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"ENGAGI /.-. i. /;../. fi fy i M. "Court i UL'." -?lilian Irishman, "is like dying -uri'a niau inu-J du it fur !iiin-< lt and indeed so pleasant i thc occupation thal it i- milly thus who atc abnormally shy who wish to do it hy proxy. Thorn is a ?r< at oil" fe rc lice between flirtation ad court ship. Thc hist is attention without i ti ten finn. ll wa-well described hy Punch ;i- a ?poon with nothing in it, hui thc latter, though it ?nay he a ...JIMIII too, is a spoult with -OIDC thing ?II ?i that i- to ray, the in ton lion 111 marry. "Oh, whal .1 recrea'; ii.01 it 1-, exclaimed an I ri-liman. "to fall in hive it make- the heart heal so delicately that you can't g? 1 1 wink ol' sleep tor the pleasure ol il pain!" " I you <i raine of mc, Mik? asked a gil I of lier young mai al?o I ri - li. ' I l? ame of you, is it dar lin . why I ' an t get an.. . |> for draining nf you." After awli le. how ever, il i- ii it to he a i. ; l lo e.\ chuiigc tlii.-. painful 1 ?'. asure, this restless dreaming, for the sweet se curity ol' being >-rr. i.' d. No doubt there arc human hut lerllics who Hit I'rntn (lower to ll uv? r. whn weary of what they po-and who think no hills green except far oil ones. Tin only pleasure ol' wild hunters like P. su ti is tin l'hase. Very different are home loving Jacobs. No toil or anx iety is too much for them ii' tin y are allowed to put engagement rings on the llachaels ol their chou* i, aie! can hope one day to .-ettie down with them. Headers ol' Charles Kingsley's biography will remember how a friend describe- .?..!,,j. i.i .,-.> him at his little ctir.iie <-i lindi tig him pack ing ?1 port oiaui i-an, ?uto which he was jumping in .md out, exclaiming, "I'm enquired, I'm engaged, and am oil'to sec her! " I'M wi ti or Jim has proposed to Leonora or Lizzie and to her lather (a not ? 'i uaily pleasant task.) and has been accepted. Ile now establishes a protectorate aver the 301111g lady! Thc wedding will be annexation. He ilig a protector he must be perfectly chivalrous and pure-minded. One is expected to give enthusiastic congrat ulations upon hearing ol' au engage ment, hut it is not easy to do this. Will thc engagement ever he carried out, or docs it mean us little us did Beau Brummcll's affairs of this sort? I lc thought, it a part id' politeness to get engaged to all his lady friends. Mrs. Carlyle was thinking of tho possibilities of woe as well as of the happiness which a matrimonial en gagement may bring when she wrote to a girl friend, perhaps too candidly, that she almost screamed when she read in her letter an announcement that she was engaged. Still, it is well sometimes in life to tuk.i short views, and if wc do this it is not difficult to sympathize with tho present happi ness of engaged people. Wc may think that they arc living in a fool's paradise, but. Scripture tells us to suf fer fools glauly, and if they flaunt their happiness in our face and look at us as if they expected us to apolo gize for being in thc same world with them-well, perhaps we were not less i ri t at i tig lon g ago when wc were in the same interesting (to ourselves) condition. If people nre not at their best when engaged when will they be? According to Leigh Hunt, no reason able person ought to marry who can not say, "My love has made me bet ter, and more desirous of improve ment than I have been," and he him self could say that love for his wife had subdued thc violent temper that ene- possessed him. The prospect of marriage with Margaret Simpson hud-a good i fleet upon Do (Quincy. During his engagement ho reduced his daily dose of opium from ?MO grains to 40. All engaged persons should prove the sincerity of their love by reducing their daily dose of whiskey, of cigars, of gambling, of outbursts of temper, of frivolity, of extravagance in dress, or of any other poisoner of domestic life Certainly I do know youug men who have given up almost all small luxuries in order to he able sooner to afford that greatest luxury in life-a good wife Sometimes there is not so much self-restraint shown by the oth er sex. There are person? who never seem to realize that love has a sacred and a serious side, that it is more than a modern fair one's jest, more than a subjectofor fun and banter. When they become engaged these frivolous people will not put aside their inordi nate love of flirtation. The results arc jea?uusy, jilting, breach of prom