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THE SUN, NEWBERRY, S. C„ APRIL 17, 1942
Kathleen Norris Says:
Most Divorces Are Failures
(Bell Syndicate—WNU Service.)
I was glad to come home from Mexico, but / faced great unpleasantness between
my parents. Mother wanted to place me in a school that cost almost twice the one hun
dred dollars a month that my father was paying for me.
By KATHLEEN NORRIS
HAT can I say to my
mother that will make
her stop knocking my
dad?” asks Susan, who lives in
St. Paul. “Mother and Dad
were divorced six years ago,
when I was 10. When she first
told me that she was leaving my
father and going to marry a
man I will call Sam, Mother
said that she still loved Dad,
that we were often going to see
him; it was only that she loved
Sam more.
“However, complications arose.
For a few months I was left jyith
my father and his sister, my Aunt
Ann. Aunt Ann has two children
about my age and I was very happy
there. Then Mother and Sam came
home, and great was my excitement
because they were going to take
me to Mexico with them. We stayed
a year, and during that time my
mother became so angry when I
spoke of Aunt Ann, or of my cousins,
that I stopped mentioning them.
“About that time it seems Aunt
Ann and my father sold some furni
ture and some books that Mother
thought were rightfully hers, and
that began it. After that she enter
tained all her friends with long ac
counts of my father’s and my aunt’s
peculiarities. ‘No Smith was ever
honest. That’s the Smith temper com
ing out in her. Nobody knows how
cruel John Smith can be. Nobody
knows what I went through. My doc
tor told me it was divorce or in
sanity. I think John wasn’t quite
right in his head.’
Faced Unpleasantness.
“I was lonesome in Mexico and
glad to come home, but when we
did get home it was to face great
unpleasantness between my father
and mother. Father was paying
$100 a month for me, but the school
in which Mother wanted to place me
cost almost twice that, excluding
extras, and she tried to get a court
order for a larger allowance.
“My father’s home is ten miles out
of town and quite near the school,
so I could live with him, but Mother
won’t hear of it. She told my dear
est friend that my father was so
close with money that nobody could
get along with him, and that cost
me a scene with my mother and a
crying spell.
“Don’t you think that when a man
and a woman decide on a divorce
the least they can do is to spare
their children from taking sides?
Incidentally my mother and her hus
band now quarrel a great deal; he
is 34 and she is 37; they go out al
most every evening and often for
week-ends, and leave me to home
work and the radio. That is why
Mother wants me to go away to
school. I know I will never be di
vorced, for no matter what my hus
band did I would forgive him, but
if ever I did you may be sure that
my children will never hear me say
ing anything of their father that is
not kind and generous.”
Susan Protects Mother.
The injustice of a case like
Susan’s is this; she is reluctant to
hurt her mother, to leave her moth
er’s house and perhaps expose her
to criticism or blame among her
friends. Susan doesn’t want to give
any one a chance to say that she
was unhappy with her mother. Oth
erwise she could go to her father, at
tend the desirable school, build a
new life for herself as his closest
companion and housekeeper.
Susan, in other words, is treating
with generosity and kindness the
mother who has never shown her
the slightest consideration. Instead
of repaying that mother in her own
IT ISN'T FAIR
Divorce is bad enough when
there are no children to be con
sidered. But it simply isn’t fair,
says Kathleen Norris, to deprive
a child of the normal home life
he needs just because things may
not be running as smoothly at
the moment as you want them
to. Successful marriage has al
ways been based on willing com
promise and adjustment, and
parents must think of their chil
dren as well as themselves when
they consider divorce. A child’s
happiness is too big a price to
pay for a little self-indulgence.
coin, Susan is protecting her. I
know that if I suggested to Susan
that by quietly moving to her fa
ther’s home and bidding her mother
an affectionate farewell she would
be doing the fairest thing possible,
she wouldn’t pay the slightest at
tention.
* Her mother has hurt her in every
way; robbed her of her father and
her home; put a strange young man
in that father’s place, refused to let
Susan’s own father offer any solution
to the school problem, and neglected
Susan for days at a time.
What I do suggest, therefore, is a
compromise. I suggest that Susan
have a talk with her father and ask
him to pay her expenses as a board
er at the extravagant school for
the next half-term. From school let
her spend as many holidays as she
can with her father, and after the
half-term quietly move to his house.
