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THE SUN, NEWBERRY, S. C„ AUGUST 21, 1942 Kathleen Norris Says: Married Woman *In Love* Is Helpless Bell Syndicate—WNU Features. My husband went away for several weeks and during that time Douglas and I became much too intimate. I had never before experienced such absorption in my emotions. By KATHLEEN NORRIS T IS very hard to be anything but a complete fool when you are “in love.” To be “in love” is to be in a fever, with moments of actual delir ium, and nobody expects a per son in such a condition to be ca pable of making wise decisions or of rational action. Many men and women mar ry, enjoy life, raise families, consider themselves fortunate and happy people, without hav ing known the agonies and delights, the fears and raptures of being “in love.” It is a sickness of spirit that makes everything else in life seem dreamy and far away. A woman determines she will not telephone; she cannot wait to get her hands on a telephone. She determines she will not humiliate herself by writing a letter, even as she is inscribing her passionate words on a page. She will not think about him, but she hopes at every corner to meet him, every man’s coat or walk or eyes or smile brings him back to her. She will start a conversation, break it off restlessly, determine to lie down for awhile just to dream of him and spring up instantly like a person blinded by sudden pain, to put on her hat and go forth aimlessly to haunt such places as he frequents. . A woman “in love” cannot eat or sleep; she is helpless under the neglect or cruelty of the man for whom she is burning with desire, because he is as much her whole world as is the air she breathes and she can do without the one no better than she can do without the other. Unfortunately, to many of our modern women, who are not bound down by housework, child-bearing, a generally moneyless and helpless condition as their grandmothers were, the experience of being “in love” is one that comes after mar riage. Engagement, marriage, motherhood, and home-making seem a tame affair beside it. Some man, romantic, unknown, ready with sub tle flatteries—about 80 per cent of being “in love” is mutual flatteries, by the way—comes out of the blue, and sensible little Nancy, who up to this point has been everything a sweet good daughter, wife, mother, friend ought to be, is carried off her feet and washed out to sea. Ignores the Consequences. That she is living on whipped cream and caviar and terrapin and marrons glacees, and that she is go ing to have a good old-fashioned at tack of nauseau and stomach-ache after it, doesn’t occur to Nancy. The very fact that this particular fruit is forbidden only adds to its flavor. She knows, looking at similar af fairs going on among»her friends, that after a few months the glamor ous Freddie will seem to her just another shallow, simple, selfish, un reasonable man like so many of the others. But fever is upon her, her whole body thrills and throbs with it, and for a few months of passion she will sacrifice everything she has built into her life and character. Here is a letter characteristic of many I receive, characteristic of a situation that has meant wreckage for a good many women’s lives: “Five years ago,” writes Alberta, “I was living the quiet life that mil lions of American women live in small towns. I have two sons; they were aged five and three. My hus band was a devoted but rather NO ANSWER The “Alberta’ of this letter gave up her husband and chil dren for a man whom she does not now love, but with whom she says she was once “in love.” She and “Douglas” found themselves at the mercy of the stormy, un reasonable passions that go with the unhappy state of being “in love.” After that Alberta com pletely lost control of her reason able self. Douglas could not get a divorce, but they went away to gether anyway. Then, after a few years, Douglas left her. Now Al berta has learned that her hus band has been sent abroad with the medical service. She says she would do anything to regain her lost happiness. You will want to know why Kathleen Norris says she has no answer to this letter. silent and busy man; I was kept busy with the lighter housework, en tertaining, garden, books, friends and nursery. Every day had its duties and problems, and its small pleasures. Jim and I had plans for every week-end, and a three-weeks camping trip every summer. We left the boys with his mother, but were planning to take them with us when they were older. “This was the picture when I fell in love with a man who had recently come to the neighborhood. For one year our friendship was confined to secret meetings, wistful talks, and the exchange of many notes. Then Jim went away for some weeks, and during that time Douglas and I became much too intimate. “I