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BY E. B. MURRAY & CO. ATSTTTERSON. S. C, THURSDAY MORNING, APRIL 3, 1884. VOLUME XIX.?NO. 38. DOMESTIC HAPriNESS. TAt,mage's discourse. Bbooklyn, March 23.?After an ab? sence of two weeks, having traveled about 5,000 miles and having visited Iowa, Kansas, Nebraska, Missouri and other States, Dr. Talroage returned and occupied his pulpit. He preached on "Domestic Happiness," taking his text from Ephesians v., 33: "Let every one in particular love his own wife even as himself, and tbv wife see tbat she rever? ence her husband." All this good advice, said Dr. Talmage, by a man who never married. He lived on to fifty-eight years of age in eminent bachelorhood. Indeed, it was better for Paul to remain in single life, because he went on such rapid missionary expedi? tions that no companion could have en? dured the hardship. Celibacy, in some cases, is better. Such persons accom? plish, under such circumstances, tbat which could not be accomplished in the other style of Jlfe. I have known men who have remained unaffianced in order that they might take care of the chil? dren of a deceased brother; and what would become of the world without the self-sacrifice and helpfulness of the maid? en aunts I can not imagine. Among the brightest queens of heaven will be those who took care of other people's children. Alas for the household which has not within au easy call an Aunt Mary! I know tbat there are caricatures and un gallant things sometimes said, but so far as my observation goes they are quito equal in disposition to their married sis? ters. The state of celibacy honored again by such persons as Macaulay and Washington Irving in literature and Florence Nightingale and Miss Dix in -philanthropy. But while Paul remained in the single state he kept his eyes open and he look? ed off upon the calm sea of manied life and upon the chopped sea of domestic j perturbation. He comes forth in my text to say: "Xet every one in particu? lar love his own wife even as himself, and the wife see that ehe reverence her hus? band implying that the wife ought to be lovable so tbat there might be something to love, and the man ought to be honora? ble so that there might be something to reverence. It is a most congratulatory thought that the vast majority of people in the married state are well mated. When the news is first announced in the outside world of the betrothal there may be surprise and seeming incongruity, but as the years pass by it is demonstrated that the selection was divinely arranged. . There may be great difference of temper? ament, great difference of appearance, great difference of circumstances. The sanguine and the phlegmatic tempera? ments make appropriate union?the blonde and the brunette, the quick and the slow, the French and the German. In the machinery of domestic life there is no more need for the driving-wheel than for the brakes. That is the best union generally which has just the opp sites. The best argument in behalf of | marriage as a divine institution is the fact that the vast majority of conjugal relationships are the very best things that could have happened. Once in a while there is a resounding exception to the good rule, the attempt being made to marry. fire and gunpowder with the consequent explosion in the divorce courts, but in the vast majority of instances the conjugal relation is a beautiful illustra? tion of what the Psalmist said when lie declared: "God setteth the solitary in families." Taking it for granted then that you are well-mated, I proceed to give you some prescriptions for domestic happiness. And first of all, I remark a spirit of compromise must be dominant. You ? must remember tbat yoa were 20 or 30 years forming independent habits and having your own w?y. In the marriage state these habits must be brought into accord, and there may be some ingenuity necessary. Be determined to have your own way, and there will be no peace. Let the, rule be: In all matters of moral principle your determination shall be iron, and in all unimportant matters, willow. Whatever you may think of the word compromise in politics, without compromise there is no domestic peace. A great many people are willing to com? promise if you will do just as tbey waut you to do, but there is no compromise in tbat. The rule ought to be: In all do? mestic matters, all social matters, all ecclesiastical matters, all political mat? ters, firm adherence to fundament*'.-, easy surrender in non-essentials, lit not too proud or too stubborn to give up. Com? promise ! c ompromise! I remark again that ih order to secure domestic happiness there must be a spir? it of consultation. The home ought to be a cabinet where ail the affairs of the household and all the affairs of business life come under comparison, iuspectiou .andadvisal. That is an absurd rule we hear abroad in the world that men ought never'to take their business home. Ten thousanl financial failures would have been avoided if men had c m*ulted with their wives. In the first place woman has a capacity to judge of in':ra! charac? ter which man has not. Before you invite into your business partnership any man, you ought to introduce him to your wife and get her judgment j-s to his capacity and his integrity. After live miuutes' conversation she will tell you as much about him as you will know in 20 years, and perhaps you may find out too late. A man proposes to come into your business partnership. You take Ii im to your home. He tarries a little while and is gone. You say to your wife: "Well, what do you think of him ".'" She say*: "I don't like him at all/ You say: "It's an absurd thing to form a prejudice against him on so short .