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THE LEDGER: GAFFNEY, 8. C., JANUARY 20, 18981 FIND A WIFE. [of vast learuiog and the lly vast ignorance, the man sterling integrity uini the man who ^utterly lacking in that most essential )ality, the man who is worth a mil- ?n and the man who couldn’t raise 3 jts liefore sundown if his life depend- |on it—all these, together witli tin ir ives and children, are alike in one Significant particular. Each individual has a hobby or, if pou please, some pet idea, which, in S he case of many people, is brought orth by the slightest possible provoca- ion. Alexander Dolldenuing belongs to this class, and the happiest moments of pis life are when he is given an unchal lenged opportunity to talk in public or private on his favorite theme. ^pown in Cage county, several wiu- lers ago, the young people of four neigh-1 poring districts combined in conducting |r debating society. There was consid erable talent in each district, with a ^groe of pride by no means small back pit, and then rivalry between the dis tricts was sufficiently sharp to fill the arge schoolhouse in which the meet- Egs were held to its utmost capacity svery Friday evening. In fact, it had wcome a matter of general regret that 10 building of still greater seating ca- jacity could be obtained for the use of he society. The programme for the first meeting fei December was of unusual interest, nd the house was packed uutil there Las not standing room for another per- Ki. Each district was represented by tsbest man in the debate which cou- tituted the main feature of the* entor- ainment, and the discussion was an ex iting one. The decision of the judges is to the winning side product d great norriment on the part of about half the ludieuco, but the defeated disputants md their supporters took defeat good laturedly, and after a musical number lad been rendered everybody was ready 'or the next tiling on the programme, top. so| locking desk, attended to the errand,which included the writing of a lette; closed his desk, took the letter to the.) <atoffice and started to an euter- tainmut, where he was to meet bis wife. “Gaucing to put his hand into his pocke, he noticed with a feeling slight ly aku to horror that his keys were not in tbir accustomed place. The loss of a buck of keys is sometimes a serious mattr to a business man and may re sult u great inconvenience, if nothing wore. Mr. Brown bad been very care ful or years always to put his keys in to ne same pocket and to keep them thee whenever they were out of his hurls. ‘Finding them gone, he hurriedly M in the other pockets of his trousers am in those of his coat and overcoat, bu to no avail. He then retraced his stos to the postoffice, and from there to hi place of business, looking coustaut- lyin front of him and on either side, bping against hope for the appearance ci his keys. Reaching his office, he vvnt back several times over the steps b remembered having taken there and vas especially careful to look every where under and around his desk. “It was now evident to Mr. Brown iat he had only repeated a former piece l abseiitmindedness by dropping the eys in bis desk and closing the top own, thus locking them up, and so, as n the former occasion, he borrowed a crewdriver and proceeded to take the esk apart. An hour was consumed in his way, for the desk was not made to ie taken to pieces every few months, md the task was a difficult one, leaving he man engaged in it very red in the r aee when it was finished. But the keys lad not been dropped there this time, md ho was now' at his wits’ ends. “After pacing up and down the room i little while to quiet his nerves and biuk of some means by which the lost reasure could possibly be found Mr. 3rown searched through the same pock- •ts again, made another trip to the post- ifiice, and thence to the place where be had discovered his loss, then went to |the office of a morning newspaper and an advertise- return which, according to custom, would bo Li extemporaneous speech by some one paid for the insertion of % cted at the time by the society on a went offering a reward for the Lject given by the chairman. of his keys. Lo just at this moment a young man “Ho was just in time to accompany Inthe rear pert of the house arose and, Mrs. Brown homo from the entertain- peiug recognized by the chair, said: ment, and he told her that he should ‘I desire to make a motion. We are probably not be able to sleep a wink Ignored tonight by the presence of Mr. that night, but as be entered the house, iJexacder Dolldenuing, a