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^uupxion By Ellen Goodman Tin Boston Qlobo BOSTON ? Not long ago, the adoption of a handled like a top secret real-estate d*al. The bii signed away the deed to her property, relinqui rights forever, and the adoptive parents becam elusive new owners The adoption agency acted as a kind of real-esta in this business. In the course of their negotiations mother was promised anonymity and the adoptiv were promised a clear title. They were now, an more, The Only Parents. The role of the agency after the deal was cl simply this: to keep the birth parent free from < and the adoptive parent free from intrusion AnH ? AI IVt was freed from what they felt would be the pain fusion of having "two mothers" or "two fathers." The theory was that then everyone could forget tl But secrecy never kept anyone from wondering, past few years, as illegitimate birth has bee shameful and roots more meaningful, birth mot adoptees have wondered out loud about each other Some have gone further. Adoptees like Betty Jai have written publicily of their search for birth Many birth mothers have formed support grouj they can remember and recover together. And to< are several organizations, like Orphan Voyag On Satire 1 pffpyc soaked Itto'i lvf v;V^ JL kJ more for a ha Gamecock, al ine source The Gamecock welcomes letters Smith's local from its readers. Letters should be terview Bossy a maximum of 300 words and must be signed with the writer's correct name, telephone, mailing address, think of the mi class standing and major. Bossy*- s Pseudonyms are unacceptable, but casion. the writer's name may be withheld Reporter: Ho by request if circumstances affect you. warrant. We reserve the right to ! edit letters for space. Address andeducaie 11 IpttorL' frv. /~v " ?wvvi o V^d mpus upinion, The a slt;reo lr Gamecock, Drawer A, USC, Travolta fevei Columbia, S.C. 29208. ' ' Reporter: Saj stuff in your tr Qamecock v ^ ? time there's a F?naM 1908 Reporter: Wh Mark J. 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If signed, of the writer and, If unsigned, of the senior editorial staff. * - ^ mam not alway / Adoptees Liberty Movement of An adults in finding birth parents. child was th parent So increasingly, adoption ager shing her handling requests, pleas and court o 1"^ J lv mi, ca- ocaicu ictuiuM. i iic cnangcs in 3tt coming so fast that it may not be respect the old property lines and Dc te broker This past week in Washington, for , the birth mother of two, Carolyn Brinker, w e parents sealed birth records. Under the ter d forever District of Columbia Department of will try to find her parents themsel unwilling to meet with RrinLw osed was formation about her medical ba? exposure, department can't locate her birth p the child she'll be given their names and last k and con- The careful decision is one of a "property" has become a princip he past. adoptee's "need to know" has been c The cases are delicate ones. In ea< Over the the right of the adoptee to know h ome less especially the medical or genetic hisi hers and the birth parent to privacy, if he or si balance the new ideas about the valu neLipton adoptee's emotional security, with parents. secrecy for the adoptive parents' ei ps where careful, partial changes like these ar lay there e or the I suspect that it won't be very lo dilk price hike S byDonFobes poor mothers drink? Bossy: Let em eat cake. C. Dairy Commission Reporter: You're a m< is again ? six cents cow, Bossy. If gallon of milk. The Bossy: I've been told I'nr Iways eager to get to of human kindness. sent a reporter to Reporter: Don't-you t I dairy farm to in- price increase is exorbita the cow. Bossy: Nooo. Just a dr< jssy, what do you bucket. ilk price hike7 Reporter: You sound a mooomentous oc- likeHenny Youngman. Bossy: I'm his gag write] w does it personally living. Reporter: Being a motl I can decently clothe self, you don't exhib ny calves. Maybe I'll compassion. i the barn ? I've got Bossy: What do you ex{ * bad. and my kind have been o what's that bubbly for a long time. How'd yoi ough? I put my cold hooves on yc lpagne. The Dairy breasts every morning an? ends me a case every Reporter: Can't argue w price boost. What do you plan to do v at about the public's new-found wealth? Bossy: Change my diet. ] n for all their worth. of the grass around here; at will the babies of buy some Mexican grass To the Editor: I confess that to deb C1 learned Mr. Norris on the n A A lOv/11 the present system is like k dead horse on the last la] Derby. However there ar< J inaccuracies in his replv di Friday (February 16). I f< should redeem myself ficiently pointing them out - (1) Mr. Norris appoin j\J parliamentarian ostc beCrlllSP (hp conata nrltfinrt# V**v UVIH4VV' auvi^Cl do so. This adds credenc* claim that he is unaware /1 ,C y f* proper procedures ("F Rules of Order"). I was a: him to assume this presumably because s final th terica, which will assist information is rou be much longer I who want contacl icies find themselves ched. Nor will it b rders to open up the old fantasies of thoust itudes and actions are We assume that 1 - --- -- yuasiuie any longer 10 this, if only elimin > Not Trespass signs. may also be some example, a 22-year-old on the right to see her We don't know > ms of the decision, the This is an era wl Human Resources first abortions nr raic?