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THE SUN, NEWBERRY, S. C, AUGUST 14, 1942
Kathleen Norris Says:
Women Fool Themselves Most
In Love Affairs
Bell Syndicate—WNU Features.
Best of all were the evenings when Carlton would come to discuss books or
politics with my invalided father; and afterward we would go into the kitchen for
coffee and toast.
By KATHLEEN NORRIS
HE world is full of persons
who fool themselves; most
ly women. They think they
are deceiving others, but their
families and friends see through
them as though they were panes
of glass.
We all scold the small girl who
says glibly, “I didn’t tell you I’d
broken your vase because I hate
to tell people bad news, Moth
er!” Or, “I took the candy
away from Betty-Lou because I
thought it might make her
sick.”
But there are lots of older self
foolers to whom we can’t address
reproof. For example, the pretty
young wife who says that her hus
band really doesn’t want to go with
those men on a fishing trip, he’d
take her to visit her mother. Or
the woman who tells you that she
would love to do her own work and
help poor George with the house
keeping bills, but that he really
wants her to take it easy and rest
a lot. Nobody but herself, of course,
is fooled.
Perhaps the field in which women
deceive themselves most often is
that of love affairs. When she loses
her charm for the man she adores,
the beloved woman won’t admit it
easily. She fights along for months,
perhaps for years, trying to per
suade herself that he still cares, that
he will come back, that the old
glow and thrill and glamour of the
beginning of their love will certain
ly return.
Loved a Man Six Tears.
Frances is such a woman. She is
29; she has loved one man for nearly
six years. Their affair seems to be
no nearer to marriage, as the years
go by, and her heart is sick with
waiting.
“Carlton came to our small town
six years ago,” she writes. “He is
everything the heart of a woman
could desire, tall, good-looking,
amusing, handsome and successful.
There was not a girl in my circle
who didn’t perk up and take an im
mediate interest when he came
along, but-it was only a matter of
weeks before he and I were aware
of the deep sympathy and congenial
ity between us. It was ‘Franc and
Carly’ from the first when anything
was planned. We were in theatri
cals together; we were always
paired off on picnics and parties.
Best of all were the many evenings
when he would come to talk books
or politics with my invalided father;
and afterward he and I would go
into the kitchen for coffee and toast.
“My mother died suddenly and my
father did not long survive her; I
thought then that Carlton would
surely say that we must be married.
But he did not, although he was all
sympathy and wonderfully dear and
helpful. Two other school teachers
came to share n^y home with me.
I bore it as long as I could, and
then faced the music, told him how
I felt, reminded him that for three
years we had been going together.
“He said he felt that my parents’
death had rather pushed our affair
into the background and asked for
one week to think it all over. Be
fore that week was up he came to
me and asked that we be engaged,
but it must be a profound secret.
He gave me a ring of his mother’s,
but asked me not to wear it pub
licly.
Wants to End Delay.
“That was three years ago, and
nothing has changed since. Carlton
said last year that ‘until we could
be married’ he felt that we ought
not to see each other more than
twice a week. He comes Wednesday
WISHFUL DOERS
You’ve heard of “tvis hful
thinking,” but did you know
that there is such a thing as
wishful doing? That may not be
the name by which you know
the dangerous way some people
have of acting as though what
they wish for were actually true.
But you know what happens to
the father who insists upon try
ing to make a scientist of a son
who is interested only in music;
the mother who makes a plain
looking, but brilliant, daughter
miserable because she doesn’t
happen to be a beauty. These
“wishful doers,” unlike mere
“wishful thinkers,” harm others
as well as themselves by their
refusal to accept reafity.
night, and we always have a plan
for Sunday; we either take a picnic
lunch somewhere or go to an after
noon movie and dinner downtown.
Of late he has been asking a mar
ried couple we like very much to
go with us. The man is his assistant;
the woman I’ve known for years.
They usually bring two small chil
dren.
