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1 I Serving USC Since 1908 Wendy Hudson, Editor in Chief Matt Pruitt, Viewpoints Editor cuuunai Duaru Lucy Arnold, Jamie Clark, Gregory Perez, Stephanie Sonnenfeld, Allison Williams, Larry Williams, Ryan Wilson, Chris Winston Use fall break to relax and restate priorities To some students, the past month and a half seems to have lasted as long as a South Carolina summer. To others, these first several weeks of classes has blown by like a fun-filled weekend. To both types of students, the upcoming break is welcomed. The few days of rest which the university offers us provides a chance for us to regroup after midterm exams and those first few papers. For a few days in October, the academic workings of this university come to a halt. We are offered the chance to sit back and enjoy the other aspects of our university. This is one of the few times that students are actually allowed to stay in their residence halls when classes stop, providing a time for relaxation in the college environment. Many will go home to places far and near to see family and friends. Whether you're a freshman away from home for the first time or a seasoned college veteran, seeing all your missed loved ones is always an experienced to be valued. Take this time to regroup, both academically and socially. If s very easy to get caught up in the rush of college life and loose perspective. Fall break provides an opportunity to restate priorities and make sure that your reasons for being here are still the ones with which you entered college. Have a good one. It won't last long. Beardman reveals his guide to camping Fall keeps threatening to fall, but the weather continues to be rather CHRIS MULDROW warm and toasty around our happy rnlumnict home city of Columbia. Never theless, fall break is approaching, Sleeping bag temperature ratand I'm sure the weather will shift jngs are also somewhat confusing. A to a frosty new low and[leaves will bag rated for ten degrees, for instance, turn various Technicolor hues as sewn could either be perfectly warm at ten ' degrees or positively frigid. The trickv rpi , , i c thing is that you won't really know There s a good chance this first , ,, , . . ., i , . r I, r? j n j . how warm the bag is m cold weathshot at fall freedom will drive many 7?. ofyou to the outdoors for a wilder- eruntd you use.t m cod weather. . ness commune with Yogi, Smokey BnnS artra axis, some long underand any other famous cartoon bears weaf ??d a RV,wlth a.8ood heateryou might meet in the woods. If it's A quahty ram coat is esbeen a while since you've been camp- sential to camping (see earher teming, you might want a reminder of re erence^-" should have lots frt /]/\ nr\/l ttrh r?4- r\r?f i/* sJrv of Dockets so vou can easilv lose vour W licit tu UU CU.1U vviiat IlUt LU UU WIJLC11 * " ' ' in the wild, so here's the "Beardman miniature flashlight, water purifiGuide to Carrying Brightly Colored ^on tdMa 311(1 ^ keys 313 maze Highly Expensive High Tech Gear of zippered storage space. It should Into the Forest and Still Managing ^ be msde of the coolest-sounding to Escape A Few Days Later Alive." high-tech material you can find. First, you should acquire a stur- To bring all of your gear togethdy tent. Most tents consist of two er, youll need a backpack. Look for parts, the main tent and the fly. The room for your sleeping bag, tent, main tent is the part with all the zip- clothes, hamster, food, camp stove, pers, mesh windows, zip-out stove rain gear, water supply, flashlight, holes, pockets for your wallet, lofts first-aid kit and any other gear you for gear, and skylights. The fly is the might bring along. You might find part the tent unzips when it has to you need to buy two backpacks to use the restroom. hold all of your gear. Good features A good tent should elicit wide- to look for are removable day packs, spread attention from passing wildlife, adjustable hip belts, four-wheel driAt least three compliments from lo- Ve, air conditioning, anti-lock brakes cal woodland critters on the quality and a 20,000 mile service agreement 1 A _1_ _ 1 J 1_ 1 J J 01 your rem snouia De adequate to If you're still stuck as to which verify its worthiness as a wilderness gcar is ^ for your ^ ? ' j. , , , ,,, follow these simple guidelines: A good tent also should keep as .m, . little water off of you as passible. This . * moremppers ithas the is especially important ifyou're camp- ^tter. (Als? known. ing with me because any camping ^on Jac et maxim) trip I go on is highly likely to turn * s^ranSer the name of the into the biggest tempest since Bibli- %eaT or the material it's made from, cal times. I routinely cany a life pre- the better. server to camp with me to save my- If it was made in Europe, it's self from flooded campsites. better. By the way, the tent sizing sys- If it's forest green, it's better, tern is somewhat confusing until you If it's got Gore-Tex anywhere get used to it. A three-person tent in it, it's better, will comfortably hold two people and if you have to sign a complex their gear. A two-person tent will joan agreement to be able to afford hold one camper and gear. A one-per- it Abetter, son tent will hold a hamster, two wa , ,,, j ~ , 11 it s been to any mountains ter bottles and a very small flash- , , ,, f . li^l i [ where people need to bring oxygen A good sleeping bag is also key 'lt; ? better; , , , - . to enjoying your camping experience. Wlth 11113 &mde clutched firmly The best strategy for purchasing a 31 y?ur P3 311(1 y * head held ^ sleeping bag is to climb inside the y?u should be able to walk into any bag and zip yourself into it. If you outdoors outfitter and make them look like a giant Twinkie, it's prob- very happy people, ably a good bag. OfKT^rnrb N.Ts: TP-7 "XSKE"" vD^IIUJJLK ^d^ert4^ngj,IZ7"4249 Gregory Perez FAX: 777-6482 Design Editor Itudent Media Russell House-USO Columbia, SC 29208 ?