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Wednesday, February 14,1996 i Jewish i BEVERLY WILSON Staff Write I will not hear the "Wei wedding. This is because I am Jewis on an exploration of the custo are unique to Jewish wedd married the wav mv anrest/vi found has been both enlighte As unromantic as it ma marriage is basically a legal < step in getting married is ten marriage. This is when the c are changing their status. They are then designated as bride and groom. Traditionally, this meant settling the dowry, setting the date and time which was sometimes written in an actual document. This is not a common custom in our times, but a couple often uses this occasion to make decisions about their life together. Bridal showers in Judaism reflect the communal sentiments Jews have often held in great esteem. Women of the community gather to celebrate sisterhood, dance, sing, and pass on memories to the bride. Women will then go to the mikveh, or ritual rJrrrrncr tVua wnolr their wedding to become ritually pure. Men also have parties where they sing, dance, and drink, however they are not quite "stag parties" because in Judaism, it is much better fc than single, so they do not r< night of freedom" found in 01 culture. Other customs include fasti the wedding and not seeing e of time ranging from a week in t to a day. Also, a father doesn't In Judaism the responsibility marry is on both parents so tJ father will escort her to the chu mother and father will escort These customs are not jus' but also to help signify the s< The Largest Selection of Incense in the Southeast Over 120 Blends of Incense, by the Ounce, or by the Pound. 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I wanted to get wbere he will recite blessings < *s ^ * ve the Torah in synagogue the er this and will break into song a y seem, in u aism, Qr juc^ when he finishes.1 urangement Thefot as the aufruf (pronounced as a aim or conditions of to Mv6e m ^ ouple announces they in non-traditional communitie E. Mysrson The Gamecc This I* a ploco of tho Illustration on Wilson's kotubah , , . , joke. This is called attending ti )r a man to be marned m. , t l-i . ,, ?, Then we will have a cerem illcn ho^nnrr thn w oof This is the veiling. I will be reac or modern American all the guests will come and lool , . . lower my veil. This is based on t ng the 24 hours before when Jacob married Leah inst ach other for a period We will then sign our Ketui radihonal ccmmmite marriage is a legal arrangeme give awa/ the bride, marriage contract which discus i to see their children him and he will do for me. This is ie bride s mother and ourselves and it actually stipul ippah, and the grooms ^ 0f divorce or the death i ; him to the chuppah. Traditionally it only providec t to build anticipation sriousness of what is 1 Happy Valenti Day/ 00-^a/t ^Largest Selection of In-Stock Wed< ^Veils, Shoes and Accesor ^Special Orders at Discount COMING FEBRUARY 1ST TO C 1410 St. Andrews Road # (Corner of Broad River Rd.) 798-9188 EDDEN > .emei mal Jewish or Hind lentine's Day The G ns for starting a life 5, law Tradit day is considered as DIPKA BHAMBHi f atonement, because Asst. Features Edi God'( ,, ... The family is unity oriented faith, ofatraditionalI lg the groom wJI get ^ fcrfies rata ling up, to the Torah erf married over it. Since we read Inthepast? iteMmmumtysees ^^^panat mdshoutMazelTov, S^,but>i This custom is known '+w 1T /v? 11 i influences, tti3t nui iff-rufi) and has been _.,v ti for the bride as well ^ m. i i s. ine peopie wn< The actual traditional parent wedding is very still involve the pa beautiful Before greatly. This bee the wedding, my through en examin fiancee will have ^d rituals of a E a tish. This is a .After a couple custom where their respective pi he will try to arrangements. Gen deliver a analyze the i teaching on situation of the bri something in the stars, s Torahtohis Based on the friends who will muhurta, the mo< | heckle him. This chart, the couple'; I is because it is whether or not iti I believed there go on with the wed< I will never be a ^ slightly incompat 1 day he is more may still go on bui 1 nervous than added pooja, or rel I this and some a Prayer gathering i boisterous totally incompatib I jesting with his will not man i buddies will Nowdays, cou I relive the star analysis, less, I tension. While groom get to know i this is going on, the engagement ar ' A - J T K* I will meet my luieraieu ini friends and we arraignment, whe 1 will sing and g mdon really, he bride. othm until they a ony called bedeken. muhurtaholdsag ly and my groom and the Parents bee; tat my ace and then mamageKvaysp, hestoiyintheTorah petftnns the et ead of Rachel. for the parents dnr bah. As I said before which makes mar nt. The ketubah is a most important n ses what I will do for . ^ first f ; our contract between ato the couple is; ates monetary sums stars and the fair of either spouse. ceremony. 