*ti acquaintance. I have known 41101 for years, and I have never known any bad against him." "Well," she says, "I don't know why I have formed that opinion, but I tell you to beware. Put none of your financial interests in tbat man's keeping." Ten or fifteen years pass by. You come home some night and say: "Well, my dear, you are right; that man swindled me out of my last dollar." It is not because woman is wiser than man. It is because God has given her that peculiar intuition in regard to human character. Now, you have nu right to go into an enterprise which involves the homestead or the ed? ucation of your children or the fate oJ your entire family without home consul? tation. Of course all this implies that you did not marry a fool. If at the mar? riage altar you committed suicide you had better keep all your business affairs in your own heart and head. But let us hope that you have sound common sense presiding in your household. How much a wife may help a husband's busi? ness affairs was well represented in. the case where the wife saved from the allowance of herself and the allowance of the family a certain amount of money for a rainy day. After some time the husband, coming homo, said: "Well, I'm going to suspend payment to-morrow. A few dollars would get me through, but I can't get the few dollars, and I'm going to ruin." That evening the wife said: "I wish you would hunt up the definition, of the word independence in Webster's Dictionary. Hunt it up for me." He opened Webster's Dictionary, and found the word independence, and right oppo? site was a ?100 bill. "Now," she said, "I would like to have you find the word gratitude." He turned to the word grat? itude, and there was another $100 bill; and before the evening was past she ask? ed him to read a verse of a certain chap-1 ter in the Bible, and there were $500, and before the evening had passed the man had financial relief to tide him over his disasters. You call that dramatic. I call that beautifully Christian. IJT ALL EXPENDITURES there ought to be consultation. Do not dole out money to your wife as though she were a beggar. Let her know how much you have or how little. Ap? peal to her intelligent judgment and she will be content, and your own disposition will not be irritated. As long as you keep a mystery about your business mat? ters she will wonder that the allowance is so small. No honorable woman wants to spend more money than can be afforded. Come into consultation with her on this matter. Show what are all your neces? sary outside expenses; all the money you must have for cigars and dinners at Delmonico's, and how much it takes for the club-house and the political cam? paign, and then have her present all the domestic expenses, and then, after con? sultation, do your best. It is a bad sign when a man dare not tell his business transactions to his wife. There is some? thing wrong. Suppose you that the gi? gantic forgeries which have been enacted in this country would ever have taken place if the wife had been consulted ? The wife would have said : "Stop ! let us live in one room in the poorest house on the poorest street of the poorest town and have nothing but dry bread rather than that you should make yourself cul? pable before God and the law." In the vast majority of cases where there has been exposure of great frauds the wife has been the most surprised person in the community. A banker some time ago misused trust funds, and he went from fraud to fraud and from knavery to knavery until it was necessary for him to leave home before daylight. His wife said: "Where are you going?" "Iain going to New York," said he, "and going on the early train." "Why, isu't this sudden ?" she asked. "Oh, no; I expect? ed to go," and then be left the room and went to the room where his daughters slept, looked upon their calm faces for the last time as he supposed, and started. And he was brought back by the Con? stables of an outraged law, and ho is now in the penitentiary. Do you suppose I that man, with a good wife as he had, an houest wife as he had, a Christian wife, j as be bad, could have got into such an enormity if he had consulted in regard to her wishes ? Consultation is the word ?domestic consultation. Again, in order to domestic happiness there must in the conjugal state be no secrets kept one from the other. What one knows both must know. It is a bad sign when one partner in the conjugal relation is afraid to have the letters opened and read by the other partner. Surreptitious correspondence is always dangerous. If a man comes to you and says: "I am going to tell you a great privacy and don't want you to tell any? body, not even your wife," say to him : "Well, now, you had better not tell me, for I shall tell her as soon as I get home." There must be no secrecy of association. You ought not to be unwilling to tell where you have been and with whom you have been. Sometimes an unwise wife will have a lady confidant whom she makes the depository of privacies which they are pledged to keep between them? selves. Beware! Anything that implies that husband and wife are two and not one implies peril, domestic peril, social ] peril, mighty peril. In the vast ma j jority of cases of domestic infelicity, com? ing to exposure in tbe courts, the trouble began by the accidental opening of a letter which implied correspondence which was never suspected. In the con l jugal relations secrets kept one from j another are nitro glycerine under the ' hearthstone and the fuse is lighted. Again, in order to your happiness there must be a spirit of forbearance. In the weeks, the months, the years that you