^,an f !ms Online Editor Wendy Hudson Lucy Arnold Martha Hotop Chris Carroll Editor in Chief Stephanie Asst. 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Gamecock newsroom in Russell House room 333. ie Board of Student Publications and Communications is the The Gamecock reserves the right to edit all letters for blisher of The Gamecock. The Department of Student Media style, possible libel or space limitations. Names will not its parent organisation. ^ wjthheld under any circumstances. VHWj f S'N* p QUOTE, UNQUOTE "I admit to some exaggerati cuff remarks in Part two: Tr This is a continuation of Ken Traum's column in the Oct 11 issue of The Gamecock. I use a conceptual and symbolic model to explain the complexities of this stage. This model is known as Traum's Triangle. During this arduous second stage, the key to maintaining a successful relationship is the attentive and careful balancing of individual needs. The description of the triangle named "Individual" is as follows: Imagine a black ink equilateral triangle that fills and entire white page. All three vertices, by definition, cannot function without the existence of each other and are directly related. (For those in the public health field, think of the "epi-triad"). Each vertex contains a one word description: self-esteem, sexuality, and communication. These terms are defined as follows: oeii-esteem: All encompassing ot the individual. How one views him/herself, but also how society views the individual. The perceptions are angles of influence portrayed by the individual as whole. Sexuality: Related to any biological and/or emotional aspects of sex. In this case, sex is broadly and vaguely defined for reasons which allow for individual latitude and discretion. Simplistically, any verbal or nonverbal connotations which are related to any sexual innuendos. Communication: Any form of contact from individual(s) to other individual(s) and/or groups, communities, societies. As well as the internal notion of isolationism which permits individual Small S.C. to\ A small South Carolina town lost I a _ . rm l i I lis innocence inursaay morning ana will probably never be the same again. Toby Sincino, a recently suspended ? student ofBlackville-Hilda High School, 45 walked onto school grounds and shot sn a teacher with a .32 caliber hand gun hs before turning the gun on himself, pi, Sincino, 16, walked into a class- th room and shot math teacher Johnny hi] Thompson in the face. He then moved sti on to a teacher's workroom where he de was confronted by Phyllis Senn, who collapsed and died. Initial reports stat- a s ed that there were no wounds on Senn. tii Shortly after the confrontation, in Sincino shot himself in the head, af- B1 ter failing to get into the school's office. Apparently, Sincino shot Thomp- ha son over a argument about homework dc that got him suspended. bli Homework? lik There are so many things about op this incident that scare me. I am fViaf o lifo Viaa an/*V\ a nVioan U111UAVU UiUV U U1W XiUU QUVil U VilVUJJ Uvl price now. It sad that I can think about the the "good ole days" when disputes he were settled with fists, now a few ha words could mean gunshots. And when ouj I say good ole days, I am talking about it s five years ago. list And if the homework dispute doesn't make you worry, then the lo- Be cation it happened should. sta Blackville is a small town, about wa HJINT ROSSIS ^ RACISM \ > IM OUR / * I m ons, but that's it. I take it vei any way reflected negatively Gov. David Beasley, on his rema aum rounds KEN TRAUM Columnist communication amongst oneself. As the definitions sink in (read them twice if necessary), it is important to grasp the meanings of the triangle theory. As relationships grow, change, and eventually end, these three words remain constant, but adaptable as the relationships continues. In other words, self-esteem, sexuality and communication are always present, each influencing the others' growth or decline. Your self-esteem is directly correlated with perceptions of your sexuality. Thus, if you feel comfortable sexually in a relationship, then your self-esteem increases, I know what pleases me. I know what pleases my partners); the reverse is also true. If you feel comfortable with the level of communication exicfinor in fVio nolafinncliin fVion vnnr cov. XXJVXXX^ Ul UXV lVXUULUXiiJlil|/j UilVyJLX J UUi UVA uality increases, I can communicate to my partners) what makes me feel good, my partners) can communicate to me what makes him/her feel good; the reverse in also true. Remember that all three vertices relate to each other and that one cannot exist without the relationships to the others. You cannot have successful selfesteem without satisfactory levels of communication and sexuality. You cannot have successful communication without satisfactory levels of sexuality and self-esteem. And, finally, you cannot have successful perceptions of sexuality without satisfactory levels of self-esteem and communication. Please keep vn loses its in ?