gentleman of feeling in bis vest pocket for a match to nerited distinction in an adjoining light a lamp, his finger touched the state, who is spciding a few days in missing keys. He had always thought his vicinity as the guest of his sister, of the bunch as being too large to fit i:i Ilrs. Robert Clevermate. I should like his vest pocket and so didn’t look there rery much to hear from the gentleman, for it. He had doubtless put it there un- md I believe that I express the wish of his audience in moving, as I now do, hat be be re quested to make the extern joraneous speech which conics at tlm| dace on our programme.” Half a dozen members were on thei ect at once to second the motion, and i vas carried with such a volume of voice hat Mr^ Dolldenuing was justified i eeling nattered. The chairman had been quietly it armed that the motion would be iua<‘ fcqel was requested to give what the ii Iprmaut knew to ba the visitor’s p« Boa as bis subject. Being assured th; o ill feeling would follow and that tb uciety would bear something wort istening to, ho consented, and as M iolldenning came forward his subjil ?as announced as “The Way to Fid [anything Is to Quit Looking For It. ’ He had never been asked to speak e bis favorite theme to such a largo uu<- feuce before, and a smile of genuine ss- Waction played upon his face as ho F Jan. “Five years ago,” said he, ”iy laughter Ada, who was a schoolgirl 2 ars of age, came down to breakfct morning without the glasses ie it necessary to wear all the the studying and remarked that so evidently mislaid them, as thy ild not bo found in her room. I ’After breakfast she looked fop tbo :he diuitig room, where the faink spent the previous evening. Jy ( ife soon joined in the search, and s o time approached for Ada to start o chool 1, too, began looking for to [uuch wanted glasses. “The kitchen and tbo parlor wereuo Lue over carefully, and eadffono of is It different times went to the gi:’s pom, thinking perhaps they were tire p some obscure place, and every tno he of us failed to find them in A«’s Kim or anywhere else the dining rom las given another going over. Ken ne front porch and the Lack steps ud me stairway were searched fur the nss- lug article, and the girl went to scuol irmly convinced that the house md |)teu entered in some mysterious wa by pieves during the night and thatht r isses were stolen. My wife’s sier, has a reputation for finding tb.gs, arrive on a morning train, «d 1 si Ada as she left that her unt Ud soon discover the biding pise of glasses. |“But the aunt declared positivy to at noon that they were not i the ling room and said she had trued ^erything upside down in tbeflrl’s room, going so fur as to uumuu her ped, one piece at a time, and all m ain. , “It seemed useless to look ino;, and ie search was abandoned, but s my ife was putt'mg dinner on the talc the ish of potato* tilted a littleo one dc, and the glasses were found Ineath ie cloth, which it then renin her - pi had been turned ba-k the n ht be- fore for me to write on ti». tabl ‘I believe, my friends, »be every lerson in this house tonight oa recall lot one, but a number—perhist m<j|y -instances similar to the ca I have related, in which tbo moitliligent arch failed to locate a lost aide, and sooner was the search giveup than article appeared in the net uuux- way. I l’I know of a business us named own who went to hi* offi in haste e night on an «rru:ui, dbd hi* of from the left md pock* at his pantaloons, where' i* in the consciously while in the act of taking a match from his pocket just after open ing the desk. “This case strikes yun as something new only becaus • you are not busines- men with self locking desks, hut I am persuaded that while I spoke of key* you were reminded of small pieces oi farm machinery and articles of house hold use whose disappearance) was just as mysterious, the search for which was fully as long and disappointing, and the finding of which occurred in the most unlocked for fashion soon aft er the search was abandoned. Illustra tions of tin- truth for which I stand to night are of common occurrence in the life of every individual, and I rely up on your personal experience to clinch every point I make. “The clerk whose first and constant aim is to find favor in the eyes of his employer fails in at least nine cases oat of ten until he quits looking for favor and begins with self forgetful singleness of purpose and concentration of effort to bring about results in dollars aud cents to his employer. The man most out of favor with his employer of any I ever