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Thursday, October 12, 1995
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Lucy Arnold, Jamie Clark, Gregory Perez, Stephanie Sonnenfeld, Allison Williams,
Larry Williams, Ryan Wilson, Chris Winston
Bridge closing raises
questions about future
Those of you who live at Bates, frequent the P.E. center, or use the
athletic fields have noticed a slight inconvenience over the past month
or so.
A portion of the bridge running from the Russell House to Bates has
been blocked off due to construction on the new parking facility on Blossom
Street. The closing of the bridge forces students to walk through
McBryde Quad to reach the middle portions of the bridge.
Granted, the portion of the bridge that is blocked off is not excep
tionally large. Granted, walking through the quad isn't incredibly time
consuming in comparison to walking along the bridge. However, a few
disturbing questions do arise from this incident.
Most importantly, is this the type of inconvenience that we are
to expect over the next five years? The heat is on to complete the projects
outlined in the Master Plan, and it appears that the university is
going to pull out all the stops to reach their goal. This apparently includes
sacrificing student conveniences and welfare in order to complete
projects.
What's more, did you know that the Blossom Street garage is ultimately
going to be used for more faculty parking? Most don't. The university
has shrouded that fact. Why is our parking being moved to the
extremities of campus while faculty parking is placed dead in the center?
And the students are supposed to be the important ones, right?
Summertonians need
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Man, I've had it. I have finally
gone off my rocker, folks. This traf- DREW STEWART
fic problem in Columbia has me go- Columnist
ing crazy.
Is it so hard to at least attempt I also hate the traffic lights of Coto
travel above ten miles an hour lumbia. Nations have risen and felldown
Huger Street? Is it that diffi- en jn jess time than I spent at the
cult to drive with the flow of traffic light, at Assembly and Blossom Streets,
so I won't have to wait until I'm dy- The first time I tried to go through,
ing of old age before I get home? j wag worried I would be late for class.
In Summerton (pop. 975), we don t By the time I did get through, I was
have that kind of problem. That s be- wondering if I could still make gradcause
Summertonians practically uatfen.
wrote the book on how to drive. Now here's one thing that missed
Summerton's driving techniques the South that Yankees ire more
are not hard to master by any means, than welcome to have to themselves:
For instance, when you are confronted toll booths
by a deer in the road, do you The day toll roads show up in
10 South Carolina is the day I pack up,
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(b) swerve out of the way, hoping the Hereyougo. Tall can have it."
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(c) keep going, hit the deer, and take f , n
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home to show all your friends. . A/r jo ^ , j
The answer depends on the sit- ^ ^ Summerton voted
nation. If you are in a Memedrs-Benz, "ot to 5? one;*>"' Ae R^m fotoBMW
or one of those wimpy cam like ^ln|Jbe revohitionar.es they are
a Geo Stonn the answer is (a). If yon decided 10 P"'?ne "J ??1)6 R"nnn
are in any American car, the answer ^d^ay (the road between Sum(b)
because yon never know what mG. .n an , , ,
your brakes are gonna do. If yon have . ?lasted atout three days nntd
a pre-1975 automobile, a pickup with f?lks noticed that the moonshine
roll bars, or a four-wheeler and if you trade ui Rimini had taken a sharp
have had a bad hunting season, the nosedive The Rimmians then deanswer
is, or course, (c). cided just to burn it down and forget
We also have different interpre- a1""1 ll (same 88 we 4d mthout Yan'
tations of traffic laws. For instance, ^ee Suggestion Box in downtown
the speed limit is the speed one trav- Summerton, but all tnat was mere
els when there is a patrolman near ^or was c?Hect paper to line our
by, otherwise, it means how fast you ^og P6118 with anyway),
vehicle can go. But, how, Mr. Stewart, do you
All of these Columbia folks don't plan to remedy the situation? Well,
know driving from riding a skate- first off; I think the state exam should
board. Whoever heard of stopping be written by a group of Summertofor
a yellow light. Heck, where I come nians, consultants from the driving
from, a yellow light, is a signal for you team of The Dukes of Hazzard, and
to test how quickly your car go from all of the NASCAR drivers. Then for
35 to 60 before the light turns red. every traffic violation, punishment
And what's this about Yield. A would be setting the violator's car
yield sign where I come from serves radio on a state supported all-Menudo
the same purpose as the green flag station for a certain time,
at a stock car race. The winner gets I'll see j^all next Thursday, unthe
satisfaction of knowing his car is less you see a blue flash going about
the superior vehicle, while the loser 80 miles an hour down Gervais rundoesn't
get to where he's going as fast ning all of the yellow lights. Then
as he wants to. you'll know it's me.
