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Quote of the Day “Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awak ens.” -Carl Jung Page 8 10l£ (O3niCC0Ck Wednesday, April 5,2000 A Woman in Power II Amt Goulding Photo Editor Jotaka Eaddy at last month’s Student Government Inau guration ceremony. Eaddy serves as SG president. by Mackenzie Craven Assistant etCetera Editor jolaka Eaddy doesn’t see her role simply as Student Gov ernment president, but as a female Student Government presi dent. Eaddy said she has been told that she’s the first black female to serve as SG president. And as a female, she thinks that she has more to prove than she would if she were a man. “I think there’s a difference because you are seen more as not normal,” Eaddy said. “It’s normal if the guy is president - you don’t question it. But now there’s a woman that’s the president, and you take a second look all the time.” But Eaddy said that as president, she hopes to do away with that image, as well as inspire other young females to pursue their ambitions, whatever those ambitions might be. “I think in a subtle way I serve as a role model to the young women on campus with political aspirations, within Student Gov ernment or beyond,” Eaddy said. “A lot of young women have these ideas and goals. I want to do this, and I guess that me sit ting here lets them know that it’s not impossible and it can be done.” Her journey to the presidency hasn’t come without work, though. Eaddy, a junior, has been working since the beginning of her college career, holding high-level positions and becoming in volved with numerous organizations on campus, including ex ecutive involvement in the Association of African-American Stu dents, participation in the Map Program and service on the national board of directors for the National Coalition Against the Death Penalty. She said she also plans to work with RO Conference, a South African program based in Washington, D.C. Eaddy said she has noticed through these and other activities that female students don’t usually get involved, and she doesn’t understand why that’s the case. “There’s no reason for it,” Eaddy said. “I think society and we young women have always been taught to take a submissive role.” However, she does think that the trend is changing on a na tional level. “If you notice, a lot of women in most of the world and in a lot of institutions in society take a lot of the leadership roles,” she said. “I think women today more so are beginning to take on lead ership positions.” Eaddy thinks that in taking such positions, women in soci ety will be able to work to achieve a greater measure of equali ty “When we as individuals in society step across the threshold, that’s when we will be able to move together as far as achieving equality,” Eaddy said. As Eaddy hopes to inspire young women on campus to such movement, so has she been inspired by her own role models, most notably Clair Huxtable, the mother on the TV show “The Cos by Show,” and her own mother. Eaddy said she respects Huxtable because she was a work ing mother. Her own mother, however, is the most influential person in her life, she said. “My mother has taught me everything that I embody,” Ead dy said. “She has instilled morals in my life. She still today teach es me to be a woman who achieves, and she has, with the help of my father, molded the woman that I am today. “By far, my mother is my angel.” t What to do when friendship turns sexual Dear Am Marie and MacKenzie, A friend and I have taken alum in our relationship. Now, we have known each other for a year and a half. In November, we decided to mess around and continued to do so until January. We didn 'l let this ruin our friendship, but we decided to let no one know because a mutual friend liked him. All of a sudden, he decides that he wants to start dating a 16-year-old foreign exchange student who is going back to Brazil in July. Now mind you that even though he has this girlfriend, we still sleep in the same bed and mess around sometimes. Now all of the sudden this past weekend, I slept in his room and we started to mess around It went a little further than usual, but I asked him if he was OK with it before anything happened because I didn’t want him to feel guilty or hate me. I haven't talked to him since because there were people in the room the next day. I would like advice on what I should do with my situation. I think I really like him, but I’m not sure what he is thinking. I need to know whether i should talk to him about what happened or wait for him to talk to me. Now, I’m not sure if what happened ruined our friendship and the little sleepovers that Ilooked so forward to. What should I do? -CONFUSED Ask Ann Marie & MacKenzie II, first of all, you need to talk to your riend and get everything out in the open, know that this is going to be difficult, but it needs to be done. You should make the first move, the reason being that he probably won’t. He is prob ably thinking, “Hey, I’ve done nothing wrong. 1 don’t even know why she is upset.” Once that’s out of the way, I think you need to spend some time apart from each other so both of you can work out your feelings. Time is always the true healer. It might be hard since the two of you have mutual friends, but try as hard as you can to stay away from him. As for him having a girlfriend, well, that pos es a bit of a problem. The things he’s doing with you are considered cheating. Even if you two sleep “innocently” in the same bed, it is still cheating. Just think how you would feel if you found out that your boyfriend was “sleeping” with another girl. You should take the other girl’s feelings into consideration, especially since she’s only 16 years old. This is probably her first serious boyfriend, and she could really get her heart broken. So these “little sleepovers” have to stop. Just because you aren’t having sex with him doesn’t mean that it’s OK. It’s still cheating. Here’s a hypothetical sit uation for you. Say he and his girlfriend break up to morrow and he’s avail- / able for you to date. You / ; have to think to your- / j self, “Do I really want I 1 to be with someone I 1 who has cheated on a \ m girl in the past?” Nip Since school will be \t over on a few weeks and l/rvll Ka (TAlfWT ll Am A tl/1 1 j — .