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Carolina Life Monday, November 13,1989 THE GAMECOCK 4 Student tail By KATHRYN JEFFRIES Staff Writer Jim Hefley considers himself lucky. Unlike fellow homosexuals on campus, he most of his friends and family accept his sexua "I really feel like I am atypical because I haven't had many bad experiences at all," Hefley said. "I think part of it is that I'm very comfortable with it. . . .People don't usually find out by reading my name in the paper or anything, but because I talk about my roommate, or I have a lesbian friend who does this. I guess I sort of put it on the table, and I talk about it enough so that it is a gradual process." Hefley is president of the Gay and Lesbian Student Association, an organization that serves two purposes: supporting homosexuals and educating the community. He said there are about 20 members, but that number is rising. The group meets on alternate Mondays and Thursdays to accomodate all members' schedules. Hefley said the members are his friends, and they socialize often outside meetings. Now a second-year master's candidate in social work, Hefley came to USC in 1984 as a sociology freshman. He joined the GLSA immediately. He said his first experience coming out was at his first meeting, the week of his 18th birthday. A native of Lancaster, Hefley said he knew he would find more support in a hieeer citv. OO J "Coming out was definitely on my agenda for coming here." He found the support he was looking for. At Thursday's meeting he named at least two members who were essential to his decision to come out. Hefley said his family found out during his freshman year and accepted it early on. They have been surprisingly supportive, he said. "I didn't think they would be because I come from a Southern Baptist family. My d mom's always taught Sunday school... but "I can talk openly about it," he said. "Last time I went home, I had some inform I wanted to go on. It's real expensive so I can O How We Need Yoi I N M ; IStaial! W A Special Invitation To U Come and Celebrc 1,000 Years of the Church n ~ " X The onion domes ol Moscow's great Smolensky A SCENIC TOUF WITH SLIDES AND COMI by Dr. Lauren E. Brubaki Chaplain Emeritus, Th Wednesday, November 15, The Diocesan House 1115 Wi sponsored by The Episcopal Church on C kS about his ex look at this.' I showed her looking guys ? you know 'Well, I guess this isn't on< is rarely harassed, and of, huh?'" ility. Unlike his family and fr cepting. He said he never < mmmm in his wa Wh at f lid IJ hor ma bei inoc ws J-X WU me car < T J 1116 It mMm V for hai Mean ?, dCK cor Tn Ro ~ 1 (J fin j car O c?: m ? "V T* / kjcSLY C % 1/ res 1 do< eas leg lad's a deacon and my jeft t0 deal with their homos they have accepted it. "if yOU come out here, it sional world." "Being gay isn't just wha ation about a aav cruise and how voii doal with othp.r 't go, but I said, 'Mom, You're different," he said. . O type blood is rare j and special. GIVE M11 BLOOD, PLEASE! * znnnxnxxxxnxn: Questions or Concerns c CAROLINA PROGRAM I Ideas and Issues Comr Presents 1REAKFAST with PRESIDEI |> Nov. 14th 8:00am Golc 7?oy pmmMmgmmgvi pmmmammmmmmtmmmmmKmammmmmmmmmmmmm SC Students Got Tl ite in Russia ' * 1 - ' i ; ? _ ... i ? r.nthariral I V1ENTARY er, Jr. e USC 6:30 PM II wl II [arion Street u r R ( ampus ;periences ^ha the brochure. There was a bunch of good- feat how those brochures are ? and she said, s of those things you're going to grow out - By KATHY Staff Writer iends, acquaintances have not been so ac- The USC experienced physical violence while living will open its the Douglas and Preston residence halls with violin ! freshman and sophomore years, but he the Koger Ce s never allowed to forget that he is Theperfor pAronf A ntAniA \/iif lwviiu nuiuiiiu y i?( The worst part was every single day, af- which exploi Douglas hall found out, was coming cally. It will ne and cleaning my door. They got black Bloch's "C gic markers and put things like 'gender piece with a ider' on my door." die Chamber rhese days, Hefley lives off-campus with olms, violas, lover of two-and-a-half years, whom he . Hearing t t through friends. But he still has to be is a different eful conductor E 'It's one thing when a straight couple is at 11 s very 11 airport or getting in their cars going their bade an.d enJ< >arate ways," he said. "Maybe they'll kiss I think e\ the street or at the airport. They take that t^ie Four granted, whereas we have to settle for a popular son? idshake." hear in b Jnlike the myth, Hefley said figuring out die C0UPlfs ether or not someone is gay is not as easy seasons in seeing that magic look in the eyes. How- music majc ?r, an extended amount of eye contact Brown said, ss make him wonder, and because he is Sound effe nfortable with his homosexuality, he can str 8s &lve e tally tell if someone is a homosexual after . Bor winte :w days. feci with 01 fie is sometimes physically attracted to ticello. It so light men, but he said there's nothing he chain. It s a i do about it. "We are all pretty much into sound, seni< lsenting sex," he said. education ma rhis year, Hefley set up a cabinet, dele- Memoh said, ing much of the work to members. He . .conce d this allows for greater attachment and u?n P1 nonsihilitv to the mim. talent. Some _ooking to the future, Hefley said he r?USlcl isn't expect to find a support group as r^r c ,estr? ily as he has at USC. He said many col- 25-member < e students simply don't find one and are sist? undei exuality alone. Tm "hon doesn't have ramifications in the profes- "And David violinist," he t you do sexually ? it's how you think people. You tend to feel like an outsider. I American Red Cross I SC Regional Blood Services about USC? JNION nittee STT HOLDERMAN len Spur - Limited seating av Sign-up in the CPU o 209 Russell House. \2222jjj2211Z2111I2I22 ews tip? Call The Ga What's big, helpful and friendh and sells textbooks and Gamecock Clothing? DDAM'S II I V E R S I T Y ) 0 K S T 0 R E mber orchestra to ure violin soloist HEBERGER Kim's sixth-place finish at the International Tchaikovsky CompetChamber Orchestra ition in 1986 was the equivalent to season Tuesday night being named the sixth best violinsoloist David Kim at ist in the world. ? a r \ nier lor uie axis. 4por a Columbia boy ? that mance will begin with ajn>t violin professor John ildi s Four Seasons, Bauer said of his friend Kim, who es each season musi- lived in Columbia in the late '60s conclude with Ernest ancj early '70s. Kim's parents were oncerto Grosso, a both on the USC faculty at that piano part as well as time. Orchestra s usual vi- "j remember the day his mother, cellos and basses. who was a piano teacher here, he Chamber Orchestra brought David in to play for me t kind of experience," when he was about ten. He )onald Portnoy said, knocked my socks off. It was wonitimate. You just sit derful. He played like he was 40 3y ll- years old," Bauer said, rcrybody should enjoy icons' because it's a When he waS eight' Kim was T, , . taking lessons at the Julliard '' S music y u School of Music, from which he 3C groun as later graduated with a bachelor's walking through the and mastef and an M A M ^ e ovlcp Junior twelve he played the "Paganini ,r and celllst Heidl Concerto." cts with the bows and . "Hc'S a bri,liant kid- ^ "Paga" , , nini Concerto" is probably the season character mos( difficuU violinPmusic ^ r we do a special ef- wor,d ? was his deb ? B jr bows called pon- , itT ... unds like a draeains sa,d' 1 lhlnk he 11 keeP gettm8 better. Some people might stop afmystenous, awesome Kr feachi ? gut f 31 '"Sttumental music vid ., ju* , h jor and viohnist Chns ^cmbers ^ rt will be a combina- [^"8 f? rd to working with i j , , Kim. 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