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Traum prese
Note: This is the first in a multi-part
series. See future issues for continuance.
Everyone has had relationships, some
good, some bad. Some relationships can
control, direct and often manipulate 1
every aspect of our lives, sometimes ben- i
eficially and sometimes detrimentally.
Since we spend much of our lives
around others, many relationships are
friendship-oriented or job-related. As
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Of course, some relationships are
purely sexual; hence, the "one night
stand," the critical tradition that always
ends with the "walk of shame," or, some
would boast, the "walk of fame."
Nevertheless, relationships are exceedingly
important for human growth.
So much so that many current authors
are explaining gender differences in
rather simplistic terms, thus attempting
to assure us that relationships can
flourish in a healthy and non-threatening
manner. In fact, some books have
reached such popularity that they appear
atop the best-seller lists.
Although you may agree or disagree
with the methodology of such dispersive
tactics of some "helping relationship
methods," I have compiled my own research
and have concluded the following:
romantic relationships have specific
stages of development. As well, relationships
can be successful, but only under
certain guidelines.
In this article, I explain Traum's Theory
of Romantic Relationships. Simplistically,
how to recognize, achieve and
end a romantic relationship through the
understanding of how a relationship
works.
There are three distinctive stages:
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Smokers, tak(
I chew gum, but when I can't I enjoy
pure smoking satisfaction. This is a habit
I picked up about six years ago due to
subliminal advertisements directed specifically
at adolescents and other people
with little or no rational thought.
This may come as a shock, but it has
recently come to my attention that - get
this - smoking is bad for you. (I have also
leaned that water is wet and the earth
is round.) I feel rather silly for not having
realized this before, especially since
packs of cigarettes have warnings clearly
emblazoned on them. They quote famous
people like the Surgeon General
as saying, "Smoking may cause pregnancy,
give you a desire to operate heavy
machinery, and is overall pretty cool."
Honestly, I have known smoking is
unhealthy since I started and I have
tried several times and several methods
to quit. None of these have been terribly
effective, as evidenced by my continuing
to smoke. However, some people
claim that these methods can be and
have been very effective, and therefore
warrant sufficient discussion and analysis.
The first and most common method
is usually referred to as the 'cold turkey
method. There are a couple of theories
as to why it is called this.
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the superficial stage, the adjustment
stage and the desistance stage. The
acronym SAD is helpful and also ironic.
As with all theories, there is much
need for improvement. However, this
theory is an attempt to make relationships
more sound and less threatening.
The word "commitment" comes to mind.
The flexibility for heterosexual, as well
as homosexual, relationships makes this
theory extremely noteworthy and credible.
The superficial stage is the first stage
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unfamiliar is the most influential criteria
for the beginning of this stage.
As mentioned, meeting somebody
new depends on where, how and under
what specific circumstances allow for
the initial encounter.
The stage is marked by shallow and
feeble, yet creative and exciting, attempts
to establish either verbal or nonverbal
conversation. We can approach someone
and use highly ineffective one-liners
or we can just stare in hopes of receiving
the impulsive, but all material,
eye contact.
Although these inventive methods
do not always work and often embarrass
us, they can create a sense of emotion
which is both pleasing and stimulating.
This explains why we continue
our efforts even though we're ignored
and laughed at.
However, there is more specificity
and structure needed in some instances.
I call this the three-step rule. This means
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ence to the increased appetite of the poor
fool trying to quit smoking. This person
will have a constant desire to raid the
fridge, which, of course, eveiy red-blooded
American keeps stocked with plenty
of cold turkey. Hence the name the 'cold
turkey method.
There is, however, another faction
who believes that this name comes form
an old Canadian custom of hitting smokers
in the head with a frozen turkey if
they reliise to extinguish their cigarette.
Example:
Nice Canadian lady: "Excuse me,
would you mind putting that out?"
Smoker: "Step off, eh."
Loud smashing noise.
In any case, the 'cold turkey' method
is when the smoker simply stops smoking.
As simple as it sounds, it isn't. I
compare a smoker who puts out his cigarette
and says "There, I quit," to the
overweight person who puts down his
sandwich and says "There, I'm thin."
There are many nicotine withdrawal
symptoms to look for as either a smoker
or a friend of a smoker who is trying
to quit. First, that person will be very
hungry, very often. He or she will also
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that successful relationships need timing,
trust and spontaneity.