knew was the one who exercised the greatest care to anticipate the every wish and thought of his employer, al ways endeavoring to please him, and the man with whom this same employer was at all times ready to intrust any in terest, however great, rewarding him accordingly, was the ono who was mos; thoroughly indifferent as to the show ing he made in the presence of his em ployer. “The same trnth applies even with more emphatic force to finding happi ness. Did it over occur to you that the individual who makes the most direct effort to be happy usually wears the longest face in the community, while the ono whose days are filled with use fulness and nights with sound sleep comes up smiling at every turn in the road which leads to the valley of con tented old age? “The man who spends $30 a week in an effort to find happiness is, so far as my observation goes, exceedingly miser able in comparison with the man who has only 30 cent* to spend in that way. “The most unhappy woman that 1 ever knew was a Mrs. Smith, whose en tire energy was devoted to having a good time. She was the child of wealthy parents, received u finished education and married u successful professional man, whom she loved intensely and who did all in his power to gratify her every fleeting fancy. She employed a house keeper who took all responsibility per taining to household affair* off her hands and hired a competent nurse who cared us an own mothiT for her baby. Mrs. Smith did no work. Her health was g>iod, and she seldom found it neces sary to deny herself any pleasure that she craved. “The girl friends with whom she had been brought up considered her very fortunate indeed, but ber heart was filled to overflowing with hitter- Hens, and the more she surrendered ber* se'f to the pursuit of a good time the grcai-r that hitterness became. Thus matt err. went on for a year, and she oould stuiwl it no longer. “She saw plainly that her housekeep er and her unr*e were getting more tiiat was really desirable out of life than was she, and the cause was apparent Her feeling was so strong that she want ed to become loth housekeeper and Horne at ouco, and it required a deter- busbar.d to keep her from discharging both servants the same day and doing all the work herself. Mr. Smith knew, however, tiiat her new theory was the correct one and readily consented to a compromise plan by which his wife has since been of great usefulness iu the home, where she is now a tireless work er aud the happiest of mothers. “Care burdened wives aud mothers 1 *nd daughters here tonight whose great est happiness is found iu contributing to tbo comfort of those you love, your lot is au enviable one, aud I believe you consider it so. I urge you to be coutent- ed with it. “The eccentric millionaire uncle of my college chum, Frank Benson, died during the young man’s last year at school, leaving him, three years hence, provided he had married by that time, the snug sum of $50,000. If at a given date young Benson remained single ho was to receive only $500, and another heir, who would then become of age, was to get the balance. “Benson s worldly possessions amounted to less than $4,000 when the uncle died, and the sum which was thus placed within his grasp looked very large indeed to him. The handling of vast amounts of money was right in line with his ambition, too, aud he knew it would require a monster strug gle ou his part if it became necessary to let this fortune pass into another’s hand. But he had never met the girl whom he would take as a life compan ion, even though this financial consid eration was multiplied by ten—not be cause all his lady friends were inferior creatures, far from it, but for the better reason that no one of them hud ever shown herself able to disturb his heart, and marriage with him, if it occurred at all, should be a matter of love rather than finauce. “The condition iu his uncle’s will seemed unreasonable iu the extreme to him, but, after all, as a mutter of fact, ho did really want to get married if ho could only find his true mate, and the plan took definite form iu his mind dur ing the remaining six mouths of his school life to devote as much of the next 2>2 years as it required exclusive ly to hunting a wife. “ When graduation was over and he had received bis degree Benson lost no time iu undertaking bis new self as signed task. He went about it deliber ately, however, aud communicated his purpose to no one. “Tbo first five weeks were spent as the guest of a cousin who was promi nent iu the legal and social circles oi Des Moines. There