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MATRI "When to Marry-Fe E. J. Hardy, in i. At what age should a man marry? That depends upon the man. Some men are more fitted for the responsi bilities of marriage at 25 than others at 35. If marriage, however, be post poned after this last figure a man is likely to get into what may be called the habit of celibacy from which, as from other bad habits, it is hard to j break away. In this habit of celibacy j he will continuo till he is about 60 years of age, when a great desire will come over him to try what matrimony is like just before he dies, and le will propose right and left to everything in petticoats until at last he is picked . up, not for himself, but for his money or for his position, or because some one is tired of being called "Miss," and wants the novel sensation of writing "Mrs." before her name. An old man told a friend that he wanted to marry before he died, if only to have some one to close his eyes. "Perhaps," suggested thefriend, "you will get some onewhowill open them." It is not natural for a young girl to wish to marry an old man. A father said to his daughter, "Now, when it is time for you to marry, I won't al low you to throw yourself away on one of the frivolous young fellows I see around. I shall select for you a staid, sensible middle-aged 'man-what do you say to a man about 50 years of age?" "Well, father," replied the girl, "if it's just the same to you, I should prefer two of twenty-five." Perhaps the best advice one could give a young man in this matter is to say, "Wait until you cannot wait any longer." Wait, that is to say, until she-that not impossible she-comes with smiles so sweet and manners so gracious that you cannot wait any longer, then marry, and may you be happy ever after! As to the age at which women should marry I am afraid of burning my fingers with th it question. All I shall say is that if some women are not worth looking at siter thirty years of age there are quite as many not worth speaking to before it. Lat a man please himself, but let him not marry either a child or an old woman. I have heard of people marrying when only 20, or even 18 years of age. Well, there is no use in talking to peo ple of that kind. They have not come to years of discretion; they are in fants in the eye of the law and fools in those of every sensible person. "When I see people of tender years like this marrying I always think of one stock of sweet pea trying to support another. ? man who lived. to a great age was askti how he man- j aged to do so. He replied, "I never ran when I could have walked, never walked when I could have stood, never .3tood when I could have sot, never ?sat when I could have laid, married .late and was soon left a widower." "Early marriages are to be depre cated," said Lord Beaconsfield, "es pecially for men." This doctrine does not find favor with the peasantry . of Ireland. What they say is, "Eith er marry young, or become a monk . young." Those who are accustomed to comfort exercise greater self-re f straint in matrimony than do the poor. These last rush in, reasoning, as they do in Ireland in this matter, "Shure, whatever we do we can't be worse off than we aro." And yet many of the . Irish poor enter into matrimony as a : sort of investment for old age. When -?children come as quickly as they do to th? poor into the little cabin of Pat and Biddy, they say, "Shure, they Will be a grate support to us in our Culd age." And this they generally are, for in no country is the duty of children to provide for aged parents held so sacred as in Ireland. But indeed it is not possible to an swer the question when people should marry merely by discovering their age. To be ready to marry one must do more than merely live a certain time. Tve must think of physical and financial qualifications. It is time to marry only when people are proper ly fitted to take that most important step. That some preparation for mar riage was considered necessary by the ancient State of Belgium I gather from a picture wich I once saw in the His torical Society's collection of paint ings in New York. The scene is the inside of a peasant's house in Bel gium. On an easy chair sits a fath erly old priest catechising a shy, awk ward-looking bridegroom-to-be. Near him is his lady love. She would gladly prompt him, only the priest keeps a sharp eye upon her. In the background is the old mother prepar ing a wedding feast in case the young people succeed in passing their quali fying (good thing, it was not competi tive) examination for matrimony. In the catalogue the picture was de scribed as "Catechism