A Common Tragedy.
But how can mothers so complete
ly overlook the welfare of their chil
dren, and sacrifice their lives so
cheerfully? It is going on all the
time, everywhere, this disruption of
homes and demoralization of girls
and boys. If marriages are child
less, that is one thing, and divorce,
however regrettable, is not quite
the same sort of tragedy. But when
there are children to love and build
for and establish in normal attitudes
toward the serious business of living,
then it is simply extraordinary that
so many good women can con
vince themselves that it is “really
better for all concerned” to break
up the right and natural relation
ship.
Some years ago I was passing the
doorway of a hospital room when an
extremely pretty woman, married
exactly 17 months, called to me to
come in and see her. While con
gratulating her upon the arrival of a
fine baby boy I spoke of the father’s
pride in the new arrival.
“Oh, George,” she said, smiling
and flushing, “I don’t believe he’ll
come to see him. You see, we’re get
ting a divorce, and he said he was
afraid he’d grow fond of him. He
loves children.”
And seeing my consternation she
added pleasantly, “No one could
live with George, of course! He’s
actually out of his head most of
the time.”
She married again in a few
months; the new husband, it seems,
is so rigid a disciplinarian that be
fore the first child of this second
marriage was born, the wife was
obliged to see her small son dis
graced and punished in a way
that would have done credit to Mr.
Murdstone himself. Her new mate
was angry when his own chile
turned out to be a daughter, and
presently the little stepson was sent
to boarding school, was taken ill,
went to his adoring grandmother
and so got back into his father’s
hands. And the much - criticized
George has proved to be an excel
lent father.
GIFT FROM CHINA
I am tremendously interested in
the modern embroidery brought to
me by Mr. and Mrs. Owen Latti-
more. They have now sent me the
letter which accompanied this em
broidery, which is a gift from
Madame Chiang Kai-shek. The let
ter is so full of confidence and hope
for the future that I want to share
it with you and, therefore, quote it
here.
Headquarters of the
Generalissimo of China
Chungking, Szechuan
12 January, 1942
Dear Mrs. Roosevelt:
These eight immortals gladly
stepped out of their frame on a
Chungking wall to fly to you. I hope
you will bid them welcome and find
a place for them in your home. They
wish to assure you, as they have
assured me many times during
these years of bloodshed and suffer
ing, that the world of war and woe
is but a passing thing, however
necessary it may be, for over the
edge of the horizon lies a path lead
ing to universal harmony and world
brotherhood.
With all good wishes.
Yours sincerely,
Mayling Soon Chiang
(Madame Chiang Kai-shek)
• » •
NEWS ANALYSIS
I wonder whether PM is becoming
to you as interesting a paper as I
find it. There is barely a day when
some article in it is not worth
reading from beginning to end. Long
ago Mr. Louis Howe told me that
a good newspaper man put into the
first paragraph of his story all the
essential news because so few
people ever read more than the first
paragraph. Since the great major
ity of people never read anything
but the headlines, I have always
thought of what a terrible responsi
bility the headline writers carry.
I always read at least the first and
last paragraphs of anything which
seems to me a really important
story. But it is only now and then
that one finds something which holds
one’s attention from first to last—not
only because it is well written, but
because it is on a subject of vital
interest at the present time.
• • *
VISIT AT WELLESLEY
I enjoyed my short time at
Wellesley very much. It has a
beautiful campus and Miss McAfee’s
home there is charming inside. The
view is what impresses one most.
Miss McAfee is one of the people
with whom one would like to spend
more time than a brief visit per
mits.
I caught the night train back to
New York city very easily and ran
into a group of sailors in the station
who kept me signing autographs,
while I waited at the ticket window
to collect my accommodations.
Back in New York city I spent the
morning visiting the Naval hospital
and two friends who have been ilL
After an early lunch, Miss Thomp
son and I came up to Hyde Park.
There are few signs of spring as
yet, but it was good to take a walk
through the woods in the late after
noon and to have a quiet afternoon
before the fire. Today is a beautiful
day and we shall not have to start
back to New York city until after
lunch.