ise of marriage. Therc?aro girls who might be described as having been "extensively engaged." They have little reason to be proud of themselves. To say the least, the peach has lost its bloom. People should know their minds before they become engaged. Indeed, in many countries the betroth al ia considered almost as sacred as marriage, and there is a religious ser vice for it. When a tliouglitlcsscgirl gives up a good man she may not be much loss heraclf, but she may bc thc means of causing considerable finan cial lc s. The writer knows two men, who being engaged, and expecting ?MENTS." .. III SI. /.iiin^ l'i /nihill. soon t<i lu- married, I" lutifully fur nished houses. Ky vii t!.' lamps w<;rc trimmed and put n ii : ir I i>s li jLi *if? in one ni tTii. tn. With H any apparent reason, at the la-i m uieni the ladies changed what iii ?;? vye re pleased tn eal! their mile:-, and now tip! houses are shul nj' u il fiirnilurc i- spoil ing. Wi LII M rt i 1 rest rai ni i here can hu ii o e . ii j t ? i ippiness; ami il' lhere ?8 not ; ?l'i-i purity of thought, word ?IIM? . i cloud will oyershadi ? not ipiljt iii - en ga ii >.''nc II i period, hut the ni i: riage that follows. Tie' young ? pie should respect arel try to bring it what i - best in < :irli other. Happy is thc wooing that is not long i M doing.' ' \\ e ihi not approve of long engage ments, 1'ir people iiiay [irow away from each other in tastes and feeling. Neither of the engaged couple ina) sec any pac they like bettor, hilt too much thinking about tin- li''*- and re sponsibilities ni' matrimony may make i them desirous ol' crying 'di. A six mouths' engagement, we would say. is ijuite long enough, lt is helter to take tin- ball at tin- hop, s*o lo speak, \ and marry in the ardor of first love. Think ol' all thc money which is .-pent duringa Inn;' engagement, upon post age and telegrams! 'flu- writer knows a girl who laid out two shill in'.-- one day mi telegrams to her young man, though .-in- knew thal he was coining to see her next morning when she could have given her own message, lt was a trilling question about lin; furniture of their first home, a matter which has given my friends so much trouble that they must envy the cuckoo which, as thc child said, d .es not make its own nest or lay its own eggs. Then, tin-re are engaged girls who expect presents every time the men come to .-cc them, which ex hausts wisdom in choosing and spare coin, and costs almost as much as marriage. Very simple was Sydney Smith's offering. One day before their marriage, he ran into the room where his fiancee was, Hung into her lap six teaspoons, which, "from much wear, had become the ghosts of their former selves," and said, "There Kate, you lucky girl, I give you all my for tune!'' A present not loss interesting than Sydney Smith's six spoons was made to the lady of his choice by Doctor Wordsworth, Bishop of Lin coln. When he was headmaster of Harrow, ho sent to her tho niuo gold medals won by him at Winchester and Cambridge. When a girl has been engaged a long time people begin to talk of her. and even to introduce her to strangers in the presence of the young man, as "Miss So-and-So who hopes tobe Mrs. So-and-So." lt is just as-well when engaged peo ple do not live too near each other. Lately, talking of a certain yuuug man, I happened to mention that he came over every day to take tea with his fiancco. The comment of an ex perienced woman who heard the- re mark was, "livery day? How dread ful; that was us bad as being mar ried!" Still, if people are going to tire of each other it is better that they should do so before rather than after marriage. A girl of my acquaintance was heard soliloquizing thus-"I wonder if I should tell him all?" Nothing more dreadful than a few juvenile flirta tions were included in this "all," but my friend was thinking whether she were bound in honor to confess them to the young man to whom she was engaged. Let us hope that he ab solved her as completely as did Doc tor Johnson when Mrs. .Johnson con fessed to him before marriage. She thought it right to tell him that one of her ancestors had been hanged. The doctor said that if none of his had been hanged, several of them de served to be. We pity people who never have had any romance in their lives and ?luring the engagement pe riod illusions and day-drcamings arc ?juite excusable. Some ol the castles built in thc air then may reach to heaven. No one will be so