before Mar riage, according to the ancient law of Belgium, as necessary for individual and state security." I think that this was a wisc law MONY. tct and !Philoso23?iy. St Loitis liepublic. which provided that before people took upon themselves the great re sponsibilities of marriage they should have learned this much of the cate chism-how to do their duty to their neighbor; for, though husband and wife are more than neighbors to each other, yet they are that at least, and ought to behave in a neighborly way; when they do not do this States are weak, so it really was a matter for State cogni zance. Suppose a young man spent the days of youth, not in settling habits, as he ought, butin sowing wild oats, he can not fail to reap a crop of wild oats in his home life. Who, on the other hand, is the un happy husband? He who does not bring to his marriage a clean bill of moral health, who cannot make upon his wife that best of all marriage set tlements-the settlement of habits in a right direction. Even young ladies require some preparation for marriage. The most important time of their lives is be tween school and marriage. o one would begrudge them fun and recrea tion then, but still, if they are noth ing but frivolous and flirty, and have no higher form of worship than to burn incense to vanity, they will not be happy themselves in marriage, and certainly will not make their husbands happy. Women look back with re morse upon their ill-spent time, when their children die, because they do not know the elements of nursing: when their husbands are cross, be cause they have not learned how to feed them; or when the men despise them as companions because they can not take a serious interest in the bus iness of life in which they are en gaged. Nor is physical or bodily health a less important part of readi ness for marriage. If a young man is always ailing (sometimes the conse quence of ale-ing), he will not be able to support a family as he ought, and if a wife is always suffering from the "sofa disease," well, poor thing, she may from her mattress grave do some thing to regulate her home, but she must more or less feel that she has mistaken her calling in life when she married. Then there are the medical man's bills to be thought of, and the effect of hereditary diseases upon chil dren, so that some of the poor things may be said to have been damned into this world. On one occasion, when Doctor Johnson was waiting for din ner in Mrs. Tbrale's drawing-room, a young man came up and asked him: "Doctor Johnson, do you think that I ought to marry?" The doctor, be ing nettled at the intrusion, growled: "Sir, no man ought to marry, who is not likely to propagate understand ing." This applies to the body and souls o? children as well as to their minds, "Never take a wife." said Franklin, "till you have a house and a fire (sic) to put her in." Asking a sensible woman the other day when people should marry, she replied: "When they have en ?ugh money and can af ford it." That was a good answer, for marriage is a luxury which some cannot afford, and when this is the case thay are very selfish to indulge in it. It may be a blessing for a man to have a quiver full of children, but he has no right to shoot them on to relations and others to be reared. Some of us who are married find that we have survived the opera tion, and also that we want a certain amount to live upon, and, therefore, we can sympathize with the girl who, having tried for some time a love-in a-cottage dietary, said that she thought that a kiss and a glass of cold water made but a poor breakfast. What should be said of a man who marries when in debt, and allows his bride, on returning from the honeymoon, to find bailiffs in his house? At the same time, the amount of money uecessary to marry upon is of ten greatly exaggerated. Show me a couple who are miserable on account of straightened circumstances, and I will show you a dozen couples who are miserable on account of other circum stances. I suppose we all know bach elors who have plenty of money for marriage, but who have not enough courage, and they make "I can't af ford it" a mere excuse. This was the case with Pitt. When he was Prime Minister of England and had from all sources an income of about $30,000 a year, he used to say that he could not afford to marry, and then somo one calculated that for each of his ser vants fourteen pounds weight of meat were allowed each day. Surely for the mere economical arrangement of his household if for no other reason he ought to have married. I sometimes say to extravagant young men, ' I won der how you can afford not to marry I could