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OUR CHILDREN By ANGELO PATRI CHECK UP NOW CHECK up on your school child's work. Study his latest report card. If there are signs that he Is falling In a subject, If any of his marks are fall ing off, take up the mntter at once. Talk first to The child and remember that your attitude on this Is of flrst importance. If you take the tone that the child has neglected his work and disgraced himself you won't gel very far. Go about It gently. Ask him where he thinks the trouble Is ind when he says, "Aw, she never gives me a chance," don't fly up at him and end the conference In a tense situation. Listen. Keep on listening. Let him say all be has to say In his own defense and question him further. By and by be will begin to disclose something of his difficulty and that Is what you need. After you have talked to the boy go to see the teacher. Once more you muBt go about your task tactfully and In the spirit of helpfulness. The teach er Is your partner, your working part ner, and unless she Is with you strongly you are not going to succeed. Tell the teacher you want to do all you can to keep the child progressing steadily and ask her what you can do. Then plan with her. Don't he satis fled until you can answer these ques tions : Why Is the child falling behind V What must be done first to make up the falling? How much more work has he to cover before the term end? Can you see a way clear for him to accomplish it? Can you make a schedule of work that will enable the child to complete his work well within the time and allow him some time for review nnd reorganization? You see you have not only to bring the child up to the standard Just now, you have to plan to help him maintain that standard. You cannot do the work for him but yon can so organize his work In co-operation with the teacher that he can carry on for him self. All you can do. once you have found the difficulty, strengthened It, laid out the term plan, Is to stand on the sidelines and coach and cheer. He must do the rest. If sickness has kept a child from school and cost him his standing don't try to make if up at one bite. Talk things over with the teacher. Scnle down the subject matter to the essen tials. It Is surprising how much easier this makes the child's work. Sometimes a special program will enable a child to make up lessons. This can usually be obtained by ask ing for It at the school. Drill will not help clear up misunderstood lessons. Get the facts right, the understand ing clear before you begin the drill * ? ? i LOST IT < ? i >M, where Is your cnp?" 1 "1 lost It." "You lost It? Where?" "1 don't know." "You don't know. Do you suppose that all I hnve to do Is buy you one cap after nnother? Now you go look for that cap until you find It." "1 don't know where to look." "Neither do I. Yon lost It, You ro find It" After a brief Interval Tom cornea back. "Well, did you And It?" "No. I lookod everywhere Out It Isn't there." "1 suppose so. I'll have to buy you nnother cnp. Thnt makes five this term. I don't know what Is going to come of you If yon don't take cnre of your things " Why buy him nnother one'/ It won't hurt him to do without his cap. Mnny a boy never wears n cap, except on very stormy days Kven If he has to go to church nnd Sundny school hnt less, what of It? He doesn't wenr a hnt In church nnywny. And If he real ly wanted n cap he wouldn't lose It so mnny times I believe thnt Is true. If n child truly wnnts a thing he won't lose It snve rnrely. Me Is conscious of the thing he wants to keep He loses a thing he Is not conscious of wanting. The tony to get him to keep his hnt Is to mnke him conscious of needing It. Thnt you do hy letting him go with out It Thnt goes for other things thnt he loses nnd forgets. Do not replace It and mnke him go without until he re places It If possible. A child forgets nnd loses the things he doesn't want to keep In mind or pocket The poor report Is lost or forgotten. The good one. never. When yon find thnt n child Is for getting certain things, losing other things, habitually, consltler the rea son. Study why he wants to lose or forget There Is always a reason The child's mind In always on .hi* side. It helps him to forget and to lose unde sirable thoughts. It closes them out with n finality that Is as complete as darkness a) midnight. Plnd the rea son. Don't accuse the child ot willfully forgetting, lie does not wll Ifiill.y for get or lose the unplenslrifc thing or Idea. He la unconscious of ids desire to forgo! and to lose. Ilemove the cause of his desire and put something desirable in Itn stead, (live him ex perlences that will make him con scions of his need to remember and hold on. and he will do both 6 R#1l SyndtcM?.~-WNU Morvle* Close to Nature in Sunny France Where Modern "Hustle" Is a Thing Unknown. In the Paris Herald of July 7 we find the following, descriptive of French peasant life, with, to Ameri cans especially, interesting comments hy the writer : . "During the coming week, In a corner of southwestern France. 880 elderly couples are to he the heroes and heroines of a collective mar riage, anniversary. Kach of these old couples has been unite*! in wedlock for fifty years or onger. it will he Frmwe's nearest approach to an old home week. It serves as confirma tion of the not unfamiliar dictum Mint America Is a great country for the young, hut France Is a land where the aged find especial sym patic and comprehension. "The .'