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The Quigmans By budixy Hickerson “I’m the top dog, she’s the queen bee and he’s the pint-size, blood-draining leech.” Heads and Tails BY JONATHAN HUGHES/THE GAMECOCK .-. WHEN HAL BROKE HIS GLASSES, NOT BEING ABLE TO READ WAS THE LEAST OF HIS WORRIES... j /wHyrsN ( MY SWEATER) \ BRE A THING?/ Everyday Joe by steven olexa I HAW TO YOU HAP TO JUST. .THINK WHOA HARP 60 TO THE <S£TTH6 SUPER Of SOMETHING WTHA TOftfT BATHROOM SLURPY^PN'T What’s Up? Welcome to What’s Up, the weekly advice column brought to you by the Counseling and Human Development Center interns and staff. Submit your anonymous questions to adviceatusc@hotmail.com. We offer no personal responses via e-mail. The center’s professional staff supervises all interns. The following advice represents the opinions of the center and not necessarily the opinions of The Gamecock. QUESTION: I have a friend who I suspect has an eating disorder. She really hates how she looks and has low self-esteem. What can I do to help her since she has not gotten help for herself? ANSWER: Your concern indicates that you are a caring friend. Eating disorders are common on college campuses, and they are difficult for both the person who is suffering and her or his friends and family. Above all, be sure to approach your friend from a stance of caring, support and concern, rather than accusation and blame. People tend to become defensive when told they have a problem. You can ucmiumoli aic yuui uuiU/cm iui her alarming behaviors in a non-judgmental way. Express to your friend how much you care for her, that you are concerned about her health and that you are willing to support her in any way necessary. Listen actively to what your friend has to say. It is the key to helping. Your friend needs to feel like she is being heard, supported and understood. If your friend is receptive, let her know about resources or go with her to see a professional. If she is not receptive, consider talking with professionals to get assistance wrth your feelings about •v v-:* ^_:.J.1:..... dealing with a friend who refuses help. QUESTION: It’s hard for me to go to sleep early at night. I want to because people in my hall are always up making noise. I just lie in my bed hoping they will be quiet. Can you help me figure out how to deal with this annoyance? ANSWER: Moving into a residence hall can be very difficult as most students have never experienced community living. Each person in the hall must take responsibility in assuring that residents' space and time are being respected. If you have not done so already, try asking the other residents if they would keep it rlnwn after a rertain hour. If it is music that is being played too loud or people hanging out in the hallway, politely ask that they utilize a lounge or turn down their music. It is important to be assertive and respectful by letting them know you need to sleep in order to do well in your classes. If this does not work, talk to your RA. He or she should be able to sen/e as a mediator in a discussion between you and the other residents. RAs have been trained to deal with these situations, so be sure to use them as a resource. QUESTION: My friends and I like to party on the weekends, which usually involves lots of drinking. This was fine for the beginning of the semester, but studying is more of a priority forme now. I am really struggling with telling my friends I cannot go out both weekend nights and drink with them. They tell me I am boring and say they are going to stop calling me. I don’t want to miss out on anything or lose friends, but I also want to do well in school. ANSWER: This is a common problem for college students and not just with friends who drink. Sometimes, friends are jealous of our time. It is important that you remember vour Driorities. Ifvou let your friends know both your success in school and your relationships are important to you, they might realize you are not choosing to distance yourself, but that you are choosing a schedule that will increase your chances of success in school. The USC Counseling and Human Development Center 777-5223 Seventh floor, Byrnes Building www.sa.sc.edu/chdc adviceatusc@hotmail.com Open Monday through Friday, 8:30a.m.