good, so loving and so useful as they will be when they marry. Their mamago will bc a complete success, and not a single hitch in it. The only objection to this is that if people fancy before marriage comes that it is better than it is, whon they are married they may think that it is worso than it is. This is what is meant when it is said that marriage is a door that brings deluded mortals back to earth. Thc explanation of this apparently unreasonable reaction is that expe rience shows that matrimony has no magic power of conferring happiness, but that this must bc earned by giv ing as well as taking, by patient en durance, self-restraint, and loving consideration for thc tastes and even for the faults of him ?>r her with whom life is to be lived. When en gage?! think of this, I would say, and let not thc discovery come us an un pleasant surprise after tho marriage. There are two ways of acquiring wis dom. We may get it cheaply by ob I serving 1.11 * - faults and follies of others ! and trying to avoid them, <>r we .may learn it from our own hitter expe rience. Let engaged people observe arid reflect upon the matrimonial suc cesses and failures they see around thom, and they will disc iver that do mestic bliss does 11. . t come from having a large house, servants, horses, j and so forth, hut from having in a i hume, whether large ur ?mall, two "boars," and from payit / attention to two t?rst things. The "bears," ?d' course, are hear and fi rle ur, the spirit . d' self sacrifice and of toleration, and the two first things arc thc lirst quar rel and the first year of ni irricd life. A poor girl who had got :i black eye was asked how she got it She an -wen d: "From my sweetheart," and then added: "Ile could not have done more if he had beet! mai!, d lo me." Some engaged people (-nurrel almost ?is much as if they ive re married. Til i -i i- had, for it form- the habit of nagging and trying to tret ?bc last word lt may be said that engaged I.pie -peak to each other with their eyes, and with their mouths only when they arc married. . We hope that they do, and that some of them will not use their tongues too much afterwards. Thc lirst year of married lifo is more important than any, or perhaps than all, that follow. It might be called what thc li 1*til propo sition of thc fir>t hook of Kiiclid is calle1-thc "Ass's Bridge." A lady said lately, in my hearing, in order to account for thc unhappiness she had suffered iti married life, "Oh, wc be gan all wrong." Thc best thing we cati wish those of our readers who are going to he married is that they may begin all riirlit. and not all wrong. What is (.omi Society. Somebody said hu would like to get into good society, lt started thc question, What is good society? (loud society is that where toadyism is frowned upon and scandal mongers arc not admitted. Hood society is that where one earns ono's title of gentlewoman, not hy hirth only, but hy good manners. Good society is that where to under stand (?reek is of less importance than to understand courtesy in all its laws. ?Good society is that which is not personal in its talk, but which linds sufficient topic of interest to discuss without dilating on thc sins of its neighbors. Good society is that where the art of welcoming the coming and speed ing thc parting guest is graciously practiced. Good society is that where people are not hastily judged, but once they are believed to be untruthful, deceit ful, and ill-bred they are ostracized. Good society is that which can give a dinner without sending a notice of it to thc newspapers, can introduce a daughter without having her frocks made thc subject of a paragraph, and which believes that the family and its happiness is of more importance than thc booming of a beauty or the being counted among thc Four Hun dred. Good society is that which while it recognizes thc value of all the con ventional rules, is yet sufficiently strong to bc guided occasionally by the heart, and not of necessity to follow a loader, as sheep do. Good society is that where a mother knows that her daughter or her son is safe. Good society is that which is form ed when two or three are met together in pleasant converse. You can. if you will, though yours be only a room in a boarding house, make there the best society in the world. ^ . - - Character pays a larger part than intellect in the happiness of life. "Pull up!" That's the'counsel very often given by a well meaning person