make no excuses for myself, except to say that I had never in my life before experienced such ab sorption in any emotion; it was whirlwind, earthquake, tidal wave, anything you like, as long as you understand that I completely lost command of myself. Lover Was Married. “Douglas was also married, but childless, and living apart from the wife. He applied for a divorce at once, but settlements could not be reached and there was a long delay. I went to my father and stepmoth er, but was unhappy there, and Douglas and I went to another town and set up housekeeping together. All this time I was intensely nerv ous; uncertain and wretched about everything except the supreme real ity of our love for each other. “My little boys went to their grandmother, and Jim never op posed my coming to see them, but it was a stiff, unnatural sort of meet ing and gave me more pain than pleasure. The smaller one was quite ill and sometimes I went to sit with him and read to him, but he always wanted me to stay and I could not stay. They were natural ly never allowed to come to me. “Rather than give his wife the control she demanded of his fortune, Douglas continued to refuse her divorce terms, and for two years we wandered about in a Fools Para dise, telling each other that our love in itself was all that mattered. But it came to me gradually that he was making no plans for our marriage, and about a year ago he suggested my having a little apartment of my own, as he was obliged to travel a great deal on defense business. Since we made this change I have neither seen him nor heard from him. FIRfllAID j ■to the AILING HOUSE by Roger B, Whitman iBSli Roger B, Whitman—WNU Features. IMPROVED UNIFORM INTERNATIONAL S UNDAY I chool Lesson By HAROLD L. LUNDCJUIST, D. D. Of The Moody Bible Institute of Chicago. (Released by Western Newspaper Union.) LEAKS IN LEADED GLASS WIN DOWS DUE TO DEFECTIVE CEMENT A WINDOW that is made up of small pieces of glass held to gether by strips of lead is likely to leak in a driving storm. It has lit tle strength, and in bending under a wind, or because something presses against it, the leads may separate from the glass and allow leakage. Lead and glass should be held together with a cement that is somewhat flexible. Putty will not serve, for in drying out it becomes too brittle. One satisfactory cement is white lead paste softened, if nec essary, by adding a little linseed oil. Using an awl or similar tool, the defective cement is scraped out from under the lead and replaced by the new. The leading must then be pressed back against the glass. For this the handles of two screw drivers or similar tools can be used, with one in each hand. These tools are run up and down the leading, pressing it back into place. With one tool on each side, each one takes the pressure of the other, and the glass is thus prevented from being bent or distorted. Waterproof Floors Question: Our back porch has been enlarged and converted into a furnished room with an open deck on top. The carpenter has finished the deck with a slight pitch and says that the rain will run off. He says that all it needs is a coat of porch and deck paint. I cannot be lieve that this will keep water from soaking in and ruining the insula tion and inside finish. What is your opinion? Answer: I agree with you. The swelling and shrinking of the wood as the seasons change will crack the paint at the joints and edges of the boards. Your best move will be to have the porch floor covered with deck canvas, which is intended for just that use. Get a good quality and be sure that it is applied exact ly according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Shrunken Door Panels Question: Although we have a hu midifier, the panels of our white Colonial doors have shrunken so that unpainted wood shows around them. The panels may swell when damp weather comes again. How can the appearance of the doors be improved? Answer: Take out the panels by removing the strips of moulding that hold them in place, and smooth the edges with sandpaper. Then paint the edges white. A simpler method is to smooth the bare wood that is now exposed by light sandpapering, and then to supply two thin coats of white paint. The finish may not be quite so good with this second meth od, but even so, the appearance of the doors will be greatly improved. Damp Floor in Henhouse Question: About six weeks ago I had a concrete floor, four inches thick, laid down in a new henhouse. I now find that lots of moisture comes on top of it, especially when it rains. The contractor says that it will dry out in time, but I cannot put any livestock in a place under such conditions. No cinders or grav el were used under the concrete. How can I improve this condition? Answer: To evaporate the mois ture in a mass of concrete takes a long