he met a score or more of highly accomplished aud thor oughly attractive young ladies, each of whom treated him with kindliest cour tesy. Several of them satisfied every de mand of his intellect, and he tried tu place his heart in as susceptible au atti tude as possible, but it continued to be as inactive as ever, and he came tc Richardson county. Neb., to visit a sis ter and, so far as be could, subject hu heart for a month at least to the fem inine charms of a rural district As at Des Moines, his intellect was in several cases satisfied, but that was all. “He next put iu three weeks at the home of a boyhood friend iu Denver, then two mouths visiting an aunt iu fcsau Francisco, from which place he came back to Atchison county. Mo., where a brother-in-law lived, went next to Minneapolis, thence to Chicago, paid un oft promised visit to au aged relative in Page county, la., made a trip to Bos ton, where ho remained several months, spent nine weeks iu Indiana and con tinued to go from place to place in this way, always making a most welcome visit to some special friend or relative aud never forgetting the secret object of his travels until he bad spent from two weeks to three mouths iu 30 communi ties aud formed the acquaintance—a Ve*ry pleasant acquaintance, too—of 28b j marriageable young ladies, 27 of whom ht: hud really tried to love, but trying, failed, and now, nine days from the time limit set by his uncle’s will, it was still true that he had never met the lady whom any financial consideration, however large, would induce him tu wed. “He gave up, allowed the other heir to come into possession of the money which might have been his, aud cheer fully applied himself to business, firm ly resolving that if he ever married he should meet the woman by chance or Providence and not by going out to find her. “Just 15 days after the fortune pass ed to the other heir Benson was driving across the country ou a matter of busi- ! ness when he was caught iu a severe : windstorm ten miles from the town in which he had settled aud turned into a farmhouse for shelter. There he met a Miss Nettie Rosebud, who strangely stirred up a veritable windstorm iu his heart before bu had known her au hour, and she wasn’t dressed iu her Bapday best either, us the other 288 girls had been. He arranged to continue the ac quaintance, which soon became a court ship, aud one year from that stormy Wednesday, with the loveliest of sun shine outside aud the prettiest of flow ers witi.iu, having a heart us strangely peaceful now as it was turbulent ou the former occasion, Frank Benson led Nettie Rosebud to the marriage altar. That was 11 years ago. Last mouth 1 was a guest a; their home, and a hap pier one I never visited. Frank declares positively tlyn he bus not regretted for so much us one moment at any time since he met Nettie the loss of that sum of money, and 1 uiu sure he doesn’t need it now. “Young man, the way to find any thing, even a wife, is to quit looking for it." Mr. Dolldi lining took bis seat amid round after round of applause.—Hubert Burruss iu Omaha World-Herald. A HOME OF ONE’S OWN THE VALUE IT POSSESSES FOR THE INDIVIDUAL AND THE NATION. habit of keeping it, unlock hi* roller ^ mined remonstrance ou the pa.-t of her Smart. Hhe—Wbi*n you post a letter, do you •tick the stamp ou yoursutf? He—Certainly Bbc—I always stick it cn the en velope.—London Judy. Th* Pcae* and Happln*** That Are Found Only Under One’s Oku Vino nnd FI® Tree—Th* Foulhllity of Attainment to Men of Sin-ill Incomes. t * Napoleon said that the man who had a wife aud children had “given hostages to fortune.” In a yet stronger sense have the man and woman made a be ginning toward permanent success who have found for themselves a homo, for the possession of which they are both willing unwaveringly and steadfastly to use systematic self denial. When a young couple have ceased to roam about from one undesirable flat to another and need no longer talk of “when wo lived in East street or West street,” but can cozily speak of “our little place,” they have risen 20 per cent iu their own self esteem aud are at least ' 100 per cent richer in the true joy of , living. Insensibly my illustration takes a financial form, since money, the pow er to obtain this blessing, lies at the root of the mutter. Always a strong adherent to the ad vantages of country living, it is to me natural to associate the very idea of homem king with rural surroundings. When God created our primal progeni tors, we are told that he placed them in a garden us the best, the happiest, envi