to a friend who is slipping down thc road of alcoholism. And when the answer comes " I can't stop," the man is perhaps reproached for the cowardice of that phrase, "I can't." But intem perance is only n form of disease, and there may conic a time in the progress of nov disease when it can't be stopped. That's what wc mean when we talk of .'galloping consumption." It's like a horse running away with us. We can't stop it. Strength will stop the wildest horse. Strength is the great necessity in the stopping of disease. Dr. Pierce's Golden Medical Discovery has cured thousands who had " obstinate cough, bronchitis, weak lungs, spitting of blood, emacia tion, and similar ailments which if neg lertert or OTisk??u?y treated lead to con sumption. It cures by strengthening the lungs and giving them power to throw off disease. .'I hail been troubled with bronchitis and catarrh of the head for eight years ; had severe cough and at times great difficulty in breath ing." writes J. W. Howcrton. Esq., of Bigfalt, Hancock Co.. Tenn. " A portion ot the time my appetite was poor and part of the time I was unable to do anything. I had been treated by our ber.?, country physicians for several years but with little benefit. I had bf.*n reading about vour medicine for several years but hadn't much faith in it. Last spring I concluded that I would Irv it and l>el"ore I had takeu one-third of a bottle of Dr. Pierce's Golden Medical Discov ery and "Pleasant Pellets* I liegan to mend. I continued taking it until I had taken seven bottles. Now I feel like a new man and can do as hard a dav's work as any mau. I advise all of lav friends who arc disease?! to take Doctor Pierce*? Golden Medical Discovery." Free. The People's Common Sense Medical Adviser free Send stamps to pay expense of mailing only. Scud 21 one-cent stamps for paper covers, or 31 stamps for cloth binaillg. Address Dr. R. V. Pierce, Buffalo, N. Y. Killing o? lien. Scdgewick. Tn III' E'Htnr nf (liv Shlh j Vou republished what I said in the I Abbeville Medium about (,'apt. O. li Warwiek, of the Eighteenth (J. S. in fantry, who was killed in a skirmish I in the Philippines, Nov. 2u\ Vou 1 gave credit to the Press and Harmer j j through inadvertence, and I make no complaint, but write to m ike u correc tion in what I wrote and to tell some strange* coincidences about the killing of Gen .-*eij<_'ewick. Lieut. Charles lt. Paul was not iu the company with j ('apt. McLaughlin and Li? ?t. Warwiek ; who were hen; in 1871. Ile came in j l>7t'> with Capt. Lloyi and Lieut, j Marunari. I took him t- a big politi cal meeting at Hue We i where wc had a bra-- band, rel -hirts, negro D?mocratie speakers and two pitchers on the Stand. It was an interesting ! experience for him. Lieut. Paul afterward- married a daughter of Hen. Rain-, who was an <dd army ollicer, but resigned and came South. Ile had had charge of a Confederate foutn ry in Au gusta during the war between the States. Lieut. Paul told me that he was sit ting on a horse near Cen. .lohn Sedge wick when he was killed by ono of McGowan's sharpshooters at Spott sylvania Court House. Paul was act ing on his staff and Cen. Scdgewick was giving orders about bringing up some commissary wagoe.-, lu a few minute's thc word passed down our line that (me of our sharpshooters had killed a Yankee general. Some years ago while dining with lion. J. J. Darlington, in Washing ton, D. C., his father-in-law, au cl derly minister, told mc that he saw thc body of tien. Sedgwick when il lauded in that city, and that Ccu, Scdgewick was tao only man he saw during thc whole war who had beer: killed in action. I was standing in the broad roa'j leading to Spottsylvania Court Iloust when the word came along thc line tba1 a general had been killed bj'ono of oui sharpshooters at a singh; shot at adis tance of LOUD yards, lc is strang! that 1 should meet his aide after st many years and also tho mau who sav the body reach Washington. Ii "Lee's Sharpshooters," recently pub lished, Maj. W. S. Dunlop, who com manded McGowan's sharpshooters tells who killed Gen. Sedgwick as fol lows: "Wo reached . the backbone of th ridge, near the edge of a held that la; out beyond. Herc we could plain!; see Sedgwick's corps in line of hatti on the crest of another hill, busily en gaged in rectifying their lines and con structing breastworks with their skii mishcrs well advanced. I'pon thes we opened a scattering lire with som effect. We discovered