time, particularly at this time of year when evaporation is slow. If you are in a hurry to put in your livestock, you could build a tempo rary platform of wood until the con crete has dried. Building Details Question: I am planning to build a home of concrete blocks. How should I attach the joists to the top of the basement wall? How can I build the roof? Answer: You will find these de tails explained in a book that has the title “Architectural Graphic Standards,” published by John Wi ley Sons, New York. You should find a copy of it in your local public library. To Retain Heat in Water Question: I have a 60-gallon water tank connected to my oil burner. Would you advise me to paint this with a heavy paint in order to re tain heat in the water? Answer: Paint will not be of much help. Cover the tank with an insu lating jacket. Your plumber should be able to supply the material. Attaching Curtain Rods Question: How can curtain rods be attached to cement blocks in a basement rumpus room? Answer: At a hardware store you can get fiber plugs to be forced into holes drilled into the concrete b\( a tool that comes with them. Drilling the holes is not at all difficult. Salad Bowl Finish. Question: I would like to finish a large wooden mixing bowl as a salad bowl. How should it be finished? I am told that lacquer, shellac or varnish are poisonous and should not be applied. Can decals be used on it? Answer: You are wrong in think ing that lacquer, shellac and varnish are poisonous, for they are not. The usual finish for wooden mixing bowls is top quality, quick-drying varnish, applied in a thin coat to bare wood. Decals can be used on the outside of the bowl, but not inside. It’s a Good Morning With Flapjacks in Syrup! (See Recipes Below.) Breakfast Time Whether you wake to the crowing of the rooster or the jingle of an alarm clock, it’s a signal to be up and about seeing to the day’s work. But first! A hearty breakfast is in order so that the system can get started on its day’s routine in the proper form. No matter wheth er it’s for the head of the fam ily going off to the defense plant, daughter on her way to the nurses’ aid class, moth er or the youngsters, no one should skip blithely over this meal of the day.. For years doctors and dieticians have looked askance at those who passed up a real up-and-at-them breakfast because it doesn’t give the body a chance to start func tioning early in the day. If you’re fat, you need fruit-egg-toast-and- beverage breakfasts to start your metabolism working at top speed to start tearing down of excess tissues. If you’re thin, then you need just as much of a breakfast with a few more trimmings, to start building yourself. If you’-re normal, you still need the hearty breakfast so you can maintain your health and give your body its daily nutritional re quirements. And one of the best recommendations for a real break fast is the good way it starts you on your day’s work. None of that drowsy, it’s-hard-to-wake-up-in-the- morning feeling. No, Ma’am! Hardest thing about breakfasts is that it’s easy to get into a rut by serving the same foods morning aft er morning. This is rather strange, considering how much time and effort is spent on getting variety into the other two-squares a day. Well, why not variety for breakfast? You can have this variety in fruit. Yes, I know you like juice pretty well, but you’ll get out of the morn ing doldrums quickly enough if you punctuate the breakfast with favor ite fruits-in-season, other fruit juices and some of those canned fruits you put up during the summer months. Toast? If you insist on toast, try using whole wheat, rye, raisin, cracked wheat, etc. Naturally, the bread should be enriched so you’ll get the most out of toast. And then there are all sorts of hot breads that will send the family cheering off to work—blueberry muffins, pe can rolls, muffins, and flapjacks! Eggs in all manner of ways are a good standby. Poached, fried, cod dled, baked, scrambled, a la golden- rod, or combined with ham, sizzlin’ Lynn Says: Tips for Breakfast Fruits: You’re going to be a little short on sugar so do the most with what you have. A little salt in cooked fruit or sprinkled on such things as melons brings out true fruit flavor, requires less sugar. Lemon or lime juice with mel on enhances the natural sweet ness. Try it. Orange juice, chilled before the fruit is squeezed, is an excellent pep-you-up. Let the sugar stand on grapefruit a while (while the coffee percolates) and the sugar will melt and go further. Try eating fruit or juice first, but sav ing half to finish off your break fast—it will leave a fresh taste in your mouth. Fruit stewed should have sugar added after it is stewed, with a pinch of salt. You won’t need as much sweetening, this way. Cook dried fruits with a slice of lemon or