not." Certainly, if a young man will smoke the best cigars, and will give expensive drinks to every fool who claps him on thc back and calls him "old man,'* he cannotaftord to marry, because he would not deny himself small but not very elevating luxuries for the sake of gaining that, greatest of all luxuries, a good wife. Then if a man have a small income he must select a girl with a slender waist, not one who has made her waist slender by health-destroying corsets, but one who can manage a small income and make both ends meet with the least possible amount of waste. Mothers have much to do with this matter. They are always on the look out for rich husbands for their daugh ters; would it not be better if they fit ted their daughters to be the wives of men who are not millionaires? If they did this more men would think that it was time to marry. A certain philosopher said that we should marry early and often. This advice cannot be followed if we wait till all the preliminaries that have been enumerated in reference to char acter, health, money, age and so forth are quite satisfactory. Rather we shall have to enroll ourselves the disciples of another philosopher who said, "If young do not marry yet, if old do n?t marry at all." The advice of the second philoso just quoted, about marrying early and often, suggests the question when a person should marry again whose first or second partner has died. Hamlet has said some very hard things against a rapid succession in this matter, and certainly there ought to be a decent interregnum between the queens of a man's hearth. If a man replace his wife too soon it looks as if he had been in love with her successor before his first wife died. On the other hand, if he never marry again people may say of him "Once bitten, twice shy." Here, as in other cases, the happy medium is best, and I would plead for a little more sentiment than was shown by a certain Irish small farmer. Asked by his landlord if the report of his second marriage was true, he replied: "It is,yer honner." "But your first has only been dead a week, Pat." "An* 8hure she's as dead now as she ever will be, yer honner." A famous American author inscrib ed upon the gravestone of his wife, "The light has goue from my life." Time not only modified his distress, but suggested a renewal of conjugal bliss. A neighbor had the bad taste to banter him on his engagement, and to express surprise that he had so soon forgotten his words of lamenta tion. He replied: "So far from for getting them, I remember and repeat them now, as originating and confirm ing the intention that you are pleased to criticise. I declared that the light was gone from my life, and it is for this reason that I propose to strike an other match." Near Valentine's Day ?n February is a favorite time for marrying. So is April, in spite of the fear a few must have of making April fools of them selves. For some reason or another May is considered unlucky, though one would think that a time when ev ery bud in nature speaks of hope should be reassuring. June is a com fortable time for honeymooning, for hotels are not full and trippers have not yet started on their wild career. Any time, however, will do for marry ing, and should be taken advan tage of when the right person turns up- _ _ - "Put your tongue out," said the doctor to little 4-year-old Gilbert. Little Gilbert protruded the tip of his tongue. "No, no; put it right out," said the doctor. The little fellow shook his head weakly, and the tears gathered in his eyes. "I can't doctor," he ventured at last. "It's fastened on to me." FAVORITE PRESCRIPTION MAKES MOTHER IT DOES NOT CONTAIN ALCOHOL, WHISKY, OPIUM, se* COCAINE or other Intoxicant or Narcotic. A TRUE TEMPERANCE MEDICINE. St. Peter Couldn't Keep Him Out. "The brightest reporter T ever knew," said a newspaper man, "was Billy Gaylor, who died at Hot Springs in 1895. He was a most persistent fellow after an item, and that reminds me of a little story about the last in cident of his career. He had been as signed by a certain Chicago daily to interview an eminent bishop about a schism in the church. The bishop didn't want to talk and wouldn't see him, but Ga} lor bribed a servant to let him into thc hall, aod he waylaid the dignitary as he was coming through. He was ordered out for his pains, but next day he penetrated thc house again on some pretext or other, and was again fired. He repeated the exploit three or four times with similar results, and at last the bishop, coming home late at night, found Billy sitting in his study reading the Bible. Nobody could ex plain how he got in, but the prelate wilted and told him what he wanted to know, on condition that he would go away and stay away. "Shortly afterward poor Gaylor got galloping consumption and died, and, happening to meet the bishop at church conference, I told him that the young man who had once so molested him would never do it again. " 'Let us hope that he is in hea ven,' said a clergyman standing by. The bishop's ej-es twinkled. He lov ed a joke. " 'No doubt he is,' he replied gent ly. 