooth sauce. Separate egg yolks and whites. Slice whites and add to prepared sauce. Pour sauce into unmolded spinach ring. Press yolks through a sieve to top sauce. Garnish with paprika, parsley and lemon quarters. •Carrot, Pineapple, Raisin Salad. Wash, scrape, and grate carrots finely, allow 2 carrots per person. Add cut pineapple, and either white or muscatel raisins and enough mayonnaise to hold mixture to gether. A souffle is a properly dramatic Lenten dish, but one which must be baked carefully if it is to come to the dining room at the pehk of goodness. Select a cheese that will cook readily and smoothly, a dish that is in good proportion to the souffle, and cook the mixture at a very low tempera ture so it can rise to its height slowly. Cheese Souffle. (Serves 6) 4 tablespoons butter 4 tablespoons fiour IVi cups milk 1 teaspoon salt Dash of cayenne Vi pound processed Cheddar cheese 6 eggs Make a sauce of the butter, flour, milk and seasonings. When thick and smooth, remove from fire and add sliced cheese. Stir until cheese j is melted. Add beaten egg yolks and mix well. Cool mixture, fold in ' stiffly beaten whites. Pour into a 2-quart casserole, bake 1V4 hours in a slow (300-degree) oven. Serve at once. Cookies spell cheer to menus, especially if there’s fruit to go with them. Made in two layers, thes^ are a delightful variation of drop and “cut-in-squares” cookies: Cornflake Dream Bars. (Makes 40 bars) First part: 14 cup butter Vi cup brown sugar 1 cup flour Second part: 1 cup brown sugar 2 eggs 1 teaspoon vanilla Vi teaspoon salt 1 cup shredded coconut 1 cup cornflakes 1 cup chopped nutmeats Blend butter and sugar thorough ly. Add flour and blend with fork or I dough blender. Press mixture even ly and firmly into bottom of a shal low pan (9 by 13-inch pan). Bake in a moderate (350-degree) oven about 15 minutes or until delicately browned. Beat eggs well, add sugar gradu ally and beat until light and fluffy. Add remaining ingredients and mix j well. Drop by spoonfuls on top of previously baked crust and spread evenly. Bake in a moderate (350- | degree) oven about 25 minutes. Cut into squares while still warm. (Released by Western Newspaper Union.) ! 1538-B r^OESN’T this picture of our two attractive aprons inspire you to start a sewing bee at once? Both are so pleasing in style and so easy to make! And either of them will add decided charm to your home attire. * One pattern, No. 1538-B gives complete directions, for making both styles. You’ll like the pina fore for day-long duty. Slip it on over your head, tie it in back—and there it is, firmly adjusted, neatly in place no matter how' active you may be. 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At last he tackled the man. “Don’t you know it’s very rude to stare at ladies?” he snapped. “Sorry, sir,” was the meek re ply, “but it ain’t rudeness—it’s ad miration, sir. This is the sixth time she’s been down to supper to night!” Here's What Ferry Quality Means to Your Victory Garden! n (trior strains at radish teed «sually dco- mice these results: IRRE6ULAR SHAPES. COLOR VARIATI0H POOR TEXTURE. TASTE A Feintv Quauty radish seed is bred to pro- * duce three results: . REGULAR SHAPES. UNIFORM COLOR • CRISP TEXTURE. MILO FLAVOR EsOtlns tksrs tkns pm ssSet Mtslcal cssMtess Insist on Fessy Quality Seeds st your load dealer’s. Send for free c«>jr of Feery a Vio toey Garden Pla.v.’* Wnte Dept. W-3. FERRY-MORSE SEED CO. 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