The sun. [volume] (Newberry, S.C.) 1937-1972, January 02, 1942, Image 3

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THE SUN. NEWBERRY. S. C- JANUARY 2. 1942 Kathleen Norris Says: Happy Marriage Demands Character (Bell Syndicate—WNU Service.) My husband began telling me of a pretty girl in an adjoining office. All the men were crazy about her. When l expressed the hope she would soon marry he said gloomily she had admitted she loved him. By KATHLEEN NORRIS HEN a mein is mental ly defective, girls per ceive his affliction, and nobody wants to marry him. But when he is morally deficient there seems to be no way of see ing it in time. There ought to be. There ought to be questionnaires and tests for the husband - to - be, simple questions as to wheth er he respected the truth, knew anything about the re sponsibilities of marriage and was prepared for its inevit able concessions and sacri fices. For the happiest marriage is a matter of generous adjustments, and is bound to have its dark, difficult and bewildered moments. Success ful marriage is no accident; it is a lifework. It demands courage and character. From his very early days a boy ought to be trained to think of his marriage. He ought to be told that he will owe his wife honesty and faithfulness. To be sure, the wed ding service stresses this, in the words “for better or worse, in sick ness and in health.” But if back of that pledge there is no home influ ence, extended over years and years, to implement that promise, it means nothing. Don’t Forget Marriage. You mothers who are so anxious about your small boys’ teeth and manners, the schools they attend and the friends they make, don’t forget to include in your education and care of them an occasional serious talk about marriage. If men were schooled to simple decency in marriage I could not receive such a letter as came to me this week from “Daphne.” “I am in real trouble and I hon estly don’t know what to do,” writes Daphne. “I have been married three years, and am 23. Billy, my husband, is 27; he is steady, works in an automobile-parts shop and makes a good salary. We have a little boy 15 months old, and I am expecting another child in February. My parents live 700 miles away in a small village, I am the only child. We knew Billy for some years be fore I was engaged to him. I have loved him from my sixteenth year. “After Alan was born he acted rather queerly, seemed quiet and went out alone a good deal, and finally confessed to me that he had ‘fallen hard’ for a woman some years older than he, a divorced woman who had worked in the of fice. She had, however, married again, and Billy’s infatuation had cooled. He explained his straying away by saying that at home it was all 'dust, didies, dishes and babytalk,’ and no man liked that. Shuns Responsibility. “Well, after that I did all I could to be interesting and keep the house pleasant, and our baby was, and is, an angel, no trouble at all, and al most no crying. Billy says he likes the baby, occasionally throws him about or brings him a toy, but he assumes no responsibility for him. We employ a colored girl of 15, who will sit with Alan evenings and help me after school hours. “We decided that Alan must have a companion; we both wanted a girl baby. I love children and al ways have wanted them. At first Billy was nice about it, saying that we would have our family young and enjoy them together, but about three months ago he once again began to MESSAGE FOR HUSBANDS Most of Kathleen Norris’ mes sages are addressed to wives; but here’s one for their hus bands. A girl who wouldn’t think »/ marrying a man who is men tally or physically defective, will not hesitate to marry one who has never learned to accept the moral responsibilities of mar riage. Perhaps she is not to be blamed for that. It isn’t easy to judge a man you have seen only at his best. So it is really up to the mothers and fathers of future husbands to give them the moral background they need, so that they will bring to marriage the decency, courage and sense of re sponsibility without which that marriage has no chance of being a happy one. seem absent-minded and depressed, and I recognized the symptoms of another affair. “Pretty soon he began to tell me about Marian, a pretty saucy girl in an adjoining office, who had all the men crazy about her. I hoped, as in Carmen’s case, that she would soon marry, too, but when I ex pressed the idea Billy told me gloomily that she wouldn’t, she had admitted that she loved him. She is