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THE WIDOWS. | a The article below comes to The ] f State from Major J. F. J. Caldwell, i w of Newberry, in the form of a letter j t< -and is a fitting: companion piece to i r &hat one of his about "Old i s: which gave us so much delight and i n instruction to the readers of The-, f St^te a few ruenths ago: p \t The State. j v. I have written of step-mothers and p old 1 shall now say something j t concerning a third class of women, j a who I think have not received justice.; li There were in South Carolina in 1910 t (the year of the last census), of c native white parentage, 19,903:1widows, ^and 7,658 widowers; in 11 Charleston, 954 widows, and 258 widowers; and in Columbia, 637 is widows, and 156 widowers. These {r bereaved ladies are therefore an j s element well worth considering. c They have not been so much! \ aspersed as step-mothers, nor as much ! s snubbed as an old maid; but they j c have been much criticised, being j c thought by many men and not a few > x of their own sex to be, usually, either I c forward and flippant, or crafty, or i b else greedy'and domineering. The is last named quality is made conspicu-! f ous by Martial, the Latin epigram- j x - ' matist, in his congratulation of ; Licinius 0:1 his retirement from pub- s lie life, by saying, that his friend is i ? -1 AVv'.'l'^ C* Olivf. [ H nuvv \ cu i/iit twiw ( , crier, the complaining client, and the ^ domination of widows?"imperia vid- r uarum*" I have sometimes hadjp irouble with widow clients: but this j e y was not on account of their trying j ^ vito govern me, ?>ut was the result of j v their following the advice of laymen i j, - who knew .no law?they thinking that j t the men who could show them how ! s ' to cultivate 'potatoes or run a Sunday j v school class was qualified to direct n them in legal business. p Many unkind thii.es have ' been written of them. Shakspere has ?even earnest and serious Macduff ? s saying, "new widows howl, new ^ torphans cry." Why employ the ^ word "howl," which applies only to ^ beasts? And gentle Charles Lamb, writing to Patmore of his (Lamb's) , ' II 1 - " cousin's funeral, says, "i can r aescribe to you the howl which the widow set up at proper intervals/' ^ And ag^ain?"She howls in E la, and IN comfort her in B fiat." And he ^ :goes on to say, that when he and his sister Mary went with the widow to | tarrange for administration of the | ^ dead husband's estate, and Mary fell j , I CI through a broken chair, "I grinned, j Q and the widdw tittered?and then I j, * i ' -J. : "I ? 1,1 ~ ff I 1 Knew in at sne was not mcunsuiauic. jc .And he underscores the last nine j ^ rwc::^r:?to emphasise them. I ^ Like that sex in general, widows | ? "have been charged with inconstancy. ^ There is some reason for it; for be- n ing more under the influence of senti- ^ ment and emotion than men, they f .sre more likely to be diverted from !" i ^ ^consistent courses of action. But in { matters involving moral principles I and the great objects of life, I have j v for.r.J women?maids, wives, and widows?quite as constant and per- j" severing as men. And I think that; ^ the chorus, in the Medea of Euri- ^ pides, is about right in ascribing the c ' > circulation of the charge against them n to the fact that men, and nor women :u +1, ^ c?Ar? r*?c* | ^ I 0 The forwardness of young widows?^ 'is 'Censured by St. Paul, who says, j j, ^that "when they wax wanton" (that j ^ . ^is, headstrong) "against Christ," they ! c> ^ gander from house to house, become j . V. , . , ? . W t/wbyoocues, etc, lie does not ^ say\^at all or most of tltem are so; ixiHit his' advice that all widows under ! ^ sb^r .yearns of age be denied the care ^ * of ifee Christian societies and his i. injunction t^iat they marry and go to 'jpaising; cfh&fy-en indicates that he thought tims^ bad doings common w amongst thera^. ^ Very few men] or women remain ?] - the same nafteif* marriage. The close J y; t'DTJi L^socistion with another \ mature f&Ysoft affects almost any- 0j one's disposition. Generally, in tv marriage, ambng persons of decent i character, according to Tennyson, j jv the husband! gains "in sweetness and j g( in moral Jieight," and the wife in j aj -V^ental breadth." Unless th ewoman j), , is ivwtT meek or indolent, or the' ; inisban'c tyrant and busybody, she j . acquttvs energy and self-reliance, q. ."And if he is wanting in energy, the ai requirements of the situation foster r <that quality in her. And when she q - - i? Jflrvion^e nf her js left a W1G0W, tuc ucmuituu v. . JO icircumstances call into exercise ener- ^ ; gifis, both in kind and in degree, jj ' which,-usually, are not needed by r( 'v&ixdZx maiden. Hence, she grows n "more -active and self-assertive. This j ^ **iorwardness" is