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Monday, February 14, 1994 Distance n i i the heart j J Love seeks to open every orev oore everv emotv look j r - r / w clutched in a fist. Even at a distance, through telephone wires, through the post, through thoughts, it greets life because it is a life of its own. A long-distance relationship prevails. y 1 Out of all the Jf / emotions this life w*** seeks to create for If ?1 , ^ g v us, it is love which 1 proves to be the most universal. iH. Groping for it in | the corners on McliSSci A barroom stools T 1 and sniffing for it C0UJN L. in the sun-filtered classrooms, we - find love defiant. It is a child hnlHino onnthpr hprdiiCP it promises intoxication in the adult life. Love stands boldly, not subtracting itself from any part of life. Walking through campus alone, facing long weekends apart and embracing a sunO drenched moon, you know how love grabs every thought, however mundane, however ordinary. Its lacing voice makes you crave its simple glance. Constant daydreams erode ^ the features. You cannot refflHHHHHHHIl[[A member the details of each m ^\. curve, how the eves hi ink how % the smile forms because your mind has worn the tape. So, if ? Girls u \ J on Vale whom V ' one of bay lea \ O corner middle had to l 7\ / remove i J College coup By WENDY HUDSON News Editor In these days of two-week cou one-night engagements and quid ^ dings at a chapel by the sea, the i ^ traditional engagement has chang | 1 Though few couples have a reco VI ing 67-year engagement like ( Guillen and Adrianna Martinez ol >0 did, a long engagement can be he college students. "A long engagement gives you p time to prepare, not just for the \ but also for starting out in your nei gether," said advertising/public rela nior Amanda Mullinax, who will ha engaged 20 months when she gets in May. "You get to get a job, buy furnii surance and all that other big,; stuff," she said. "It's an advantage pie who are in college, more than i ready have a job." Sometimes, getting engaged is t logical step in a relationship, said gineering senior Andy Busbee, v been engaged for 15 months. "We had been dating for four ye I J 1 said. "We were then coming to a | A In anci< ^ the day was tak [ \ \ write tl paper a selectee By the sending those at placing such an A ^ / &*> * / \/t / /,"< I Wk 6amecock Carolina! love is real, why shouldn't it stand up to the pull of miles. Miles stretch as does the neck of love. It is not a constraint to these miles. y xll Waking in the morning without arms to surround a tired, *fh For use loners, "L bodies are meant Valentine's Day to have love J A] breathed down just another the soul's back. / The eyes, deep manic Monday and whispering Tennen words, are flut- By LUPE EYDE tering nervously Staff Writer 1NIST 1 ' ^ e S, weaty veryone knows 1 palms because W / J Valentine's Day is the love is absent supposed to be at this moment. happy, filled with Living hurts when love is not gifts and the laugiuit wucii 11 laiutui ut m i pruiiiidC U1 lUVC. stroked. And thejieart and | J It's hard to ignore mind are fused together. It is a S when every store burden to move when love can- is plastered in red and white. Magnot. azines and newspapers are satuGrabbing love's heavy head, rated with ads and articles. And you smile, realizing you have a everyone is getting or ordering power, a cache of strength flowers. holed inside of your soul. You But many people hate Valenscoop the drooping in in your tine's Day, because they're rehands. And your smile deepens minded constantly they don't have until it cuts your chest open. a valentine and aren't anyone This is OK because love will else's. Like other holidays such as drink every drop and hold a Christmas or Thanksgiving, people steady eye until you can swal- 8et depressed because they don't low. It is life. It is love. And this have anyone to share the holiday is why love at a distance en- wit^dures. Elementary education senior Tina and business senior Susan ?>? it wear black on Valentine's Day. *ntine OpCilS "We're just protesting it," Tina A said. "It's supposed to be a day of love, but I think it's a crock." ~ " 7. ~ "It's just to make a statement," sed to try certain spells out Susan said ..Because everyone's :ntme s Day to find out h ^ ^ ^ they might marry. This_was ?7'/? them: She had to pick five , ""/"'f ves and pin one to each bl?ck f^veral years ago in high of her pillow and one to the school after Tina broke up with As she went to bed she her boyfriend, take a hard-boiled egk and . first, it was a joke, but now : the yolk. The hole tnat was ma^es senset Tina said, be egg had to be filled with 0ther people believe Valentine's be had to eat the egg, salt Day should focus more on friend:11 while sitting up in bed in ship. In many countries, today is without a drink of any sort. called "The Day of Friendship and aid not drink until morning. Love," which considerably delay in bed, she would dream t creases the stress of giving and renan who would marry her. ceiving gifts, course, she could not So, if Valentine's Day is a downn her dream to anyone for er, celebrate it with friends in5 after, or the charm would stead. Not only will this lift spirits, cen- but the stress involved in dealing with an actual valentine will be eliminated. ties willing to wait on tying Ailr pphtinncKln thot vnn l/nnnr x^rhot haa/Ic "If tka Um/Ia ? vw* iviui.lv/iwmp Ultti j vu IV1IV V> WIJO.I i 1CV.UO 11 Li lv. UilUL V> to take place. You know what needs to be pends on where rtships, done. We decided to get