were planning for each other's con? quest, only the more genial side of your nature was observable. But now you .?ire off guard, and the faults arc all known, the one to the other. You tire aware of your imperfec tions, unless you are one of those self-conceited people who are quickly observant of faults in others but oblivious to faults in yourself; and now, having found out all each oth? er's imperfections, forbear. If the one be given to too much precision and the other disorderly in habits; if the one be spendthrift and the other oversaving; if the one be loquacious and the other reticent, forbear. Especially if you both have inflammable tempers, do not both get mad at onco. Take turn about. William Cowper put it well when he said : The kindest and the happiest pair Will find occasion to forbear; And something every day they live To pity and perhaps torgivc. Again, in order to your happiness, let there be no interfering with each other's peculiar religious sentiments. If you are a Baptist and your wife is a Pedo Baptist do not go splashing water iu each other's faces. If you are a Presbyterian and your husband is a Methodist, wheu he shouts Hallelujah, do not get nervous. If you have strong denominational pro? clivities, one of you had better go to one church and the other had better go to another church, or, surrendering some of your intensity on that subject, as in HUNDREDS OF CASES, come' to some such church as the Brook? lyn Tabernacle, where, while we adhere to the fundamentals of the gospel, we do not care a rye straw for the infinitesi? mal differences beween evangelical de nom?nations?putting one drop of water on the brow, if that is enough baptism and if not, then plunging the candidate clear out of sight, if that is preferred? not caring whether you believe you have been fore ordained to be saved or not, if you are only saved; nor whether you believe in the perseverance of the saints or not, if you will only persevere; nor whether you prefer prayer by episcopal liturgy or ex-extemporaneous supplica? tion, if you only pray. Do not let there be any religious contests across the breakfast-table or the tea-table. It makes but little difference from what direction you come toward the riven heart of Christ, if you only come up to the riven heart. Yet I know, in many families, there is a constant picking at opposite religious beliefs and attempt at proselytism. You, the father, fight for Episcopacy, and you, the mother, fight for Presbyterianism, and your children will compromise the matter and be noth? ingarians. Again, I counsel you, in order to your domestic happiness, that you cultivate each other's religious welfare. This is a profoundly agitatiog thought to every fair minded man and woman. You live together on earth ; you want to live to? gether forever; you do not want ten or twenty or fifty years to end your associa? tion ; you want to take your companion into the kingdom of God with you. If this subject is irritating in the household it is because you do not understand Christian atrategem.- Every Christian | companion may take his or her compan? ion into glory. How? Ask God and He will tell you how. Perhaps by ou occasional religiou? remark. Perhaps by earnest prayer. Perhaps by a consist en; life. More probably by a!' these things combined. Paul put it forcefully when he said : "How knowest thou, ? wife, whether thou shalt save thy hus? band? How knowest thou, 0 marj, whether thou shalt save thy wife?" Iu this house how many have been remar? ried for the skies. It has become so much the general rule that when in my congregation, as I often do, I find a fam? ily in which the wife is a Christian and the husband is not, I just say frankly to him : "Now, you have got to come in. You might just as well try to swim up against Niagara rapids as against the tide of religious influence which in this church is going to surge you into the Kingdom of God. You must come in. You know that your wife is right in this matter of religion." She may be quick of temper, and you may sometimes lose your patience with her, but you know she is better than you are, and you know when she dies she will go as straight to heaven as a shot to a target. And if to? day on the way home a vehicle should I dash down the street, and sho should fall lifeless, with no opportunity for last words, you might have a doubt about what would become of you, and a doubt about what would become of the chil? dren, but you would have no doubt about her eternal destiny. Somewhere under the flush of her cheek or under the pallor of her brow is the Lord's mark. She is your wife, but she is God's child, and you are not jealous of that relationship. You only wish that you yourself were a son of the Lord Almighty. Couie and have the matter settled. If I die before you I will not forget in the next world how you stood together here, but I will expect both of you. You must come. I say it in all Christion love and em? phasis, as a brother talks to a brother, you must come. You have been united 83 long you can not afford to have death divorce you. How long it is biuce you began the struggle of life together? You have helped each other on tue road, and what you have done for each other God only knows. There have been tedious sickness and anxious watchings, aud here and there a grave, short, but very deep, aud though the blossoms of the marriage may be scattered and the lips that pronounced you one may have goue into dust, you have, through all these years, been to each other irtie as steel. Now, to day I am going to remarry you for heaven. This is the bridal day ol your soul's peace. Here is the marriage ! altar. Kneel side by side. Take