less criticised now j ^ rthan it was formerly. Since the i ^ youthful maiden has got to tearing ^ around, helloing" tlx boys, and en- ]j gaging in all sorts of embracing r dances, and she and the married v -.woman are making speeches, march- |p . mg on foot in street parades, and in ! ^ general leading public lives, com-! t mon sense as well as common fair-1 s ness has compelled all of us to "let up" on the widows. j; The supposed anxiety of widows to 1 imarry again is often nihde a charge i gainst them. This comes largely j rom ancient notions in regard to | oman in general. Those held her j d be inferior to man, to have no ight to independence, but to be de- j igned to be under his rule, to j larry him, raise children, and work ; or him ana them, m snort, 10 De nis: roperty?"something better than his og, a little dearer than his horse." j Jeorge Sand, in 1866, describes aj >easant couple "following old cus- < om," of whom the husband sat at . table alone, and was waited on by lis wife, and she sat before the fire , 0 take her meals, holding her bowl j ?f victuals in her lap. Being the j lusband's property, it was thought j hat the witfow had no right to take j 1 snrressor to him. Hence, among: i indent Germans only virgins could J narry. And the ancient Romans con- j idered a second marriage by women ' liscreditable; and the fact of aJ vidow being but once married was iometimes inscribed on her tomb as loing her honor. This notion had its ulmination in the suttee, in India,1 i \-hich was the burning of the widow * ' ' ^ i -r >n the pile wnere ner aeaa nusoana s >ody was incinerated. Both Virgil ind Dante condemn widow Dido as alse to Sichaeus in faiiir.c: in lcvs i vith Aeneas. . i Why should not a woman marry a econd, or third, or fourth time?"here is no martilal state hereafter, .'he order of nature is the -union cf I he saxes. There is more than most i ersors think in the fable of Aristoihanes, in Plato's "Banquet," to the ffect that there was but one kind of iuman being originally, but that it ras afterwards divided?one-half beng man, and the other, woman?and hat, ever since, each half has been eeking union with the other. A iroman in desiring a second, or third late, is actuated by a natural, j roper, wholesome impulse. There is much nonsense in the talk j bout first love and the grand pas-! ion. Most men and women have een in love several times; and the fth or tenth attack may be the eepest and most lasting. And a roman, after experience with one usband, may be better fitted to live rith a man than the average inexerienced maiden. I do not concur [ n Montaigne's opinion, that it is isually best that husband and wile e not in love with each other atj larriage; but a marriage between , ersons respecting each other, and esirous to perform their respective uties is yery often more productive f happiness than many a one con- i racted in the heat of passion. Of ourse there are some persons, as Jovalis says, who, on account of oculiar, self-centered individuality, nd incapacity to adapt themselves o others, ought never to marry; beause, as he says, they are not made or matrimony?"nicht zum Ehesande gemacht." But such persons j re very rare. A widow ought not to be in a; urry to marry?as was Lady Hatton, 'ho, barely twenty-one, beautiful, j nil wealthy, and after saying that' here were seven objections to Sir. ' Idward Coke?himself and his six : hildren ? married,- within four' l.onths after he buried his wife, that j gly, crabbed widower, aged forty-! ight years. So of Q .oen Margaret I f Scotland, who, in a year after the ! eath of' her excellent husband, ames the Fourth, married the greedy j larl of Angus. The result, in each : ise, was trouble to the woman, and j orry to everybody connected .with 1 er. And the widow of middle age, or j lereabouts, should be careful as to . le young suitor. He may require i great deal of watching, after she j jfcs him. History makes little mention ot idows, except in political life, ^here j ley have usually not much to their I redit. There are Athaliah, Tom-1 ris, Arteraesia of Halicarnassus, i grippina, mother of Nero, Matilda ? England, Anne of Austria, and the ro Medici women in France, the j iro Catharines, Elizabeth and Anna \ anovma, in Russia, Isabella the j *cond and her mother, in Spain? I which, had records. Margaret of ! enmarfc and Norway is doubtful, j nd there have been good ones of ] gh rank; as Zenobia, Artemesia of aria, who gave the world the thing id word Mensoleum, Octavia of j ome, Cornelia, mother of the ; racchi, and Anne Victoria of Eng ,nd and Jeanne, mother of Henry; le Fourth of France- But political' fe is not woman's sphere * and the j jcord there furnishes no adequate I loaciirempTTt *>f woman's, virtue, or ' er capacity, or her