'I don't think they could keep him out.' " Miss Annie E. Gunning, Tyre, Mich., says, "I suffered a long time from dyspepsia; lost flesh and became very weak. Kodol Dyspepsia Cure completely cured me." lt digests what you eat and cures ali forms of stomach trouble. It never fails to live immediate relief in tlhe worst sases. Evans Pharmacy._ COA A. K. W The Famous At DIRECT from the home office of th practical Opticians, and will remain at DRUG CO., Druggists, FOUR DAI 16th. This will give the citizens of Ai nity of having their EYE SIGHT Tl renowned and successful as well as Hawkes has the modern appliances for eye. There is no Optician in the U. S. pie more than Mr. Hawkes. His name t ion of country inhabited by over twen has probably adjusted glasses to the ey* ter national fame than any other Optici) in 1870. EYE STRAIN is often the eau and dimness of vision. This can be cu ting of the Crystal lenses to the eye. ( FOUR DAYS, as he has other engagei CAUT80N-I would caution from peddlers, going from house to hom ing them to be Hawkes' or selling the s tacles are NEVER peddled. Many o country are positively injurious to the c FROM EX-PRESIDENT OF U EXECUTIVE Mi A. K. Hawkes, Esq.-My Dear Sir suited to my eyes for far seeing. And trips. Yours very truly, THE GREAT WARRIC Mr. A. K. Hawkes-Dear Sir ; Wh your Pantiscopic Crystalized Lenses, of vision they are superior to any glass Respectfully, FIT ONE OP OUR GRE. Mr. A. K. Hawkes-Dear Sir : Thc some time since have given cxcollcnt sa use, and must say they arc unsurpass< that I have ever worn. Res] GEN. JOHN B. G OR? A. K. Hawkes received Gold Med; for Superior Lens Grinding and Excelle and Eye-Glasses. Sold in over 8,U00 C: lished 1870. CAUTION-These Famous Glasse: SS" WAIT FOR HAWKES and no ed to your eyes, but secure a j air of hi liant Spectacle Lenses in existence. Inventor and Sole P M8F He will posstively remain but 1 STOVES, The Best Stove SOLD ON THEIR MERIT. They neve yon not a 8tove that burns the brea T. BURRISS yon will hare a good meal tt I have some Rare B Of Patterns In Decorated Ware, that I am yourself of this opportunity to get aometh Cheaper than any competition will sell yoi It will pay you to price thia Tinware befc -< TO" You know too well that I am Ueadqun by putting in Toys to draw trade. Don't I and nee for you rael r. I Hell more Toys tor that you will bo naked 50c. for you cnn buy Your trade and inspection solicited. About thc Filipinos. Major Putnam Bradlco Strong, son of ex-Mayor Strong, spoke to the Plaza Republican club last night on expansion, as viewed in the light of his experience as a soldier in the Philippines. Ile was introduced by President James Yereance. "There is a very general miscon ception regarding the Philippine Is lands as a place of residence," said Ma jor Strong. "The Gilipino is not the wily, de ceitful individual he is generally sup posed to be. On the contrary he is a most delightful man to know in his home. He is clever and imitative, and can do anything you show him how to do once. Twenty-two thous and children are attending the schools established by General Otis in Mani la and Illoila, and their rapidity in learning English is so great that they talk it among themselves commonly, and taunt one another over mispro nunciations. I predict that given time to develop, the Filipinos will prove a superior people to the present natives of Cuba and Puerto Rico." Later, in response to a question, Major Strong said that in his belief the Filipinos were not yet capable of self-government, or the solution of questions of broad national policies, although local self-government might prove successful with them at pres ent. mm m *?. - One who spends money impru dently is not apo to have money to spend prudently. Mr. J. Sheer, Sedalia, Mo., saved his child's life by One Minute Cough Cure. Doctors had given her up to die with croup. It's an infallible cure for coughs, colds, grippe, pneu monia, bronchitis and throat and lung troubles. Relieves at once. Evans Pharmacy._ p kWKHS. lanta Optician, is Great Optical House, or one of his the Store of his Agent. HILL-ORR TS ONLY, beginning DECEMBER iderson and vicinity a rare oppoitu i^STED FREE by