the O.ith of eternal fidelity. Clasp hands in a covenant never to be broken. I pro? nounce you one on earth and pronounce i you one for eternity. What God by i His grace hath joined together, let not earth or hell put asunder. Hark ! I hear a humming in the air?an anthem, a I wedding march, organs, celestial played ' upon by fingers seraphic. I do not think I" ever read anything more beautiful and quaintly pathetic than Cotton Mather's description of the departure of his wife from earth to heav? en : "The black day arrives. I had never seen so black a day in all the time of my pilgrimage. The desire of my eyes is this day to be taken from me at a siroke. Her death is lingering and painful. All the afternoon of this day she is in the pangs of death and sensible to the last minute or two before her final expiration. I can not remember the dis? course that passed between us, only HElt DEVOUT SOUL was full of satisfaction about her going to a state of blessedness with the Lord Jesus Christ. As far as my distress would permit, I studied to confirm her satisfaction and consolation. When I saw to what a point of resignation I was called of the Lord, I resolved, with His belp, to glorify Him. So, two hours be I fore she expired, I kuelt by her bedside J and took into my hands that dear hand, the dearest in the world, and solemnly and sincerely gave her up to the Lord. I gently put her out of my hands and laid away her hand, resolved that I would not touch it again. She afterward told me that she signed and sealed my act of resignation, aud though before that she had called for me continually, after tbat she never asked for me any more. She conversed much until near 2 in the after? noon. Tbe last sensible word sho spoke was to her weeping father: 'Heaven, heaven 1 will make amends for all.'" Now let us be faithful in this relation of which I have been speaking. Do you want to know what the Lord thinks of it? Bead the 62d chapter of Isaiah where he says: "As the bridegroom re joiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee." There is a wedding coming which will eclipse all tbe prince? ly and imperial weddings the world ever saw. It was a great day when Napoleon took Josephine. It was a great day when Henry VIII. led Anne Boleyn over the cloth of gold on the street, cloth of gold reaching up to the palace. It was a great day when the King of Spain took Mercedes, but it will be a greater day when the Lord.shall tako his bride, tho church, to himself. A long time ago they were affianced, but she has been down in the wilderness. He has written her again and again aud the day of mar riago is fixed. She has sent word to him. He has sent word to her. But, oh, was there cvere such a difference in estate? Tbe King on the one side, the bride of the wilderness, poor and perse? cuted,- on the other. The wealth of the universe on one side, the obscurity of the ages on the other. The pomp of heaven on one side, the poverty of earth on the other. But he will endow her with his wealth and raise her to sit with him on a throne forever. Come, thou bridal morn of the ages! Come and there shall be the rumbling of great wheels, great chariot wheels, down the sky, and there shall be riders ahead aud mounted cavalry behind, the conquerors of heaven on white horses. Clear the way! A thousand trumpets blare. "Behold :he bridegroom comcth, go ye out to meet him." Then the charioteers shall rein in their bounding steeds of fire and-the King shall dismount from the chariot and he shall take by the hand the bride of the wilderness, all the crowded galleries of the universe tbe spectators. Hing all the wedding bells of heaven. The King lifts the bride into the chariot and cries: "Drive on! Drive up !" and the clouds shall spread their cloth of gold for the procession and the twain shall go through the gates triumphant, up the streets aud then step into tho palace at the banquet where 10,000 potentates and principalities and dominations, cherubic and arcbangclic with 10,000 gleaming and uplifted chali? ces shall celebrate the day when the King of heaven and earth brings home his bride from the wilderness. Make haste, ray beloved. Be thou like to a roe or a young hart upon the mountains of spices. The Law in a Horse Trade. The Pennsylvania Courts have decided that while you musn't lie about it direct? ly and openly, it is perfectly lawful to keep your mouth shut during a horse trade, and while you must not warrant an animal as perfectly sound in limb and condition, without fault, spot, mar or blemish, when you know that he has a glass eye, goat neck, mange, saddle gall?, ruach back, ring bone, quarter crack, spavin, flat foot, wind galls, scratchts, capped hock, etifF joint, blind staggers, oxfoot, rattail and hollow back, yet you are not compelled to cii.ll attention to these minor defects in the splendid Ken? tucky bred animal you are trying to trade the stranger for a spring wagon, set of harness, two-year old coll and ?85 cash. This is a wise and humane law, and lets the deacon out of a great many tight places, where otherwise trado would be paralyzed, the arteries of commerce choked and stagnated by the utiwiso hand of oppressive laws, and panic, mis? trust and depression would settle down upon a hopeless world in the rayless gloom of mistrust and suspicion.?Hawk eye. ? "Just my luck," moaned a Philadel? phia man. "Here I've been paying heavy premiums on a life insurance pol? icy for twenty years and I'm not dead ' yet." ? "You just take a bottle of my med? icine," said a quack doctor to r. consump? tive, "and you'll never cough again." "Is it as fatal as that?" gasped the con? sumptive. ? '?Is this your