just 18, has a flighty three-times di vorced mother, and I suppose thinks that handsome Billy is fair game, babies or no babies. “This was a terrible blow to me, for his manner indicated that he was well-pleased with the idea; but worse followed. Yesterday, Monday morning, I received in the mail a letter from him saying that he is not coming home again; he is stay ing with Marion and her mother in an apartment hotel. He says he has never really loved me, that it was all a mistake, that his mother will take Alan and I must go to my moth er until the new baby comes, and that a lawyer has told him that all he need allow me is $15 a week. He says he will send that only if I agree to a divorce. “The shock of this has made me frightfully nervous and I don’t know what to do. I don’t believe his moth er would take Alan, for she lives with a married daughter who is not strong. But what arguments can I use to bring Billy back, and what is your opinion of him?” Refuses to Divorce Him. My opinion of Billy could hardly be printed in a family paper. The writer of this letter lives in Sacra mento, Calif., less than a hundred miles away from me, and my an swer was to drive up and see her and have a personal talk. Shortly afterward she stored her furniture and went with her small boy to live with her mother and father, and the courts have told Billy to send her $75 a month. She intends nev er to grant him a divorce, and so the matter will stand at a deadlock for a long time. But the misery of it, the heart break and tears and loneliness and sense of failure can’t be cured by any such solution as that. Daphne took all a girl’s dreams and hopes into her married life. She loved her little home, her husband, her first baby. There’s no cure for a man like that. If this had come after 12, 15 years of marriage there might be. He might then have lost his senses for a while, only to recover and De gin to realize the value of what hf had tried to throw away. Bustle of the Army Irks Icelanders Stolid Folks of Reykjavik Resent Intrusion of Military Rule. REYKJAVIK, ICELAND.— Reykjavik, a capital that has al ways wanted to be alone; has a war jammed down its throat like a hot potato and doesn’t quite know how to swallow it. Many of its citizens, stepping into the streets to avoid crowds of stroll ing soldiers and jumping back to dodge honking army trucks, wish the old days would return, when the only foreigners were an occa sional crowd of cruise tourists and there wasn’t a soldier in Iceland. It is a strange mixture, the rem nants of a backwater Old World civilization overrun by the strident activity of the British and Ameri can armies of occupation. Sunday afternoon strollers listen with a touch of bewilderment to the creak of winches and shouts of sol diers unloading one ship after an other in the little harbor. Long- bearded naval officers roam the streets, waiting for the next convoy to leave. American, English, New Zealand, Norwegian and Scottish men crowd the restaurants so Ice landers frequently cannot even re serve tables. Military Rule Resented. Iceland’s 120,000 residents lived virtually cut off from the world until the island suddenly became a key spot in the Battle of the Atlan tic. They are extremely proud that their country was the world’s first democracy, started in 930 A* D. with the founding of the Althing (parliament), and they find natural difficulty in accepting the necessary rule that military authority super sedes normal civil life in such a front-line fortress. Many of them, however, are prof iting handsomely from their virtual ly uninvited guests. Stores are do ing rushing business, taxicab com panies are reaping miniature for tunes, tables must be reserved in the best restaurants hours in ad vance and getting a haircut often requires an hour’s wait. The city’s two motion picture houses are operating entirely on a reserved-seat basis, and it is virtu ally impossible to obtain tickets for an evening performance after 1 p. m. The theaters are known as “Bio,” apparently a derivation of the early Biograph days, and cur rently are showing such American features as “Drums Along the Mo hawk” and “Dance, Girls, Dance.” Bookstores have stocked large supplies of English books and weeks-old London newspapers to meet the heavy demand. Postcard sales have been so heavy that it is difficult to find views of Reykjavik and famous land marks. The supply now consists largely of an Iceland pony standing on a hill and James Cagney in a cowboy suit. A treeless, drab city