usefulness. The I 'idow who "sustained" Elijah, the! ridow of Tekoah, the prophetess inna, and the widow who cast all her j ving into the treasury, are, fairer | epresentatives of the class. Such /omen as Madame Recamier of France and the Countess of Blessing-1 on, in England, have been highly iseful as well as ornamental in ;ociety. Dante gives the Jewish widow Fudith, who slew Holofernes, the eader of her country's enemies, a ligh place in Paradise; and Petrarch t mentions her with praise three times I calling her twice by the pet name of "the little widow" (la vedovetta), and styling her wise, chaste and j brave; and I confess that I have admired about as much as the two Italians "the* little widow." The trouble is, that it is doubtful whether there ever was such a woman. But the great achievements, of ; wudows are to be found in the un- j published annals of private life. I j may not give names; but a large j majority of them within the circle j of my acquaintance have managed j their affairs with more sagacity than j the average man, and have lived , valuable and irreproachable lives.! Indeed, the observation of four-score < i years has led me to believe that they j have combined activity, effectiveness, usefulness, chastity and piety in larg- j er proportion to their number than . any other class of persons whom I j have known. And we people of New- j berry have been glad to leara that j three grateful sons of a widowed j mother have recently testified their i . i , indebtedness lor ner care ana.nur-' j ture, by contributing some thousands of dollars for the establishmant of a chair of the Bible and Christian j ethics in our college, to bear her name. NOTICE CF FINAL'SETTLEMENT.' I will make a final settlement of ss r ^ /-I r> -P ?-T0 - A f- "V i rl ""i tiiv; c; tc.iw ui iiui i iv;w x ? ju*v*~ceased, in the Probate . Court for Newberry County, South Carolina,' on Friday the 19th day of December,' 1019, at ten o'clock in the forenoon,' and will immediately thereafter ask for my discharge as Executor of said estate. All persons holding claims against said estate are hereby re-; quired to present same duly attested to me or my Attorneys, Hunt, Hunt j & Hunter on or before said date, j failure to present same will relieve! the estate of liability thereon. John M. Kinard, Executor of the Last Will and Test-1 ament of Harriet Y. Lane, deceased. I I NOTICE OF PRIMARY ELECTION, j Notice is hereby given that a Democratic primary election will be held on Tuesday, November 25, 1919, in the town of Newberry, S. C., for Mayor, to serve for two year;, a Commissioner of Public Work, to f/s*. oiv raora onrl fllrlpr. O^l V t XVI CIA J VU1U, M1AV4 ^ men to serve for two years, and j ?:: trustees of the graded schools for Y'ards one, two and three to serve" for ere year, this being necessary because trustees for the wards mentioned should have been elected last year, and said trustees so elected for said wards to serve for one year, and j trustees for wards four and five to I serve for t',vo years; said primary! ! JAl - 1 __ I election to be accorcr.ng to 111? ruxes j and regulr'ons of the Der.i^cratic j party cf the town of N: vbc.Ty, S. j C.; the polls to be r-jned at 8, o'clock a. m. and to be closed at 4! p. m. There will be a separate voting pre-1 cinct in each ward and in ward 3 two j voting precincts as follows: Ward 1?Council chambers. Ward 2?New court house, supervisor's office. tit?j o r-l,,K 1 f,Pn C,_ ft (2IU O V1UU iw. J. v.w?. j Hipp's store. < < Ward 3?Club No. 2?I. T. Tim- i < merman's store. Ward 4?J. W. White's store. i Ward 5?At corner Drayton and < Wright streets. - -- i The following nave oeen appouneu | as managers of said election: Ward 1?H. L. Speers, S. S. .Cun- j' ningham, Vernon Hiller. Ward 2?R. T. Caldwell, D. B. j ' Werts, C. B. Martin. t' Ward 3?Club No. 1?F. L. Pay- j( singe if. II. Ilir.ard, 0. M. Buzhardt. | J 'Ward 3?Club No. 2?A. H. I Blease, L. A. Tew, I. T. Zimmer- J man. Ward 4?J. M. Bjowers, J. R. ' Davidson, A. J. S. Langford. Ward 5?0. S. Gorce, T. B. Kib- 1 ler, Oscar Gentry. The attention of all candidates is ' called to the following section of 1 the rules governing the primary: iJ . * i Sec. 3. Candidates receiving a j majority of all the votes cast for the !' said offices of mayor, alderman, cpm- \{ missioner of public works, school j1 trustees, respectively at said elec- j tion, shall be declared nominees of;' i j the Democratic party of said town;1 Provided, That on or before 12 o'clock noon on Friday, November'' -i a mm rk-f sjiirl randidates ; ' JLIj vavn vta. v?tv ?v..v. ^ ? shall have left a written statement | with the chairman of the executive j committee that he is a candidate and i' that he will abide the result of said J. election, and that he has paid the