an angle prc trudingfrom their main line toward the right of the battalion, whic brought a four-gun battery with it infantry supports placed there for th defense of the salient, barely withi reach of our long range ritlcs. And I these Hen Powell, with his "Whi worth," and a few files on the rigl paid their respects. Presently a officer of rank with his staff approacl ed thc salient, and adjusting his fiel glasses, began to take observations ( the front. A few shots had been fi.t at the group, when the ringing peal? Powell'? "Whitworth" was heard ! sorne distance to the right; tho officer was seen to stagger and fall, and the brilliant career of that gallant and dis tinguished soldier, Maj. Gen. Sedg wick, commandant of the Fifth Fed eral army corps, was closed, and closed forever. Powell reported at once that he had killed a Federal gen eral, but we knew not his name nor rank until it came out a few days la ter in the Northern papers, announc ing that (iou. Sedgwick had been killed by a Confederate sharpshooter; which fact so published has gone into history, but the name of'the man he il ?nd the gun' has never before been mentioned. ' ' lien Powell was from Lancaster, S. C. There may not bc much in what I have said above, but .some of the old soldiers may be intercsled in the story. Itou EUT li. HKMIMIILL. Abbeville, S. C., Dec. 12, 181)9. Hobby as u Court Crier. A Springfield lawyer has a son about lb years of agc, arni a daughter about twice that age. The boy has been around the courthouse a good deal with his father, and the young woman has a steady beau. The other evening the young man passed the house and the young woman desired to speak to him. "Hobby," she said to her little brother, "won't you please call Mr. Brown."? Hobby knew the state of affairs, and lie Lurried to the front door and called out in the usual loud monotone of a court bailiff: "John Henry Hrown! John Henry Brown! John Henry Brown! Come into court!" Mr. Hrown came in and Hobby with drew to a safe place. A Sure Cure for Croup. Twenty-five years' constant usc without a failure ! Thc first indica tion of croup is hoarseness, and in a child subject to that disease it maybe taken as a sure sign of the approach of an attack. Following this hoarse ness is a peculiar rough cough. If Chamberlain's Cough Remedy is giv en as soon as thc child becomes hoarse, or even after thc croupy cough ap pears, it will prevent the attack. It is used in many thousands of homes in this broad land and never disap points the anxious mothers. We have yet to learn of a single instance in which it has not proved effectual. No other preparation can show such a re cord-twenty-years' constant use with out a failure. For sale by Hill-Orr Drug Co. - "I owe to my wife all the prom inence I have achieved," is a famib iar expression among public men. It is cerlainly true in the case of Congressman Roberts with his three wives. "One Minute Cough Cure is the best remedy I ever used for coughs and colds. It is unequalled, for whooping cough. Children all like it," writes II. N. Williams, Gcntryvillc, Ind. Never fails, lt is thc only harmless remedy that gives immediate results. Cures coughs, colds, hoarse ness, croup, pneumonia, bronchitis and all throat and lung troubles. Its early use prevents consumption. - Man imposes on woman, ^but she always thinks he doesn't mean it. - The man who never tracks mud into the house is usually meddlesome in the kitchen. CAR OF OLD HICKORY AND TENNESSEE WAGONS, JUST ARRIVED. COLUMBIA BUGGIES Are going right along, anti if you don't buy at once you will have to pay 15 to 25 per cent advance. A FULL, LINE OF Carriages, Wagons, Buggies ar? ci Harness On hand at all times to be sold at the Lowest Cash Prices. B&- If jeu have a good young MULE that you wieh to sell at a reasonable cash price bring it around and let me look at it. I would prefer to pay you the cash than to take it West. ?ar I am also in the market for DRY CATTLE and Feeders. ?.gu Come to see mo when in the city and let's see if we can't trade some. _ JOS. J. FRETWELL. M L CARLISLE. L. H. CARLISLE. WE STILL SELL THAT GREAT OLIVER CHILLED PLOW, And have cn hand a cornpiate Sine of Hiern. We also handle a full line of other Farm and \gricultural Implements. Wagon and Buggy Material, ?fcc. In fact, a general line of HARDWARE. We have just received a neat linc of SHOT GUNS, and can interest you on prices. If von need AMMUNITION we eau put it cheap. We also carry "a sel ct line of FAMILY GROCERIES. Call and examine our Genuine Heavy Utd Rust Proof OATS. New Crop N. O. MOLASSES. CARLISLE BROS., Anderson, S. C. BOX. Free City Delivery. 