“I want to be married,” this let
ter ends. “I want a home and chil
dren. In these disturbed times I
want to feel anchored; to do my bit
for America as a wife and mother.
I am getting restless and nervous;
once again, only last night, I faced
Carlton, asked him to end this de
lay. He says now that to get mar
ried now would look like an attempt
to evade the draft; he is 33. Will
you advise me as to the best way
of handling this situation? I have
never had another sweetheart, and
I am as deeply in love as ever.”
Here is another case of a girl fool
ing herself. Frances knows in her
heart that any feeling Carlton ever
had for her is dead. If he comes
to see her still, only on those ap
pointed days, it is partly habit,
partly consideration for her, and
partly because he doesn’t know how
to get out of it. He would be a
more honest man if he had cut the
knot brutally and quickly once and
for all, about five years ago. And
she would be a happier woman if
she had seen all this coming, and
had stopped it before the twenties
had run their course, and time had
landed her perilously near to the
shore of spinsterhood.
She might have saved herself these
years of waiting and watching and
hoping for a day that now seems as
far away as ever. And she would
surely have gained dignity and
strength.
My advice to her is to drop Carl
ton. Tell him that his attentions
don’t make her happy, as they once
did; which is true enough. Tell him
that she wants to be absolutely free,
for her teaching, reading, walking,
gardening, women friends, that al
though she really loves him, she
would be happier in her soul not to
continue to dangle in this state of
continual expectancy and disap
pointment.
Will Suffer Heartache^
If she has the courage to do this
she will experience, first heartache,
a forlorn feeling of being adrift from
the moorings to which she has clung
with such pathetic faith and hope for
so long. And secondly, she will feel
a courage and a self-respect, a
strength and freedom that will be
manna to her soul. That is, unless
the complacent dawdling Carlton
suddenly wakes up, as he indeed
may, and rushes her instantly into
marriage. Either way she wins.
IMPROVED
UNIFORM INTERNATIONAL
S UNDAY I
chool Lesson
By HAROLD L. LUNDQUIST. D. D.
Of The Moody Bible Institute of Chicago.
(Released by Western Newspaper Union.1
Lesson for August 16
Lesson subjects and Scripture texts se
lected and copyrighted by International
Council of Religious Education; used by
permission.
ISAAC PRACTICES PEACE
LESSON TEXT—Genesis 26:18-31.
GOLDEN TEXT—Blessed are the peace
makers: for they shall be called the chil
dren of God.—Matthew S:9.
To talk peace in a warring world
seems almost futile, and so it is,
unless it be the peace of God. In a
world largely dominated by the
philosophy that might makes right,
and in which men demand what they
call their rights, taking them even
by lawless and violent methods, it
is increasingly difficult to proclaim
the truth that patience and meek
ness are not weakness, but are
Christian virtues worth emulating.
The story of Isaac is interesting
from beginning to end. He was an
ordinary man, one of the common
people. He had come through va
ried experiences of victory and de
feat before the time of our lesson.
Fearing a famine, and apparently
not trusting God at the moment,
he had gone down from the prom
ised land to the country of the
Philistines, there redigging the wells
which his father Abraham had
dug. The result was that he pros
pered. Ere long, however, envy on
the part of his enemies taught Isaac
that—
I. Peace rn This World Is Tem
porary (w. 18-21).
Isaac had prospered, but he was
still out of the promised land, and
while he was in the land of Philistines
he could expect no permanent
peace.
We are In the world. We long for
peace, and would throw all our
influence and service into the cause
of bringing a righteous peace to the
troubled peoples of the world. But
let us not be misled by that desire
into the support of unscriptural and
impossible peace programs. This
world is a sinful world, and as long
as that is true, there will be strife
and war, that men (as James puts
it) may have the gains thereof for
their own pleasure.
Our business in such a world is
to preach the gospel of grace, win
ning men to Christ, that they may
become men of good-will. Isaac was
such a man, willing to yield even
what seemed to be his right, rather
than qause contention.