* ves. If the parents are perhaps more) p le will still see the in- without the promis ckground. But if the And what will b< >arents within 60 days, real threat of a ;nown address. relationships with few in which the old will be their fear < >le, and in which the t'MS make me, a ba onsidered paramount. nhanaoc m. aav v?<U>*gVO UUI ch, we have to balance adoption itself. T1 lis or her own past ? this way: "totake, tory ? with the right of any more, le wishes it. We have to le of "openness' for the The law reflects i the old promises of not always the fina motional security. But be the beginning of e under way. 1979, The Boston ( ng now before genetic . Post Writers Grouj nom.P/Yit no i q . - W vx f * VW f s/l/v/ l/l/u I'll invest in Moo Heifer s rag. Reporter: Who's Moo Heifer? ean moo- Bossy: Come on. You kn publisher of PlayCow Magaz 1 the milk He started with a little spread, now he has a big layout. hink the Reporter: Right on, Bossy. ^ nt? strike me as a rebel ? a cow \ op in the thinks for herself. Bossy: Not reallv I HH#? strangely herd; even belong to a uni You've heard of OPEC (Oh Pie r ? it's a don't Eat Cows). Ronald I Donald tops our hate list, ler your- Reporter- I'm in your stall all it much way. How do you keep so u informed, Bossy? >ect? Me Bossy: I subscribe to Better Bai ppressed and Gardens. i like it if Reporter: Do you watch TV' >ur wife's know you listen to the radio. i night? Bossy: Sure. Love Green Acr 'ith that, but hate Wagon Train. vith your Reporter: That seems natural. P there any words you live by? Cm tired Bossy: Well, when E.F. Hutl think I'll speaks, I listen; Hubby Ferdinar i. Maybe particularly bullish on America. knowledgable (sic) in these ru Mr. Norris in denying this must asserting that he gives favo ate the neritsof (sic> without concern for ickinga dividual merit. I wish to ass 3 of the those who do not know me the e a few jblished did not accept the parliam tarian's post as a favour (sic) fr< iel that 1 the astute Mr- Norris. If it w by efintended as a bribe for me, I sorry your honor. I failed ted me recognise (sic) it. inciWIti Jf 1 him to . . ? to my (2) As for mV dismissal: IV of the Norris had the authority to remo me at his discretion. tk^hv acknowledge that. I doubt it ... J such a move was either well-tinu position fair or consecrate(i by the hi] was priests of politics. ?>g A H Q1TQ itinely given to adult adoptees. It may not >efore birth parents and adult adoptees t with each other can be routinely mate long before many of the best and worst inds are fulfilled. ; there will be some good effects from all a ting the terror of the unknown. But there difficult implications for the future vhat the effect will be on adoption itself, len most unwed pregnant women have their own babies. How many fewer (or regnant women will consider adoption se of anonymity? i the effect on adoptive parents? Will the i "shadow parent" affect their own their children? How greatly increased )f loss? As one woman said, "What does bysitter?" Tiflnri at (pact a hofin ? -? .vuuv U uuoiv Itiiiici (JlCldllUll UI ie dictionary defines the word "adopt" as one's own child." But it isn't that clear a deeper reality, that adoption today is il transfer of a piece of property, but may a lifelong emotional triangle. ilobe Newspaper Company/Washington ) 'occasion Rfinnrtpr' <Jav ic ,:"i k/MJ ) AO VI Id I CUIC 11 L Lit? calf yours? ow, Bossy: You bet your Pullitzer ine. Prize. but Reporter: I don't notice much family resemblance. {ou Bossy: Take a gander at the vho milkman ? that explains the blue eyes. tke Reporter: What's your big gripe ? something to make a cow kick? agg Bossy: Ulcers. With four stomachs, seems I'm forever gulping Pepto Bismol. .a ^ * * the ??P"rier: Dome contend that milk /ell cows are Pricing themselves out of the market, and that people may rns sw^c^ to 8<>at milk. How do you respond to that charge? > j Bossy: Horsefeathers. Historians consider us so important they date es time by us, like in B.C. ? before ' cows. 1 don't feel any danger. ^ Besides, there's alwavs holv India Reporter: I see. If you had one wish, what would it be? on Bossy: I'd love to take this blasted 1 is bell off my neck and ring Farmer Smith's chimes. ? If IO - 1 *?. 10 paiciiiiy iaise tlicit I was be improperly absent. No rules are urs prescribed for the attendance of the parliamentarian. Therefore, on the two occasions last semester in~ that I was absent, I submitted tr<[ typed excuses. I confess that for 1 personal reasons I have been absent without excuse twice this en" semester. am /as I counsel that the senate has its problems. However, it is on tho 'm tG whole a fair system. It is the pettiness of a mere few that hampers the efforts of the senate. Our learned Vice PrpsiH^n# r ? ? instructed us. I |at Thomas Wilkinson >d, Former Parliamentarian Student Senate