dog, John?" "No j he belongs to Squire Smith. And 'tween . me and you he's a deal smarter than Lis owner." "Yes ; there are dogs of that sort. I have had several myself." BETSY HAMILTON'S LETTER. CAMPING OUT. Alliinln Constitution, Lazy Farm, 1884.?It is Friday night and the children have brought company home from school; a candy pulling is on hand, in which "Aunt Meely" is chief cook. The large brass kettle is on the kitchen stove steaming with the boil? ing syrup; and with eager impatience and a show of helping to make the candy the children are standing around in the old darkey's way. "Efl biles dese ycr lasses," said Aunt Meely, poking the fire, ''look lack I orter hab a sheer er de I candy." "Of course Aunt Meely," said I Eva. "You chil'en is too thick in here ?I can't hardly turn roun'?don't you know 'watch pot never biles?' Dose yer lassesset here and set here, and cook and cook and cook but dey not gwine turn to uo candy while you looks at 'em." "Why not, Aunt Meely?" "Listen! pear lack I hear old Miss call you chillun?dar! don't you hear dat?" and the credulous little ones believing she had really called, also that the molasses wouldn't candy while they looked at it, scampered out of Aunt Meely's way, and into grandma's room to hear her read about CAMPING OUT. Dear Cousin: Pap told me to ax you what Confederick money was gwiue at. He's got a five he's been a savin' ever sense the S'render; lie kep a hearin' it was a gwine to be good agin, and he's saved aud saved it tel it's putty nigh wore into a frazzle. I 'lowed I'd set that down 'fore it siipt my mine ; but I flung on a pico? of light'ood and taken my pen in hand mainly to tell you about the time we'nns all went to Talladegy longer Pap when he went to sell his bag of cot? ton. We'uns had all been thar 'cept Maw?and she never had saw town. Aunt Haly, she taken Flurridy Ten nysy when she was a little thing, longer her once a long time ago, but when she fetched her home she 'lowed of the Lord would jes forgive her she'd never take another young'n that fur away from its mammy agin long as she lived, for she fretted and cried, and she had her to tote, and she pestered and tormented her life out'n her so she forgotten her bale of spun truck and her bottle of snuff the main thing she went atter, and old Miss Green's cotton cards. Pap he had been a layin' ofT all tho year to let us all go when the crap wasgetbered. It was like movin' of the house to git Maw off. Sho fust said she'd go, then she j is declar'd she didn't see no how 'pon the yeth she could leave when "old Bunty," aud "old Speck," and "old Domineck" was all fixin' to hatch, and "old Frizzle" had been a whippin' "old Top Knot" ofHn ber nest and she knowed in reason all aigs was ruint?and she was afeerd she'd lose more'n she'd make by gwine. If it wasn't that she wanted to sell her things herself she wouldn't budge nniry step, but she knowed they could cheat pap's eye balls out'n him and he mought git so tight he'd lose some of 'em. She had aimed to git her honey comb counterpin wove out agin Saddy on account of put tin' in that ar piece of blue jeens for bud? dy's breeches?he was spang out at the knees a needin' of 'em?but if she stayed at home tel everything was ready for her to go, she'd never git off, so she included to go. She had a bar'l of good strong lye saffsoap two year old, she made it in the light of the moon in March?they say that's the best time to make it?it thickens then and don't all bile away; and she had a pillar slip of dried apples? apples in one eend and peaches in t'other with a string tied iu the middle, and a little poke'Of the sweetest dried pars ever went down your thote, and a bucket of honey, and a pound of the whitest butter you ever seed, and a big gourd of aigs, and a passel of chickens to sell -yes and I three yards of gray jeens, for a "Mr. Whal-you-may-call-him's" breeches, I diaremeinber his name, he sent her word to weave it for him for he druther have it as store bought. The Simpsons and Robcrsons tuck ther cotton to town the same day, aud old Miss Strong got wind of it that Maw was a gwiue and nothin' would do her but she must go too, so there was a whole drove of us in the road. Cousin Prisilla Princetta Pretty Pink Tetch-one-not, that's Uncle Jackson Corbin's oldest gal by his second wife, had come to our house to stay a while so she went too, and Caledony was along so we had a power of fun. I know in reason you think Cousin Pink has got name i enough to kill her but she goes by the j name of Pink for short?and some calls ! ber "Sis." : One of our steers took the holler horn ! and we was afeared we couldn't git off, but Pap hitched old Lou-i-zy, his ridiu' nag, longer old Ball, his off steer, and we ' met a 'oman and a man in a buggv and I i _ j over beam her say : "A steer and a horse, it matches about like a boot on one font 'and a shoe on I'other." Maw she rid 1 most all the way, Pap he walked up all the hills. I and Iky Itoberson walked together right smart of the way. The roads is motisleroiis rocky and hilly tel you git to Porter's gap and strike the Chandler's Spring* road. Pap 'lowed if we'd whip up we niough'l git lo Kiddle's ! mills by night, and if we women folks , was a mind to we mought stay all night longer Miss Kiddle, as he was plum well acquainted with Miss Riddles, but old ] Miss Strung 'lowed she had hcaru she was "quality," and fur as she was con ; earned she'd feel more at home in the j waggitti But laws we broke down, least : ways Miss Strong's waggin broke down and it tuck the men folks to long lo fix and tie it up with hickry with?, that we was benighted long 'fore we got thar. We was clost to a branch and so we all