^ I ha RYAN WILSON erni oorti ojjuris nuuur 1 wh( i miles south of Columbia. Like many ] mil South Carolina towns, Blackville at b is one major corporation that emoys most of the town's population, ^ ^ e Ducane Grill company and the ^ ^ gh school has a enrollment of 370 ^ut idents (and thafs including the stu- ^ nts from the nearby town of Hilda). , I remember a few years ago when shooting at Eau Claire had the en- *??' e city of Columbia in shock. Just y?u< lagine how the small town of P?0! ackville is reacting. alwi We always read about shootings afte ippening in big cities, but those in- i lents seem so distant. I find it trou- trag ing that it has to take something thin :e this to happen in a small town to Can en our eyes. ^ f ] In early releases about the inci- wou it, it was reported that Sincino told Mm( } principal of Blackville-Hilda that didn't "expect to live to be 21." I ^ ve wrote on many occasions that r generation is a troubled one, but su^ teem that those in power just don't 03 ten ? maybe they will now. ^es Soon after the incident, Governor ^ asley flew to the scene with the step ite police chief. It was said that he / nted to calm the town and students. s ry seriously if anyone were to s f on my personal integrity and/i irks at Northwestern High School out relation; this in mind as the relationship develops and runs its course. As relationships mature, they need an adequate, but delicate, balance between self-esteem, sexuality and communication. Therefore, if an imbalance occurs, and it continues, then the final stage begins. In other words, the degrading triangle is oscillating because of the imbalance of the vertices. The triangle is no longer equilateral and dis- c solves into an unstable and uncontrol- t lable mode of effectiveness that produces a one vortex overpowering the others. This v is imperative to understand and con- a ceptualize, as I describe the final stage of relationships, the "desistance stage." t During this stage, two important e salient terms need to be defined, power L and control. Although these words have o various meanings and some vague as- c sumptions, they are highly effective, es- r pecially when explaining how a relationship declines and eventually dissi- a pates. b Power, by my definition, implies that t one person has specific and measurable fi influence over another person. Control 1 is the methodology, the river, in which d power flows. Therefore, an increase in r power leads to an abundance and con- p sistent, steady surge of control. In essence, t: they feed off of each other, when one n gains strength, the other answers, but r with more fervor and vitality. In this stage, the other person be- a comes the "beloved" and can feel sus- u ceptible to any request made by the en- si tity in power, whether a person, an ac- S tion or a belief Power is used to negatively d coerce the partners) into unwillingness inocence ? ve always found it funny that govnPRmnlo finr] if no/inonnwr f/\ incut uiiiucuo miu ib ucvcooaij vu d personal condolences to those ) have just experienced tragedy. My question is where were they efore these things happened. It ns that those in power would like link of things like this as "isolaticidents" and treat them as such, it is clear that something must lone. [t seems that those in power are i concerned with cutting money to 'fl th programs that could deal with >le like Toby Sincino, but you can ays find them consoling families r it's too late. Aiiuuiei issue urn uiise uut ui uiis [edy, and that deals with someg near and dear to many South )linians: gun control. This is a stotiat many members of the NRA Id like to hide, because it shows } Mure in the logic of the second ndment. According to second amendment wrters, Toby Sincino had a riglit rry that gun. Tell that to the famthat were affected by his rights. / ?he second amendment took a back Thursday morning. ^ few gun shots took care of that. rriaay, uc*ooor u, i"?8 c \ I o o /MWKmtl I jW^mi j i $1 V suggest that these off-theor character." ship theory icts of either conscious or subconscious >ehaviors. For example, always going >ver to a partner's house, always callng a partner without reciprocation and ilways giving in sexually even though rou don't feel comfortable (post-relaionship sexual activity?P.R.S A). Be:ause of the domineering expediential ?wer that the partner possess, I would aution the beloved to limit and further ontact with the partners). The partier(s) might be stripping the beloved of iny remaining self-esteem. In other rords, don't always be the partner who ilways gets stepped on. A relationship eventually ends when he beloved grieves, regains some selfsteem and, individually, moves on. This 3 up to the beloved, not friends, parents r counselors. This can be frustrating, lot only to the beloved, but to those who eally care, as well. In conclusion, relationships are just s complex as any multi-faceted human tehavior. We must learn about relaionships through past experiences, riends, books and, especially, theories. Tie goal of any theory is to bridge the iscontinuity between conjecture and eality. The goal of this theory is to exilain stages of relationships, how relaionships word, and offer some recomlendations based upon my past expeiences, and my research. Editor's Note: Kenneth C. Traum has BA. in Social Welfare from the Uniersity of California? Berkeley. He is a ornnrt-\torir crrnrlunto otnAont in tho 'chool of Public Health and hosts a raio talk-show on WUSC-FM 90.5. iser Look ~)AVE OkOHL /