orange. These citrus fruits have an affinity with dried apricots, peaches, prunes and ap ples. This Sunday’s Breakfast Sliced Peaches in Orange Juice •Feather-Fluff Griddle Cakes Poached Eggs Maple Syrup Beverage •Recipe Given sausage or crisp brown bacon— there you have a week’s ideas. < The Cereals. At least one serving of cereals is the nutrition requirement for the day. This is most easily served at breakfast, with cream and sugar and perhaps a few slices of fresh fruit or berries. Ready-prepared cereals are delightful, especially in the warmer weather — they’re crisp, light, and nutritious. Recently some of the prepared cereals have been scientifically restored so they have all tho whole-grain richness and nu tritive value in them. Light as down flapjacks are a wel come sight at breakfast! Try these* •Feather Fluff Griddle Cakes. (Makes about 18 cakes) 2 eggs, well beaten 2 cups rich sour milk or buttermilk IVi cups white flour V4 cup prepared pancake floor 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon baking powder Have all ingredients at room tem perature. Sift dry ingredients thor oughly. Add milk to eggs. Gradu ally stir in dry ingredients. Stir just enough to make a smooth bat ter. Cook on ungreased griddle. Try out one cake and if batter is too thick, add a little more milk. Fried eggs are good to serve with these griddle cakes. Fry them thus: Slip eggs into a scant Vs inch layer of moderately hot fat. Cook at mod erate heat, dipping fat over eggs to cook to desired doneness. Turn, if desired. Serve at once on warmed platter. Sunday Breakfast. Place sausage links in a frying pan, add a small amount of water. Do not prick the skins. Cover and let steam 5 min utes, then drain. Cook over slow heat, add 3 table spoons of peach juice to 8 sau sages and let brown, poached eggs on top of toasted Eng- lish muffins. Red currant jelly of golden peach jam makes a delecta ble dish. Serve with If you’ve never tried old-fashioned scrapple, you have a real treat a- cornin’ to you: Pork Sausage Scrapple. (Serves 6 to 8) 2 cups cornmeal 4 cups boiling, salted water 1 pound sausage, in bulk Cook cornmeal in rapidly boiling salted water, and add sausage to mixture. Blend thoroughly. Rinse a loaf pan with cold water and pack in hot scrapple. Let stand in ice box overnight, covered with waxed paper. Dip in beaten egg and fry until golden brown. Serve with spiced applesauce, cranberry sauce or maple syrup. A variation of the ham ’n’ eggs theme is this: Frivolettes With Ham. (Serves 6) 6 hard-cooked eggs, remove yolks 4 tablespoons grated cheese 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce Salt and pepper Melted but’.er Mash yolks and mix with cheese, butter, seasonings. Refill whites. Press together. Pour a rich cream sauce over them and sprinkle but tered crumbs over them. Brown a few minutes in a hot oven. Serve on browned circles of ham. What are your food problems? Cake making? Bread making? Pickles, jams, jellies? Children’s lunches? Miss Lynn Chambers will be glad to give you expert advice on your particular problem, if you write her explaining what you want to know, at Western Newspaper Union, 210 South Desplaines Street, Chicago, III. Please enclose a stamped, addressed en velope for your reply. Released by Western Newspaper Union. Lesson for August 23 Lesson subjects and Scripture texts se- lected and copyrighted by International Council of Religious Education; used b> permission. JACOB’S VISION OF GOD LESSON TEXT—Genesis 28:10-22. GOLDEN TEXT—I am with thee, and will keep thee in all places whithersoever thou goest.—Genesis 28:15. Deception, trickery, falsehood, jealousy were all present in the fam ily of Isaac at the time of our les son. A hopeless situation, one would say; and so it was, apart from one thing—the grace of God. We speak that phrase so easily, but in reality it has an infinite depth of meaning. Jacob shared the deception planned by his mother, anc^ thereby he received the blessing of Esau. Not willing to wait God’s time for the carrying out of His purpose, they sinned to gain an advantage. Then to escape the wrath of Esau, he had to flee. The journey was os tensibly to find a wife, but in fact a flight from an enraged brother. Could such a journey bring a man to a place of blessing? It did, as there was— I. A Revelation of God’s Grace (vv. IMS). The fugitive was overtaken by darkness on the second night of his journey, and made his bed in the open. Then came the magnificent vision of the ladder of heaven. Heaven and earth are not separat ed. There is a way to reach the throne of God, and there is a way for God to reach and bless His peo ple. The vision of the ladder thus reassured Jacob. We need only re member the God-Man Christ Jesus, who came from glory and has re turned there to now appear as our