ronment the divine wisdom could devise for their development. Amid things which have grown with their growth aud perfected under their care, men aud women still find a peculiar peacefulness that no one can define aud a happiness impossible elsewhere. That heart ownership which comes only to the man aud wife who have won and made their homo is ofteuest found in suburban towns and villages, and rarely extends to the dimensions of an acre. The tree that shades the door, tho vino that climbs over the porch, the pretty little garden in the rear, are loved not as inanimate things, but as part aud parcel of their lives, aud the falling of a leaf aud the fading of a bud are a sorrow. It is quite a different homecoming to a man who sees his chil dren standing at his pretty gate ready to run down the safe aud quiet street and finds his wife at the open door than when he is lifted by a creaking elevator to some unknown height, where danger threatens the young lives if the door is but left ajar, and he has to look for a number to tell whether he is ou his own (rented) floor. From tho hour a man aud wife own their individual, personal home a thousand new interests enrich their lives, and the dwelling and its surroundings are so a part of themselves that a loose shingle or a stain on the doorstep is of serious importance. However extreme the theories of some of the “laud for tho people” philan thropists may be there is a deep integral truth in the basis of their arguments. Men aud •women are happier, are moral ly elevated, are better citizens, for own ing their share of Gcd's earth. I have long believed that tho happiest people now living iu our country are the skill ed mechanics cf our rural cities aud towns, whose ambitions are limited to the acquisition of un unincumbered home, well built, and set iu a lot large enough to insure privacy aud a garden. While watching the long drawn oul repairs of an old country house 1 came iu contact with a notably intelligent aud representative body at workmen. At dinner iiour they grouped themselves under the trees, to the fruit of which they were made welcome, or found pleasant places to avoid the noontide heat. They were buoyant, heartily cheerful, with a quick readiness ta laugh with sincere merriment They discussed polities, town improvements, school taxes aud general conditions of the country; they bad enthusiasm aud hope. I talked mnch with these men. An eagerness possessed me to find a clew’ to tho reasons for the wide difference iu their view of life aud that of my own circle of young friends. I was left in uu doubt. They were v every man, either already “freeholders” or nearing that distinction. Their cottages sprang up in every direction where the largo land holders left half an acre to spare. They slept under their own roofs, they lay down proudly, sure that wife aud chil dren were sheltered from the power of removal or ejectment and that they were, personally, increasingly of value to the comiuuuity iu which, they lived. The bust of these workmen earned $1,000 a year, apart of them from $050 to $700. It seeuit d to me incredible that they had been able to buy laud in sucb a town and improve it; still less credi ble that they coaid build aud furnish such cottage! as they lived in. They were more than ready to explain thei: system of saving through the various co-operative and building schemes oi which the town had many. It has over since remained a problem to me, increasing in complexity and in terest as the years go on, why young couples, with twice the income of these thrifty and happy mechanics, remain homeless and live iu crumped fiats and tiny aiMirtuieiitN which, if they have children, are but enlarged cages, while the same opportunities those uu-n used are open to them for obtaining the treasure of u home inalienably theirs, on which they can expend the taste and ingenuity which are inher nt iu most young Americans. Perhaps it is want of understanding of the ease with which they can uttuiu the result, a lack of comprehension of the responsibility aud trustworthiness of associations of vari ous sorts organized to this end.—New York Post. What It Lacks*. “There is something tho matter with my bicycle, “ remarked the artist’s wife. Her husband pinched the tiros. “It needs atmosphere,” he replied us he got the pump ready for work.