-5 p.m. CROSSWORD ACROSS 1 Chowder chunk 5 Blunt - 9 Temple table "14 Nimbus 15 New York canal 16 Sierra Nevada lake 17 Surrounded by 18 Locate 19 Alan Ladd classic 20 Apparent 22 Spoke cat 23 Favor 24 Glum drop? 25 Hearten 28 Work for 32 Evidenced anxiety 35 Make merry 37 Halloween cry 38 Duck 39 Pole 40 Greek letter 42 Profit figure 43 River of Cologne 45 Rabbit residence 46 Sgt and cpI. ho iMuine resiueni 50 Sibilant sound 52 Consume 56 Creamy 59 Savior 61 Venomous serpent 62 _the line (obeyed) 63 City on the Truckee 64 Sharon of Israel 65 Hard or soft finish 66 Formerly, formerly 67 Unkempt 68 Nose alert 69 Colorants DOWN 1 Title holder 2 Harry Truman's birthplace 3 Type of skirt 4 Altered 5 Postpones 6 “Exodus” author 7 Dryer trappings 8 Set the pace 9 Lost 10 City near Rawalpindi 11 Melt 12 Top-drawer 13 Marsh growth 21 Guitar brand 22 Come together 24 Exchanges 26 Dangers 27 Entertainer Massey 29 Cover lor a crook 30 Campus mil. grp 31 Ark builder 32 Actor Sean 33 With in Arles 34 Stoic philosopher 36 Natural gas constituent 41 Yearned 44 Hodgepodge 47 Beaches 49 Margot of “Superman" 51 Country on the Adriatic 53 Fine-grained corundum 54 Intuit 55 Jogs 56 Swindle 57 Oliver’s request 58 Kimono sashes 59 Word with block or house 60 Younger Saarinen 62 Tango team © 2003 Tribune Media Services, Inc. 11/05/03 All rights reserved. • Solutions v ,»7, --r • ;• . . v-v - — t ’ • ■ HOROSCOPES ARIES You should feel as if a weight has been lifted off your weary shoulders. Take a moment or two to acknowledge yourself for a job well done. TAURUS Guilt is a dandy motivator, but joy is a better one. Sure, you have a lot to finish, but you’ll get it done. You can trust yourself. GEMINI It'll be easier to get away, if only for a little while. If you engage in physical activity, you’ll end up mentally refreshed. CANCER A person who loves to be obeyed could cause a ruckus now. Keep most of your comments to yourself and hustle to provide what’s required. You’ll make points. LEO You might be able to break away for a little while. There aren’t many obligations holding you back. But take care of the biggest obligation first. VIRGO Your financial situation may be causing you to feel tense. That’s because you’re not sure of each dollar and cent. Do the math. LIBRA You welcome a decisive partner’s opinion. That doesn’t mean you have to follow it, but in this situation, it looks like a good idea. SCORPIO Your workload is increasing, and that can be welcome if what you’re doing pays well. There’s no reason why it shouldn’t. Make I absolutely sure it does. SAGITTARIUS True love is a wondrous thing. You'll see another example of that within the next day or two. Enjoy! CAPRICORN Don’t try to put off a household project any longer. It won’t take as long as you feared it would, and afterward you can go out and play. AQUARIUS You need to stick to your old routine and keep the money coming in. You’d much rather be doing something more interesting, but it’s a little too soon. PISCES You should be in a pretty good mood about most things because you know you’re loved. The work may be rather demanding, but it should pay quite well. CALENDAR Wednesday, Nov. 5 “NOWHERE IN AFRICA": 3,7 and 9 p.m. Nickelodeon Theatre, 937 Main St. DAMN THE SUN AND PHIL YATES WITH POETRY READINGS, PRESENTED BY THE USC ENGLISH DEPARTMENT: 7 p.m. New Brookland Tavern, 122 State St. $5. “DIRTY BLONDE”: 7:30 p.m. Trustus Theatre, 520 Lady St. $13.50 general admission, $12 students. PROGRESSIVE COFFEE HOUR: 6 p.m. Jammin’ Java, 1530 Main St. No cover. JEFF JOHANSSON: Art Bar, 1211 Park St. No cover. JOAL AND ANDY: Sundance Bar & Grill, 902-B Gervais St. No cover. Thursday, Nov. 6 “NOWHERE IN AFRICA"' 7 and 9 p.m. Nickelodeon Theatre. PLEASURE CLUB WITH ADELAYDA, TIGERBOT HESH: 9 p.m. New Brookland Tavern. $6. L. E.A.: Art Bar. No cover. > ftl Starring Johnny Depp and Orlando Bloom. Wednesday and Thursday. Russell House Theatre. 8 p.m. Free. I