of concrete and corrugated iron buildings, Reykjavik suddenly became an in ternational host at an embarrass ing moment, since many of its streets were tom up for the installa tion of pipes to bring water from a near-by hot springs into a city wide steam heating project. The pipes were a casualty of war, however, and never left the dock in Denmark. The streets were filled up in the best manner possible, but the inces sant pounding of large British and American army trucks—augmented by heavy rains—has made them muddy washboards. Transportation demands are so great that it is not an uncommon sight to see American army majors hitchhiking rides to and from the city. World 9 s Largest Photo-Mural Masking the entire east wall of New York city’s Grand Central sta tion, this gigantic photo-mural, largest in the world, was designed to further sale of U. S. defense bonds and stamps. It graphically illustrates “What America has to defend and how to defend it.” The vast photo montage was created with 22 prints selected from more than 20,000 from the photographic section of the Farm Security administration. TIMID DANNY MEADOW MOUSE j Minute" ' -Ups By Gabrielle The dry skin needs moisture and rich feeding emollients. Apply a coating of your richest cream. Leave on for a minute. Wring out a Turkish towel in hot water. Apply the warm, damp towel to the throat and face. Repeat cream application and towel pressure. Go over the skin with a cleansing tissue. Now apply cream rouge and powder. The dry, drawn skin will fairly “bloom” with soft color! (Ledger Syndicate—WNU Service.) p\ANNY MEADOW MOUSE is timid. Everybody says so, and what everybody says ought to be so. But just as anybody can make a mistake sometimes, so can every body. Still in this case it is quite likely that everybody is right. “You see, it’s this way,” said Danny as he sat on his doorstep one sunny morning talking to his friend, old Mr. Tood. “If I wasn’t afraid I wouldn’t be all the time watching out, and if I wasn’t all the time watching out I wouldn’t have any more chance than that foolish red ant running across in front of you.” Old Mr. Toad looked where Dan ny was pointing, and his tongue darted out and back again so quickly that Danny wasn’t sure that he saw it at all, but when he looked for the ant it was nowhere to be seen, and there was a satisfied twinkle in Mr. Toad’s eyes. There was an an swering twinkle in Danny’s own eyes as he continued. “No, sir,” said he, “I wouldn’t stand a particle more chance than that foolish ant did. Now, if I was big and strong like Old Man Coyote, or had swift wings like Skimmer the Swallow, or was so homely and ugly that no one wanted me like— like—” Danny hesitated and then finished rather lamely, “like some folks I know, I suppose I wouldn’t be afraid.” Old Mr. Toad looked up rather sharply when Danny mentioned homely and ugly looking people, but Danny was gazing far out across the Green Meadows, and looked so innocent that Mr. Toad concluded that he couldn’t have had him in mind. “Well,” said he, thoughtfully scratching his nose, “I suppose you may be right, but for my part fear seems a very foolish thing. Now, I don’t know what it ^s. I mind my own business and no one ever bothers me. I should think it A Good Day’s Work Well Done r- ^ When she was 10 months old, little Helen Zapf received an Irish setter puppy. Now Helen is 214 years old, and the Irish setter is the mother of the cute puppies you see drying here on the line after their bath. would be a very uncomfortable feel ing.” “It is,” replied Danny, “but, as I said before, it is a very good thing to keep one on guard when there are so many watching for one as there are for me. Now, there’s Mr. Blacksnake and—” “Where?” exclaimed old Mr. Toad, turning as pale as a toad can turn and looking uneasily and anx iously in every direction. Danny turned his head to hide a smile, for if old Mr. Toad wasn’t showing fear no one ever did. “Oh,” said he, “I didn’t mean that he is “You see it’s this way.” said Dan ny as he sat on his doorstep one sunny morning. anywhere around here now. What I was going to say was that there is Mr. Blacksnake and Granny Fox and Reddy Fox and Redtail the Hawk and Hooty the Owl and others I might name always watching for a chance to make a dinner from poor little me. Do you wonder that I’m afraid most of the time?” “No,” replied old Mr. Toad. “No, I don’t wonder that you are afraid. It must be dreadful to feel hungry eyes are watching for you every min ute of the day and