Undoubtedly there are times when
one must defend his name and his
possessions, but all too often those
who do “stand for their rights”
have wrecked homes, churches, and
nations, and have gained nothing
but an empty victory.
The peace of this world is tem
porary. Is there then no real abid
ing peace and joy?
II. Abiding Joy Is Found in Fel
lowship With God (w. 22-25).
When Isaac came up into Canaan,
the land which God had promised
to him, he found real peace and
an abiding joy in renewed fellow
ship with God. Even so, the Chris
tian man and woman who will step
out of a spiritually destructive fel
lowship with the ungodly world and
come over wholeheartedly into the
spiritual Canaan of full consecration
and separated living, will find
true peace and satisfying commu
nion with God.
Our thought, however, has wider
application—one much needed today.
There is to come a time when this
world will have true and abiding
peace which shall cover the earth
like the waters cover the sea. When
the One who has the right to reign,
the Lord Jesus Christ, returns to
take His throne, then, and not be
fore, will there be true peace.
We await that day with longing
which grows more intense as men
grow more violent in their hatred.
But is there nothing more we can
do? Yes, we learn from Isaac’s
experience that—
in. A Godly Life Is a Testimony
to Warring Men (w. 26-31).
These men were wicked men,
even speaking falsehood in their
claim of friendship toward Isaac (v.
29). Now that they perceived that
God was continually blessing Isaac
in spite of their repeated injustice
toward him, they decided that it
would be well to make a covenant
of friendship with him. Even those
who follow the way of war and ag
gression cannot deny the effective
ness of true Christian testimony.
Observe also that by his patience
and kindness Isaac ultimately made
friends out of his enemies. “It is
better to turn enemies into friends
than to beat them, and have them
enemies still.” And so this man
with the patient, self-sacrificing
spirit brought peace not only to
himself, but to those about lym, be
cause he believed and trusted God.
“When a man’s ways please the
Lord, he maketh even his enemies
to be at peace with him” (Prov.
16:7).
What can we do to bring peace
today? We can pray that God will
help America and her allied nations
to turn to Him in repentance of sin,
and in a desire to so honor His name
that He may be able to give His
blessing. When Hezekiah spread be
fore the Lord the threat of his
enemy, God undertook for him in a
mighty way, because his heart way
right toward God (Isa. 37:14-20).
Will he do less for us?
Cheese Trays Help You Through Sugar Rationing Period!
(See Recipes Below.)
Take It Easy on Sugar
No sweets with sugar rationed?
Why, of couue. With honey, corn
and maple syrup,
molasses, and
prepared pudding
mixtures, you can
learn how to pre
pare delightful
sugar-saving des
serts, cakes and
cookies that will
not only take you gracefully through
the sugar-rationing period but will
also remain favorites with you long
after these times are past.
Honey blends with raisins and
spices in this delicious melt-in-your-
mouth pie.
Honey Raisin Crumb Fie.
1 egg yolk
Vs teaspoon ginger
% cup bread crumbs
14 cup flour
1 teaspoon cinnamon
>4 cup hot water
2 tablespoons butter
14 cup raisins
% cup honey
V\ teaspoon nutmeg
V2 cup nut meats
Blend hot water with honey and
add egg yolk. Mix flour, crumbs
and spices. Rub in butter. Place
a layer of raisins on unbaked pie
shell, cover raisins with layer of
nut mdats, and pour over honey-
water-egg mixture. Top with layer
of crumb mixture. Bake at 450 de
grees until crust browns at edges,
reduce to 325 degrees for 20 minutes
or until firm.
Magic Chocolate Pie.
2 squares unsweetened chocolate
114 cups sweetened condensed
milk
14 cup water
14 teaspoon salt
14 teaspoon vanilla
Baked pie shell (8-inch) or
cookie pie crust
Melt chocolate in top of double
boilef. Add sweetened condensed
milk and stir over rapidly boiling
water 5 minutes until mixture thick
ens. Remove from heat. Add wa
ter and salt. Stir until thoroughly
blended. When cool, add vanilla.