—Pitta* lurg Chronicle-Telegraph. - when asked for it Several Freuc charges d'affaires, and even embassa dors, got their semblance of nobility from Rome. 8owc still exist which had no other origin. Thu operation was at times rendered awkward by the too plebeian form of the name. Ne change pa.s de nom qui veut, but with a little smartness and the help of the chancellor’s office tho difficulty could be got over. If the name began with De, which is tho particle indicative of ncbiluy, it was au easy matter, tho only thing necessary being the separation of the initial syllable from the rest of the name. For instance, M. Delamare became M. de Lamaro, M. Delestrade was transformed into M. de Lestrade and M.Dervilley signed “D’Er- villey. ” But the operation became a little more troublesome when the name was a very commonplace one, such ae Durand, Regnault or Dupont. In that case the name of a town or a political division was added, and the gentleman called himself Dupont de 1’Eure or de Nemours, Regnault do Saint-Jean d’An* gely, Durand de Romoruntin, and so forth. When no name of a town or village was available, tho would bo nobleman applied for permission to add his moth er’s maiden name to his own, especially if it had an aristocratic tbund In this way a certain embassador, whoso fam ily name was a ridiculous one, but whoso mother’s name, though plebeian, was easy to disguise, dropp' d by de grees bis own name and retained only tho maternal appellation, just prefixing the particle “de’ aud the title of baron conferred on him under the empire. In tho elevated circle in which ho moves, thanks to his intelligence and superior education, no one suspects That his real name, if ho went by it, would associate him more intimately with kitchens than with diplomatic salons. A fair idea can bo fonned of French society as it exists today. A tenth part, at most, consists of old families that have survived the revolutions aud who live generally in retirement, far from the busy, noisy world. Many have placed their sous in the army, and a number cultivate their land, sumo of them with an energy worthy of being imitated by professional farmers. Near ly all their names can bo found in tho list of tho Agricultural society of France, mingled in equal proportion with tho names of the men most es teemed in scientific agriculturo. Three- tenths at least belong to what is culled la noblesso de la contrebande, while another tenth are connected with the higher liberal professions, literature, the sciences, puro and applied, tho dif ferent classes of tho institute aud the uppir professorships. Tho remaining half consists partly of politicians, many of whom havo held office, and partly of great financiers, a large number of whom aru of foreign origin, some of them oc cupying, owing to their intelligence, their wise conduct, their generosity or the circumspection they display iu their delicuto position, a very high place in public esteem. Buch aro the elements forming French society at tho present time. It has no pronounced vices, little pride, enough vanity not to care to bo caught in fault, a sufficiently moderate thirst for pleas ure to allow others, sprung from the ranks, to take the lead, fairly broad principles, measured convictions, ele vated judgment iu matters of taste and intellect, a love of country that has nothing narrow about it, and, to crown all. a charity so beneficent, so efficacious, that slanderous tongues attribute it to a selfish desire to satisfy oneself in help ing others. For our i*art wo look upon this kind of egotism as being equal to a virtue.—Nineteenth Century. Wasted Eloquence. The Teacher—Aud suppose, my dear children, that yon went up to the great marble entrance, and you found it closed, uud you rattled ou it and called to them to let you in, and there was no reply—oh, my deal children, what would you do then? Little .laiio—Flease, teacher, I’d take my pail and go round to the side door aud kucx’k three times, like papa does •very Bunds? —Cleveland Wain Dealer. Onnfell New*. (CorrespoiHlenc* of Th* Ledger.) Grindai.i., Jan. 17.—There |g no sickness in our town at present. Smallpox lias not reached here. The school at the Hame’e school house is in progress with Harrell Jefferies us teacher. Mrs. Eva Mooreheud ie vi|lt|ng friends and relatives at Asbury. Rufus Nance has moved to Aebury. J. G. limnes and U. K. M. Kirby have gone to Marion. N. C., on bus* mess. Andrew and Miss Maggie Beam, of this place, made a lining visit to Gaffney Thursday. .1. S. Pridmore, of Clifton, wag down Wednesday looking after sonig business. Farmers have not commenced woik yet. Miss Ann Hamilton is teaching thg Lindsay achool. Mun llarria’house is nearly com* plated. Davie Horn gave a pound parly Tliurrday night which wae enjoyed by all. lluiio. tl ti