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age 38 Professor ( to prepare Preparing your children for their irst years away at college isn't just bout making sure they have enough ocks a.id pocket change, said a Uniersity of South Carolina professor. Dan Berman, co-director of JSC's University 101 program for reshmen and transfer students, said virnnfc tr\ nnpn nn nmir linAc rvf /aiCHLJ 1IWU LU V/pV/11 up XXV V* 1111W VI ommunications with their soon-to-be ollege freshmen. "Parents should cover a series of ssues, from-time management to how o do laundry," said Berman. "It's not ust about what is said, but how parents ay it. A college freshman wants to be alkedf - as an adult. Parents who offer riendly advice as opposed to preachng might find they get better results vith a college freshman." "When parents preach or talk lown to college students, it just em>arrasses them, especially if their oommate or other people can hear, dl that student is thinking about is iow embarrassed they are. They aren't irfamn/T *-f\ nrk^f fko r\arontr Kmro fn laiciiing; iu wiiat LIIV* paiv^iiLo navv. IU ay." Berman said treating a son or laughter as an adult isn't an easy tranCT P 1 Thk k d cY X A I1U 1U IX \^A Activities i ?T For more information a I iffers tips f siuaenis id sition for parents, but in the long run it will make the parent-child relationship stronger. Because college freshmen leave the structure parents worked hard to create in their home, most of the family discussion Berman recommends deals with helping students build their own structure. "Time management is a big issue that parents really need to talk with their children about," Berman said. "Students won't be successful in college if they don't manage time well and set priorities. Parents have invaluable experience with this and can offer frionrlKr nrlinro t-rv Koln chirlpnfc mnl/A n SLJiui v auvivw iu iiV/ip jiuuwiiu niaxvw the most of their time." Financial management is another topic parents should cover. Students will have opportunities to spend money at almost every turn. To make sure that newly minted freshmen have enough to cover the necessities, parents should talk to their children about how to make wise spending decisions and balance their checkbooks. "Money is always a big issue for freshmen and their parents," Berman said. "You have to decide from the start Mark Yow arent; October 1 *?* 1 /-vK 4- /^V TT T V^ClCUIdlC w lance for all parents take on the I include a Tailgate P and many othe bout registration or specific events, j Office of Parents Programs Departmen DISCOVER CAROLINA or parents ir colleae how much money to give a student, how often to give money, and what responsibility students must take for the money they spend." Parents also should make sure their students understand the dangers of credit card debt. Financial institutions often lure unsuspecting students with offers of easy credit cards, a situation that can lead to heavy debts and subsequent problems. And parents shouldn't forget about the little lessons, such as how to do laundry. "You would be surprised by how many college freshmen just collect their laundry on the floor until they go home," said Berman. "Most of them will say they don't know how to do l J D..i. 1 J 1 -J launury. dui us naru 10 ue an niuependent adult when you take your dirty clothes home to have someone else do it." Talking about all of these things, Berman said, will pay off in more ways than just having clean clothes and good grades. "If parents take the time to talk PARENTS continued on page 39 r Calendar Nou I WEEK - October 3,199S ith the whole famil) ; to see Coach Lou 1 lebels from Ole Mis urhr CorrJino Pirr Pi ai ij j v>aiwniia n^n :r Southern Traditu )lease call the Office of Parents Progr t of Student Life Division of Student an Making sure students have all their supj good, but even after the students have i of communication between parents and ;/ END . Holtz's Gamecocks s. ckin', 5K Fun Run ms! ams at (803) 777-6688 or (800) 868-675; d Alumni Services University of South Carolina mjk * H^H V K 81 Courtesy of The Gamecock )lies when they come to school is noved out of the house, the lines students should remain open. j K?9 i- Ijsl