Pour into baked pie shell, or cookie
crumb crust. Chill.
Get your full quota of milk into
the diet by serving it in this dessert
combination with rennet powder. No
sugar required!
Marshmallow Maple Rennet-
Custard.
1 package maple rennet powder
1 pint milk, not canned
5 marshmallows, diced
Dissolve marshmallows in 1 cup
hot milk. Then add 1 cup cold milk
and warm slowly,
stirring constant
ly. Test a drop
on the inside of
wrist frequently.
When COMFORT-
lit ABLY WARM
(110 degrees), not
hot, proceed according to directions
on package. Chill, then serve.
Butterscotch Ice-Box Cake.
(Serves 6 to 8)
1 recipe butterscotch cornstarch
pudding
% cup cream, whipped
Lady fingers or cake strips
Lynn Says:
Household Tips: Are you won
dering how those pots and pans
are going to last for the duration?
Since the production for these has
been sharply curtailed, you will
want hints on keeping them in
“cooking” condition:
Aluminum: Leaving food in
aluminum longer than necessary,
soaking the utensil before wash
ing and alkalies such as soda spell
short wear for this metal. If
you want to clean aluminum with
out endangering its wearing pe
riod, use very fine scouring pow
der or steel wool for discolora
tions. Or, cooking acid foods like
tomatoes, rhubarb and apples will
do the trick.
Iron: Wash in hot, sudsy wa
ter. If this doesn’t clean it, use
hot soda and water. If rusted,
use scouring powder or steel
wool. Always dry completely
and wrap in paper for storage.
Tin: This metal does not keep
shiny indefinitely. Remove burnt
foods by boiling in soda and wa
ter for five minutes, never long
er. Rinse and dry thoroughly.
THIS WEEK’S MENU
*Lemon Smothered Chops
Broiled Tomato Slices
Buttered Noodles
Vegetable Salad Bowl
Date-Nut Bread Butter
Diced Fresh Fruit
*Apple Sauce Cake
Beverage
*Recipes Given
Prepare butterscotch pudding as
directed on package. Cool. Fold in
whipped cream. Line bottom and
sides of mold or loaf pan with waxed
paper. Arrange layer of lady fin
gers on bottom and sides of mold.
Turn *4 of pudding into mold; cover
with layer of lady fingers. Turn re
maining pudding into mold and
place another layer of lady fingers
on top. Chill 12 to 24 hours in re
frigerator* Unmold.
Bermuda Appetizers.
Chop Bermuda onion finely, mari
nate and drain. Spread on crisp
crackers and cover with slice of
Liederkranz cheese. Thin slices of
rye, pumpernickel or whole wheat
bread which have been buttered
may be used instead.
You can do all sorts of things with
cheese as a last course and serve it
in place of fruit.
Camembert’ has
an affinity for
fruit. Try it with
crackers served
with a bowl full
of summer’s lus
cious fruits or,
try American-
made equivalents of Roquefort and
Blue cheese spread on hot buttered
Boston brown bread tossed with aft
er dinner coffee in place of dessert.
Serve a cheese tray for refresh
ments and spare the sugar ration.
This spicy apple sauce cake re
quires only V4 cup of sugar.
*Apple Sauce Cake.
14 cup shortening
Vs cup sugar
2 eggs
Vt cup molasses
2 cups cake flour
3 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon cinnamon
Vt teaspoon nutmeg
14 teaspoon cloves
14 teaspoon soda
1 cup apple sauce
14 cup raisins
Cream shortening; add sugar
slowly, beating in well. Add well-
beaten eggs and beat until well
blended; add molasses. Sift togeth
er dry ingredients and add alter
nately with apple sauce to first mix
ture. Add raisins. Bake in greased
square baking pan in moderate oven
at 350 degrees about 1 hour. Frost
with:
Raisin Nut Frosting.
