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n ZGIRLS DO THE LOVEMAKING. -low Marriages In Some Lands Are Brought About. The students of psychology and so :iology know that women have culti vated an attitude of effeminate coy .mess along with the thousands and one conventialities that have been -thrust on -ohem. In spite of these .opinions, says the Chicago Tribune, in the days gone by it was almost as common for the .women as the men to do the courting. Today there are parts of the world where young wo men feel they are doing nothing wrong by taking this pleasure and responsibility on themselves. In Polynesia there are no women's clubs and the doctrines of wonien's -ights have never been ,h:eard, and still -these half emancipated young girls reel they have the right to extend an offer of marriage to an equal or to an inferior. Their proposals are some times accepted, again reiected: When their love is unanswered they do not commit suicide or take poison, as an American novelist might make us be lieve. They may grieve a little while, only to console themselves with the Thought, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again." "These proposals are _,fte.n spoken in romantic words. A Fijian maiden desperately in love .vith a young man asked his father if she might -love 'his son, and receiv ing no encouragement, she said: "Let me only live outside of .h:is 'oe. I will sleep upon the wood - pile. If I may only light his ciga -ettes for him I shall rejoice. "I may only hear his voice from a distance it will suffice. Life will be -oleasant to me." Between the northern and southern extremity of New Guinea lies Torries Strait. The largest island in the strait is inhabited by Melanesians, vWhose customs are insular and unique-they are of special interest to students oc .:upied with the phenomena of love -and marriage. They are, with one ex ception, of the Papaun type, frizzled hair people who cultivate the soil, use the bow and arrow, and, un-Austra 'ian like, treat the women with con. -sideration. Prof. A. C. Haddon, tihe most emi -nent authority on these people, says that the women of the .region are -wonderfully independent. The most -a man ever dares is to suggest ,he is fond of a girl, but if he actually pro -oosed he would be the laughing stock -of the whole district. On tha island of Tuo boys are taught: "You no like girls first; if you dc egirls laugh and call you woman. -When a girl likes a man she tells his sister.and gives her a ring of string. She tells the brother sce has some good news for him, and if he approves ther- select a rendlevous, where the conversationl :s carried on in this man ner: -"You like me proper?'' ~Yes.".-she declares. "I like you prover, with my heart inside. Eye along heart see you--you my man.' H-i frightened, %e continues: -"o you like me?" She usually answers: "I like your -yonr skin good. You my man." In a neighboring island courtship assumes a more practical form.Th lovesick maiden sends her young mar lood, and plenty of it. He waits some ime and if he decides he approves of her, he acknowledges her favor by eating all she has sent him. A good dancer is always admired in th'ese islands. A man's being married does not prevent his being courted again. Girls have enough tact not tc mnake this known to the wife. A sis ter is selected. Some of the girls are wonderfully persistent. Haddon tells of a girl who was in love with a cook. She made the advances, but he paid nc heed, and so she accused him of try ing to steal her. She carried on a long lawsuit, though the case was de Ha:ii the man's favor. In spite o1 these advances most of the womt become t he property of their hus >)d r:- en married-Come-ime tc he \xtent if a man gets angry he I: " Zealand women do tiv =or:: in a mtos:- ra:nantic fashion The y-rng girl v*isits the courting house set apart for this purpose Standi.ng up in the dark she says: " love So and So and I want him for m~ ~iusand; wheeupn th choen y 'Raise Our Ver I AT Quatti er, if willing, says "Yes," or enough to signify assent. The Pueblo girl is even more in dependent; after many a delig+htful and sometimes romantic flirtation she comes to the conclusion she is fonder of one suitor than the others and she tells her father she is deter mined to have the young man. The fatt:er usually acquaints the young man with the fact. It seldom hap pens that any objections are raised, must reimburse the parents of the maiden for the loss of their daughter. This is done by an offer of presents in keeping witst their wealth and rank. The young people are thoroughly ,,,,.ependent, and if they learn they do not love each other as