j assessment. No vote will be count- j ed for any candidate who has not so j pledged himself and paid the assess-1 ment. * j: The attention of the voters is i especially called to the -following ; j portion of Section 2 of the rules: Sec. 2. All Democrats who have 1 -? ? *11 ? ,] ?f V* a T^nrv> /v_ tneir names enroueu uu mc wtinvcratic clubs of the respective wards five days prior to the first primary election, shall he allowed to vote: Provided, That in the nomination of the aldermen and trustees of the graded school from the respective wards, only those whose names are > lifei i ! = 5 5 A. I A Ki I 1 <r u Mir ' m i| ^ ' 'OIL, uiiii I ? I *x t>est.a ! if Spot Chalme ! ii 3D cmAf\tl^nDCc i IH n?m > You will n< ISSkS of "effort" at power. You jl||J$i ."most no vibr $f=Sl^ no engine no lip! -That is bee illftsi "cracks up" |i|! an extremel; ijlBljjl and Ram's-h to the rylind< It W Dn the.- club rolls from each ward J shc.ll be permitted to vote* for alder-! men and trustees of the graded i school from that ward. The Democratic ward clubs as! organized for the state and county j Democratic election are hereby rec- j ~ ~ 'J ^ uta w/1 vklinlLr* I ci2> tuc i/ciiiutLai/it vvaiu ciuuo j )f the city Democratic primary: j Provided, That only those .members j 3f the respective clubs living within ! the city limits shall be permitted to i /ote in the city Democratic primary j election. The secretary of each j ward shall furnish to the secretary of j the city Democratic executive com-! mittee a certified copy of the club i roll of his ward club, containing a I list cf the members of said club re-1 siding within said ward and wiihin 1 the city limits, said list to be completed cn Thursday, November 20, 1919, and no name shall be permitted placed on said club roll after .that :Iate Sai<? club rolls to be turned Dvcr to the city Democratic executive committee on Friday, November ( 21, 1919, the said club rolls certified by the secretary of the various ward clubs shall be furnished by the secretary of the c\ty Democratic executive committee and certified by j him as the roll furnished bv the secre- i tary of- the ward club, to the managers and shall constitute the regis- j tration for said ward and only those j Democrats whose names appear on J these certified rolls shall be permitted | to vote. . j If no candidate for the office of; mayor or alderman or commissioner j of public works or trustee of the j graded school in a ward shall have j received a majority of votes at su.ch j election a second election for the j nomination of mayor or alder-1 man. or commissioner of public j works or trustee of the graded; school as the case may be shall be held on Tuesday, Decern ber 2, 1019, under these rules: Provided, Al, which second election, only two candidates who receive the highest : J are Smooth] : Action ^ & g y?u will like condenses bui rid remember route. about a H?t There are no sF ts is its rare or abrupt bend Df action. horn to impede Dte an absence If the Chair )Ulll lis IIIUIIYU liau WI1IUUUS V will sense al- amazed at the n ation, no jars, formed w i t h ises. when you drive ause Mot Spot Chalmers y@u v the gas into results obtainec yT fine vapor too, will say ( orn hurries it one ?f the fe* 3rs so that gas of the w*rlii. $1685 f. o. b. Detroit. Carolina Auto Cc Newberry, S. C. AfeM J nnnr.r.r ^ j ^ ^ J jjjjj Jumpy, Irri Frazzled hvrr T T i 1VXX wv^v*v/ w v% IV ? I " I ed to become r nerves, when a ch i % ! Instant 1 [ This wholesome with a rich an like flavor is deli j ing, economical, Uh Jl/Ulll 1IVU1U1 UXK i r Made by Postum ( Battle Creek Sold by Grocers an . 11? vote at the former election for the respective offices shall be voted for; and provided, further that in the ^ event there should be a tie at the * - _ 1 J second primary lor mayor or aiueri man or commissioner of public t works or trustee of the graded , school a third primary shall be held, ^ Friday, December 5, 1910. The candidates are assessed as follows: Mavor, $25.00. / .ess 11 t littlt en- ! j?j| larp corners j j==g s in Ram's- ;! j| lfete ? = g ners engine | = 8 ou would be jigs miracles per- 1 11 B g ?l a . But | ?? 8 a Hot Spot | |j 11 rill *ote tke 1: = I 1, *nd y#u, 5 2 Hi I Ihalmers is j =8 r great ?ars ; |i mil -^TTrT^ j H(L ,* . fi| sv&z-iz&twes&V' '? ??- ** ' 1 i^???r- , table, I Nerves? * )ffee?areheli> lormal, healthy angeismadeto Postum V 4 i table beverage mffoe- j tiously satisfy- 7' 1 and respects j d pocketbook. v Cereal Company , Michigan 1 I! lu uciiciai uiuim i M??? Alderman, $7.00. ^ * nnkliA it*ArL*c l^ommissiuiier Hi ^uuuv. nvi >w, ?15.00. School trustee, $1.00. Pledges may be filed with the rhairman or the secretary and the issessment paid to either one of ;hem. Harry H. Blease, A Chairman. 1 E. H. Aull, Secretary. i