1 egg white
14 cup light corn syrup
14 teaspoon vanilla extract
14 cup chopped seeded raisins
14 cup chopped pecan meats
Beat egg white until stiff. Add
syrup slowly, beating constantly.
Add vanilla and half of raisins and
nuts. Spread between layers and on
top of cake. Sprinkle with remain
ing raisins and nuts.
*Lemon Smothered Chops.
(Serves 6 to 8)
2 pounds pork or lamb chops,
cut thick
Put in a large covered skillet or
chicken fryer. Cover top of meat
closely with: .
2 unpeeled lemons, sliced
1 large sweet onion, cut in rings
1 green pepper, cut in rings
1 teaspoon salt
Pour over all:
2 cups tomato juice
Dot with flakes of fat cut from
meat or butter. Cover and cook on
top of stove 114 hours or until done.
Lift onto a hot platter, being careful
to keep lemon, onion and pepper
slices in place. The meat cooked
this way acquires a chicken texture
and color, while the lemon, onion,
pepper and tomato make a delicious
sauce accompaniment.
Have you a particular household or
cooking problem on which you would like
expert advice? IF rite to Miss Lynn Cham
bers at Western Newspaper Union, 210
South Desplaines Street, Chicago, Illinois,
explaining your problem fully to her.
Please enclose a stamped, selfaddressed
envelope for your reply.
Released by Western Newspaper Union.
ON THE
HOME FROM:
RUTH WYETbkSPEARSjgx6)
BLUE ANO WHITE’CAM1ET
WITH CUT-OUT SCALLOPS
BLUE MORNING GLORIES IN APPLIQUE
DESIGN FOR CURTAINS ANO TOWELS
Morning Glory Bathroom.
\yHATEVER the limitations
that priorities may place on
new bathroom fixtures there is no
limit to the gay color and good
cheer that you may have with
brightly painted cupboards and
towels decorated with pieces from
your scrap bag. In this bathroom
a morning glory applique design
is used for towels of two sizes
and for curtains.
The handy towel and lotion cup
board is painted white outside and
morning glory blue inside. The
Englishman Wouldn't Take
Chance on Blooming Bomb
An enemy plane passed over a
certain district in England one
night, and the following morning
a man told his neighbor that an
unexploded incendiary bomb had
fallen into his bedroom.
“Throw it into the garden?” in
quired the neighbor.
“Can’t do that,” was the reply.
“It’s six feet long.”
“Good gracious,” gasped the
neighbor, “that’s not an incendi
ary—that’s a high explosive! Have
you been sleeping in the bedroom
with that thing all night?”
“Not bloomin’ likely ... I slept
on the couch in the drawing
room!”
sides, top and bottom are screwed
together at the corners. Use half
inch metal angles as shelf sup
ports, or make grooves for a neat
er job. As shown in the sketch,
the cupboard is trimmed and
made rigid with plywood scallops
secured with half-incn screws.
• • •
NOTE: Here Is news for the man with
hammer and saw. Whether you have a
coping saw from the dime store or an
expensive band saw, you may now make
cut-out scallops for any purpose desired.
Pattern No. 207 includes scallops from,
one and a half Inches to nineteen inches;!
together with numerous illustrations of
their use in home decoration. The lady!
with needle and thread will want pattern!
No. 202 with ten hot iron transfers of the,
Morning Glory designs. Patterns are 10
cents each. Order by number and 1
address:
MRS. RUTH WYETH SPEARS
Bedford Hills New York
Drawer 10
Enclose 10 cents for each pattern
desired.
Name
Address
Other’s Flowers
I have gathered me a posy of
other men’s flowers and only the
thread that binds them is mine
own.—Montaigne.
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GUARANTEE MONUMENT CXX
STATION 'C-ATUINTA ONONOMk
Life a Flame
Life is a pure flame, and we live
by an invisible sun within us.—Sir
T. Browne.
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