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Every ti >n and star sign the families host one of these par 3 families decide they send away each guest wit vould be wise to t? thank them for coming ling. If the couple A day before the wedding, I ible, the wedding hride has something like a shov t not without an a ^reniony called Mehendio. igious ritual and She gathers with her fern ,r. If the couple is friends and relatives to eat, gosi le, in most cases ^d decorate her palms and f y. with a long term dye, henna. 1 pies rely on the designs on her hands and feet i as the bride and very intricate and take a long ti each other before f? create. id dating is more However, the pampering doe; i traditional stop there. On the actual day of re the bride and wedding, both the bride and gnx get to know parh h* their own houses, go througl re married, the purifying ritual. They clear , . . fhpmsplvpQ with a turmor reater weight to ?7: , , , ause jn in{iia sandalwood paste and oils, a aituaL A couple's ^ of aromatherapy. Then tl rentual salvation are bathed to chanting, ing their funeral It is customaiy for the bride riage one of the ***16 adornments on her wedd ites of passage. ^ Her female M ngement made ^ iumP m helP Set readyapproved by the Bndes m most P^ of Ind lily, is the ring wear sans' a nine-yard piece invitp all tailored silk. Generally for weddir ids to a party wear ^ yellow or red sa ing the couple's which ^ most PoP^are the bride and Traditionally, jeweliy indue necklaces, earrings, bangles, rin >WWWWW nary is "Lover; R tudio Suite Features: ate Whirlpool Bath {Equipped Kitchen ate Balcony I ?e Includes: Yachtsi antic Dinner for 2 \ : on your Pillow ed Bottle of npagne / :ome Gifts resort hc nance/Honeymoon' Call for E -800-868-88^ 1400 N. Ocean Blvd t??VVVVVVV* ? 9 ? i > still gets at different indu weddings ling a nose-ring, anklets, toe-rings and )lic armlets. Her hair is sprinkled with ie's scented water and usually in an his upsweep or bun surrounded with ice. a string of flowers. 1 of Grooms may wear a typical l, so Indian suit or a western three-piece. Turbans for grooms are very popular h e and/or a veil of flowers around the ling groom's head to protect him from r to any evil eye. The groom goes two through less adornment, lile Hie wedding site is traditionally ks. at the bride's house, and is a canopy the held up by a wooden frame lined ies, with flowers. lgs, When the groom is ready, he tes. seats himself on a white horse and i s e - starts the procession known as lily barat. His friends and relatives ost surround him while singing and ers dancing to the brides house, where irVit thp wpHHincr falrtwi Tho ctanc me of a wedding ceremony are: Jaimala ties is where the bride and groom h a garland each other, Kanyadana is when the bride's father gives her the away. Then a huge sacrificial fire rer, is started, and the bride and groom walk around it seven times. Actually ale the bride walks around the fire sip, three times. Then, while her groom eet makes his rounds, also called pheras, lie the bride stands upon a stone to are help her be loyal and faithful to her me imminent husband. After the pheras, the ceremony mt enters its. most imperative phase, the The couple takes seven steps im, together facing the north, as the h a bride comes to the groom's left, ise allowing him to take on the world, ic, With each of their steps, the couple s a prays for food, strength, wealth, ley happiness, progeny, cattle and devotion. The wife is then sprinkled ! to with holy water to purify her from ing any previous sins and prepare her yes for her new life. After this part, the marriage is considered final. The ia, husband marks his new wife with i of vermilion in her hair. The bride gs, then bids farewell, officially to her ris, own family. 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