<80 old couples live In the Medoc. the sandy peninsula lying he yond Bordeaux, which protrudes westward between the Hay of His cay and the Itiver tJIronde. The soil is ton thin for grain. It Is charac terized h\ the maritime pine and the scrub oak In fortunate years po t a toes and oats prosper moderately, travel Is everywhere near the sur face. IUU. with Its torrid days and nights, its acidity and stony slopes, it Is Idenl country for the vine. It lives hy Its grapes and its wine. , Among this sparse and poor papula tlon. however, gathered In tiny vil lages among the unending pine for ests and vineyards, there are no fewer than .<80 pairs of old partners, who hnve summered and wintered no less than fifty years in one anoth er's company. Can any like surface of the globe equal this record of longevity and conjugal fidelity? While It would be unscientific to deduce hard-and-fast conclusions from it, several facts must prick the Imagi nation. "The beverage of these peasant families Is the red wine which they produce. On high days they treat themselves to coffee, with sugar. When unwell, they procure and drink milk, upon the doctor's prescription. Water is considered inimical to health as too chilling for the stom ach. Probably none of these gohlen weddlng folk has consumed a gallon of pure wnter during the last decade. In the Medoc there are no cinemas, theaters or amusement parks. Cook* Ing is done over a wood-fire In a chimney. Steaming bowls of vege table soup are the foundation of ev ery repast. Tobacco is the luxury of the men, conversation the solace of the women. Sleep Is gauged by the setting and the rising of the sun. Husbands, wives, grandparents and babies labor together in the bay field. the potato patch, and the vine yard. Their routine, timed by the clock In the village spire. Is almost as regular as a process of nature. In this trnnqull and robust orbit of existence romance is neither shaken nor shocked to extinction. Nerves and arteries sustain the passage of pacific seasons. In our metropolitan communities there are many who disclaim a desire to live long. They wilfully curtail life by Indulgence. Hut to those who care to prolong life the Ingredients are available. They are hand-labor, conjugal for bearance, the open sky, plain nour ishment and red wine, regularity physical fatigue and adequate re pose. "To the gentle old people who will be feted next week we extend our hands It) undisguised felicitation. Perhaps vlthont realizing It they have discovered the philosopher's stone. They revive the era of our pioneer American grandparents. In the confusion and chaos that seems to grip our world they recall us to sanity and wholesomeness. They typify the soil and those who live close upon it. With all onr para phernalia of modernity they may yet be our superiors both in wisdom and in happiness." Old Problem of "Wagging Tongue" "The summer vacation is always a problem, V writes one of our readers, "but thldv^ear It was specially so. Ob, we kneV. where we were going, to the seashore, a charming place within commuting distance of my husband's oftlce. But the problem was about my mother, who lives with us. Each year she says we should be separated for vacations. 1 know ray husband feels the same way, and each year 1 am disturbed over what is best for everyone concerned. I know my mother really wants to be with us. where she has the children and the comforts of home, and par ticularly of late years she has come to depend on me so that I know she I would he unhappy alone. ? "I always hope It will work out that .she stays with us. because I know she is well taken care of. her little special diet conscientiously at tended to, and if she should not feel well I am right there to do the right thing. She is the type of person who would never send for me. so having her away alone for two months would mean constant uneasi ness on my part. "How happy I was when my hus band said the word that gave things ii little extra push? pave mother that little extra coaxing. Mother was com ing with us; even the children seemed relieved. "And then one evening, n week or two before we were to leave, my hus band came home particularly tired and Irritable. For some reason, cer tainly unknown to herself, mother chose that time to remark annoying l.v on a subject on which he is'|v,r tlcniarly touchy, lie made an l.v annoying retort, and after r.io?'?nr went to bed lie reproached me in n way that pave me a very disturbing feeling regarding the success of the family summer. "Hut even then everything would have been all right. The next day my husband had some good news, the clouds passed, everything was forgotten, and in the refreshing at mosphere of the seaside, with taut nerves relaxed. I know things would have taken care of themselves and we should all have been happy to gether. Hut, things had no chance to work out that way. Because I told. After my husband complained and reproached me I thought I must go into the matter with mother to try to avoid similar happenings In the future. I must make her see my hus band's point of view. And that was all that mother needed to set off her own Wllng of dissatisfaction That settled It. she said. She would most certainly not go with us to the beach. The result Is a spoiled summer, as far as I am concerned, am' I do not know yet what for mother. "I realize now that sometimes It is impossible to make one person get another's viewpoint; they are all so sure and so eager to he 'right.' And the best thing in those cases Is to say as little as possible to let things pass over. Tf only T hadn't spoken. '* only I hadn't told ? everything would have blown over." Summing up 'the foregoing, these few terse sentences of comment by a prominent woman contributor to our columns, are vital: "We all know the way it works, don t we? This business of peoyde talking in anger, then another talk ing. and another, it's like setting off a fuse attached to a whole string of firecrackers. if only one along the way had refused to Ignite, every thing would be nil right! When no body Is wise enough to do this the result may he disastrous, all the way from an explosion to n conflatrra t ion." ?. 