Advocate, to be assured of this fact. God renewed to Jacob the cove nant with Abraham and with Isaac. He does not forget. Men make treaties only to break them. God says, “I will not leave thee, until I have done that which I have spoken to thee of” (v. 15). In His matchless grace God re lieved Jacob’s fear by assuring him of His protection; his loneliness by His divine presence; and his uncer tainty regarding the future by the promise of blessing. The response of Jacob was— II. A Realization of God's Great ness (vv. 16-19). Full of holy fear and of awe, Jacob realized the presence of the infinite God. It is a proper and a wholesome reaction when a man, realizing himself to be in God’s pres ence, is overcome by the awe-inspir ing experience. Possibly the reason for our lack of reverence for holy things, for the Lord’s day—yes, for God Himself, is because He has become a little God, weak and uninspiring in our thinking. Theologians, preachers, and teachers have dared to speak swelling words of disrespect con cerning His miraculous power, have denied the deity of His Son, have questioned the authority of His Word. Having sown the wind of un belief, they have reaped from the people the whirlwind of irreverence, a belittling of God, and a rejection of His authority (Hos. 8:7). Jacob was reminded of God’s im mediate presence—“the Lord is in this place.” The place of his vision of heavenly things had special meaning to Jacob. But the underlying truth is that God is everywhere. He is not only in' the church, or in the place of vision or of soul-struggle; He is also in the place of trial, of suffering, of sorrow, of loneliness—yes, even af sin. The thing that Jacob “found jut that night was not that God visits man, but that God is with man wherever he is. We expect'to meet Him in the sanctuary; but He is near us in the market place . . . Not alone in the sanctuary, but where the multitude gather in de fiance of His law, He is there” (G. Campbell Morgan). This rich experience led Jacob to— HI. A Recognition of God’s Good ness (vv. 20-22). The God who would supply his every need, who would watch over him and keep him, was recognized by Jacob as being worthy of his de votion, and he made a vow that He should be his God (v. 21). The grace and goodness of God are intended to bring men to faith in Him and devotion to His service. Yet men can go on year after year, the beneficiaries of all His bounty, and never so much as say “Thank you,” let alone recognize Him as Lord. Jacob made a very practical and workable decision to demonstrate the reality of his vow. He promised that one tenth of all God gave him should be given back for a sacred use. We agree with Dr. W. H. Griffith Thomas that "if only some of those who are inclined to criticize Jacob would do what he promised and give a tenth of their income to God, a different state of affairs would obtain in connection with God’s work at home and abroad.” Trickery and deception were changed to truthfulness and devo tion when Jacob met God face to face. The same blessed transforma tion awaits those who meet our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ in faith. Have you met Him? CLASSIFIED DEPARTMENT WOMEN WANTED Honest Woman Wanted—Short hours, to pass Religious Printing direct into the hands of people in local communities. Ad dress W. A. B., P. O. Box 41, Decatur, Ga. BOOKLETS God Revealo Exact World Endo. brings World Ends booklet. Write HARVEST, Box 38, Jefferson Cltj Dima Motorist's Prayer The following prayer, written by Dr. Frederic S. Fleming, rector of Trinity church, New York, should prove valuable for all motorists: “Grant me a steady hand and watchful eye. that no man shall be hurt when I pass by. Thou gavest life, and I. pray no act of mine may take away or mar that gift of Thine. Shelter those, dear Lord, who bear me company from the evils of fire and all calamity. Teach me to use my car for oth ers’ need, nor miss through love of speed the beauties of Thy world; that thus I may with joy and cour tesy go on my way.” Everybody wants to know what to send a soldier, sailor, Coast Guardsman, or K ru e. The an swer is simple if he _.nokes a pipe or rolls-his-own. Send a pound of tobacco. Tobacco, according to numerous surveys among the men themselves, is the gift most ap preciated, and most wanted. Fa vorite smoking tobacco of many service men is Prince Albert, the National Joy Smoke—a title well- deserved since Prince Albert is the world’s largest-selling smok ing tobacco. Local dealers are featuring Prince Albert in the pound can as ideal gifts to men in the service.—Adv. MOROLIJi To the Point Do not waste your time on Social Questions. What is the matter with the poor is Poverty. What is the matter with the rich is Use lessness.—G. B. Shaw. 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