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Janaary 30, 1902 THE LUTHERAN VISITOR 7 TABLE TALK. First of all, do not be troubled if there is no table talk. A dear Quaker lady once put this very tersely. She said, “Thee need never grapple with a silence.” We seem to feel in our modern social household life as if noth ing was so dreadful as a silence. We speak of all pauses as “awk ward,” and wish somebody else would fill them, and hasten to say something, simply because others do not, whether we have anything or not to say. Now this feverish feeling that we must be companionable is sometimes born of a real desire to give pleasure, and real fear that some one may miss the talk; but it quite as often has its root in a mistaken notion as to what kindness requires. It is rarely required to make talk, and noth ing is harder and nothing more unremunerative in pleasure to others. We need to learn to let each other alone; not in the spirit of surly indifference to others’ pleasures, but in a spirit of re spect for others’ silence. Take itjfor granted that if others have anything to say they will talk. Never feel that they must be drawn out or forced to talk, and never feel forced to draw your- selfout. Nothing can be sweeter than Ithat lovely home atmos- phere.in which each understands the other so well that there is pleasure k in the very presence, and no need of expression or ef fort in words. On'the other hand, the meal is not a mere feeding time for the hungry human creature. It is the time for the gathering of the day. Some are weary; all ought to welcome the dinner hour as a time of reaction for mind as well as body. It is a family institu tion like family worship, and it is a food for both mind and body to come to it expecting some thing pleasant and ready to contribute^ something pleasant for all the rest. Never.take the meal time to tell the shortcomings of servants or the naughtiness of the chil dren, or the symptoms of’our own or others’ ailments, or the details of accidents or misfor tunes. But if there is any bit of fun, or cheery bit of news, or an item of information, or a fine or funny item in the morning pa per, give it to us with the food. A good laugh helps digestion, and the easy, good-natured, at- home atmosphere, where the people really love each other, is enough of itself to create all the talk that it is desirable to have. Ono thing more. Never let the fault-finding spirit find a place at the table. So surely as it comes once it comes again, and the nervous wife’s digestion and comfort can both be spoiled by the look on the husband’s face or his frown or his voice when the cooking is not to his taste. How soon the peevish daughter and the growing boy learn to duplicate the snarl in the father’s tone all know who have observed the family life in many homes where fault-finding is the rule. No demon so cruel as this should be permitted a seat at our board. 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