— e.o --. you constantly be asking yourself, “Is he cheating on me while I’m not with him?” You also have to re-examine your feelings him, Do you really like him, or is this just a simple case of wanting what you can’t have? Do you like this guy because he has a girlfriend, or do you genuinely like him? I hope that the two of you can retain your friend ship and maybe even become better friends. I suggest that you and your “friend” have a talk. I’m not quite sure what will happen as a result of the discussion, but you have to know how he \ feels. There’s a 50/50 chance it could work out for you. H | But even if he doesn’t H I feel the same way, at p / least you will know. If l / you don’t feel comfort y able talking about it, then just look for signs. If he makes i ofTnri tn rail unit anH hancr nil >/ — with you, then chances are that he likes you more than as just a friend. However, if you’re the only one making an ef fort, then things might not be the way you hope. I’m not trying to crush your hopes, but you have to ex pect both things in this situation. Since you’ve been friends for a long time, it might be easier to watch for signs rather than admit how you feel, es pecially if you want him to be a part of your life as a friend rather than nothing at all. However, if you would prefer, you could sim ply choose to put all your money on it and risk los ing a friendship. Or maybe after you tell him, you could still be friends. It’s hard to say. Nevertheless, before you talk to him, make sure you know how you feel about him. You should know exactly what you want to happen after the talk. Then, if he feels differently, go from there. Another thing: I wouldn’t sleep with him in the same bed unless you know how he feels; it isn’t fair to let yourself go through with that for nothing. If you don’t want to ask him if he likes you, then that’s one thing. But I think it’s wrong not to know and then still do it. So, if you insist on following through on that part of the relationship, then you must ask him. Make a decision and then follow through with what’s best for you. If you do keep sleeping with him and he starts to like someone else, that might hurt more than finding out how he feels about you. Chances are he likes you, but he might not know how to tell you he likes you. So, show him who has guts and spring that question: “How do you feel about me?” Hope for the best, you never know how men think. AG23H' W Campus Notes Habitat for Humanity spring project Friday Habitat for Humanity will continue to work on the house in Arthurtown at 1:45 p.m. Friday. Participants will meet at the Tree of Knowledge. For more information, call Ginny Watson at 544-2576. Anchor Splash to benefit the blind The Epsilon Chi Chapter of Delta Gamma will be host to its annual An chor Splash Swimming Meet from 1 to 5 p.m. Saturday at the Blatt P.E. Center. The meet will feature both traditional and unique swimming events. A $2 donation at the door will benefit the blind and sight conven tion. For more information, call Tiffany Shaw at 544-0477. Drug awareness meeting to be held A GAMMA meeting on Drug Aware ness will be held at 4 p.m. today in RH 315. For more information, call Erin Soltik at 544-3485. Interfaith Panel to meet tonight An Interfaith Student Panel will be held at 7 p.m. today in the Golden Spur as part of Religious Awareness Days. Students from a variety of world religions will talk about their faith and beliefs. There will be a gen eral question/answer time. Interview behavior lecture to be held The international fraternity of Delta Sigma Pi will be host to a professional event featuring Ken Bansemer of Arthur Andersen. The presentation, “Behavior-Based Interviews: What to expect and how to prepare,” will start at 6 p.m. today in the Darla Moore School of Business, room 856. All business students arc encouraged to attend, and professional dress is re quired. For more information, call 343-9905. Organizations need to get applications for homecoming Homecoming 2000 will be holding a meeting to distribute homecoming applications to student organizations. Any organization wishing to partici pate in Homecomiirg 2000 must send a reprcsentive to this meeting to pick up the official application. If you have questions or want more infor mation, call Carolina Productions at 777-7130. Rim society to show ‘Midnight Cowboy’ The Creative Music and Ftlm Society will present its first film of the year, “Midnight Cowboy,” on DVD at 6 p.m. Sunday in Gambrell 153. The movie is free. Letters for Ask etCetera can be submitted to RH 333 or e mailed to gckfeatures@ya hoo.com ■ CORRECTIONS The Gamecock strives to report the facts correctly and responsibly. If you come across any inaccuracies in our reportage, please let us know. Walk to Campus "©kaJ • Fully Furnished Apartment Homes intlrl • Individual Leases Available \VHALEY*§ • Lots of Free Parking MILL • Awesome Location T, LX. • Unique Design with Lofts Q^jj jQ^jgyf X Jr (803)254-7801 211 Main Street, Columbia, SC 29201 (across from College of Engineering) L Better Hurry! 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