night, too.” “Oh, it’s not so bad,” replied Dan ny. “It's rather exciting. Besides, it keeps my wits sharp all the time. I am afraid I should find life very dull indeed if, like you, I feared nothing and nobody. By the way, see how queerly that grass is mov ing over there. It looks as if Mr. Blacksnake—why, Mr. Toad, where are you going in such a hurry?” “I’ve just remembered an impor tant engagement with my cousin, Grandfather Frog, at the Smiling Pool,” shouted old Mr. Toad over his shoulder as he hurried so that he fell over his own feet. Danny chuckled as he sat alone on his doorstep. “Oh, no, old Mr. Toad doesn’t know what fear is!” said he. “Funny how some people won’t admit what everybody can see for themselves. Now, I am afraid, and I’m willing to say so.” (Associated Newspapers—WNU Service.) Swastika on Pottery The swastika has been found on American pottery as far north as Greenland’s furthermost tip; ironi cally, on old Hebrew fired clay as well. The Indians, it is generally known, used it as a symbol of good luck. Rider Falls 40 Feet, Lands on Mattress NEW WATERFORD, N. S.— Alex Poirier went for a ride on his bicycle and ended up by rid ing over a 40-foot embankment. Below there was nothing but a rocky shore—and an old mattress. Spectators who saw Poirier dis appear over the cliff rushed to the shore to pick up the body, but found him unhurt on the mattress. Says House of Commons Must Be Entirely Rebuilt OTTAWA.—The British house of commons building will have to be completely reconstructed after the war as a result of Nazi bombing, Ralph Assheton, parliamentary un dersecretary to Labor Minister Er nest Biven, said in an interview here. Assheton said the house of lords chamber survived but nothing short of rebuilding would do for the lower house. “As a barrister, I feel sad in par ticular over the destruction of the temple—that home of lawyers for so many years,” Assheton said. “When the war is over there will be much for architects to do, and I hope they will be worthy of their trust.” What to D< BY PHYLUS BELMONT ff'if /^jf A Want to spend a novel evening and one your friends will remem ber? Invite about four couples who know each other fairly well to sup per and let each of them provide a course of the meal. Naturally, you, as hostess, will probably serve the main course, which might well be chile con carne, spaghetti or chow mein or some other one-course main dish at which you excel. Your guests can provide cocktails, should you want them; someone else may bring attractive hors d’oeuvres, another salad and another dessert and beverage. (Ledger Syndicate—WNU Service.) Rural Youth Put Movies First in Entertainment LAFAYETTE, IND.—Movies are the biggest lure in the entertainment program of rural youth, with danc ing a weak second, according to a survey made by Dr. Lynn Robert son of Purdue university. Dr. Robertson said that rural young men see an average of 36 motion pictures a year, and young women about 34. He estimated that the farm youths spend about $43 a year on entertainments. WE ARE MAINTAINING A ‘FIFTH COLUMN ARMY’—RATS! OAKLAND.—The United States is maintaining a “fifth column army” of 250,000,000 rats at an annual cost in damaged food and property of 50 cents to $2 per rat. Dr. W. B. Herms, professor of entomology and parasitology at the University of California, told the na tional convention of pest control op erators that rodents and pests are doing enough damage in the nation to undermine the national defense. He declared that the staggering total of their damage is $1,000,000,- 000 annually, or enough to supply the navy with 10 superdreadnaughts every year. The greatest destruction by ro dents and pests, he declared, are inflicted on food, clothing, furniture and housing materials. With *he rats causing a loss of more than $300,000,000 annually, he said that insects come next, with an annual sabotage to stored grain and milled products of $300,000,000. “Especially during the present na tional defense period,” he said, “vast stores of milled products are assembled at numerous canton ments, as well as great quantities of clothing and stocks of building material, where rats do more dam age than professional saboteurs of an enemy nation might be able to accomplish. It is here that weevils, moths and termites get in their deadly work.” The total damage to clothing by moths he placed at $20,000,000 an nually, while the damage to build ings by termites was estimated at $40,000,000. 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