'Phone No. 138. Tho Kind You Have Always Bought, and whioh has boca in uso l'or over ?50 years, has borno tho signature ot' - and has hecn mado under his per? V^y^'^Z sonal supervision hinco its infancy. ?????J<?/2? Allow no ono to deceive you in this. All Counterfeits, Imitations and Substitutes are but Ex: perinicnts that triilo with and endanger thc health of Infants and Children-Experience against Experiment. What Bs CASTO RSA Castorla is a substitute for Castor Oil, Paregoric, Drops and Soot liing Syrup.;. It is Harmless and Pleasant. It contains neither Opium, Morphine nor other Narcotic substance. Its ago is its guarantee. It destroys Worms and allays Feverishness. It cures Diarrhoea and "Wind Colic. It relieves Teething Troubles, cures Constipation and Flatulency. It assimilates tho Food, regulates tho Stomach and Bowels, giving healthy and natural sleep. The Children's Panacea-Tho Mother's Friend. CE PIU ONE TORI? ALWAYS Bears the Signature of The Kind Yoi Have Always Boug in Use For Over 30 Years? THC CEMTSUF? C1MP?NY, TT MUAHtV OTRCCT. NCW YOftK CtTV. STOVES, STOVES ! The Best Stoves in the "World. SOLD ON THEIR M E ll IT. Thur never fal} to bike perfectly on boteom. Have you ont a Stove that burns the bren?! on tue bottom. If you buy of JOHN" T. BUHKISS you will have a good meal three Um cw a day. I have some Rare Bargains in Crockery, Of Pdttorns in I) MO rated Ware, that I am runtime; out of Stock. You should avail your*elf of this opportunity to j?*t something iu beat Goods at a reduced price, TIUWABE Cheaper than any competition will sell you. Don't forget this item of merchandise. It will pay you to price this Tinware before buying. TOYS! You know too wall that I am Headquarters in TOYS Competition tries to copy by putting in Toys to draw trade. DJD'C be deoelved by what you hear, but come and see for yoursel I HOII more Toys for less money than any one. An Iron Toy that vou will be asked 50j. for you oin buy tbo Hame size of me for 35c. Your trade and inspection solicited. JOHN T. BURRISS. Is a Little Thing when it Begins ! THE longer you put it off the harder it is to cure. The longer it lasts the more t-crious it becomes. Let it run on and there's no telliug what the end will be. The worst case of Consumption was a little Cold once. TAR MINT Will stop any Cough when it first begins. It will stop most Coughs after they get bad. But the best way is to take it at the first sign of a Cold. It ought to bo right at your elbow all the time. Tar Mint Is the BEST REMEDY for COUGHS, COLDS, HOAR3ENES5| and ali diseases of the Throat and Lungs. Don t buy any other kind. 50c. HILL-ORR DRUG CO NEW SHOES ! 'E havo just opened np tho best and cheapest line of HEAVY SHOEfl that ever was offered on this market. There is only one kind that we (ir not nor will not handle, and that is the cheap, shoddy stuff palmed off on unaufl pectins buyers. If we sell you Shoos they must be solid leather or wo didn't eel 'em. So if you want Shoes to wear buy only the best-they are always the cheapen DEAN'? PATENT FLOUR, like Mrs. Cour, is as pure as the Alpin! snows, thrice blenched by the hyperborean blasts. If you want anything purdfl than that we havn't got it. . We have even more pure TEX AM RED Rl)f?T PROOF OATS than Caff ter had, and want to get rid of them-will sell them cheap. Yours for the 9 9 9 9, DEAN & RATLIFFE. ND -Parties owing us on either Note or open Account are given nolie . Jl3? that heir Accounts are due, and that they are expected to sett! the same AT ONCE, or bear the costs of fending a man for our money. When cd Collector comes to see yon, you will save yourself a great deal of annoyance tfl settling with him at onoe. He will call to see those whose Acoounte are still unpalg on and after November 15th. D, & It. Ten Dollars Prize To Wheat Growers. FOR the host five-acre yield of Wheat grown this season with our Wht Fertilizer?, and top-tlreesed with our Nitrate of Soda or other dressing, or oj dressed at all, we will award as a prize the sum of TEN DOLLARS. 'The award will be made on JULY 15, 1900, upon the affidavits of ea' contestant for the prize and the several threshers. v DEAN & H.A.'jTJLIFJeMS NEW GOODS always on hand. J??T Our specially prepared Wheat Mannie makes the finest yield.