engaged and go the different ven< kie wed- fr?m there." place where sh dea of a A long engagement also gives the couple Some places she ed. a chance to get to know each other better, a year acjvanc< ird-hold- Busbee said. Engagements 3ctavio "You don't feel rushed," he said. "You cause some frust 'Mexico get that much more time to get to know nax said lpful for each other. We also have plenty of time to ?It.s hard havi plan stuff." , , . , , >lenty of Saving money to pay for a wedding is an- said vedding other reason to have a long engagement, , foppthpr Th, v life to- said Vivian Jackson-Gore, a bridal consul- . , h h tions se- tant at Personally Yours Bridal Consultant e,t ^ ^ Cf . ?l ive been Services. my house with rr married "A long engagement gives the bride and esPecial|y during the groom a chance to save money for the * 1 'mPat'ei ture, in- wedding," she said. "If you don't have any mont unti' W( serious savings, If s harder to put together a wed- sai" 11 iust 8ets forpeo- ding unless your parents are paying for it." Making sure m f you al- To plan a large wedding or a wedding in an important re a popular reception or ceremony place, an gagement, Busbe he next engagement of six months to a year is nec- "Make sure yc civil en- essary, Jackson-Gore said. ing," he said. 'Th irhn hns "WpHHinoc orp rv\r?iil3r ooain " cKp ciiH il Inna pnoaopm W r? vwuiugu ?tv aftiu. ? ,v"l) "I need six months to one year to plan a knew what we w ars," he wedding to where everybody isn't stressed help us realize tf point in out or running around at the last minute, shouldn't be rusl Valentine History G<iy CC ^ By ELIZABETH CA1 r,, ,, ... 1 1 Staff Writer ent times, beb. 14 was believed to be ?? ... m ? ?npi This Valentine's Day, cllosc their mates' Thls munity at USC is cclebn en over by young people who would anniversary of its figh le names of possible mates on slips of world where they can < nd draw them by lot. The sweetheart 'ove as ^ree'y ^ most h 1 this way could be changed a year later. C^?Feb. 11, 1983, the end of the 19th century, the custom of an(j Lesbian Associatior * anonymous messages or cards to sued the university for ii imired was well established. In later became recognized as ai he sending of cards was replaced by the ferccf by^Student Affairs of announcements in newspapers. All dents are still strue&line aorous activities had nothing to do voices heard. : saint or saints whose memory is According to BGLA P :d on this day The day could have been Gersh, the group disci ro's Day, a saint also commemorated Sed^te'fliersTg day. But St. Valentine was better against gays surfaced arc Even though much of the day's However, outrage and a has been forgotten, Feb. 14 will most to pioneering i tmain St. Valentine's Day for new^,'hsei'fi8h"?ng 5P' 3 BGLA Vice Presi Source: A Dictionary of Days Turbeville shares this d< in the face of adversity. 5_ ? ? m 'W fw^y ||j U^^K ^B ?f !F WM! "' m^mmt ^ KfS^' WS^ ml KgflHyf...; jili^pflljsf. BBHHBpl Hp i wF_f ^usi ^ ?h IBSE^^S^ i m jfl UhmBI p 11 fW: Emily Peterson/The Gamecopk Scan Weiss desperately looks for a Valentine's date Sunday on the Russell House Patio. the knot ^ W rants a big wedding, it deshe'll have the wedding, lore she'll want to use, the I e'll have the reception. wants to use mav book un w Ik m Hi. of more than a year can ration, Busbee and Mulli- f w^BiU ng to wait because we're >- :;, y?|IILLit being married," Busbee ise her parents or | ty J^m j^BBi ; a long engagement." ^QB||ggB the impatient." the step ^ ^Jr '" to have a long en:e said. >u know dothe reason ; ent, to confirm that we , . T, , . Emily Peterson/The Gamecock, < ere oing. e pro ems Sophomore Jared Patrick and senior Trina Gannaway share a pre- ?. lis is a senous matter thai valentine's Day smooch, led into." ' ^ luples fight for free love KPENTER As an RA, Turbeville discovered the students, they have their work cut out name calling from the students on her forrhpm Thphi0nPct mv.it c^mctr, t to create a "That moment really made me T"" tkhe1.Same sex' ?ersh . express their think, 'Why am I in the closet when 1 ?r ^ersh- heterosexuality is a iirieterosexuals can help combat this ignorance?'" she me turn off. lurbeville more df-, says. rectly says, "Honey, don 't flatter you rBisexual Gay The students who are open about se^i successfully their sexuality are taking care to fos- Popular opinion seems to think t s charter and ter a safe environment for those who monogamy and bisexuality are mutu-" ' l official cam- aren't ready to make the step. ally exclusive, he rights of- A majority of the members are not This makes it difficult to date guys But gay stu- out, so BGLA's main purpose is to Tutbeville says "Their reaction is en to make their prov.de a support system for them, ther I'm no. going to be dumped for' issed last se- do not acknowledge them in public. ,, 8 . . y , ds ,l sm-: ind when un- Turbeville says, "When I came out . r t0 e relallonsh,Ps with other - 1 hivYinl npnnlp * ing violence 1 was prepared for it. and it still " ^^usc is in what Gersh calls ,und campus, wasn t easy A lot of people are g Bible Belt, the bisense of loy- thrown out. I ve heard the horror sto- .... , . , .> members re- ries about outing, and I would never sexual. gaY anc cs student I k \ . ? rit. want to do that to anyone." 's st'cking together to dissolve the dent T o n i Education is the group's other pri- mystery, destroy misconceptions and v'. ^termination mary function and according to the show that Valentine's Day is for them, stories about reactions from fellow too.