For all partners involved, timing is
imperative and crucial. For example, if
I had recently broken up with a partner
in which our relationship lasted four
years, the likelihood that I would immediately
seek another long-term commitment
is doubtful.
In other words, like physical healing,
emotional healing takes time, and
after a four-year obligation, I would not
instantly redirect my intentions for instigating
a new commitment. The people
who make this fatal error are only
on the rebound and are fooling themselves
out of the necessary grieving
process. Moreover, trusting that some
one is telling the truth regarding their
past baggage (past relationships, sexual
partners or mental disorders) is difficult.
Thus, learning to trust somebody
during the superficial stage is laborious
but mandatory. Ibis assumes that achieving
absolute honesty is a priority between
partners.
Defining what trust actually means
depends on the relationship; more specifically,
how, what and by whom the relationship
is directed toward. Most of
the time, trust means complete assurance
and certainty about the character,
ability, strength or truth about someone
or something.
Nevertheless, trust is not a tangible
thing. You can't just reach out and grab
it. Thus trust is illusory and must be
earned during the development and maturation
of the relationship.
Since the superficial stage doesn't
permit long-term duration of maturation,
trust can only be used loosely. But
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be very listless. As usually happens,
stuffing your face and sitting on your
butt can lead to weight gain, and you
can expect to see an additional 10-300
pounds jump onto your body.
In addition, the smoker will be EXTREMELY
irritable for approximately
six to eight years. For the first few days
I would avoid this person, and under no
circumstances would I make this person
angry. Bad things have been known
to happen. Example:
Any Moron: "Could I bum a cigarette?"
Loud smashing noise.
Another method of kicking the habit
is taking up smokeless tobacco. Now I
can certainly see how smokeless tobacco
is better for your lungs, but the nico
tine addiction is still present and the
risk of mouth and throat cancer are increased.
So, instead of cutting myself
with a razor blade I'll just use a steak
knife. In other words, it just doesn't
make sense.
Which brings us to the patch. The
patch is designed to wean you body off
of nicotine while saving your lungs from
harmful smoke; however, what is intended
and what actually happens are
often two very different things.
Some people continue to smoke while
wearing the patch, making that person
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are involved to establish a criteria through
which trust is understood.
Setting guidelines that are suitable,
yet individually accessible and agreeable,
about dating, seeing or being sexually
active with anyone else is highly
recommended and can only build trust,
not employ skepticism.The most important
and well-liked characteristic of
the three-step rule is spontaneity. Everyone
enjoys acting on impulse; therefore,
any actions, events or opportunities that
allow for unplanned creativity is advisable.
In a social context, if we meet our
partner unexpectedly, we can feel comfortable,
available and under no obligation
for further conversation or night
ly commitment. We might feel fortunate
that someone we're involved with is neai
and watching. This temporarily satis
fies our need for security.
However, because we haven't reachec
a level of concerned awareness (watch
ing and listening to your partners ac
tions and language to the extent of car
ing and formative content analysis), anj
jealous action taken by the other doesri
matter to us.
In fact, some people just ignore thei
partner altogether and subtly expres
internal lust just because the involve
is acting interested. This is a clear ex
ample of playing the game and can b
considered romantic but unhealthy
When you eventually experience j
feeling, emotion belief or behavior tha
warrants concerned awareness and fe<
it necessary to communicate with you
partner about those feelings, then you'v
reached the second stage, the adjust
ment stage. (To be continued tomorrou
kes a quitter
violently ill, and possibly dead. Mo
intelligent people take off their pate
smoke a cigarette, then reapply the pate
Others find it terribly difficult to ke<
the end of the patch lit.
Other marketable methods inclu<
hypnosis, wherein you subconcious
cluck like a chicken every time you wa
to smoke; smokeless cigarettes, whii
need no explanation to explain their f
tility; and the frozen-turkey metho
which involves ordering a pre-froz<
turkey from Canada.
There is another method, very po
ular among college students, which,
theory, weans you from cigarettes. I
called the I-only-smoke-when-I-drii
method. I know several people who we
driven to alcoholism by their refusal
break this rule.
In fact, I rarely smoke unless I'
drinking; however, I drink like I vot
early and often. You can probably s
the weaknesses in this method witho
my pointing them out.
If it weren't so enjoyable then qu
ting smoking wouldn't be so hard. Ma
Twain once said, "Quitting smoking
easy. I've done it thousands of time
I have, too. Maybe one day I'll get
the motivation to quit, but hey, nobo
likes a quitter.