camped right thar whar the waggin hroke. Buddy he taken out the critters, lie gin ' old ball his feed off to his self, and' fed ' old Lou-i-zy in the hind eend of the ' waggin. Pap he kindled u big log heap fire ami sot the kittle on to bile to make the coffee, and Maw she taken out the skillet to bake the bread and fry the meat. She fetched along some wheat dough made up in a bucket. Pap he taken a piece of it and twisted it around his ram rod and belt it'fore the fire to cook, Mowed he cooked it that away many a time in the army. We roasted some sweet taters in the ashes, and baked an ash-cake on a big flat rock, and briled some streak of lean and streak of fat on the coals. We fetched along a jug of buttermilk and tuck it time about with the tin cup, and pap he drunk out'n the gourd. A rabbit run across the road and maw she lowed it was terrible bad luck. "Ye3, bad luck to the rabbit," says buddy, and sicked old Scrouge, and they both tore after it and ketched it, and pap ho skint it and gin old Scrouge the head. Maw she salted it and laved it in the frost all night and fried it for breakfast longer ingons. We gals and boys had a power of fun that night around the fire ; we sot up late langhin' and talkin' and tellin' riddles. I believe Caledony knows more riddles than any body ever I seed. Pap and old man Simpson and Squire Rober 80u kneeled ther cheers agin the trees, and smoked ther pipes and talked about tho fust eettlin' of the country when Indians was all through them hills. Old man Simpson lowed that deestrick all through thar was named atter Uillabee the Indian chief. Caledony lowed she thought they named it "Hillaby" on ac? count of its being so hilly. I know in reason you'd like to know how we'uns all slep that nigt. The men folks taken their axes and cut down some little pine poles and slanted 'em agin little black jag trees, and spread kiver leds over'em and made tber pallets on tho ground underneath, and we women folks all slep in the waggins. We fetch? ed aplenty of kiver; and ever feller's dog slep under his own waggin. The screech owls and whippoor-wils hollered most all night, and critters stomped and the dogs growled at ever noise, bt?t we slep sound in spite of it all. We riz next mornin'?but I'll tell ycu that next lime. Betsy Hamilton. In the meantime the old darkey bad slipped quietly to the door and was list? ening with much interest. Suddenly the children remembered their candy and cried out all at once: "Is our candy done, Aunt Meely ?" "Yes, its done, and I done grease de plates and empty it in 'em and lef my sheer in de kittle." Then grandma drew her little chair close up to the dying embers, and sat a long while thinking of the many, many nights she had camped out years'ngo in moving from Virginia to Alabama. Next week, "Trip to Talledega." Bishop Keaue on Temperance, The congregation at high mass at the Cathedral yesterday morning was an un? usually large one. Bishop John J. Keane, of Richmond, Va., one of the most eloquent Catholic prelates in the United States, preached a temperance sermon. He said that Rev. Thomas S. Lee, rector of the Cathedral, requested him to touch the temperance question, which at present, though the burning one in American society, is nevertheless a highly objectionable one to many. Any reference to temperance is liable to incur the prejudices of somo who have tbeir minds poisoned against the cause because of the many foolish and extreme things done and said by the advocates of local option. It is only natural, how? ever, that where so many are discussing the same subject, where so many are seeking the same purpose by different means, there should be lack of judgment displayed by some and want of discretion by others. Still the foolishness of the champions of temperance is no argument against temperance any more than the sin fulness uf .Christians is against the existence of God or the advantage of His religion. Bishop Keaue referred to the teachings of the Catholic Church on the subject. In that venerable Cathedral two plenary councils have been held, at which were present the assembled wis? dom of tbe Catholic Church in this coun? try. In each were issued addresses to the Catholics of the United States, show ing the evil effects of intemperance and the duty of priest and people on tbat point. The addresses were similar, inas? much as they mentioned that "since the most shocking scandals come from ex? cessive drink, we implore every Catho? lic, for the love of tbe Lord Jesus Christ, to use every means to extirpate the vice." It is very true, as some say, that we have no direct reference from God Himself on drunkenness, because He never came in contact with a drunken man. At the marriage at Cana Ho peformed the mira ele of changing water into wine, but the wine did not serve as the occasion of sin to the people who drank it. It was only as the Apostles proceeded into Northern and Western countries tbat the terrible effects of intemperance became, known. In my own travels through the llo'y Land I never saw a drunken man. In some countries of Europe that I visited I saw the people enjoying themselves, sipping coffee or wine, but I did not see them having what we term "a g time." Wine was not the occasion of sin to them. It would be a silly man who would preach temperance to them, because there would be no need for it. These people did not commit m\ by their use of wine. Sin, uot tho drink, is the underlying peril. To day the greatest destructive agency is drink. It is com? puted that the standing army of drunk? ards in the United Slates numbers 500, 000 persons. The forces iucrease yearly. Whence do the recruits come? From among those