• • »
DAY IN THE COUNTRY
One morning, in Hyde Park, the
day dawned gloriously; a blue sky
and cold, crisp weather. I went out
to discuss the best place for a
garden with the man who does the
outside work. We are going to plant
extra things for ourselves and for
preserving purposes and winter use,
as well as some things which we can
contribute, if necessary, to the
school lunch program, should their
supplies from surplus commodities
be reduced this coming year.
I found considerable concern
about how we are going to manage
on the place with only one station
wagon, which I have told them to
use only once a week for going to
town. I suggested mildly that I
thought it was time we made the
rounds of our neighbors and start
some kind of a co-operative arrange
ment for buying supplies and, since
I was not at Hyde Park often enough,
I would leave it to them to get to
gether.
It seems ie me that this is
really an essential first step in
realizing that we are fighting a
war.
Somehow or other, when I walked
through the woods and as I sat in
front of my fire, I realized for the
first time how easy it would be
to forget what is happening in the
outside world, if one were not tied
to it by strings of affection, or just
left the radio turned off.
• • *
MEETING A ’STRANGER’
I have read Mr. Raymond Clap
per’s article in Liberty about “Mrs.
Roosevelt.” It is so interesting to
get to know a stranger. There are
a few slight errors in fact, but
psychologically, I am sure he is
right—I made him dance because of
my childhood repressions. I hope
when he returns from India he will
come and tell us of his impressions.
There will be no newspaper dance
this year, for like all other enter
tainments which are purely for
pleasure, it will be given up.
Uuf. Cltamie/ui
Spring Luncheons
As spring spreads its fragrance
and gayety once more across the
days, do your
moods turn to
thoughts of ex
quisite, gracious
luncheons? Yes,
to be sure, they
do. You get love
ly visions of pic
ture-plate lunch
eons, crispy green salads, tiny,
moist sandwiches, the tinkle of
china on cool, crisply laundered
cloths, centerpieces of delicate
flowers.
But this year’s luncheons are dif
ferent from last year’s. The plates
are pictures to behold, true, but
the menus are kind to purse strings
and food shortages.
A bowl of colorful greens, curly
endive, crisp lettuce, tossed togeth
er with grapefruit and orange sec
tions with red slivers of strawber
ries are perfect with these muffins
and all you would want for lunch
eon;
*Molasses Nut Muffins.
(Makes 24 small or 18 large)
3 tablespoons batter
!4 cup sugar
1 egg
IVi cups flour
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1 teaspoon ginger
Ys teaspoon salt
>4 teaspoon soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 eup chopped Brazil nuts
% cup milk
V& cup pure, dark molasses
Cream butter, stir in sugar gradu
ally and cream together. Stir in
well-beaten egg and blend. Mix and
sift flour with spices, salt, sbda and
baking powder, then mix in Brazil
nuts. Add alternately with milk and
molasses to the first mixture. Bake
in well-greased muffin pans in mod
erate (350-degree) oven 25 minutes.
You can have a veritable smor
gasbord on your main luncheon
plate if you carry out the general
idea by serving several different
kinds of salads in frilly lettuce cups.
Pick out some combinations you
like best from these ideas here:
•Chicken Salad.
(Serves 8)
2 cups diced, cooked chicken
1 cup finely chopped celery
1 cup halved, seeded grapes
>4 cup toasted pecans
^ cup mayonnaise
Combine all ingredients lightly.
Chill, add mayonnaise and toss
lightly together.
•Fruit Salad.
(Serves 8)
4 thick slices grapefruit
4 thick slices oranges
4 slices pineapple
8 whole apricots
1 small package cream eheese
Pare oranges and grapefruit. Cut
into slices. Cut pineapple, oranges
and grapefruit slices into halves.
Arrange in a fan shape on curly
endive or lettuce. Stuff apricots
with cream cheese and place at low
er edge of the fan.
Lynn Says:
The Score Card: Latest reports
reaching me assure us that: we
have enough black pepper and
most spices for at least two
years. Coffee and cocoa supplies
are adequate from South Ameri
ca, and tea stocks are still good.
Domestic fats and oils will
have to replace imported palm
and coconut oils used for frying
fats, soaps and oleomargarines,
and homemakers must conserve
all soaps and frying fats care
fully
Tin will be available for can
ning foods that cannot be pre
served in other ways, but you
will be wise homemakers if you
learn to use dried fruits properly,
and can from your own defense
gardens this summer. Be kind
to your kitchen equipment and
gadgets made out of tin, for there
will be no more after that is used.