one of the most reliable Opticians in the U. S. Mr. scientific adjustment of glasses to the who enjoys the confidence of the peo ! is a familiar word throughout a sec ty-five millions of people. Mr. Hawkes ?8 of more people of national and in in living. This firm was established se of headache, dizziness, nervousness red in many cases by the correct fit 3all early, he positively remains but nents for later dates, the public against buying Spectacles se with a lot of Spectacles, repres?nt ame grade of gonda. Hawkes* Spec f the inferior glasses that flood the ?ye. . S., GROVER CLEVELAND. LNSION, WASHINGTON, Dec. 2, 1S(J5. : I find your Crystalized Lenses well I shall enjoy them on my shooting GROVER CLEVELAND. IR AND STATESMAN. en I require the use of glasses I wear In respect to brilliancy and clearness es I have ever used, z Huon LEE, Consul Gen. to Cuba. VTEST STATESMEN. : Pantiscopic glasses you furnished me tisfaction. I have tested them by ;d in clearness and brilliancy by any pectfully. ?ON, Ex-Gov. Ga. and U. S. Senator. tl, highest award Diploma of Honor, ucy in thc Manufacture of Spectacles ?ties and Towns in the TI. S. Estab 3 are never peddled. t only get Glasses scientifically adjust s Crystalized Lenses, the most bril A. K. HAWKES, foprietor of all the Hawkes Patenta. FOUR DAYS. STOVES! s in the "World. ir fall to bake perfectly on bottom. Have i on the bottom. If you buy of JOHN i roe times a day. argaine in Crockery, running out of Stock. You should avail lng i a beet Goods at a reduced price? j. Don't forget thia'item of morebandiee? } buying. 5TS! rtorn in TOYS. Competition trios to copy 1)9 deceived by what you hear, but corno le^s money than any ono, Au Iron Toy ' tho .simo sizo ol' mo for !J5c. JOHN T. B?KRISS. Is a Little Thing when it Begins ! THE longer you put it off the harder it is to cure. The longer it lasts the more serious it becomes. Let it run on and there's no telling what the end will be. The worst case of Consumption was a little Cold once. TAR MINT Will stop any Cough when it first begins. It will stop most Coughs after they get bad. But the best way is to take it at the first sign of a Cold. It ought to be right at your elbow all the time. Tar Mint Is the BEST REMEDY for COU3HS, COLDS, HOARSENESS, and all diseases of the Throat and Lungs. Don't buy any other kind. 50c. HILL-ORR DRUG CO. NEW SHOES ! 'E bave just opened up the best and cheapest line of HEAVY SHOES that e^or was offered on thi* market There ie only one kind that we do not nor will not randie, and that is the cht-ap, shoddy stuff palmed off on unsus pecting buyers. If wo sell yon Hb>e* they roust be solid leather or we didn't sell 'em. So if you want Sho?w to wear buy only the best-they are always the cheapest. DEAH'M PATENT FLOUR, like Mrs. CctMar, is as pure as the Alpine snows, thrice bleached by the hyperborean blasts. If you want anything purer than that we havn't got it. We have even more pure TEXAS RED RU KT PROOF OATS than Car ter had, uud want to get rid of them-will sell them cheap. Yours for the ? ? ? ?, DEAN & RATLIFFE. NT> -Parties owing us on either Note or open Account are given notice jL?m that their Accounts are due, and that they are expected to settle the same AT ON'CE, or bear the costs of (-ending a man for our money. When our Collector tornes to se? you, you will save yourself a great deal of annoyance by settling with him a? once. Ho will call to see those whose Accounts are still unpaid on and after November l?th. D. ifc R. Ten Dollars Prize To Wheat Growers. FOR the bast five-acre yield ot' Wheat grown this season with our Wheat Fertilizers, and top-dressed with our Nitrate of Soda or other dressing, or not dressed at all, we will award as a prize the sum of TEN DOLLARS. The award will be made on JULY 15, 1900, upon the affidavits of each contestant for the prize and the several threshers. DEAN & RATLIIMTJE. NEW GOODS always on hand. Our specially prepared Wheat Manure makes the fineit yield. 0. D. ANDERSON & BRO. FLOUR FLOUR ! 590 33ARR.ELS. GOT every grade you are looking for. We know what you want, and we've got the prices right. Can't give it to yoo, but we will sell you high grade Flour 25 to 35c cheaper than any competition. Low grade Floui 83.00 per barrel. Car EAR CORN and stacks of Shelled Corn. Buy while it is cheap advancing rapidlv. We know where to buy and get good, sound Com cheap. OATS, HAY and BRAN. Special prices by the ton. We want your trade, and if honest dealings and low prices count w? will get it. Yours for Business, O. D. ANDERSON & BRO. B?SVT. Now is your chance to get Tobacco cheap. Closing out odds and ends in Caddies.