much as they imagined, they separate and leave their children to be cared for by the grand-parents. The Moqui girls are so strenuous in their love affairs they are satis fied with a verbal contract. Goods, personal effects and valuables of the women still belong to them. If a woman leaves her husband she takes all with her. The husband is often indebted to a wife for a loan, and this keeps them together when otherwise divorce would ensue. Among the Spokane Indians when the man falls in love he must consult the father and the girl, though it is more usual for the girl to make the advances. They usually marry from the same tribe, but if a man marries out of $his tribe he must join his wife. It is thought she can work better in a country that is.known to 'her. The Indian girls of the Hudson, according to several reliable author ities, signify openly their desire for matrimonial life. When one of them takes a noton to marry she cov ers her face wit"h' a veil and sits cov ered as an indication of her desire. If ;he attracts a suitor negotiations ensue, presents are given by relatives and friends and the bride taken.. A pretty girl, Manjiknawis she was called, was fond of a self-contained, egotistical votung man who had no special fondness for her beauty. She had a notion that her ability as a housekeeper might win him, thougsh her beauty did not. Shd ws..solicitous in attending his wants, mended his moccasins and prepared 'his food, liut he was equally indifferent to these kindnesses. So she resolved -ro play a trick. She dug a 'hole in the spa. cious lodge and covered it carefully. When th~e young man returned from the chase he threw himself down in the usual place and fell in. "Ha, ha," said the young girl, as she helped 'him out. "You are my prison-er at last. I did it on pur pose." A smile came over the oing man's face. Half flattered. and more amused by the inventive mind, he said: "So be it. I will be your. 'Honor Thy Father. Exchge. Young man! You love your mother andl vou take occason to show y'our love for her in ways that she wvell unerstands. But y'our father. my boy. You love him, too, in a different s->rt of way. En"t do you honor hjm? And do y. shw that vou do.? Deep) down, below the crust, of cor ' ou honor your father. But not -mtl you have a boy of your own will you know how much you hurt v ar father's hear: when you flout his advice or show by your manner that you think 'the "old man"~ is a Ikind of back number. Just so certainly as you live there our . -y Fine OUR STABLI ebaurr PROSPER member your unfilial attitude toward your dad and be sorry for it. And then it will be too late. Father may be sleeping in !his grave and you will have a life-long regret. The keenest remorse you will ever know. will be the memory of your ill-treatment or lack or respect for your father. When the thought of present days shall come to you, you will remember that you often showed your mother the affection that you felt for her and denied it to your father whom you also loved. Remember, son, that father's ways are not your mother's ways. Father has had to fight the world for your bread and butter and the world has taught him to conceal his feelings. He loves you just as much as your mother does onl yhe cannot show it. Under his vest he yearns for your filial smile. And when you do any thing to be proud of nobody on earth is prouder than your father. Of course you think your father is not in every respect up-t.)-date, that he hasn't kept up with the pro cession and that sometimes he is un neccessarily firm and arbitrary. All that may be true. But the chances are father knows more about almost everything than you do. When you are, say thirty years old, you will realize that fact. If you lile a long time in this world, my boy, you will always be led to say that tibe safest and sanest adviser you ever had was your father. Honor the man who looks like you. Reflections of A Bachelor. New York Press. Imagination is a great thing to keep people thinking they love each other some rime after they are mar ried. A man speaks of his being in public life when he gets a rubber stamp signature letter from a congressman acknowledging the receipt of his ad The very first thing for a man to do after he gets married is to spend all his money every day, so he won't. get mad with his wife for taking it out of this pocket. WANTEDI Your Watches, Clocks and Jewelry to be re paired. Satisfaction Guaranteed, J. W. W HITE. 5 AND.10 CENTS. Everyhing in our Store for that Price. Newberry's only 5 and 10 Cent Store. In Store formerly occupied by Todd, Main Street. 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