who never drank before. Any one acquainted with the chemistry, physiology and social working of the use j of alcoholic liquors kuows that he who I drinks stands on an iucliued plane. Like the boy with the sled, who, as he proceeds down the icy hill, gains speed faster and faster, the tippler has tlse habit of taking a drink grow on him, until at last he is tumbled down the hill of success and respectability. It is look? ed upon as friendly to ask otbers to drink, to help them go down the hill. This is putting the occasion of sin close to men who under the influence of liquor may j commit sins they would shrink from when sober. It becomes the duty of every one to avoid the occasion of sin and keep it from others. The only way to keep from drinking the fourth, sixth or tenth glass is not to drink the first. Never run the risk of offering driuk to anyone. God bless the physicians for all the good they do fur mankind, but many of them have to answer for the way they prescribe whisky for persons. These prescriptions do a great amount of harm. He careful to whom you give them. Some persons need total abstinence ; others do not. It is a question between man and his God. Be honest to yourselves. You know whether the use of liquor is the occasion of sin. If it is, stop it, and for the sake of Jesus Christ he'p put down this evil that is sapping the life of society and religion.?Baltimore Sun. Wearing Mourning. Wo had an article on this subject sev? eral months ago, and the following sen? sible remarks from the New Orleans Times Democrat, on the same line of ar? gument a3 that advanced by us, may do some good: There is one old and long established custom that women ought lo possess moral courage enough to take into their own hands and settle for themselves on a simple and permanent basis. It is the custom of wearing mourning for depar? ted friends. The putting on and taking off of black within a stated time is in itself, in stead of a compliment, an in? sult to the dead. One does not put on and put off one's sorrow in this way; there ia theref re no reality to the fash? ion of symbolizing it. A loss by death is irremediable; the grief of it may be hidden away, but it lasts forever. It is true that the desire when one has lost a near and dear friend is for silence and darkness, for neutral tints and for the presence and association with only that which harmonizes with our own sense of loss aud bereavement. But we cannot often indulge in this selfish absorption, and exclusion?and it is doubtless good for us that we cannot. Our lives go out; our duties remain. They must be per? formed. We put our griefs away. We do not intrudo them upon others. We look them up and keep them as a sort of luxury for quiet hours, when indulgence will not interfere with our obligations to the living, with active participation in the duties of the hour. There is v reason, of course, why women should ao violence to uaturul feelings and wear high colors and gay ornaments at a time when their hearts are saddened by heavy loss. Let them lay aside what they no longer take pleasure in, aud wear their simplest, plainest, darkest dresses; but why lay aside what is perfectly suitable and even in harmony with their own feelings and incur much unnecessary trouble and expense in order merely to put on garments a little deeper, a little darker, a little sadder and which oblige an entire change in the habits of life, the avoidance of much that would be healthful and salutary rather than .harm? ful, the adaptation of social conditions to the circumstances and accidents of an individual, and the actual creation of a code of ethics, the observance of which depends on the presence or depth of a crape band. The most ardent supporters of outward and visible signs of woe are those who are least sensitive to grief, but who like the novelty of an entire change of wardrobe and the pleasant excitement of finding out exactly what ought and what ought not to be done under such l circumstances. As there is no authorized code the rules extracted from self consti? tuted authorities are often more amusing than practical or reliable. To many limited but well intentioned women the imagined necessity for "doing as other people do" in this regard is a source of extreme embarrassment and perplexity. Perhaps they cant ot afford the outlay; perhaps they havf only recently, by dint of much contrivance, replenished their wardrobes; perhaps it was not a near relative; perhaps the relative lived at a distance. All the facts are agitated pro and con lo make a case agaiust assuming this new burden ; and the only argument on the other side, the strongest feeling, is this, that if they do not conform to common custom they will be the "subject of common aud impious remark. This is naturally much stronger in small neighborhoods and communities. It is therefore the duty of any woman of position and influence in such commu? nities to set ao example in the right di? rection, and afford the moral support of j this influence to her poorer neighbor?. ! In cities women out of a certain exclu? sive circle arc fast emancipating them ! selves from their traditions. Just What He Wanted, "Say, mister, ain't you the orator man what made a speech to us yisterday ?" asked a greenhorn of a Newman politi? cian a few days ago. "I have that honor," was the reply, j "D'ye remember what ye said?" I "Well, no?yes, I remember the sub j sUnce of my remarks. But why do you ! ask'!" "Why, you said that you made the ; welkin ring, aud I've tried all over town to get one big enough fur Mariar's finger, and there ain't any big enough, and 1 j thought as how I would come loyer shop ! and git ye to