Pineapple is still being planted
and shipped to the mainland, and
no serious shortage is yet notice
able.
This Week’s Menu
Guest Luncheon
Assorted Salad Plate:
•Chicken Salad
•Fruit Salad
•Egg Salad in Tomato Cups
•Molasses-Nut Muffins or
•Cheese Rings
Coffee or Tea
•Recipes Given.
•Egg Salad in Tomato Cups.
(Serves 4)
4 medium sized tomatoes
1 package cream cheese
1 tablespoon finely chopped
green onion
2 tablespoons finely chopped
green pepper
Yi medium sized cucumber,
chopped
3 hard cooked eggs, chopped
14 C'jP mayonnaise
Wash tomatoes, peel. Slice off
top, and scoop out the center. Toss
the other ingredients lightly to
gether and fill the tomato cups. Chill
well and serve on lettuce.
All three of the salads given can
be served on one individual platter.
Arrange them attractively, a scoop
of the chicken salad, a fan of fruit
salad, and then the tomato cups.
Your platter complete for a lunch
eon and a very pretty sight to be
hold! A hot muffin to accompany
and a fragrant cup of tea or coffee
completes the luncheon.
On the other hand, if you prefer
salad bowls which the guests will
serve themselves, here are ideas:
Greens: chunks of lettuce, water
cress, slivered green onions, rad
ishes.
Oranges: Use sections on a bed
of curly endive or curly garden let
tuce, with raspberries or strawber
ries for color.
Vegetables: Cooked green beans
in lengthwise slices, carrots, raw
or cooked, in slivers, cooked limas,
chopped ham.
Fruits: Beds of lettuce, length
wise slices of bananas, berries in
season, cheese balls dipped in
chopped nuts.
Dressing makes an important ad
dition to salad, and many times this
is left to your
own preference,
or, if you like,
have the choice
of two permitted
for your guests.
Save sugar in the
little ways, is our
motto, so here is
one way to do it. This dressing
uses molasses for sweetness.
Piquant French Dressing.
V4 cup salad
% cup vinegar
V4 cup chili sauce
Vi cup pure, dark molasses
1 teaspoon salt
Vi teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
1 tablespoon onion, grated
Mix all ingredients together and
beat thoroughly.
When you invite your friends over
for salad and rolls for these lunch
eons, this may seem like so little,
but it’s guaranteed to make a hit
if you do the little details up right.
Have the salads crisp and cool and
well blended. If having rolls,'these
should be piping hot for contrast. If
you don’t feel inspired to make rolls,
then do other things like getting
ready-made rolls and pretty them
up:
Toasted Long Rolls: Split, butter
and sprinkle with grated cheese.
Pop into the oven until cheese
melts. Serve hot.
Cheese Rings: Use day-old bread
and cut rings with a doughnut cut
ter. Brush with butter or salad
oil, dip in cheese, and bake in a
moderate (350-degree) oven until
golden brown.
Orange Biscuits: Add grated rind
of orange to a baking powder bis
cuit recipe. Roll and cut. Dip a
cube of sugar in orange juice and
press into top of each biscuit. Bake
in a hot oven 12 to 15 minutes.
Lynn Chambers will be happy to give
you advice on your luncheon or salad
problems. ICrite to her at Western News
paper Union, 210 South Desplaines Street,
Chicago, Illinois. Please enclose a stamped
self-addressed envelope for your reply.
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docs her part of the work in
the house and on the farm.
Jeanne is a Majorette in the
high school band. $he says:
“I’ve got lots to do, and I
eat pretty early in the morn
ing. That's when the ‘Self-
Starter Breakfast’* tastes
wonderful—and it helps keep
me going strong till noon
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Let's Get Going- Full Speed Ahead
Show Our Foe Patriotism Isn't Dead!
/
Test Driver Don Kenower
puts ’em through the jumps
for Uncle Sam—shares the
Army man’s preference for
Camel cigarettes.*
. YOU SET / SMOKE
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A FLAVOR THAT'S GREAT,
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★ With men in the Army, the Navy, the
Marines, the Coast Guard the favorite
cigarette is Camel. (Based on actual sales
records in Post Exchanges and Canteens.)
CAMEL
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