1933. nil) Syndlrnfp. ? W Nt " Sorvlro Her Guen Him ? What makes that kid cry so much? She (wearily) ? T don't know, un less the milkman has been bringing us milk from discontented cows late ly. ? Cincinnati Knquirer. "Pin Money" for the Little Ones Scheme Devised by Wise Mother Approved by All Concerned. The mother who wants to keep her floors free from pins and needles, so disastrous t<? vacuum cleaners, will do well to adopt a successful ineas lire of one Ingenious parent. The floors in her house are never dotted with those weo spikes of polished steel. damaging alike to feet and vacuum cleaners. Her children search the floors with eyes eager to discover pins and needles, nor do they ever have to he asked to do It Kaq&^juln or needle means a penny or ^^rcictlon, of a penny for their litNeHrVrses. These youngsters have literal pin money, it can he spent at their own Inclinations and foi whatever they choose. The one ex ceptlon to this Is candy. No child Is allowed to spend more than five cents a week for candy. The value of pins and needles is estimated as follows: One needle, a penny ; six pins, a penny When anv question arises about unusual pins such as safety pins, flower pins. etc. mother's decisions are final. As the> are always generous, they are un challenged. Flower pins are apt to count as a needle. But the pins for extra value must he large fancy headed pins. These fancy-headed pins are valued according to their size, sometimes three are worth a penny, sometimes four. Safety pins of large size are three for a penny. si"!!1! ones, the for a p-?nny. <Wi needles Mr-re Is a fl* ed ran ot one j cent e:ich. v,h:'t ever their size. When the dressmaker or seam I stress Is at the house, It's harvest time for the youngsters. After they , leave, the children hurry to their I field of prosperity, and a merry , scramble ensues. Kach lias a hak ] ing powder tin or a bottle into which the pins and needles are dropped. If there has been much fitting of gar ments, there is an especial harvest, and always there are many additions to the little containers. The time of payments Is variable. The pins are counted out In little heaps ofslx each, with peculiar kinds all together. Needles are In rows. Tin* children are expected to do their own calculating, with mother as a sort of expert accountant. Some times the children save up their pin money, putting the coins in their hanks. Thi s is when they want something worth saving for. Hut generally each pay day Is celebrated with a visit to a flve-and-ten-cent store, or some nearby shop where articles of small cost and which ap peal to youngsters are for sale. This pin money takes the place of an allowance for the very small folk As they grow a little older, the sums are augmented and more Is expected to be purchased from the money Hut a margin Is left for childhood luxuries which the pin money Is supposed to cover, excPpt when fa ther or mother stand treat. ?. 1933. .Bell Syndicate.? WNU Service. Sacred Cannor The Sacred Cannon or "Maria m Besar" as the natives call It lies half hidden, a little outside of the fJate of Old Batavia, In the Javanese city of that name. Its history Is not known and It bears no date. But the butt end of It In shape represents a closed fist, with a peculiar turn of the thumb. An Inscription, cast In the bronze, reads: ? "Ex me Ipsa renata sum," which means "Out of myself I was reborn." Natives l.elleve this gun to possess the power of grant ing fertility to humanity. For this reason childless native women t?urn incense as an offering. LIFE'S LITTLE JESTS: HOW THEY GOT IT There Is a man who yearns to HM tiis house with comforts, while his wife yearns to fill it with antiques. Her pet theory Is that In pawnshops one may find many treasured heir looms. "I suppose this was handed down to yo" by some great-great -grandfa fhei." said a visitor, tapping a snufT hox. "So." replied the brutal hus band. "It was second-handed down to us by an 'uncle.' " Well, Now "1 found a four-leaf clover, dear." "That means we'll soon be mar rled." "Oh, but I thought It meant good luck." Record Time Saving Hank ? Bill's powerful lazy! Silas ? Awful ! Had a dentist yank i Rood front tooth, so's he rould spit without movln' his Jaws! EMBARRASSE* "I was reully very milch worried about Henrietta while we were at the seashore," said Mr Meek ton con fidentially to tils slster-ln-law. "Slio would Insist on swimming n good way out." "Well, you are perfectly at home In the water. You could have saved her." "Yes. But it would have taken the rest of my life to convince her that I didn't do it merely to show off and humiliate her." Sign* of Buiynen The busy housewife was making a hurried trip downtown and at the last minute decided to sew n rip In her dress. On the car she noticed several youngsters looking at her and laugh ing. and on looking down she found that she hud her hands folded nicely In her lap and on one finger was her thimble Why Be Precipitate? "1 think Uncle Jack is going to take us for a ride. You'd better go upstairs and wash your fnce." Willie ? Hadn't we better find out for sure, mother? ? Pathfinder Maga zine. 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