make her one of them thar . welkin rings. She's a stunner, and it'll ': take lots of welkiu to make one big I enough fur her." Behavior in Chnrcli. "In these talks to my people," saidjlhe minister to himself, ' Let me begin with some things that are not of the highest importance, and which yet have an influ? ence for good or evil. "There," he continued musingly, "is the matter of behavior in church. If I should speak to the people en this subject with the plainness with which they some? times take me in hand, they would, I fear, be not a little offended. Applying a crit? ical glass even of low magnifying power, there are, however, many defects to be seen. Here are some of the things I would say, provided it were expedient for me to speak my mind. "I should say first of all: My dear sisters, do not use the house of God as j the place for the display of dross or adornment. Now please understand me. I know thai some of you are in moderate circumstances. You have nothing better than that which you must wear tochurch. Your gown, your wrap is the only one suitable to wear in public. I am not speaking to you, unless, as I suspect is at times the case, you have put more than you could really afford into these gar? ments to make a brave show, and have cramped your benevolence accordingly. But this is a matter for you to settle with your Maker, not with me. "But there are some of you in easy circumstances. You dress elaborately, richly. But in the discharge of your social duties you have opportunity for all the display of dress that you need. Iam putting the matter, you see, on the low? est level. God's bouse is no place for such display. "I beg you wear thither your plainest garb, and dispense with all costly adorn? ments. I can assure you that the atmos? phere of richness which your elaborate attire creates repels some, at least, from the church. They think?perhaps wrongly, perhaps richly?that their presence in their enforced plainness of dress is not desired. "I am not arguing here the question of social equality. I simply bear my testi? mony to what I know, uamely that the over-costly dressing of some Christian women keeps their less favored sisters from th house of God. It ought not to do so; but it does! "It i*3 not, however, to the ladies alone that I speak. By no means. Mr. B-, if I should visit you iu your house, would you, if my visit happened to be a little protracted, yawn in my face, or fidget about as if you were extremely uncom? fortable, or draw out your watch every few minutes to give me a hint that time is passing? You know you would not. Whatever you might say of me when I was gone, you would hold your own reputation for politeness in too much regard to indulge in such conduct. Yet you do all these ungracious things in church, and seem to have no sense of shame in regard to them. And they are not a few that do likewise. Do you know how it helps the preacher to see even one pair of eyes fixed attentively upon him? Ou tbe other hand, do you know how it throws, as it were, a wet blanket over him when you fidget and yawn and snap your watch case in his ear? Ab, Bro. B-, you have more than once come near throwing me from tbe track of my discourse. You have taken the enthusiasm and glow all out of me. You did not mean to do anything unbecoming a gentleman, much less a Christian. But you did. You allowed yourself to forget those common courte? sies which one gentleman owes to anoth? er, because you happened to be in tho church instead of in your parlor or mine. Is this right, Bro. B-? "Then, I am tempted to wonder," said the minister to himself, half sarcastical? ly, half sorrowfully, "why time is reck? oned to be so brief that there must be an almost frenzied struggle into overcoats and wraps while the last hymn is being sung or the last prayer being offered, or even the solemn words of the benedic? tion descending. It can not take more than one minute by the most elastic com? putation, to put on the most refractory outer garment. And another minute for overshoes, if necessary. Can you net afford these two minutes at the utmost, after the service, rather thau to steal them from the sacred time of hymn or benediction ? There ought to be a rever? ent pause for an appreciable time after the service concludes before the hum of departure begins." "And then," and the minister spoke to himself with much feeling, "beware of those niomeuts of departure from tbe church aud of the homeward walk. 'Then cometh the devil, and takcth away tho word out of their hearts, lest they should believe and be saved.' Yes, you may utter the friendly salutation, may extend the cordial greeting and welcome, j you may make the kind inquiry. But I you should do it all in subordination to ' t'.ie spirit of the hour; you should do it I so that s;iuls may be won, not repelled from the truth. That walk down the aisle, bn the homeward path?how often along it have solemn impressions been dissipate!? Tin re is no need of taucti moniousnefs. Theic is no call for sour faced gravity. But there should be, cer? tainly on the path of all Christian peo? ple, a spirit of cheerful solemnity that regards the sanctities of the day aud the place, and that is careful not to dispel heavenly influences'by a. sudden inrush of a worldly atmosphere." The minister, at the very thought, fell upon his knees, and earnestly asked from the (Jod of the sanctuary that the people committed to his care might be kept from all harmful influences wheu assem? bled in the Lord's house.?Illustrated Christian Weekly. ? A day alter the recent lire in Lancas? ter a cat. was taken from the debris of the lire unhurt. It was concealed under a large pile of corn.